Welcome to the Dom Sub Living Podcast, your go-to kinky resource, so you can get out of the vanilla rut, become the best Dominant or submissive you can be, and make BDSM a lifestyle. Explore the many facets of the Dom/sub lifestyle and gain practical insights and tips to enhance your journey. Your host, Alesandra Madison, is a renowned BDSM educator, empowering individuals and couples to embrace their sensual selves. As the creator of Domsubliving.com, Alesandra promotes sex education, healt ...
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Fetish artist and pornographer Barney, also known as the Muckle Stoater, sits down to discuss niche kinks and paraphilias, as well as the ups, downs and weird roads to self-acceptance those of us with them can travel. Featuring a variety of voices from within the fetish community, hear the stories from those with some truly odd experiences to share, both light and dark. This podcast contains content only suitable for ages 18+. Follow Barney on Twitter & Instagram: https://twitter.com/TStoate ...
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Dom Booth is a dynamic and experienced London based DJ with a passion for the style of Dance and Electronic, while also having the ability to seamlessly blend a wide range of genres, through his deep understanding of music. From brand launches to rooftop parties, private events to club nights, Dom has a wealth of experience in dealing with diverse crowds at diverse venues. Dom’s creative and exciting approach combined with varied music selection, gives him unparalleled versatility. Dom has s ...
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Hosted by sex therapists Casey Tanner and Kamil Lewis, Safeword is sex therapy, unhinged! Because instead of being a blankslate that’s just here to support you, we are telling you the details on our own sex lives, relationships, identities and more. Each week we tackle a theme related to sex, gender, and relationships. Safeword is produced by The Expansive Group and launched following the success of @queersextherapy on Instagram and TikTok.
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#031: Is age really just a number? Join host Alesandra as she delves into the complexities of age gap relationships within BDSM. This episode uncovers myths, explores challenges, and celebrates the unique benefits of significant age differences in Dom/sub relationships. Key topics include consent legality, power dynamics, and personal anecdotes fro…
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In this bonus episode of Safeword, Casey Tanner (of @queersextherapy) unveils insights from their groundbreaking new book "Feel It All", a guide to sexuality that dispels the stale cultural attitudes about sex that leave too many feeling inadequate, and offers an expansive, attachment-based framework to free us and develop bolder, more satisfying r…
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313: A Tree-Climbing Fish (Part 2) feat. Pup-E
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This week, Barney continues to be grilled by Pup-E on scary clowns, fears and more! They each share some of their experiences with drugs and towards the end, Enoch makes an exciting announcement for this upcoming Pride. 🎪Follow Barney on Twitter, Bluesky & Instagram 🎪Follow Pup-E on Twitter This podcast contains content only suitable for ages 18+. …
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312: That's Not My Jizz (Part 1) feat. Pup-E
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After accidentally cucking him, Barney is joined by Pup-E to pull an UNO Reverse and interview him instead! They delve into clown kinks, findom, straights in queer spaces and wrestling, as well as Aldi's sweet sweet swag. 🎪Follow Barney on Twitter, Bluesky & Instagram 🎪Follow Pup-E on Twitter 🎪Follow Noah Gold's kinky and vanilla Twitter accounts T…
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#030: Struggling with your mental health? You're definitely not in this alone. Your host, Alesandra, has been there and is now sharing her raw take on finding balance with help from the world of BDSM. This chat's packed with real talk about coping mechanisms, the power of a structured dynamic, and even how Alesandra found unexpected support with ke…
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311: Raggedy? My Name Is Just Ann feat. Noah Gold
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This week, Barney is joined by NYC's kinkiest fucker Noah Gold, to talk about community, social media and what Barney did at CAPCon… Amidst arguing about AI and vanillaism, they find they have a lot in common and Barney teases something he’s working on. 🎪Follow Barney on Twitter, Bluesky & Instagram 🎪Follow Noah's kinky and vanilla Twitter accounts…
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Exploring the Depths of BDSM with Just Press Foreplay
