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This is your show to discuss open relationships, the swinger lifestyle, consensual non-monogamy - however you describe it, we’re here to talk about it. Your podcast is hosted by John and Jackie Melfi, the force behind the industry famous colette swingers clubs and the award-winning blog Openlove101.com. With over 20 years of combined experience in open relationships and coaching thousands of couples, they are here to share with you the trials, tribulations, passion, and positivity of love an ...
Welcome to Poly-ish Movie Reviews, where I watch the crap so you don't have to! I watch a lot of movies. Some of those movies are great. But a lot of them are crap. I'm here to help you sort out which is which, so that you don't have to waste your time on bad cinema, unless that's your thing. No judgement - I like a lot of terrible movies. I'm just saying that, as we polys know, love may be infinite, but time is not. Let me help you manage that increasingly rare and precious time of yours by ...
Nikki and John, two married 30-somethings, open up in real time about the decision to open up their marriage. You'll go on their journey as they explore non-monogamy, polyamory and what it means to be in an open marriage. Send questions, or just say hi, at openinguppodcast@gmail.com
#23 - We're kicking off the New Year with some fun (and serious) discussions here. In our special interview with Charlie and Arienne of SexBecause.com, we dive into kink and BDSM, while also covering sexual trauma, honesty, and more! To learn more about open relationships, the lifestyle, and consensual non-monogamy, go to: https://openlove101.com…
#22 - Fear is an inevitable part of life and the lifestyle, so what can we do to fight fear in our relationships? It's a pretty simple solution, but takes a bit to pinpoint exactly what you're afraid of before you can go about tackling it, which is what we're going to walk/talk you through today! To learn more about open relationships, the lifestyl…
#21 - We're at the end of the series and by now you've set your boundaries before going out, went on your date or to your party/club, and now it's all over. Or is it? What do you do now before you go rinse and repeat your rules and boundaries? This is actually one of Jackie's favorite parts of the night putting the cherry on top, so listen in! And …
#20 - Ok now it's play time, but do you do it separately or together with your partner? What situations would you want to be in the same room playing together (or separately) or playing in different rooms separately altogether? Here are some things to consider when making that decision! And to learn more about open relationships, the lifestyle, and…
#19 - Ok so you're ready to go out to a club or party where you have the opportunity to play. What should you do beforehand when it comes to rules and boundaries? It's establishing what you're comfortable with! In this episode, we talk about the gradual levels you can take with your playing from just dipping your toes in the water to going all the …
#18 - Hopefully by now in our Rules & Boundaries series that you have some created together with your partner. But what do you do if/when your boundaries get pushed or broken by a couple you're playing with or even by your own partner? How do you let the other person know? Why is it important that you let the other person know? Let's talk about tha…
#17 - One of THE MOST IMPORTANT places to start if you're considering an open relationship is going over the rules and boundaries with your partner. If you don't, you're going to inevitably encounter unnecessary drama, problems, and headaches (and no one's got time for that)! Start your lifestyle right with creating (or revisiting) rules and bounda…
#16 - Seems like we always talk about Jackie's journey through fear, but this time John has the floor on this podcast to share HIS story of what fears he had to encounter in this lifestyle and how he walked through it. To learn more about open relationships, the lifestyle, and consensual non-monogamy, go to: https://openlove101.com…
#15 - One of the most common questions that we get from men is about how to deal with performance anxiety when it comes to playing in the lifestyle. How do you stay hard when you have all these eyes on you watching?! That's a very good question and we're going to address it today! To learn more about open relationships, the lifestyle, and consensua…
#14 - I remember the time when I gathered in a room of female monogamists to talk about the release of my book "Swingers Lifestyle: The Questions You are Afraid to Ask". How would these traditional wives respond to such a "taboo" topic? Here's my story of how that day unfolded! To learn more about open relationships, the lifestyle, and consensual n…
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30 Signs Your Relationship Hit the Comfort Zone
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#13 - We read an article on the top 30 signs of a relationship comfort zone [how you’ll know when you’re comfortable with your partner(s)] and we discuss what we think. How many of these have you checked off the list? To learn more about open relationships, the lifestyle, and consensual non-monogamy, go to: https://openlove101.com…
#12 - So it's been several months now in August and you may have your playdates still on hold. Then what can you do at this point if others aren't dating? Instead of focusing on the things we can't do, let's explore some of the things we can do! Let's talk about some options you have and what we've been doing. Clue - exploring a new fantasy would b…
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Watching Your Partner Have Sex With Someone Else
