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Duane is joined with the host of Dad Talk Today, Eric Carroll, to talk about the John Mast murder story. Eric shares the information he has about the story, John’s family, and what he is doing to make sure his story is not forgotten. Eric is also working on a documentary called “I Stand With John” and a followup up called “Still Standing with John”…
 
Divorce is expensive. Divorce with a toxic, narcissistic, high conflict ex is financially devastating. In this episode Duane discusses the unique problems we face and ways to work through it to start to regain control of your life and future. This includes taking a scary look at the budget, understanding the anger and resentment, how change your pe…
 
Duane shares his thoughts on having to put in the work to really transform your life. You often go through significant hardships that force you to make changes in your life. Although a toxic high conflict divorce can be one of the most difficult things a person can ever go through there is an opportunity to rebuilt from the ashes of the experience.…
 
In this episode DSD discusses how this experience is very similar to having to reboot a computer. At some point you have to make the decision that things just aren’t working right anymore and you have to “start fresh” to reboot your life. The first caller of the morning calls to clarify a comment in a previous show where they said they “don’t need …
 
Duane is joined by Christine Gille an attorney and partner in the Gille Kaye Law Group who specializes family laws in Pasadena California. In this episode they discuss the best interest factors as they are defined in California, how to structure your documentation to be effective in court, and when you can make an argument to file for an adjustment…
 
In this episode Duane is joined by moderator Debby who is literally “in the house” for this extended two hour show. The first caller of the show talks about how they were setup with their marriage and how difficult it has been. We then discuss the difficulties of holding a toxic ex who uses false allegations accountable. We then have a caller who s…
 
Kris Godinez comes back to the show to talk denial and how it can be dangerous to not accept the reality of your situation. Kris starts with a story bout how one of her clients finally “read the damn books” and realized how important it is to “do the work”. Kris and Duane discuss the reality that when you do not heal you are destine to repeat the t…
 
In this show the first caller had made a deal with their spouse, even had it notarized, but now they are arguing that it never happened and continues to lie about it. The caller is struggling with the unfairness of the process and is trying to figure out the best way forward to get this over with. Next we have a return caller who shares they are pl…
 
We start with a return caller who after over 400 days has finally moved out of the marital home. They have 50/50 on their temporary orders and although they won everything they wanted it is still emotional to finally leave the martial home. The caller is also experiencing the crazy, “You must pay for this” scenario that so many have to go through. …
 
In this episode Caleb Leverett joins the conversation about his path through a toxic divorce, the dark days, how he made it through, and ultimately found a way to live his dream! In this talks about if he ever thought he’d be able to do sailing. Caleb discusses why he focused on activism but now has pivoted his entire channel to a “sailing” channel…
 
In this episode Duane starts out by sharing Caleb Leverett will be on the show to talk about life after family court. Although this can feel like you will never get out of this there is a pathway to a life better than you have today. It make not seem like it but there really is. This leads to a discussion on how these people will continue to circle…
 
The show starts with a question about how to deal when time is denied using COVID as an excuse. DSD talks about ways to mitigate this and to still have an opportunity to celebrate the holiday with your children, even if you have to reschedule it. A listener comments about how important acceptance, perseverance, and perspective are in getting your l…
 
DSD discusses the difficulties of accepting that the trauma is over. It can be difficult to let go of the fear and anxiety of a situation when you’ve been dealing with it for a while. We discuss the importance of understanding this reality so that you can work through it. From there we have a caller who’s brother, who is very supportive, has remain…
 
iTumblers, a member and viewer of the show calls in with an update to their situation. We discuss the ins and outs of what happened and their perspective going forward. It wasn’t a great outcome but he has a plan going forward and some thoughts he wants to share with the community to hopefully help them. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DS…
 
DSD starts the discussion off with the difficulties of accepting the reality of our situations. The betrayal of trust is such a difficult aspect of this to deal with. It takes time, as in a few years, to ultimately process what you’ve been through and to accept what and who you are dealing with. A listener shares how their ex stole their private jo…
 
In this episode Duane readdresses an old topic of smear campaigns. A listener had asked the question if he would talk about he effects it has on your emotional mindset and physical conditioning of your body and how it effects you once you are through it. DSD also discusses how our perspective change and in some how’s how these experiences transform…
 
George Hibbert, retired doctor/psychiatrist and Jill Canvin, retire solicitor join the show today bringing their professional expertise. George was a doctor and psychiatrist who was a consultant and senior lecturer in Oxford, specializing in drug and alcohol misuse and personality disorders. Jill spent her professional career in the criminal and fa…
 
