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In the 25+ years that Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting philosophy, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics. Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers an ...
 
Welcome to Upbringing. We’re Hannah and Kelty - twins, mothers and works-in-progress. Upbringing is a movement that empowers parents to grow up alongside their kids for sanity and social change. Through this podcast, speaking and coaching, we focus on our personal work as parents- the awareness, mindset and approach needed to raise amazing kids while ALSO getting shit done. Join us to radically redefine kids’ resistance as a magical opportunity to nurture skills and values like consent, non- ...
 
Remember the last time you and few close friends stayed up too late at the Diner because no one wanted to leave? You didn’t need that grilled cheese with a side of pancakes but damn if it didn’t hit the spot! You laughed until you cried or cried until you laughed. Regardless of which lead to what, you left feeling a little more thoughtful, grateful, and actually full. Those are the best conversations we have in our lives, and the reason why Diner Talks with James exists. I’ll be your bearded ...
 
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Are you parenting a sensitive + strong-willed kid that challenges your beliefs, stamina and sanity beyond measure? ✨You’re not alone! The Upbringing Collective– our new coaching + community membership– is NOW OPEN for enrollment! 🎉 It includes: ✔️ An inclusive, secure online forum to connect with like-minded caregivers across the globe ✔️ Weekly gr…
 
Every feel flooded? Triggered? Too emotionally hijacked to respond calmly to yourkids' big feelings and challenging behaviors? Join our conversation with Jen Lumanlan of Your Parenting Mojo to talk about ways to calm our minds and bodies so we don't keep losing our shit on our kids! Jen explores ways we can stop cycles of trauma and begin healing t…
 
Are you parenting a sensitive + strong-willed kid that challenges your beliefs, stamina and sanity beyond measure? ✨ You’re not alone! We loved connecting with Amy of @grow.up.ig about her experience parenting a “lightning bolt kid” and her evolution through small group coaching with us! The Upbringing Collective– our new coaching + community membe…
 
Curious about how to align your progressive values with your daily parenting practices? The Upbringing Collective Coaching Community is open for enrollment -- Sept. 19th - Sept 25th! Together, we’ll: ✔️Reframe our kids + our role based on the current research ✔️Learn shame-free, consent-based tools to reduce conflict ✔️Share challenges + wins in co…
 
Should we believe that using consequences, threats, shame, isolation etc. is the best way to teach + prepare kids for adulthood? NO! Today’s Q&A explores how we can bravely work to believe that our kids grow best from our CONNECTION, not our CONTROL. Though our instinct tells us to fix, stop or punish their big feelings + challenging behaviors, pra…
 
Janet responds to an email from a parent who says that lately, she has found herself yelling at her 3-year-old, who’s been having a difficult time since the birth of her brother. She realizes that yelling is not helping her daughter, and it’s not the parent she wants to be. “I’ve really lost control of this parenting thing and need a reset.”For mor…
 
Should we believe that our primary job is to explicitly teach our kids how to behave politely in the world? NO! We can bravely work to believe that our primary job is to ally with our kids through challenges. Why? How? Tune in and download our new free download on the site! Where do you struggle when it comes to this radical concept? If you’re look…
 
Clinical psychologist Jean Cheng joins Janet to discuss the puzzling, painful, and self-defeating feelings that our children's behaviors can bring up in us as parents. No matter how well educated and prepared we are for this role, we might find ourselves overwhelmed and viscerally reacting by yelling, threatening, or "checking out." Often the answe…
 
Janet helps a struggling parent understand her spirited toddler’s aggressive behavior and offers suggestions to respond more effectively.For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ. Paperbacks and e-books are also availa…
 
How do we help our children benefit from the privilege of extracurricular activities? At what age should we enroll our kids in lessons and sports? Janet has a child-centered approach that not everyone will agree with, but she believes is "too good not to share." She discusses how parents can discern their child's readiness and describes the benefit…
 
Should we believe that kids’ big feelings + challenging behaviors are negative, unnecessary or worrisome signs about them or us? NO! We can bravely work to see our kids’ resistance as VALUABLE. Viewing our kids’ big feelings + challenging behaviors as natural + a helpful way to understand their needs can allow everyone to know, feel + do better. Le…
 
It can be so hard to separate from our children sometimes! Particularly if they cry, seem anxious, or strongly object. How can we prepare our children (and ourselves) for a successful transition? Janet responds to emails from two different families struggling with goodbyes at school drop-off and offers recommendations for a helpful and respectful a…
 
The practice of acknowledging our children's feelings and struggles can provide healing, calming messages of safety and acceptance. With a genuine tone and a few words, our acknowledgments can help children share pent-up emotions, feel seen and heard, and gradually regulate, which in turn eases problematic behaviors. However, parents commonly share…
 
This week Victor and Daniel talk to Danielle Strnad, the Executive Director and Founder and Senior Arts Facilitator Morgan Joy of DramaWay and DramaWay Productions. DramaWay Productions is a non-profit arts program for all abilities. As Morgan says, “DramaWay is a place that people come together to grow and create regardless of their backgrounds or…
 
The mother of two boys feels they are constantly testing her limits and always at her side demanding attention. They won’t allow her a moment to handle daily chores like laundry or cooking, never mind her personal needs. “They think it’s funny, “ she writes, “and I undoubtedly lose my patience. I feel like they just don’t listen to whatever limit I…
 
