Do you long for a sense of effortlessness, harmony, and synchronicity when you make love to your partner? Do you want to experience a sense of unity and surrender to the moment? Then you need to listen to today’s episode. The feelings I just described can only happen when you and your partner are highly attuned. Being attuned means that your bodies…

Social media has completely changed the landscape of relationships. It gives couples a lot of gray area to consider when thinking about what constitutes as cheating or even little boundary violations. How does social media affect relationships? Can it offer any benefit? How do you talk to your partner about boundaries regarding social media use? We…

Have you ever wondered what the secrets are to long-term love and attraction? Well, we have some interesting new research that sheds light on what the happiest couples already know. Get your pen and paper ready because whether you’re dating or partnered, you’re about to learn the key ingredients for lasting intimacy. I’m joined once again by Dr. Sa…

If you’re like most folks, you probably think that sex is something that comes naturally. Who needs a guidebook for something we are hardwired to do, right? Wrong! The truth is, good lovers know and accept that lifelong learning is an essential component of great sex, which is the topic of today’s episode. I had the pleasure of sitting down with Ma…

Are you someone whose past sexual trauma is preventing you from enjoying sex at your full capacity? Do you even know what your full capacity is or have you like so many people accepted mediocre sex as your norm? Today, we're going to talk about how reclaiming, reconnecting, and rediscovering vital parts of yourself can propel you out of trauma and …

What does your personality type say about your sexual and relationship tendencies? The Enneagram has become an increasingly popular personality assessment and can tell us so much about our romantic and sexual nature. What does it mean if you score high on Number 2, which is a Helper, but low on Number 5, which is the Investigator? We’re going to di…

Sex shouldn’t hurt unless you want it to, but that’s not the case for a lot of people. The fact is, 1 in 4 individuals, yeah 25% of people, experience some kind of pain that affects the quality of their sex. As we’ll discuss on today’s show, pain can be caused by several factors, which is why I’ve called in sexual pain expert and host of the Sluts …

Are you a mother or partner of a mother who feels like your relationship has gone downhill since kids entered the scene? You love your partner and you love your kids, but you feel like you’ve lost yourself somewhere along the way. I've said it before and I’ll say it again, our sexuality is inextricably linked to our individuality. Without a strong …

In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, an intimate marriage expert specializing in showing couples how to build beautiful, long-lasting passionate relationships. She is the bestselling author of “Uncompromising Intimacy” and host of The Institute of Marriage Podcast. A wife of 26 years and mother of 4, Alexandra believes the key to…

Do you or your partner struggle to stay focused, present, and connected to your body during sex? Do you find yourself easily distracted? Well, you're not alone. This is one of the most common complaints I get from my clients. Today, I'm joined by therapist Tara Galeano who is going to chat with us about ways to stay more embodied during sex so that…

Is it true that women are from Venus and men are from Mars? Are men and women more alike or more different? Why do we seem to have totally different ways of communicating with one another, and how can we work together to build happier and healthier relationships? Dr. Ricky Arenson is a dual-trained Endocrinologist and Geriatrician who lives in Pert…

Have you recently ended a relationship and feel lost on how to begin anew? Have you ever wondered why you seem to be attracting people who frankly, aren’t compatible or healthy for you? Does “the one” really exist, and if so, how the heck are we supposed to find them? My guest, Allison Jayne Ewing is a licensed psychotherapist and EFT practitioner.…

Have you ever wondered how to flirt? What kind of flirting is most likely to lead to a hook-up versus a date versus a rejection? How can you be sure that the way you flirt doesn’t come across as creepy or is viewed as harassment, especially in the post #MeToo era? That was the question from a recent Love and Libido Subscriber. As I was preparing my…

Do you or your partner suffer from erectile dysfunction? Are you considering treatment options like testosterone or injects? Maybe you’re struggling with premature or delayed ejaculation and want to know what might help. That’s the topic of today’s episode. I am so thrilled to welcome back renowned urologist, Dr. Jonathan Clavell. If you have a que…

Have you ever wondered how often most people have sex per month? What about how to start a threesome? Well, we are going to tackle that and more in today’s Q&A episode. You guys submit such great questions, and I want to thank you so much for being so vulnerable. It’s not always easy to put this stuff out there. We’ve got a nice variety today. In a…

People are so focused on increasing their desire for sex that they forget one simple fact… you’re only going to desire sex if you’re having good sex! So what can we do to improve sexual satisfaction? Today I’m joined by a sexpert who conducted a huge research study that examines just that. We are going to chat about what she discovered to be the mo…

I am happy to report that Q&A episodes are back! It’s been a while since I’ve recorded one, but you guys have been sending in such great questions I just had to get some of them answered and we’ve got some good ones today. I am going to help a guy who is feeling stuck about how to help his wife enjoy sex more, then I have two more questions about d…

