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Welcome to the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast! I'm your host, Shira Gura, and I know firsthand what it feels like to get hijacked by your emotions, keeping you from fully enjoying the moments and people in your life. In this podcast, I'll bring you into my world through personal stories, showing how you can make more deliberate choices in the face of everyday emotional moments, ensuring you handle those situations without regret. After all, your life is built on moments. And I'm here to h ...
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Have you ever had a day where your simple plans just don’t pan out? Not the life-changing ones, but the daily stuff: a walk, cooking a specific meal, finishing a task. Out of the blue, things happen, and what you wanted to do just can’t be done. When that happens, you face a choice: stick with the frustration or move past it. Every moment gives you…
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In this episode, I share a personal challenge from my son's Bar Mitzvah day when everything was set up wrong. Faced with frustration and the dilemma of speaking up without causing conflict, I turned to The unSTUCK Method. Discover how I navigated this tricky situation, ensuring a joyful day. This 14-minute story could change how you handle your nex…
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Have you ever caught yourself worrying too much about what other people think? This happened to me last week while I was getting ready for my youngest son's Bar Mitzvah. I was busy making plans and found myself stuck on worrying about what my friends would think of my decisions. This worry made me super anxious and I just couldn't shake it off. It'…
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Ever been called out and it hurts? It feels mean and makes you want to fight back. Everything goes so quick, and you feel like all you can do is get mad. But there’s a way to deal with it. If you notice you're getting upset, you can work through those feelings. This is what learning to "get unstuck" with The unSTUCK Method is all about. Doing this,…
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In this episode, I explore the pitfalls of disappointment and unsolicited advice. Discover why managing others often leads to neglecting our own needs and how The unSTUCK Method can help. Join me for a personal story about trying to "teach" my husband a lesson, and learn why letting go is key. It’s an 8-minute listen with insights that could transf…
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Have you ever had the experience where someone asks you to do a favor for them - and you gladly help out - only to realize you didn't succeed exactly the way the request was intended? I just hate it when that happens. It's like no good deed ever goes unpunished, right? When that happens, it's so easy to get stuck on self-judgment, self-criticism, a…
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Have you ever wanted to jump in and help when you see something happening to someone else? It's totally normal! But sometimes, it's not our place to fix everything. I recently saw something happening between my husband and my son the other night at dinner. At first, I wanted to step in, but I caught myself. Instead took myself through The unSTUCK M…
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Over a decade ago, I created The unSTUCK Method to help me manage my emotions in real time. This tool has transformed my life. Now, I coach others using this method to break free from the emotional triggers they face. Supporting someone this way can profoundly impact their life. This week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast features an excerpt of "…
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Have you ever found yourself caught between the excitement of working toward a goal or a new project and the anxiety of awaiting results? You're not alone. In our fast-paced world, patience often feels like a forgotten virtue. But what if I told you that embracing patience could be the secret ingredient to not only achieving your goals but also enj…
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In this episode of "You Can Handle Anything," I delve into a less talked-about phenomenon: getting stuck on positive emotions like excitement. It's common to find ourselves overwhelmed by excitement, impacting our daily routines and priorities. I share my personal experience of navigating this excitement trap, and how I used The unSTUCK Method and …
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When someone triggers you with rude or insensitive words or actions, it's natural to wish it hadn't occurred. The challenge lies in acknowledging that it DID happen. Refusing to accept reality leads to unnecessary suffering. While you may dislike the event or find it perplexing, embracing trust in the present reality facilitates a smoother journey.…
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Ever wondered why managing emotions "in the moment" in tough situations is crucial? When you don't, you can get hijacked by them, leading to behavior you later regret. And that can lead you to get trapped in a stuck cycle, holding onto negative emotions and feeling like you just can't let go. And, of course, over time that doesn't only impact how y…
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Have you ever gotten upset and acted in a way you later regretted? It happens to all of us. Even in those quick and tough moments, remember: you can choose how you react. I recently asked my husband, for the fifth time, to put something away. His reaction seemed too much, triggering me to react like I used to. But this time, I decided to be my best…
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Life is full of triggers that can make us feel stuck in a whirlwind of emotions. But guess what? "You can handle anything." But what does that actually mean? It means so much more than just "dealing" with things. And when you truly comprehend what this is all about, you learn how to be less reactive and in more control. Discover the real deal behin…
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Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you wronged someone, and they chose to forgive you? It's an indescribable and uplifting sensation, isn't it? Recently, I had the privilege of experiencing this profound power of forgiveness firsthand. Just a couple of weeks ago, I unintentionally offered unsolicited parenting advice to a friend duri…
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Ever find yourself pondering, "Why do certain people always seem to trigger me?" Ever feel like mastering self-control should be second nature by now? Ever entertain the thought that you might be the sole person repeatedly grappling with triggers? Embark on a transformative journey with this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast. …
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Have you ever considered the impact of each moment in our lives? It's a chance to make some profound choices – like deciding what to think, how to feel, or who we aspire to be. The thing is, these crucial moments often slip by without us truly seizing them. Ever catch yourself thinking things like, "This moment doesn't matter anyway"? Those thought…
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Ever wondered if you could actually choose your feelings, steering them in the direction you desire? It might sound improbable, especially when emotions seem automatic and beyond our control. I pondered this last night while attending a national basketball game in Israel amid the current war with Hamas. The weight of the ongoing conflict triggered …