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Ready to unravel the intricacies of BDSM and discover the profound connection it cultivates? Listen in as Suzii from Just Press Foreplay interviews Alesandra in this raw episode. Unpack the complexities of consent, communication, and care in BDSM. From boundary negotiations to the spiritual intertwining of dominance and submission, Alesandra and Su…
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“So I haven't really planned anything…”, begins Barney as he embarks on a road trip like no other to Manchester and Brighton during The Eagle’s 14th birthday weekend. To fight his loneliness, he talks to the imaginary audience in his phone about attending Mancsbound and how much he hates clubbing. 🎪Follow Barney on Twitter, Bluesky & Instagram 🎪Che…
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Are you the sub you want to be? Dive into the 4 key pillars that separate a good sub from a great one in this episode. Join host Alesandra to uncover how submissives can better serve their Dominants. This episode is packed with actionable tips for enhancing your submission in relationships. To elevate your submission even more, be sure to grab our …
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309: Every Serial Killer’s Dream feat. SexEdWithTim
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This week, Barney’s a guest on the 'Sex Ed with Tim' podcast to discuss STIs, self-confidence and of course, clown sex! The two talk about the many ways they could die, their ever-growing stupidity and whether Princess Diana is still alive… 🎪Follow Barney on Twitter, Bluesky & Instagram 🎪Follow SexEdWithTim on Twitter & Instagram 🎪Check out the Red…
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#027: Ever felt lost in your BDSM journey? Dive deep with Alesandra as she uncovers the red and green flags in seeking a BDSM mentor. From identifying qualities of a credible guide to the transformative power of mentorship, Alesandra offers practical advice on navigating the lifestyle with confidence, and offers options for personalized mentorship.…
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308: Mind Your Business feat. Andromeda Circus
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This week, Barney is joined by Pup Ace who delves into the meaning of BDSM, why community and education matter, and being who you are. They cover self locking, balloon bondage and Ace's mentorship program for kinky critters. 🎪Follow Barney on Twitter, Bluesky & Instagram! 🎪Follow Andromeda on Instagram 🎪Check out Corporate Erin on Instagram This po…
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#026: Are you curious about joining the kink community? Join Alesandra as she uncovers how to find kinky friends at local munches and dungeons. Discover intimate gathering spots, learn BDSM etiquette, and find out how larger events foster connections. This is your personal invitation to learn how to engage with the BDSM community for ongoing educat…
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A quick announcement just to say that this week's episode will not be going ahead due to illness. This podcast contains content only suitable for ages 18+. Follow Barney AKA The Muckle Stoater on Twitter & Instagram CLICK LINK TO USE MY ZENCASTR PROMO CODE FOR 30% OFF ALL PAID PLANS: https://zen.ai/33agVW7tMe8Fuk3lMEY2bQ USE MY SPECIAL LINK TO SAVE…
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#025: Ever heard some "foolish" BDSM tips? Let's clear the air! Join host Alesandra as she debunks dangerous advice and delves into the murky waters of BDSM myths. We cover the importance of personal limits, dispel the notion of power imbalance, and reject gatekeeping in kink practices. Listen in and discover why there's no 'one-size-fits-all' in D…
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This week, Barney is joined by Pup Ace who delves into the meaning of BDSM, why community and education matter, and being who you are. They cover self locking, balloon bondage and Ace's mentorship program for kinky critters. 🎪Follow Barney on Twitter & Bluesky 🎪Follow Ace on Twitter & Instagram 🎪Check out Laura Ramoso on Instagram This podcast cont…
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What No One Tells You About Dom/Sub Relationships
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#024: Ever wondered what BDSM is REALLY like, beyond the dungeon drama? Alesandra's here to spill the tea. She's peeling back the curtains on the nitty-gritty of power play. Think honest chats about trust, tricky emotions, and managing kinks while juggling real life. Jump into this raw conversation about love, leather, and everything in between. Cl…
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306: The Big Top LIVE! @ CAPCon feat. NewsieBaby
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This week, The Big Top comes to you live for the very first time as Barney & Newsie discuss CAPCon! Recorded without permission, this episode takes place in a hotel basement where the audience slowly get closer to the stage as staff rearrange the room behind them. 🎪Follow Barney on Twitter & Bluesky 🎪Follow Newsie on Twitter & Instagram 🎪Listen to …
