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Depression, anxiety, and personal emotional struggles, are hard to manage on their own. You can feel very lonely in that battle. And so many people either can’t or won’t try therapy. It’s too weird, it’s too expensive, or you’re nervous about trying it. SelfWork can help you begin that healing, or be an addition to the work you’re already doing, as I offer compassionate common-sense directions, ideas and goals toward the changes you want to make. I’ve been a psychologist for over 25 years; a ...
 
Midlife can be sh*t . . . am I right?!? But midlife is also a wonderful time of discovery, fulfillment, reinvention and more! Join Valerie Albarda, a woman on a mission to show other midlife+ women that this chapter in our lives can be filled with more than the dreaded crisis. With Midlife-A-Go-Go, you’ll get the good, the bad AND the ugly, because that’s how life is! Whether flying solo or chatting with special guests, Valerie will have candid discussions on menopause, relationships, fitnes ...
 
Your go-to source for life-changing shifts in how you think about --and create relationship with--yourself and other humans. Discover new options for building the strength, assertiveness, resilience, boundaries, and balance needed to develop healthier relationships, ones based on equality, reciprocity, and mutuality. Listening to these in-depth discussions with expert guests on a broad range of relationship topics can open your eyes, heart, and mind to new possibilities for creating the heal ...
 
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Happy 150th Episode!! This is the last of the series on aspects of depression and today, we're talking about self-destructive habits and patterns. Depression is innately painful. It’s lonely. It’s dark. Sometimes you lose hope that you can find your way out. So, you can easily turn to self-destructive behaviors to gain some form of perceived co ...…
 
Life can sometimes be hard; I think we can all agree on that. But nothing can compare to hearing a doctor say to you, "Your son has a brain tumor." My guest on today's episode is Karen DeBonis and her family's life was forever changed when their son was diagnosed with a brain tumor. Karen and I talk about her journey from a woman who couldn't s ...…
 
HAVE YOU EVER FELT BETRAYED? HAVE YOU EVER FULLY BEEN ABLE TO TRUST YOURSELF OR ANOTHER AGAIN? This episode looks at different forms of betrayal, including infidelity. Who typically betrays? One of the questions I had for my guest, Dr. Debi Silber, was on the topic of parental betrayal. Often, a person doesn't want to think or believe that they ...…
 
Depression and anxiety turn up in several mental illnesses. Yet when there's a definite mood cycle -- when one energy level of mood becomes apparent, either a too up or too down, and then another eventually takes it place -- this can earn the diagnosis of Bipolar II Disorder if certain criteria are met. I'll talk about what Bipolar II is exactl ...…
 
Ever feel overwhelmed? That's all too common, right? Does it seem to happen too often? Life is busy. Expectations are high. You feel pushed and pulled by different needs of different people and roles in your life. STRESS! Today, take a breather and listen in. With my guest, Brianna Wilkerson, a holistic health coach, we're giving you some great ...…
 
On this episode of "This is What Midlife Looks Like," I'm introducing you to Cheryl Ford. Cheryl has a lot going on in her life, and that's why she's the perfect guest to have in the new series, Not only is she first and foremost a phenomenal midlife woman, Cheryl is also a wife and mother, she manages a team of community care workers at Parkin ...…
 
We're talking about love today on SelfWork. Unconditional love often gets the thumbs up as the best or most selfless kind of love to have. Parents certainly want to welcome their children into the world with unconditional love. But there can be a problem when, as an adult, you don't set boundaries at all, and "loving unconditionally" can be man ...…
 
Oh, a little--maybe, an understatement--controversy here! You'll want to weigh in in the comments, I'm betting. Elliott Katz, today's guest, suggests that today's man is confused about his role in a relationship. Could be. What do you think? Of course, we talked about this at length. When I read Katz' book, Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants, I ...…
 
Depression is going to be the topic of SelfWork for the coming weeks. And today, let's look into seven distorted beliefs that are going to justify or support you staying isolated, and even convince you that you're better off being alone. But loneliness and isolation are part and parcel of depression's hold on you. I know how real these voices c ...…
 