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Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I'll be satisfied when this happens," or "I'll be happy once I achieve that goal"? Or perhaps you've found yourself waiting for someone else to change before everything gets better. It happens to the best of us. Life doesn't always unfold as we expect, and it's easy to fall into the trap of postponing our ha…
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Feeling that familiar frustration of being out of control? You're not alone—it's a common experience. But let me share a little secret: it's not a reflection of you; it's the stories you tell yourself that take the lead. Discover the art of reclaiming control by making intentional choices with your narratives. In this week's "You Can Handle Anythin…
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Ever felt that sinking disappointment when those close to you fall short? Whether it's your spouse, child, co-worker, friend, or even a stranger, the frustration of trying to change them can be overwhelming, only to realize it's beyond your control. The urge to alter someone else often traps you in a cycle of frustration and disappointment. But, th…
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Mourner's guilt, also known as survivor's guilt, is a natural response that can follow the harrowing experience of surviving when others did not. It can affect anyone, regardless of their sensitivity levels, and it often brings feelings of depression, anxiety, and, of course, guilt. Join me this week on the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast as I di…
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We all have those moments when our reactions happen automatically, almost like a reflex. It's a part of being human, a natural thing we do without even realizing it. But guess what? We always have a choice about how we react to the things that bother us. Sometimes, though, making that choice isn't easy, and that's when we need some handy tools to h…
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If you've ever felt like people were judging you based on how you look, the way they react, or what they say, you're not alone. It's easy to get upset and defensive when this happens. I recently faced a situation like this when I received an unexpected email. Instead of reacting quickly, I used The unSTUCK Method to respond thoughtfully. I realized…
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When you get triggered, do you ever find yourself sweating the small stuff, spiraling out of control, or turning into someone you don't even recognize? What if you could make every moment count and stop your emotions from taking over? How would your life change? In this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, catch an insider's per…
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What does it mean to be "emotionally balanced"? Is being "emotionally balanced" even something we should strive for? How can you become a more "emotionally balanced" person? In this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, join me on a journey to discover how you can cultivate greater emotional balance in your life, starting today. …
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I'm turning 50 this month, and I've chosen a unique way to celebrate - by sharing the gift of music with the world. I'm passionate about composing music, and I've written many tunes over the years. However, most have never been professionally recorded or shared. For my 50th birthday, I've set an ambitious goal: to record and release one new tune ev…
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335: When Someone Causes You to Doubt Yourself
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Have you ever encountered a situation where someone's words or actions planted a seed of doubt in your mind, causing you to question yourself? Getting stuck in self-doubt can be challenging, especially when it's triggered by external sources. Tune in to this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast to hear how my 15-year-old son navigated the self-…
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Have you ever noticed yourself absorbing other people's emotions? It's as if their bad mood or their entangled stories become your own, leaving you feeling powerless. This dynamic can often make you feel like you're handing over your personal power to someone else. In this week's episode, I share a personal experience where my husband was feeling i…
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333: Not Everyone is Supposed to Like You
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Do you ever worry about how others perceive you? Have you ever held back from speaking your mind because you fear disapproval? Discover the power of The unSTUCK Method in this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast. Learn how to navigate your thoughts and emotions, freeing yourself from the trap of overthinking. Remember, getting stuck is a part …
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332: The "Silence Negative Self-Talk" Challenge
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Join me in a FREE 3-Day Challenge called "Silence Negative Self-Talk." This is a fantastic chance to interact with me in real-time, pick up some new techniques I haven't talked about on this podcast before, and discover more about how you can be part of my community. Don't miss out! Enroll now by clicking here. I'm excited to have you with me for t…
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Our minds often linger in the past or drift into the future. During these moments, we engage in a silent dialogue with ourselves. Sometimes it's a supportive coach, but at other times, it turns critical. In this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, I shared a personal experience where my inner critic got the best of me when I was at a speaking…
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Have you ever felt the sting of exclusion? That moment when you see friends or family together, and you weren't invited, leaving a pang of sadness? I recently had such an experience, a fleeting encounter that could have soured the moment if I hadn't employed my trusty tool, The unSTUCK Method. During a family trip to the shore, while strolling alon…
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Have you ever found yourself in a situation where someone probes you with a question, seemingly seeking some intriguing tidbit, and you feel the pressure to share in response? It's a scenario that often leads to post-conversation regrets. But what if you could reclaim the power to say nothing at all? What if you could take a moment, pause, and cons…
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Have you ever caught yourself trapped in the cycle of saying "Poor Me"? Do you sometimes find yourself succumbing to self-pity when things don't go as planned? It's a common inclination to allow external factors to dictate how we perceive the world around us—a state I refer to as our "way of being." How you show up in the world is not only a reflec…
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Have you ever faced the challenge of someone being rude without knowing why? It's a common and uncomfortable experience that can leave us feeling stuck and unsure of how to respond. Recently, during my trip to Poland with my son for the European Little League Baseball tournament, I encountered a situation where my son was surprisingly rude to me. I…
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326: Consider They Can Handle Things, Too!