If you are a penis owner or a partner of a penis owner, you need to listen to today’s episode. Erectile dysfunction can affect even the most confident men. Unfortunately, the penis does not have an on/off switch. Anything from stress, health issues, relationship conflict, or having too much to drink can cause problems. Chances are, most of my male …

We have two excellent questions to discuss on today’s episode. The first comes from a stroke survivor who is feeling frustrated and sad that her partner is uninterested in sex since her stroke despite her incredible recovery. I love this question because there are so many great lessons on adaptability that I’m going to be chatting about. Whether yo…

We have two great questions we're going to tackle in today's episode. The first is a recorded submission from a woman who's feeling a little uninspired and bored in her relationship. She thinks her boyfriend is a wonderful person but is struggling because he no longer motivates or excites her. Our second question comes from someone who is strugglin…

If you’re like most folks you want it all. But it can be challenging to balance your personal ambition with your family all while maintaining a juicy sex life. Today’s guest, Dr. Joli Hamilton has the answers. Drawing from her entrepreneurial spirit and experience raising seven kids while maintaining a passionate relationship, Joli talks about how …

Jealousy…think your immune to it? Guess again. I treat couples who are jealous of their partner’s relationship with the kids, with the dog, and with their career. It’s an emotion that we can identify in babies as young as 6 months, but we don’t talk about it enough. What is jealousy versus envy? How we can foster a healthier relationship with jealo…

Are you one of the millions who feel like you’re blinding navigating the dating world? Whether you’re swiping through profiles on an app or scanning the room at a bar, there are some tried and true dating principles that can help. Today’s guest, Dr. Susan Campbell, has written several books on this topic and has personal experience as someone who’s…

Have you ever wondered if you might be in a relationship with a narcissist? Narcissism comes in many forms. Some obvious, others....not so obvious. Being in a relationship with someone with narcissistic tendencies can be emotionally draining and deplete your self-esteem, but hope is available. Today, I chat with relationship expert Joe Kort on how …

If you’re in a long-term relationship, chances are you can look back and identify when the relationship shifted from the bliss of the honeymoon phase to the reality of the everyday life together. You can probably think of times when you’ve really struggled to balance each other’s needs versus times when you dreamt of shared future goals. Did you kn…

Have you ever been having a perfectly enjoyable sexual experience only to find yourself uncontrollably sobbing afterward? There are lots of reasons why someone might cry after sex, but most of the time, it’s because of something called post-coital dysphoria. And it’s more common than you might think. Studies have found that nearly half of all women…

If you’re a regular listener of the podcast, you probably know the difference between gender identity (whether you identify as male, female, or nonbinary) and sexual orientation (straight, gay, or somewhere in between). But how much do you know about erotic orientation? Simply put, erotic orientation describes the kinds of things that turn us on. I…

I am so excited about today’s episode because it is our first ever live Q&A! I finally had a subscriber brave enough to schedule some time with me so that we could dive more deeply into her concern. Her longtime boyfriend has a sexual fantasy that is making them question if their relationship is really on solid ground. The worst part is, that she f…

If you’re like most folks, you’ve probably heard of tantric sex. And while you might be curious about it, you probably can’t imagine ever practicing it with your partner. I mean who has time for that, right…? Think again, my friend. My guest today is going to shed some light on how the everyday couple can incorporate tantric principles into their s…

We have so many great questions to dive into today! I answer one man’s question about how to improve ejaculatory control (0:57), another man’s question is about whether he should tell his wife that he’s interested in having sex with other men (13:03), and another listener’s question about what it means that his partner never initiates sex (18:14). …

“I could go the rest of my life without it.” That’s how countless women feel about sex after going through menopause. Today’s guest, Dr. Susan Hardwick-Smith, was no different. Despite the fact that this is a common feeling, it’s not one that most women feel at peace with, and it lends itself to some pretty frustrated partners. The fact is, if sex …

I thought there would be no better way to 04/20 than by dedicating a whole episode to the exploration of sex and cannabis. The healing properties of cannabis have been known for centuries, but modern medicine has only recognized its use in more recent years. Today, special product lines are being designed that enhance sexual arousal and even treat …

Have you ever wondered if you or your partner might fall on the autism spectrum? Do you have autism and struggle to understand how to navigate romantic relationships and sex? Do you have an autistic child and are wondering how to help them navigate their sexuality in a healthy way? Then you need to listen to today’s episode. Autism affects about 2%…

It’s Q&A day! We tackle two great questions today. First, I address one man’s concerns about his partners’ negative reaction to his uncircumcised penis (1:17). In the second segment, I give tips to a guy whose wife has struggled to regain libido following cancer treatment (8:18). Today’s episode is sponsored by BetterHelp, an online therapy platfor…