Is positive self-talk always positive? is it effective? Does positive self-talk have any downsides? Can it always work? Important questions, and today's guest, Dr. Marcia Reynolds, has given this a tremendous amount of thought and consideration. Such valuable work! Dr. Reynolds says, "Rationalizing and defending your behavior keeps you nestled ...…
 
It's been Suicide Awareness Week here in the US so I wanted to feature your questions about the well-researched but still largely unrecognized signal for potential suicide risk -- what I term perfectly hidden depression. You have great questions. The first is from a writer who is losing her battle between creativity and perfectionism; the secon ...…
 
Everyone knows when there's an elephant in the room. It's an event, fact or feeling-- past or present -- that can't, for some mysterious or not so mysterious reason, be acknowledged. It seems impossible or too risky or too painful to talk about. So you walk around it. Avoid it. Throw a sheet over it. We all have what are called "defense mechani ...…
 
Getting motivated for change and maintaining that change can be tricky business. Willpower. Self-discipline. Focus. All are touted as necessary for achievement of your goals. But where does self-acceptance come into this? And what about understanding what's underneath the change you maybe want or need to make? I'll talk today about how motivati ...…
 
Kids don't always grow out of things. They grow through things! And, you need to be there to see it, understand it, and know what to do to help when things seem to be going sideways! Today's guest, Dr. Brian Licuanan, and I talk about the difficulties in seeing problems kids want to hide from us, whether we're their parent, grandparent, teacher ...…
 
Welcome. If you've listened to the previous episode, you know that explaining depression as a "chemical imbalance" is far too simple for such a complex process. Today I'm once again using a very well-written article by a team at Harvard as a guide. Today we'll focus on the non-neurological factors that have a tremendous influence on whether or ...…
 
Wow! Does thinking of yourself as being UNSTOPPABLE light you up? Then, you'll love today's episode! Connie Phieff was adopted--but she didn't know it until later in life--and lived her young life a bit like Cinderella. Now, you know that's not good, right? Cook, clean, take care of the kids, repeat! How Connie overcame the pain of her past tox ...…
 
Can depression be explained simply as a chemical imbalance? The answer is a resounding “no.” I’m basing this episode on a very well-written article by a team at Harvard that offers understandable explanations of what researchers believe is going on in your brain and in your life that can lead to depression. And here’s their […] The post 142 Sel ...…
 
How often to you look in the mirror and wish you saw another reflection there? There are many reasons for this lack of self-acceptance, everything from bullying to aging to irrational thinking and obsession. I’ll give some examples from my own life – as this has definitely been on my own journey toward health, but […] The post 141 SelfWork: Mir ...…
 
Even when you want change in your life, it’s hard to give up what’s familiar and risk the unfamiliar. You at least know you can tolerate what’s happening now and change can be daunting. But you can also be struggling with powerful triggers. I’ll define what a trigger is – how it can be known […] The post 140 SelfWork: Why Is Change So Difficult ...…
 
It's no secret that relationships take work. With midlife couples, it's a new dynamic. We're no longer running on auto-pilot. In an ever-evolving world, relationships have to evolve with it. Join me and Dr. Margaret Rutherford on part 2 of "Relationships in Midlife" as we continue our discussion on the dynamics of midlife relationships. ****** ...…
 
Got Empathy? That's one key that unlocks the willingness to enter into a problem-solving process with your partner, according to today's guest, Dr. James. L. Creighton. You need more! Dr. Creighton says: "Empathy allows us to enter into the emotional reality of our loved ones, so that even when there are differences, there is still shared exper ...…
 
When you hear the term “personality disorder,” what does that mean? That someone ‘s personality is off-putting or self-destructive? Is it different from mental illness, and if so, how is it different? And if you identify with one of them or are trying to love someone with these problems, is there hope? In this episode […] The post 139 SelfWork: ...…
 
What does it mean to “feel invisible?” Like you don’t matter. You aren’t a vital part of things. You’re being overlooked or seen only for what you can do instead of for who you are. That perception can be part of depression, and that “invisibility” may be imagined or misperceived. But sometimes it’s reality, not […] The post 138 SelfWork: The M ...…
 