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#11 - First time having a threesome with your partner? Worried or nervous about how you’re going to react to seeing them with someone else? We know what that’s like because we’ve been in your shoes. In this episode, we explain how we felt having a threesome with each other as a couple for the first time. To learn more about open relationships, the …
#10 - "How do you not lose intimacy in your relationship if you are giving so much intimacy to others?" That is the great question from our community that we'll be answering. Is intimacy limited? Does giving it to one person take away from another? Let's talk about it! To learn more about open relationships, the lifestyle, and consensual non-monoga…
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The 3 Ps Approach to Open Relationship Dating
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#9 - Open relationship dating can be stressful and nerve wrecking if you don't have a general framework. That's where the easy 3 Ps Approach comes into play to help you make your swinger lifestyle date a smashing success. The first P discusses the VERY important step that you and your partner should be taking with the couple you're going out with o…
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Open Relationship Myths and Realities (Part 2)
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#8 - Part 2 continuation of our last discussion about some myths (and realities) from one of our favorite books in our relationship library - "The Ethical Slut" by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton. Do any these sound familiar to you? Myth #4 - Loving someone makes it ok to control their behavior. Myth #5 - Jealousy is inevitable and impossible to o…
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Open Relationship Myths and Realities (Part 1)
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#7 - Let's discuss some myths (and realities) from one of our favorite books in our relationship library - "The Ethical Slut" by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton. Do any these sound familiar to you? Myth #1 - Long term monogamous relationships are the only relationships. Myth #2 - Romantic love is the only real love. Myth #3 - Sexual desire is a de…
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Poly-ish Movie Reviews - Episode 50: 3 (Drei)
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Yet another movie named "3" - will this one have some polyamory in it? Or will it be another cheating film? Joreth reviews the German film Drei, or 3, for polyamorous content.By Joreth Innkeeper
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Poly-ish Movie Reviews - Episode 49: Something About Sex
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3 couples struggle with the definitions of monogamy and fidelity, after some "insight" from Jason Alexander. Joreth reviews this film to see if any ethical non-monogamy could possibly come out of it at all.By Joreth Innkeeper
There are so many movies called "Three"! Is this one that actually has polyamory in it? Is there really an FMF triad like on the cover? Are any of the characters polyamorous? Or is this just another cheating cautionary tale or threesome gone wrong story? Joreth reviews this particular "Three" to find out!…
#6 - Jackie Melfi gets interviewed on The Kinky Koach & Her Silver Fox podcast about dealing with your kids and how (if you want) to tell them that you're in the lifestyle. If you're struggling with how to handle this sensitive issue, check out the resources on this blog post: https://openlove101.com/telling-kids-lifestyle-6/ …
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Poly-ish Movie Reviews - Episode 47: Bandits
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Can a movie with blockbuster names be a poly movie? Joreth reviews Bandits with Bruce Willis, Billy Bob Thornton, and Cate Blanchet to see if there is any polyamory in this star-studded film.By Joreth Innkeeper
#5 - Our interview with award-winning documentarian Roger Nygard (Trekkies, The Nature of Existence) on his new movie "The Truth About Marriage". We all know the statistics: marriage rates are down, divorce rates are up, and over time, people are more and more dissatisfied in their relationships and marriages. Never in history have we expected so m…
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First Time Swinger Club Expectations and Boundaries
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#4 - It can be scary and nerve-wracking going to a swingers club for the first time. It can also be very exciting! Just be sure to have the right set of expectations and boundaries before going in, which is what we talk about in this episode. And if you want more details, just download our FREE Newbie Lifestyle Club Guide at https://openlove101.com…
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Swinging Goes Mainstream in "This is Life with Lisa Ling"
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#3 - CNN featured John & Jackie Melfi in an episode of "This is Life" with award-winning journalist Lisa Ling where she explores the swinger lifestyle. It's not very often that the mainstream media covers open relationships, so much credit goes to Lisa Ling and her team on an honest look at this relationship model. Listen in on John & Jackie's behi…
#2 - Make sure you're following these important tips to avoid a dull (or nonexistent) sex life with your spouse, partner, or partners in the bedroom, at the lifestyle club, lifestyle party, or wherever you wanna do it! :) To learn more about open relationships, the lifestyle, and consensual non-monogamy, go to: https://openlove101.com/…
#1 - Have you ever wondered how to get into poly or swinger lifestyle? John & Jackie answer that common starting newbie question for you! Subscribe to the show for lots more to come! To learn more about open relationships, the lifestyle, and consensual non-monogamy, go to: https://openlove101.com/By John & Jackie Melfi
