In this conversation, Dr Corey is joined by Tyler and Brannon Patrick, also known as The Therapy Brothers, as they discuss the topic of betrayal, trauma, addiction, and infidelity in marriages. They emphasize the importance of addressing the underlying issues and not just focusing on the specific behavior, such as pornography usage. There is a need…

In this conversation, Dr Jessica Higgins joins me as we discuss the topic of criticism in relationships. We explore how criticism can be damaging -- but we also offer strategies for addressing it. It is so, so important to slow the process down, get curious, and reveal the underlying needs and requests. Learn more from Dr Higgins - https://drjessic…

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Dr Corey and Pam discuss the importance of flexibility in marriage and how it relates to facing and dealing with reality. We explore the concept of love languages and how they may not always lead to more desire or passion in a relationship. What is the difference between being a good companion and being a goo…

In this conversation, GS Youngblood joins me as we discuss his blueprint for masculinity in relationships, which focuses on three elements: respond versus react, provide structure, and create safety. He emphasizes the importance of simplicity, relationality, and applicability in his framework. We highlight the significance of emotional resonance, c…

In this conversation, Emily Nagoski joins me as we discuss the creation of her new book on long-term relationships and lasting connections. We explore the concept of normal sex and the importance of pleasure, authenticity, connection, and vulnerability in maintaining a strong sexual connection. We also dive into the impact of societal myths and exp…

In this episode we discuss common mistakes that married couples make when it comes to initiating sex. There are dynamics of higher desire and lower desire and patterns that make these mistakes so easy to make. We cover six common mistakes: getting annoyed at being the one who initiates, using covert or roundabout methods of initiation, joking or cr…

On the Regular Version ... In this conversation, and old blogging friend, Joshua Becker, joins me to discuss the journey and benefits of minimalism. We talk about his personal experience with minimalism and how it has positively impacted his life, relationships, and finances. We also explore strategies for dealing with a spouse's resistance to mini…

In this episode, we discuss the importance of date nights in marriage and offer a unique tip to make them more enjoyable. It's the idea of having sex before going out on a date to possibly relieve the pressure and create a deeper connection. We provide practical ideas for incorporating this tip into date nights, such as getting ready together, havi…

In this conversation, Dr. Marty Klein joins me and discusses the importance of reframing the conversation around sex and challenging our ideas about sexuality. We emphasize that sex is not just a behavior, but an idea, and that our ideas about sex shape our experiences. He highlights the need for individuals to have a sense of agency and the abilit…

This week let's talk about jealousy. Shanenn Bryant joins me for a conversation about overcoming jealousy in relationships. Shanenn shares her personal journey with jealousy and how she discovered that she was not alone in experiencing these feelings. She explains that jealousy is often rooted in past experiences and a lack of self-worth. The conve…

In this episode, we dive into how marriage is simple but difficult, and emphasize the importance of honest conversations. Then we move into the main focus of the episode -- an email from a husband who feels that his wife wants to be wanted but doesn't want to want. There are complexities of desire discrepancy and sexual frustration in every marriag…

In this conversation, Tripp Lanier joins me as we discuss the importance of self-reflection, understanding self, and overcoming resistance. We explore the impact of scripts, narratives, and parts in our lives and the need to integrate different aspects of ourselves. Our conversation also dives into the balance between love and boundaries in relatio…

In this conversation, I'm joined by Stacey Sherrell and Rachel Faccio from Decoding Couples. We have a great conversation about the transition from normal married life to intimacy, the importance of creating margin, and the different desire levels in a relationship. We also explore the role of initiation and rejection in sexual activity, as well as…

In this episode, in recognition of this being episode 666, we go a bit dark and discuss the concept of normal marital sadism (a term coined by Dr David Schnarch), which refers to the intentional infliction of pain, cruelty, and hurt within a marriage. We explore various examples of normal marital sadism, such as poking fun at and embarrassing a spo…

In this conversation, Dr Laurie Watson joins me as we discuss the dynamics of relationships and how they can impact sexual intimacy. We explore the misconceptions and expectations that couples often bring into therapy, as well as the triggers and defensive mechanisms that can lead to negative cycles. We also discuss the importance of recognizing pa…

This week we discuss the impact of trauma on reactions and responses in marriage. An email from a listener points out she felt that trauma was not adequately addressed last week. We explore more how both partners are responsible for their reactions and responses, and that there is no hierarchy of pain. We also discuss the importance of regaining a …

Today let's explore the impact of reactions and perceptions in relationships, specifically in the context of discovering pornography usage. There are lots of complexities with the aspects of honesty, trustworthiness, fear, and shame. Like how others perceive us, the importance of acknowledging others, the reactions to the discovery of pornography u…

In this conversation, I'm joined by Jason Van Ruler as we discuss the importance of addressing past wounds and traumas in order to move forward in life and relationships. We talk about the concept of scripts and how our past experiences shape the narratives we tell ourselves. Learn more about Jason here - https://www.jasonvr.com/ Takeaways Addressi…

In today's episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the truth about pressures in marriage and sex. We explore the dynamics of power distribution in sexual relationships and the responsibility each partner has for their own pleasure. We also dive into the impact of how we relate to our sexuality and the importance of facing responsibility and maki…

In today's episode, we continue the discussion on the topic of mercy sex and the pressures and obligations that can arise in marriage. Let's explore the impact of religious beliefs and family of origin on sexuality, and the importance of peeling away layers and developing new ones to create a more fulfilling sex life. So what are the practical step…

In this conversation, John Eldredge joins me as we discuss the impact of busyness and unhealed trauma on relationships. John brings up the concept of inner ages and how unresolved childhood trauma can surface in adult relationships. It is important to create space for our younger selves and having honest conversations about the needs and fears that…

In this episode, we discuss the concept of mercy sex in a marriage. What are the characteristics of mercy sex and the impact it has on both the lower desire and higher desire spouses? We also discuss the pressure to have sex and how it affects the dynamics of a relationship. As well as a discussion on how to move from mercy sex to freely chosen sex…

In this episode, we address some of the feedback from last week's episode about a husband losing attraction to his wife. We explore the impact of such revelations on men and women - is there a difference in how it impacts each gender - and we explore the concept of facing dilemmas and making choices in relationships. The key here is the importance …

In today's episode, we dive into a listener's question about a lack of desire in her marriage. After working through the Our Intimate Choices worksheet, the husband shared he has no desire or attraction towards his wife. What does she do now? It's important she faces the truth of the system and begins recognizing the underlying dynamics. In this pr…

The 2024 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... Natalie Hickson joins me as she shares her mission of helping moms overcome anger and anxiety in motherhood and marriage. We discuss the challenges of transitioning into parenthood and the triggers that can lead to destructive anger. Natalie emphasize…