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#023: Ever wonder if you're a switch in BDSM? Get the juicy details on embracing both dominance and submission! Listen as host Alesandra breaks down the ins and outs of being a switch in the BDSM community, debunks misconceptions, and shares signs that might point to a flair for both dominance and submission. Don't miss out on embracing your person…
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305: Fuck How You Wanna Fuck feat. Master Aaron
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This week, Barney is joined by Master Aaron, owner of Fleshpot Films and the perverted mind behind its horror-based porn. Barney continues to vent his frustration at the lack of male clown porn while Aaron gives his personal insight into the escorting and porn industries. 🎪Follow Barney on Twitter & Bluesky 🎪Follow Aaron on Twitter 🎪Check out Flesh…
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#022: Ready to elevate your dominance game? Dive into the 4 key pillars that separate a good Dom from a great one in this episode. Join host Alesandra to uncover how Doms can enhance their relationships. this episode is packed with actionable tips for enhancing your dominance in relationships. To elevate your dominance game even more, be sure to gr…
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This week, Barney gets horny as Coach starts to get in his head and discusses ideas for starting a clown porn site. They cover double standards on social media platforms and fan sites, as well as why goofy is sexy! 🎪Follow Barney on Twitter & Bluesky 🎪Follow Coach on Twitter & Instagram This podcast contains content only suitable for ages 18+. Foll…
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#021: We're diving into the world of Tradwife dynamics in relation to BDSM, as we uncover their similarities and differences. Join host Alesandra and she goes deep into the heart of the Tradwives lifestyle, discussing submission, empowerment, communication, and consent. Discover the appeal of 1950's submissive kink, and the importance of informed a…
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This week, Barney is joined by Coach Bator, who shares his experiences in the porn industry and the wild, dumb, kinky craziness that is 'Baloney'. They discuss all the clown porn they're gonna make once Barney gets on the casting couch and, of course, baked beans. 🎪Follow Barney on Twitter & Bluesky 🎪Follow Coach on Twitter & Instagram This podcast…
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Unlock Daily Consistency in Your BDSM Relationship with These Tricks
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#020: Do you struggle with maintaining daily intensity in your BDSM relationship? Join Alesandra as she dives deep into unlocking the secrets of daily consistency in Dom/sub dynamics. As a full-time collared submissive and a mom of two, Alesandra discusses practical tips for integrating BDSM into daily life. Strengthen your Dom/sub relationship and…
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302: Toilet Talk feat. Draven Navarro
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Porn actor Draven Navarro joins Barney this week to give his takes on beauty standards, the lack of male clown porn and the industry in general. He also takes time to sit on the toilet for the pleasure of such inclined listeners. 🎪Follow Barney on Twitter & Bluesky 🎪Follow Draven on Twitter & Instagram This podcast contains content only suitable fo…
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5 Newbie Mistakes I Didn't Expect in My BDSM Journey
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#019: Discover the 5 crucial newbie mistakes in BDSM as host Alesandra reveals her embarrassing but invaluable experiences in this candid episode. Listen in as she walks through her real-life blunders, and bares it all to help fellow enthusiasts avoid these common mistakes. These insights are a must for any newbie (or veteran) in the BDSM scene. – …
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The Big Top is BACK! Season 3 officially kicks off with Pup Drengen coming on to discuss what makes a good findom, while Barney edits him into slandering the podcast. The two cover kinky meetup etiquette, why diapers are cool and everything from the Norwegian kink scene to wearing 24/7! 🎪Follow Barney on Twitter & Bluesky 🎪Follow Drengen on Twitter…
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Helping Your Partner Embrace the BDSM Lifestyle
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#018: Having trouble getting your partner on board with BDSM? Let's figure out how to make it a joint adventure filled with excitement and fulfillment! Your host, Alesandra, dives into the challenges of getting your partner interested in BDSM, highlighting the importance of communication, mutual benefits, and taking it slow. She also emphasizes the…