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Poly-ish Movie Reviews - Episode 46: The Blood Oranges
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Can a movie set in the '60s and filmed in the '90s really feature a polyamorous quad? Joreth reviews The Blood Oranges for a little-seen poly structure to see if there is any polyamory in it at all. "Husband and wife Cyril and Fiona explore new ground and new relationships when they take a vacation in the tropics. While on holiday, the pair meets a…
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Poly-ish Movie Reviews - Episode 45: The Unbearable Lightness Of Being
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How well does this particular fan recommendation hold up to Joreth's poly critique? Sometimes I think that maybe I'm actually speaking a different language from everyone else, and maybe I have some kind of universal translator or babelfish so that I can't tell, but that the translator is buggy or slightly off in some ways. Because people don't seem…
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Poly-ish Movie Reviews - Episode 44: She's Gotta Have It (movie)
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Can Spike Lee's inaugural film really be a poly movie as everyone claims? Joreth watches this groundbreaking movie to find out! There's something about student films and classic French movies that just do not work for me. Maybe it's the penchant for black and white even in a color era, or maybe it's the frequent complete lack of musical score or so…
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Poly-ish Movie Reviews - Episode 43: The Mentalist
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Polyamory in the wild? Can a TV show that isn't about polyamory at all really have an episode with polyamorous characters in an open marriage and treat the subject well? Joreth reviews an episode of The Mentalist to find out!By Joreth Innkeeper
Can a web series about a poly triad really be about polyamory? Yeah, it probably is. Joreth reviews the show Family, a creative endeavor by Teresa Greenan, a polyamorous filmmaker based out of Portland, OR.By Joreth Innkeeper
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Poly-ish Movie Reviews - Episode 41: Le Bonheur
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Ah, French ... the culture of love! Where "alternative" relationship structures are not frowned upon and the people understand the power of passion! Or do they? Joreth reviews a movie filmed in the Swingin' '60s on recommendation from a listener, to see if there is any polyamory or ethical non-monogamy in this film made during a time of exploration…
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Poly-ish Movie Reviews - Episode 40: Keeping The Faith
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A priest and a rabbi walk into an airport ... to meet their childhood best friend, a tomboy who has grown up into a beautiful, intelligent, independent, CEO. As she visits her hometown and her two best friends, the men struggle with their growing romantic feelings for the same woman. Could this really be a tale of polyamory, snuck into mainstream c…
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Poly-ish Movie Reviews - Episode 39: A Strange Affair
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Can a made-for-tv movie about a broken marriage have polyamorous content in it? Joreth reviews this Judith Light film to see if there is any polyamory in a low-budget, '80s flick. The Netflix summary reads: "Judith Light stars in this sexy made-for-TV drama about a married woman who discovers that her husband of 23 years has been unfaithful. Just a…
Can a mainstream movie about an "open marriage" really have some polyamory in it? Joreth reviews the movie Fling, starring Brandon Routh, Steve Sandvoss, and Courtney Ford, to answer that very question.By Joreth Innkeeper
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Poly-ish Movie Reviews - Episode 37: Esmeralda Comes By Night
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Can a movie about a woman charged with bigamy on the day of her 6th wedding really be about polyamory? Joreth reviews this quirky Spanish film that challenges the standard narrative of a man and his harem, and questions everything a conservative judge ever thought he knew about love and relationships.…
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This week we say hello from Granada, where John suffered with food poisoning and Nikki got chastised by a random couple. We discuss how feeling emotionally intimate affects our sex life (and how we react differently to the distance), wether or not we hit our sex goals, what we want to change when we go home and Nikki shares a naughty story about or…
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11 - Vacation Sex, Being Awkward and meeting 'El Torro'
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This week we talk to you from Madrid! We give you an update on our sex everyday experiment. John dishes about 'El Torro', his new sex toy. Nikki shares her experiences with vacation sex -- when its good and... well, not. We discuss non-sexual intimacy of the physical variety and how we fare at it. But best of all, don't miss the surprise that the M…
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Poly-ish Movie Reviews - Episode 36: Sleep With Me
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Sleep With Me promises "raucous laughter" and sexy fun times with sexy Eric Stoltz, Meg Tilly, and Craig Sheffer, but does it deliver? Joreth reviews this "romantic comedy" for polyamory, romance, and comedy.By Joreth Innkeeper
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10 - We're in Spain! And we experiment with porn, mirrors and foreign sex shops....