Relationships can be hard. Toss midlife in the mix and you're really looking at some work. I'm honored to be joined on this episode of "Relationships in Midlife" with Dr. Margaret Rutherford — clinical psychologist, author and podcaster. Its a wonderful, insightful topic for couples — whether married or dating. ****** Midlife-A-Go-Go the podcas ...…
 
Medications. You are bombarded with advertisements for them everywhere. And meds for mental health are no exception. In today’s show, I’m offering my clinical perspective as a psychologist (as well as expert advice from Dr. Michael Yapko) after watching thousands of people over the years try out different medications and working hand in hand wi ...…
 
Do you live by the rule, “When the going gets tough, the tough get going?’ In this podcast, I offer another way of approaching life when it gets tough — an approach that honors both the need to forge ahead when things get hard, but one that won’t lead to emotional and even physical burnout. I […] The post 136 SelfWork: When the Going Gets Tough ...…
 
Menopause. What do men know about it? What do men need to know about it? As women, we know how menopause affects us, but how can we let the men in lives know what we're dealing with? Join me and Jeanne Andrus, the Menopause Guru, as we continue our chat on what men need to know about menopause. ****** Midlife-A-Go-Go the podcast! Be sure to lis ...…
 
Your emails are coming in fast and furious so I decided today that I would answer some of those questions with everyone and we can continue to learn from one another. The subjects range from trauma to ending a relationship to having trouble letting go of regrets and shame to perfectly hidden depression. — so […] The post 135 SelfWork: Your Ques ...…
 
Dating? Is it a joy, a pleasure, a pain, or a concern? Sometimes, it's each of those, right? And, sometimes, it's just downright scary! If you've had past relationship with toxic people, or toxic relationships in your family, friends, or at work, you'll find this episode valuable. We also talk about the issues that come up when dating after div ...…
 
Money and the distrust that can be created because of it in a partnership or marriage is what’s on the agenda for today. It’s amazing how many people commit to one another and never touch the subject. We’ll talk about the business of relationships and common problems people run into when they initially establish their […] The post 134 SelfWork: ...…
 
For as much as we may want them to know, many men are clueless when it comes to menopause. How can we expect them to understand us if they're in the dark? It's time to clue men in on the wonderful world of menopause. On this episode, I'm chatting with The Menopause Guru, Jeanne Andrus. Jeanne is an author with four books under her belt, includi ...…
 
Today we’re talking about psychological disorders that have to do with you, food, and exercise that have the power to damage your child’s body image and self-esteem as well — no matter how you try to keep it out of their life. Both moms and dads can have struggles that not only damage their own […] The post 133 SelfWork: “I Have Body Image Issu ...…
 
Are you a little shy about dating, or moving into a new relationship after a divorce? What if you've been married once or twice? Do you have confidence to date again? Do you have confidence in choosing a new partner after divorce? OK! Yes, there are a few fear-inspiring issues about dating again after a divorce, right? Can I trust a new person? ...…
 
Is therapy really helpful when a relationship is in trouble? And what are the kinds of things you need to realize about therapy that might increase the chances of it being effective? Let’s talk about what’ s important in choosing a couples therapist, but also I’ll offer a roadmap to guide your healing. There are […] The post 132 SelfWork: Where ...…
 
Women in film? Not just women, but midlife+ women . . .? Good, quality roles that don't fit the stereotypical mode are few and far between for midlife+ women. We think that should change. Does it matter what stories are told? Yes, it does. And we want to see more midlife+ women in those positive roles -- not the wacky grandmother, not the foul- ...…
 
Father hunger… when your dad isn’t or wasn’t available or connected with you either due to divorce, death or disinterest — causes many problems for a child and the family as a whole. But the numbers are staggering of how many homes are without dads. There are so many engaged dads out there, but when […] The post 131 SelfWork: When Your Dad Isn’ ...…
 