Janet shares an exchange she had with a parent who wonders how anyone can possibly live up to the extreme idealism of "gentle parenting." She writes: “It sounds so lovely… but it’s also crushing to never be able to live up to despite having all the tools and knowledge.” While "gentle parenting" is not a term Janet uses, she understands that it's a …
 
Heidi is a Special Olympics athlete and a leader. She has been a key member of many leadership committees including People First of Canada, PEI People, Special Olympics Canada’s Athlete Leadership Council, the Global Athlete Leadership Council, as well as the Athlete Representative for the Special Olympics PEI Board of Directors. Heidi joins us to …
 
We all aspire for our children to grow up with a positive self-image and an abundance of self-confidence. When life throws our child a dilemma, it’s our natural instinct to want to fix it, or at least work them through the uncomfortable feelings with a pep talk. In this episode, Janet answers questions from three listeners and offers a more helpful…
 
A mother writes that her toddler son “can’t keep his hands off” his 10-month old sister. She describes his demeanor as a mixture of excitement and affection, but she also senses an undertone of aggression. She wants them both to feel her support when they’re together in one space, but she finds herself either holding him back or removing the baby a…
 
On this episode, we speak with Lawyer and Disability Rights Advocate, Kerri Joffe. Kerri is a lawyer at ARCH Disability Law Centre. ARCH Disability Law Centre is a specialty legal clinic that practices exclusively in disability rights law. Respecting Rights is an initiative at ARCH, where self-advocates participate in programs to learn more about l…
 
Early childhood expert Kisha Reid joins Janet in a lively conversation about the often overlooked and underestimated benefits of play-driven learning and how we can nurture these lifelong gifts for our children. Kisha and Janet discuss the magic of trusting children to discover and develop their passions and how our fears, misperceptions, and impat…
 
Janet shares an exchange with a mom requesting "alternatives to time out when natural consequences aren’t appropriate." The parent wonders how to intervene with her toddler when she is possessive and aggressive around other kids.For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day tr…
 
Few things bring me more joy than seeing someone shoot their shot, and that’s how today’s episode came about. I got an email from Brandon Fong saying he loves the show and wants to kick it with me in the Diner and I just had to say yes. Brandon is the host of the podcast 7-figure Millennials and wise beyond his years (which sounds like an old-perso…
 
This week we have a special guest, Dr. Alan Santinele Martino. Alan is an instructor in community rehabilitation and disability studies at the University of Calgary. He researched the romantic and sexual lives of adults with intellectual and developmental disabilities in Ontario for his PhD at McMaster University. We have Dr. Martino on this episod…
 
The mother of a four-year-old is frustrated that her child will never say “I’m sorry" when he's done something wrong. She has tried both gentle and more forceful approaches, as well as attempting to help him understand the spirit and intent of an apology, all to no effect.For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-sel…
 
Today in the booth is TV Host and all-around badass, Elizabeth Ries! I’ve had the privilege of sharing the microphone with her before on live TV, but today we got to kick it via audio. Elizabeth is the host of Twin Cities Live and is a breath of fresh air (which I feel like we all could use in our lives). She shared so much wisdom in this episode a…
 
Our children's repeated behaviors can be baffling, exhausting, and sometimes infuriating, particularly after we've tried everything we can think of to make them stop. What are we missing? In this episode of ‘Unruffled’, Janet shares some of the common reasons behaviors persist and offers her actionable suggestions for helping our children (and ours…
 
Sliding in the booth with me this week is Extreme Meetings emcee, Brian Walter! To quote Brian, we are both “raging extroverts,” so this was a good time! We discussed our mutual love for mac n’ cheese and then dove into Brian’s band-geek-trombonist past. After that we talked about being extroverts and how we both have a need to be liked and how bot…
 
Welcome back for another season of IDD: Get to know me! In the first episode of our second season, podcast hosts Daniel and Victor interview Dr. Yona Lunsky, the director of the Azrieli Adult Neurodevelopmental Centre. Together they talk about why inclusion is so important and different ways they are making the Azrieli Adult Neurodevelopmental Cent…
 
Today's episode is a re-airing of one of our top podcasts where we explore 10 ways we are attempting to parent for sanity and social change through our discipline. We'll be on a quick spring break and back to you all soon! Secure your chance for a spot in our upcoming Show Up + Grow Up Membership community HERE! Relevant Links: - Our Freedoms Model…
 
How does respectful care work when we have more than one child? What can we do when siblings, multiples, and other groups of children seem to need our attention all at once? Janet's guest is early childhood specialist Erica Orosco Cruz, a mother of 4 and the founder/director of Homeschool Garden, a childcare center and preschool/kindergarten for ch…
 
Diner Talks with James this week is with my dear friend, Sexual Violence Awareness and Healthy Relationships Speaker, Bonny Shade. We first kicked it off talking about buffalo wings with proper “wingo” and diner orders. She then told me about growing up with less than enough in Lake Worth, Florida, and what decisions her family made to set her up f…
 
This conversation was so powerful that it had both of us welling up. Joining me in the booth was former Fire Chief and lifelong first responder, Rich Gasaway. It’s so fascinating to think about individuals in those roles that we often take for granted until we need them, and it was so beautiful to hear Rich describe the work that he does, how he go…
 
Janet discusses the challenges and benefits of authenticity -- how being real with our children helps us to achieve our goals as parents, strengthens our relationship, and even makes our lives easier. Janet says that it was Magda Gerber who modeled authenticity for her, and her teachings “freed me to embrace my authentic, messy inner life and my me…
 
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