I was asked over on Quora what causes divorces. My one word answer was “Selfishness”. It really is that simple. It could be his selfishness, or her selfishness. In truth, it’s always a combination of his and her selfishness. Sometimes one spouse is far more selfish than the other. Sometimes they are both bad. Selfishness can manifest as what we do,…

So this is my wife’s birthday month. She’s not a party person, and not into major gifts. But I’ve still done things to celebrate her birthday, both at home and with others. My wife is very important to me, and celebrating her birth is a good way to show her that. How do you celebrate your wife? Image Credit: © Paul H Byerly created with stockdreams…

A few days ago, I told you to not punish behaviour you want to see. Today I want to talk about how we do that with sex. One common way we do this is by asking for sex and then turning down what she offers because it’s not what we want. This causes her to think if you needed it half as badly as you claimed, you would gladly take whatever she was wil…

We’ve all heard people don’t change, only change in small ways, or only change when faced with extreme situations. All of these are lies, and double-edged lies at that. When we buy into these lies, we treat others as if they won’t change, giving them an excuse to not change. The truth is, people do change: We have a friend who tells me he was a Typ…

Please be aware that “sexperts”, including many with credentials, have an agenda. And all too often that agenda is not about helping people have the best sex possible. Let me give you an example. I read these two things in my feed a couple of minutes apart: Experts say that reducing sexual relations to penetration is on the decline, now that younge…

Over on Quora, someone suggested it’s unintelligent to punish the behaviour you want. I mean, this should be obvious, but I see husband’s punishing desired behaviour all the time. Some examples: Your wife is rarely on time, and when she is, you act shocked. Your wife does something you want her to do, and you say, “Why can’t you do that more often?…

I’ve written about a man’s need for adventure. I’ve also discussed the fact sex is very important to him. When you add those two things together, you get a desire for sexual adventure! I realise those two words together may seem intimidating, but fear not. Adventure comes in various forms, and it need not be risky, illegal, or immoral. The adventur…

I recently tossed this marriage tip out on the social media platform formerly known was Twitter: Mercy talking and mercy date nights are as good for her as mercy sex is for you. #MarriageTip If something is important to your wife, doing it under duress, complaining about it, or being grumpy as you do it are a good way to make her sorry it happened.…

I just reran my very first Generous Husband post over there. I try to do it every couple of years. And I realised I’ve never done it here! Do you find it difficult to pray for your husband because you aren’t sure what to pray about? Try praying based on the first letter of the day: Sunday pray for his Spiritual walk Monday pray for his Moods and Me…

It’s been over two years since I ran this, so it feels due: Do you find it difficult to pray for your wife because you aren’t sure what to pray about? Try praying based on the first letter of the day: Sunday pray for her Spiritual walk Monday pray for her Moods and Mental health Tuesday pray for her Thought life Wednesday pray for her Weaknesses to…

Flo Health, the makers of an app that tracks a woman’s cycle, asked its 65 million monthly users about their sex lives. They say that 58% of the women in the United States aren’t fully satisfied with the quality of their orgasms, and 62% are unhappy with how often they orgasm. So it’s not just you. There are a lot of reasons for this, and I discuss…

Some men go to great lengths to avoid conflict at home. Yet many of these same men are all about challenging things at work or with their friends. Another version of this is the man who is passive-aggressive at home, but not in other settings. What’s going on? Some men only know how to disagree or challenge harshly. With other men, this isn’t a pro…