Where to Draw the Line: How to Set Healthy Boundaries Every Day by Anne Katherine

Psychology Book Club Podcast

This episode is a discussion about Where to Draw the Line: How to Set Healthy Boundaries Every Day by Anne Katherine. Here is a summary of the book: From the acclaimed author of the perennial favorite Boundaries, Where to Draw the Line is a practical guide to establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries in many different situations. With every encounter, we either demonstrate that we’ll protect what we value or that we’ll give ourselves away. Healthy boundaries preserve our integrity. Unlike defenses, which isolate us from our true selves and from those we love, boundaries filter out harm. This book provides the tools and insights needed to create boundaries so that we can allow time and energy for the things that matter—and helps break down limiting defenses that stunt personal growth. Focusing on every facet of daily life—from friendships and sexual relationships to dress and appearance to money, food, and psychotherapy—Katherine presents case studies highlighting the ways in which individuals violate their own boundaries or let other people breach them. Using real-life examples, from self-sacrificing mothers to obsessive neat freaks, she offers specific advice on making choices that balance one’s own needs with the needs of others. Boundaries are the unseen structures that support healthy, productive lives. Where to Draw the Line shows readers how to strengthen them and hold them in place every day. Topics we discuss include:

• The key difference between boundaries and defences

• How to deal with boundary errors and boundary violations

• How we can responsibly uphold our boundaries

• What we need to do if we commit a boundary error or violation ourselves

During the conversation, we talk about NVC, which is short for Non-Violent Communication. If you'd like to find out more about this communication framework, you can listen to the discussion we had about it here. Podcast Epsiode