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Finding Kinky Love: How to Find a D/s Partner
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#017: Are you struggling to find a legitimate Dom or sub partner? In this episode, we dive into the secrets of navigating the BDSM dating scene. Alesandra provides guidance on finding a genuine partner, addressing past relationships, creating a wish list, vetting potential partners, and authentically presenting yourself. She also shares more about …
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In a very special bonus episode, Barney returns to deliver some horny audio files, including hypnotic regression and a supervillain story. This episode includes two stories previously featured on the 'Newsie's Nook' podcast, as well as one never-before-heard story that was commissioned by a listener. 🎪Follow Barney on Twitter & Bluesky 🎪Listen to N…
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Overcoming Dom/sub Mindset Struggles with Leann Herron
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#016: How did this sub go from a sexless marriage to embracing the BDSM lifestyle? Leann Herron's journey is nothing short of inspiring. Leann is a kink-informed relationship coach, and also a Dom Sub Living student! On this episode she dishes with Alesandra on safe kink exploration, overcoming mindset hurdles, and practical tips for mastering the …
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#015: This is huge. Brace yourself because I'm dropping a bombshell, and it's a game-changer! Introducing our All-Access Pass – the ultimate combo of community-powered BDSM education and access to all our courses at your own pace. Connect with fellow kinksters on the same journey. Our killer courses have led thousands to success as a Dom or sub, an…
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5 Ways to Master Long-Distance D/s Relationships
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#014: Strengthen your long-distance BDSM relationship with our expert tips! Join host Alesandra as she shares her experience and offers valuable hacks to make your long-distance dynamic a success. She discusses punishments, virtual scenes, and more! Follow along with our free worksheets so you can create your own, personalized LDR action plan. – Gr…
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#013: Stay ahead of the curve with our latest BDSM insights! As the kink community evolves, what new trends are emerging? Listen as host Alesandra discusses exciting trends in the community and offers valuable predictions for the upcoming year. Staying informed on the evolving trends in BDSM will help you on your journey to becoming the best Dom or…
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#012: Join Alesandra as she reflects on the good, the bad, and the ugly moments of her life, love, and BDSM journey in this candid and emotional episode. Listen as she shares the challenges she and her partner have overcome, including health struggles, relationship dynamics, and the impact of long-distance work commitments. She also opens up about …
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What's Coming in 2024 for the Podcast and Dom Sub Living
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#011: Hop on with Alesandra as she previews the upcoming year for Dom Sub Living. Alesandra, a prominent figure in the BDSM community and the podcast's energetic host, highlights her plans for 2024. She discusses podcast updates, the launch of a new channel, free online events, and the famous Kink Bundle. Subscribe to the podcast and stay updated o…
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5 Kinksters Answer: “What I Wish I Knew Before Getting into BDSM”
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#010: Discover the untold truths and personal experiences of prominent figures in the BDSM community in our groundbreaking roundup episode. Join host Alesandra as she shares her raw, honest insights alongside experienced guests. These real-life kinksters delve into crucial topics, like the need for community, the essence of communication, and dispe…
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3 Reasons Why Your D/s Relationship Keeps Failing
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#009: Are you struggling with a failing D/s relationship? Tune in as Alesandra delves into the common pitfalls and offers expert advice for reigniting your dynamic. In this episode. Alesandra shines a light on the intricacies of D/s relationships, offering her expertise in mastering and living the BDSM lifestyle. She also addresses the complexities…
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How We Built a 24/7 Total Power Exchange Relationship, Step-by-Step
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#008: Are you ready to take your BDSM relationship to the next level? Join Alesandra as she reveals the crucial steps she and her partner took to establish a 24/7 total power exchange (TPE) dynamic! Alesandra discusses the use of safe words, the importance of a written contract, implementing daily and weekly check-ins, and creating a schedule with …