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In life, we often encounter situations where people seek our assistance, even for tasks they are fully capable of handling themselves. It can be challenging to resist the urge to step in and help, especially when they guilt-trip us into doing so, leaving us torn between being supportive and enabling their reliance on us. And yet it's possible to ge…
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Have you ever found yourself caught off guard by someone's unexpected words or actions, leaving you at a loss for how to respond? Those moments can freeze us in our tracks and often lead to regrettable reactions later on. I recently experienced such a surprise while traveling in Poland with my son, who is participating in the European Little League…
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Have you ever caught yourself uttering phrases like "It was awful," "It was the worst," or "I wouldn't wish this on anyone!"? It's easy to fall into negative patterns of thinking, genuinely believing that things couldn't possibly get any worse. But what if that assumption isn't entirely accurate? What if things actually could get worse? I invite yo…
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323: How to Handle When People Get Mad At You
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When someone gets angry at you, how you respond can impact your relationships and inner peace. If you've ever felt stuck, defensive, or excessively apologetic when someone expresses disappointment with something you did (or something you intend to do), you're not alone. The other person's behaviors (and our reactions to them) can lead to resentment…
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Have you ever felt like the obstacles in your life are never-ending? Join me as I share with you 5 real-life stories from forgotten IDS at the airport to tech issues, Uber mishaps, and credit card fraud, and how you can cultivate a "live, laugh, learn" mindset when faced with emotional setbacks. Gain valuable insights into how you can get emotional…
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When it comes to creating meaningful changes in your life or pursuing your goals and dreams, it's common to feel stuck. Despite having well-crafted action plans, diets, or strategies, many people find themselves unable to make progress and ultimately give up on themselves. The reason behind this recurring pattern is often the lack of a solid founda…
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While some may perceive conflict as inherently negative, what if we challenge that notion? What if conflicts are actually a normal part of relationships, and the key lies in learning how to effectively resolve them? Join me as we explore three empowering ways to navigate conflicts, allowing you to approach them with clarity and confidence, and turn…
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319: You are Not Responsible for How THEY Feel
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Have you ever found yourself overwhelmed by the emotions of others? Here's a gentle reminder: You are not accountable for the emotions of others. Period. Far too often, we shoulder the burden of others' hurt, sadness, and anger, believing it is our responsibility to fix everything and ensure everyone's happiness. However, it is vital to acknowledge…
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Have you ever felt hurt by someone's words or actions? In this week's podcast episode, I share stories from three of my students who faced similar situations of feeling hurt by different people or experiences in their lives. Discover a simple strategy to get unstuck, overcome hurt, and regain control of your emotional well-being with just two simpl…
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If you often find it challenging to manage your emotional reactions when triggered by others, I have an incredible opportunity that you don't want to miss. Join me LIVE for a transformative 2-hour workshop called UNSTUCK LIVE. During this interactive workshop, I will teach you, step-by-step, how to PRACTICALLY go from feeling emotionally "stuck" to…
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In challenging moments, our emotional reactions can often catch us off guard. We find ourselves triggered and, before we know it, caught up in an over-exaggerated response that we later regret. But what if there was a way to break free from this cycle of emotional reactivity? In this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything, podcast, I highli…
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315: Five Qualities to Recognize When You're Feeling Emotionally STUCK
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Do you find yourself reacting negatively when someone pushes your buttons or upsets you? If so, you're not alone. It's easy to get emotionally triggered and become stuck in your emotions. In this episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, we explore what it means to be emotionally stuck and how it can affect your life. Whether you're attache…
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When it comes to success, how do you define it? Is it something you feel you've achieved in your life? Or do you feel like you're always striving for it, but it's just out of reach? In this episode, I'll share my own approach to success, which may surprise you. We won't be talking about the usual measures of success, like wealth, status, or popular…
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In this week's episode of "You Can Handle Anything," I chat with Sharon, a caregiver for her mother with Alzheimer's. Sharon shares her experiences of feeling overwhelmed and struggling to manage her emotions, which sometimes spill into her interactions with others. She learned practical strategies to save the moments and not let sadness turn into …
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