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Hola from Espana! John & Nikki have been having an amazing time with friends and family... but that's meant less time for exploring their coupled sexuality than they want. Nikki has some real thoughts about their porn watching experiments -- and some ideas about what they could do next time. John feels really proud of his experience in a sex shop a…
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9 - Improving our sex life and the start of vacation!
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John and Nikki have started their vacation! For the next month, we are focusing on improving our sex life, pleasure and sexual communication. We're sharing the results of a sexual compatibility test and talking about the vanilla and kinky things that we'll try. We also share some wise words from one of you and why they matter to us! And, in excitin…
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8 - Can you fix your sex life with an open relationship?
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This week Nikki gets worked up about the generally accepted wisdom that you can't be successful at an open marriage, non-monogamy or polyamory if your sex life isn't great. Nikki & John discuss when you probably can and when you probably can't help your relationship... and your sex life! Nikki gushes about new crushes on OK Cupid, her new favorite …
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7 - Are we okay? (Sorry for being MIA...)
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Nikki & John dive in to everything that's happened in the last six weeks: visits from parents, failed dates, our interactions with liars and our sex life. Nikki gets real about confidence and expectations. John talked about his relationship with Puppy J and how its evolving. And together they tackle the big, sticky question of what to do when being…
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Poly-ish Movie Reviews - Episode 35: Rita, Sue, & Bob Too
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Rita, Sue, & Bob Too! was hailed as a landmark comedy in the '80s in Britain, and also passed around polyamorous online groups as a poly film. But is it? Is it both? One or the other? Neither? Joreth reviews this wildly acclaimed movie for any hint of polyamory, open relationships, or consensual and ethical non-monogamy to see if it lives up to the…
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Poly-ish Movie Reviews - Episode 34: Blow Dry
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Could Alan Rickman possibly have started in a poly movie?! Joreth reviews this unusual film to see if a happy polyamorous V or triad family can be found among the backstabbing, vicious world of competitive hair styling.By Joreth Innkeeper
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6 - We talk dating apps, feeling flat and how we're getting back in the game
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This week John & Nikki talk about their struggles with their relationship being positive, but feeling flat. And, together, they make plans to change that. They also talk everything dating app and some of their recent moves to get out into the dating scene a little more. As Nikki says, sometimes, when it rains it pours.…
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Poly-ish Movie Reviews - Episode 33: Sex Monster
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This movie occasionally gets mentioned in discussions of poly movies. But is it? Joreth reviews Sex Monster for traces of an open marriage, triads, or any polyamory.
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5 - We make a big deposit in our relationship bank and Nikki deals with a sour date
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This week, Nikki and John reconnected and found ways to feel much better and more connected in their relationship, including a wonderful Saturday spent exploring and starting new projects. Nikki bemoans a sour date and John talks about how he feels a little bored and complacent.By Nikki & John, a 30-something married couple exploring open relationships, polyamory and non-monogamy
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4 - In person connections, complacency and texting with lovers
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This week, Nikki & John talk about the tough week they had personally. John shares his surprising take away from when Nikki met a handsome man with him and Nikki talks about her complacency to go out and meet people.By Nikki & John, a 30-something married couple exploring open relationships, polyamory and non-monogamy