Sometimes, we learn out greatest lessons by going through terrible pain and trauma. It's never "worth it," in my opinion. But, it does change us, and can be the catalyst for our insights and growth. So, in that sense, we can be grateful for it. How that change shows up is in our attitude, understanding, and often in the quality of help we get t ...…
 
No one particularly likes to fail. And what does it have to do with flying a kite? In this episode, we’ll talk about the power that failure can have in your life and what can help you learn from it. Because failure is inevitable. And far too many people shame themselves for failure and then […] The post 130 SelfWork: The Power of Failure and Wh ...…
 
Let's talk about women in film. When was the last time you watched a movie or a TV show that featured a midlife woman being shown in a positive light? I'm not just talking in a supporting role but as the main character - the story revolves around her? Think on that for a minute. In the meantime, join me as I chat with Christie Glascoe (also kno ...…
 
We’re talking self-talk here today. What is it? And what can you do about it? A lot of people tell me they kinda “know” what it is, but haven’t a clue how to change it. It feels as if it’s too elusive. How could you possibly rein in what your mind is telling you about […] The post 129 SelfWork: Challenging and Changing Negative Self-Talk appear ...…
 
Dr. Jennifer Ashton of ABC News was interviewed this week as she revealed the suicidal death of her ex-husband. She stated quite clearly that he displayed none of the signs of depression that she had studied in medical school. None of them. I need to read her new book on surviving the suicide of […] The post 128 SelfWork: What Happens When You ...…
 
There are many ways of creating problems in relationships, but there are two manipulations that are sometimes harder to see than out and out contempt or defensiveness. They are stonewalling, basically “the silent treatment” and gaslighting, when someone tries to undermine your own perceptions to the point where you distrust your own mind. The f ...…
 
A comment complaint I hear in my practice--especially, of course, from people who have #Hijackal parents, partners, or exes, is that S/HE IS NOT EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE! I belong to many groups on Facebook, and this is a common complaint there, too. "I'm attentive, collaborative, loving, nurture, and even compliant, and my partner just doesn't gi ...…
 
Do you find satisfaction and fulfillment at work? You spend many hours there so if you don’t, that can be a huge problem. In this episode, I’ve found some experts on the workplace to discuss this vital issue. What do studies show are the most important factors in being happy at work? The results are […] The post 126 SelfWork: What Makes Your Wo ...…
 
Midlife—whether you’re in your 40s, 50s or 60s—it’s a wonderful time to be a woman. No longer do we have to beat ourselves up (or down) and feel as if life as we know it is over. With age comes wisdom, and many midlife women could teach a thing or two to the younger generation. Midlife women are knocking down the old stereotypes and showing the ...…
 
Social anxiety and shyness often get confused, but they’re far from the same. So what is social anxiety? What happens when you suffer from it? And what can you do about it? I’ll offer six steps to consider, as once again, we focus on “what you can do about it.” The listener email today is […] The post 125 SelfWork: Fighting the Fear and Lonelin ...…
 
Childhood neglect can be much more confusing to work through. It’s abuse all right. But its message was just as harsh as physical beatings or harsh punishment. What is that message? That you weren’t worth feeding, or being educated. Whatever physical or emotional pain you had didn’t matter. What you experienced simply didn’t matter. And […] The ...…
 
What allows for growth of intimacy? You want an emotionally rich, intimate relationship. You'll never find it--in any healthy fashion--if you're needy. That's why you need to do your own work first! You know I talk about "doing your own work" first frequently. It's because you need to be the healthiest you can be to attract--and sustain--a heal ...…
 
When you were a child, you were taught your A-B-Cs and you committed them memory. It was a catchy tune that you could probably sing in your sleep. Now that you're a woman fully grown, it's time to learn a whole new set of A-B-Cs — I call them the ABCs of an Empowered Midlife Woman. Listen in as I go from A-Z with traits that I believe make up a ...…
 
I’ve had the pleasure of working with several people who’ve come to me due to my writing about perfectionism and perfectly hidden depression. So we’re going to be talking about the fear of losing your edge – the edge that you believe keeps you on your toes, keeps you doing better, doing more, doing doing doing… […] The post 123 SelfWork: Are Yo ...…
 
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