In this show DSD how in the aftermath of a toxic high conflict divorce your perspective will change and your priorities will evolve. In his story he talks about how before this he was very anxious and stressed about “everything”. After going through this he realizes, and he’s seen with a number of coaching clients and interactions through the chann…
 
In this episode DSD discusses how important it is to limit your interaction with negative and catastrophic thinking people. Duane comments on some recent trends he’s seen on Facebook groups were people are ultimately making their situations worse. These people reenforcing the system is against you and you are going to lose. This thought process can…
 
In this episode Duane discusses the difficulties of ruminating and constantly thinking and questioning a toxic ex. It is incredibly difficult to come to grips with the reality the person was never who they portrayed themselves to be. From there we talk about how to stop blaming yourself for what happened and thinking of yourself as a failure. A lis…
 
Duane starts the show discussing how you can get trapped in your own way of thinking. He talks about how in his own life he can get so fixated on a particular path that he doesn’t see the best way forward. A return caller shares of a loss in court and how their ex is using a specific situation to deny access to the children. This leads to a discuss…
 
In this episode DSD does an extended podcast and hangs out with subscribers. DSD does get a caller who shares his ultimate victory in court and how much the channel helped him succeed. The caller shares how things can get better with perseverance and staying calm throughout the process. We then take a question when a listener asks if it is worth it…
 
In today’s show Duane starts by reflecting on the years of going through this toxic high conflict divorce. He discusses how his perspective has changed over the years. This almost comes up in how they adjust to everything we do and constantly throws us curveballs. We then have a caller who is very frustrated that he is trying to do everything right…
 
DSD starts the show with a comment about a listener who had to call the police on their ex when they wouldn’t leave their home. This was all the result of him having child support reduced $500 a month. Duane then takes a caller who is questioning if they should keep their attorney. This conversation flows into a discussion about looking at the bigg…
 
Duane starts the show answer a question about how to deal with parent teacher conferences when the school is not supportive of the complexities of a toxic divorce. This leads to a discussion, after a significant Super Chat, about how grateful Duane is to have had the opportunity to turn such a tragic situation into something positive. We then have …
 
Jana Herde from Jana Herde Coaching joins the show to discuss the difficult topic of father daughter relationships and how to strengthen and rebuild them. During this interview Duane and Jana discuss many topics to include the idea that dad’s just do not understand girls and need more time with their mothers. Jana discusses how important it is to e…
 
Duane starts the discussion with a question about how easy is it to get “make up time” when time is moved around. DSD shares his experience on how this rarely worked in his situation. The first bit of good news is a comment from a listener who says today their criminal case is over! Next we have a return caller who shares the results of their attor…
 
Paul brings his decade of experience to the DSD show to talk about the words and behaviors manipulative people typical use at the end of a relationship. Duane and Paul discuss how people find themselves stuck in toxic relationships without really knowing for sure. They then discuss the ways you communicate with your partner. Paul then discusses how…
 
In this episode DSD talks bout how the battery in his truck just gave up the ghost. The unique perspective on this is just a few short months he and his daughter were camping in the mounts, off dirt roads, and this could have easily happened in a different time. Oftentimes it is difficult to see, in the moment, the perspective of how “good” things …
 
In the early days of DSD’s experience he made many bad and destructive decisions that ultimately hurt his health, sanity, and financial security. He talks about his struggles of realizing his wife, at the time, did not truly care about him and questioning why should he if no one else does. Just that comment/thought right there is seriously destruct…
 
In this episode Kris returns to talk about the holidays and dealing with toxic narcissistic people. Duane and Kris first cover the difference between Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Dialectical Behavior Therapy and what they are used for. They then dive into the the issues surrounding narcissist and the holidays AND how they will sabotage these ev…
 
A trauma bond is very strong and as a result people often will pine over their ex and only think of better times. This is a struggle a lot of people have letting go of the fantasy of their past relationship with their toxic and narcissistic ex. It is important for people to realize and understand the truth of their situation. Duane also discusses h…
 
Alex Falconi from The Proper Person and Our Nevada Judges returns to the podcast to talk about the process of fighting a toxic ex in court and winning. Alex discusses his history and what he has been doing to include the new “Docket” series on his Proper Person YouTube channel and the success of the Our Nevada Judges website and YouTube channel. Du…
 
Duane starts the show by discussing the importance of trusting your gut and intuition when dealing with your relationships. Early in the relationship you do not know what you are dealing with and there can be a strong desire to focus on the good and ignore the “bad”. Invariably in the post-narcissistic relation “review” there will be signs that you…
 