Are you curious how to experience pleasure more completely, on both an emotional and physical level? Maybe you’re struggling to understand why emotional intimacy as a prerequisite to sex is so important for your partner. Do you long to feel more present and connected to your partner? Then you need to listen to today’s episode. Today I sit down with…

Thank you so much for tuning in, everybody. Today, I answer two subscriber questions. I give one man tips on how to cope with ED and premature ejaculation with a partner who is unwilling to collaborate with him to improve sex. I answer one woman's question about how to handle her boyfriend's anxiety about having sex while she's pregnant. And then f…

Are you a parent who is dreading the birds and bees talk with your child? Could you use some insight about how kids think about sex in 2022? Want to learn more about why we need to be alarmed by the fact that teens are having less sex than ever before? Then you need to listen to today’s episode. I’m joined by Dr. Logan Levkoff, an internationally r…

It’s Q&A day! Today I answer questions about how to revive the romantic and sexual connection amidst a life with toddlers (1:55), what to do if you’ve fallen into the “roommate stage” with your partner (20:37), and how to get your partner to give and receive more oral sex (13:47). If you have a question that you would like to have answered on the s…

Are you or your partner one of the many people who find it hard to focus during sex? Have you ever wondered whether you might have ADHD? Do you have ADHD and struggle to maintain healthy relationships and satisfying sexual experiences? Then you need to listen to today’s episode. My guest, Dr. Stephanie Buehler, and I take a deep dive into the effec…

It’s Q&A Day! Today, I answer questions about what to do if you’re attracted to your spouse’s sibling, how to introduce polyamory into a traditionally monogamous relationship, and how to cope with a small penis and rapid ejaculation. If you have a question that you would like to have answered on the show, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. You…

Does sex ever make you feel a little guilty? Were you or your partner raised in a home, culture, or religious institution that instilled a sense of shame about expressing yourself sexually? Then you need to listen to this and the next two episodes. I thought I’d open season 2 with a bang by doing a three-part mini-series on sex and faith. While fai…

Have you ever struggled to reconcile how your faith affects the way you feel about your sexuality? You’re not alone. This is the third of a three-part mini-series on sex and faith. While faith isn’t the focus of this whole podcast, it is something that impacts the way so many people feel about their sexuality, and I thought it would be great to ope…

Have you ever considered how your upbringing affected the way you feel about your sexuality? If you were brought up in a religious community, there is a good chance you received some pretty specific messages about sex. This is the second episode of a three-part mini-series on sex and faith. While faith isn’t the focus of this whole podcast, it is s…

2021 has been an interesting year. I started my podcast in the latter half of it, and it has been a wonderful experience. I've spoken with over a dozen brilliant experts during this season that helped me shine some light on conversations that needed to be had. We covered everything from the 237 reasons women have sex with Dr. Cindy Meston (which wa…

Are you interested in boosting libido and improving sexual function without relying on medication? Sexuality is complex and while there are usually lots of contributing factors, sometimes simple diet and lifestyle changes can make a big difference. Today, my guest, Christine DeLozier, and I are going to talk about what staples you should include in…

Do you or your partner worry about the appearance of the vulva? It's not just penis owners who may have insecurity about the size or appearance of the genitalia. Aesthetic surgeries designed to change the appearance of the vulva, specifically labiaplasties, are fast-growing and widely advertised, but there is no board-certified standardization for …

Did you know that one component of sex therapy training involves watching porn of every variety in a group with our sex therapist peers? Yep. Today, I chat with Dr. Patti Britton who led more than 55 of these (very memorable) trainings. Dr. Britton also sheds light on the difference between sex therapy and sex coaching. There is an option for peopl…

Have you ever wondered about polyamorous relationships? Struggling to find the right way to discuss it with your partner? This week, Emily interviews Martha Kauppi of the Institute for Relational Intimacy about consensual nonmonogamy. Martha is a marriage and family therapist and AASECT-certified sex therapist. Her studies over the years have debun…

In this episode of Sex and Love, I speak with Miranda Galbreath, a Licensed Professional Counselor with master’s degrees in Forensic Psychology and Clinical Mental Health Counseling. She has worked in the helping professions for over 20 years with a focus specifically on issues of sexual safety for the last 17 years. We speak about the importance o…

In this episode of Sex + Love I chat with Eveline Stallaart, a leading sexologist, psychologist and licenced therapist based in Amsterdam. We discuss the different cultural approaches to sexuality between Holland and the US, the most common issues she treats, and Amsterdam's famous Red Light district. Eveline is the featured expert on the Dutch ver…