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235: A Debauched Finale feat. Pup Emrys
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Pup Emrys joins Barney this week to wrap up Season 2 and celebrate with a pizza party, looking at clown porn and many farts and burps! Emrys discusses his early origins as a kinkster, how he found his Master, pups, ABDLs, clown sex and Barney’s new job in a sex dungeon. 🎪Follow Barney on Bluesky & Twitter 🎪Follow Emrys on Twitter & Instagram 🎪Check…
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Meet my Dom! Advice and Tips for Dominants
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#007: What happens when a Dom experiences doubt? Join Alesandra and her Dom, Jay, as they delve into the challenges and rewards of being a Dominant. In this episode, Jay shares insights into maintaining consistency as a Dom, managing Dom drop, and building trust in intense scenes. They discuss the importance of open communication and explore the ro…
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Alone in the studio this week, Barney bares his soul and gets vulnerable as he reflects on the year; discussing religion, suicide and some film analyses. Get your hippy glasses on and pull up a deckchair, we’re doing Philosophy 101. 🎪Follow Barney on Twitter & Bluesky This podcast contains content only suitable for ages 18+. Follow Barney AKA The M…
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How to Create Meaningful Traditions for your D/s Dynamic
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#006: Discover how to keep your Dom/sub dynamic thriving during the hectic holiday season! In this episode, Alessandra shares tips on creating meaningful traditions and rituals to maintain your D/s dynamic during the busy holiday season. Learn about real-life traditions that she and others do during this time of year to stay kinky. Get inspired and…
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233: So Many Pussies Have Been Popped feat. Scritch
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In a very special episode, Scritch returns to The Big Top - Road Trip Edition - as he and Barney recap their time in Manchester during Doggy Weekend/Homobloc. They eat, drive, chat shit and discuss what they each got up to, all while they try and figure out what Barney’s sexuality is. 🎪Follow Barney on Twitter & Bluesky 🎪Follow Scritch on Twitter &…
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3 Big Myths About BDSM That Are Holding You Back
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#005: Have you ever felt too nervous to attend a BDSM event? Listen to this episode of Dom Sub Living as host Alesandra shares her personal story and busts common myths about being a part of the BDSM community. Learn how to overcome limiting beliefs and embrace your unique desires in the BDSM lifestyle. Don't let these myths hold you back! – Access…
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Why Now is the Best Time to Start Your BDSM Journey
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#004: Why is now the best time to start living the BDSM lifestyle? Find out on this episode of Dom Sub Living! Alesandra discusses why now is the perfect time to dive into the world of Dom/sub dynamics and BDSM. She addresses common excuses for delaying and presents three factors that make this the ideal moment to start. Alesandra highlights the in…
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232: The Mythos of Leather feat. Glenn (@theartistminotaur)
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In this week's extra SPOOKY (except not really) episode, Glenn joins Barney to debrief their recent play scene, discuss neurodivergence in kink and being transmasc in the leather scene. Barney shares his experience at New Action in Berlin and Glenn provides insight into the history of leather and origins of the elusive Old Guard. 🎪Follow Barney on …
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Why I Quit My Vanilla Relationship to Become a Full-Time Submissive
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#003: On this personal and revealing episode, Alesandra shares her journey from a vanilla relationship to becoming a full-time submissive and BDSM instructor. Alesandra explains the reasons why people venture into BDSM, debunking myths and highlighting the importance of personal growth and self-discovery. Discover the challenges and rewards involve…
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#002: Are you ready to unlock the power of BDSM? Dive into this episode of Dom Sub Living and discover how this lifestyle can transform your entire life. Alesandra discusses five compelling reasons why BDSM is necessary and how to incorporate it into your life. From spicing up your love life to exploring desires in a safe environment, each point in…
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