Duane starts the show taking a comment about how you know you’r doing better when you start to see the humor and can laugh at the situation. DSD shares a story of a friend who said something similar in the early days of his divorce. He did not think he would EVER find any humor or peace in his situation but after years of working on improving he sh…
 
In this episode Duane starts out with an experience the day before where he had to come up with solutions for a problem trying to get his daughter a new bank account. A listener then asks a question about red flag scenarios with the ex-wife and how it effects a new relationship. A follow-on question from another listener asks about red flags with a…
 
In today’s episode Duane invites Debby, his long term girlfriend of over 6 years, to come on the show to talk about her experience dealing with a toxic ex spouse. Part of the reality is most people do not understand how complex and nasty these situations can be. Debby talks about how she thought, hoped, she would be a peace maker and help calm thin…
 
Duane starts the show discussing how you have to focus on building up your foundation on self validation. Ultimately it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks accept yourself. A caller shares how they have maintained their boundaries with the ex and had to keep their guard up around them. A listener comments about how they are living in the same house a…
 
Duane starts the show by discussing examples of how a toxic high conflict ex will use any and ever opportunity to create conflict and try to undermine your relationship with your children. A listener comments how a psychiatrist friend recommended that he think of his ex as dead and doesn’t exist anymore. Duane discusses the reality of how the perso…
 
Duane starts the show with a listener question asking how can I be the best dad possible with only 9 hours of time every couple of weeks. He discusses how it is important to maximize the time you have, no matter how limited it might be, with your kids. Fostering the relationship and building on it can really help prevent parental alienation. Duane …
 
Understanding narcissistic toxic behavioral patterns can give you a distinct advantage against your ex. When you realize what you are dealing with you can predict what they will do and anticipate their “moves”. Duane shares a conversation where his ex said, “you don’t even know me” and how that was the catalyst to seeing behind the narcissistic vai…
 
In today’s show Dr. Baker discusses can you really co-parent with a toxic ex. Answers the immediate question of what we can do right now to help our children. Duane then asks why does a child typically side with an alienating parent. Dr. Baker then discusses the question of does an alienating parent really love their child. Duane then asks is there…
 
There is no denying divorcing a narcissistic, toxic, high conflict ex is extremely difficult and traumatic. But, oftentimes this pain is leading us to a better situation overall. While going through this it can feel like you’ll NEVER find a “silver lining” from these situations but Duane shares his own struggles with this and how he made it to the …
 
This episode starts with a difficult ruling in court where an listeners wages were imputed even though they’ve been laid off because of COVID shutdowns. Duane then discusses the recurring problem where people beat themselves up for not see who the ex truly was. We then discuss and example of how healthy boundaries and emotional maturity really help…
 
Duane recognizes the wonderfully supportive DSD community and how much he appreciates the viewers and listeners of the show. He then takes a question about a mother being informed her ex has the “right” to not see the kids on his designated time. Duane brings up how he dealt with that in his own situation during Christmas breaks. A viewer asks abou…
 
This show starts with a discussion of an ex not spending any times with the kids. Oftentimes a narcissistic toxic “parent” will move on with their lives and ignore their children. This can create abandonment issues what follow children into adulthood. We then discuss a comment where a listener is having recurring nightmares about their children NEV…
 
In today’s show Duane is joined by Melissa Isaak from the Isaak Law firm. Melissa is a Divorce attorney for me working to protect the rights of fathers in family court. She shares her personal experience that ultimately led her to be pursue this career. Melissa is an Army veteran, trained child psychologist, and now a practicing attorney. In this e…
 
Duane remembers the struggles he had for the first few years of his divorce. It can be so overwhelming to see a future post narcissistic abuse and financial trauma. You have to work hard to break the negative cycles and find peace and joy where you can. If you don’t you can trap yourself longer in the pain and misery. Duane then takes a return call…
 
Duane starts the show taking a question from a listening wanting to know how to stop running the same scenarios through a loop in their head. It is important to remind yourself that it takes time to heal from narcissistic abuse and trauma. A caller shares how they are feeling better about fighting to see their child in court. This brings the topic …
 
In today’s episode Kris Godinez, licensed profession counselor and host of We Need to Talk with Kris Godinez, returns to discuss the topic of triggers. Triggers are very complicated and often misunderstood. They are a huge indicator of past trauma and help us realize there is more work to be done. They also cover the serious issue of not rememberin…
 
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