Shelley helps you to understand the causes of overthinking and how to relax your mind. This podcast explores signs of overthinking and offers strategies to deal with it. In this podcast: Becoming aware of overthinking Mental, physical and emotional symptoms of overthinking. Breaking the belief that overthinking is productive. 3 ways that you can ch…

Today's episode is a deeply personal exploration of pet loss and its emotional toll. Join me as we navigate the intricate layers of grief, eating for comfort, and finding ways to feel better after losing a pet. Let's embark on this heartfelt exploration together. Add your beloved pet to this post To receive my blog post about how I took back contro…

If you started a diet or exercise regime in the New Year but now struggle to keep it going, it might be because you didn't understand what was going on for you. It's normal for most of us to struggle with procrastination. But there are reasons for this and it can be stopped! In ​today's podcast​, I'm going to show you how 'failing' can help you. We…

Nurturing yourself through the pressures of Christmas. Part of the reason we eat so much at Christmas is that it's so easy to do it. Our whole culture makes it easy for us to do so. However, there are many traditions and habits associated with Christmas that can create pressure and obligations. One way to control your eating during Christmas is to …

Welcome to the first of three Christmas podcasts, where I talk about the different feelings we have during the holiday season. Today, I focus on how it can be hard to deal with loss during Christmas. It can be tough if someone you love isn't there, if you had a difficult relationship, or if you just feel sad during this time of year. I want to supp…

One of the biggest reasons people seek support from me is the fear of passing on their habits to their children. According to statistics, children and young people are using food to cope with mental health issues, more than ever before. In this week's podcast, I talk about 5 ways you can help the young person in your care. Your next podcast: How do…

“Today I talk about the biggest mistakes I made when trying to stop comfort eating and lose weight. I now advise against being too hard on yourself and going on strict diet. “ Shelley says it's really important to be kind to yourself and have self-compassion when trying to recover. She also thinks it's helpful to pay attention to your senses while …

Do you worry too much about what others think of you? This can lead to overeating for comfort. Today, I talk about trying to be perfect and how it can have bad effects, like causing overeating, stress, and feeling really sad. I point out that perfectionists have unrealistic expectations for themselves and explain why. I suggest building up your own…

Today I talk about money and how our thoughts about money affect us. I mention money problems from the past and ask questions to help you think about your own money beliefs and influences. I conclude that it's important to take care of yourself on the inside. I also talk about overeating on holiday. Citations The Money Panel The Soul of Money 'Recl…

In this podcast, I talk about how having good relationships can make you feel happy. I also discuss the importance of setting boundaries when you interact with others. The podcast explains how bonding, trust, and connection affect your brain. I also share stories about dealing with feeling anxious or being rejected by others. Throughout the podcast…

Today, learn how your brain tricks you into avoiding exercise and why it's crucial to overcome this instinct. Understand the neuroscience of movement, uncover the surprising benefits of any form of physical activity, and explore strategies to make exercise enjoyable again. From childhood fears to unexpected swimming adventures, I share personal sto…

Today, we begin by addressing the common issue of self-disgust. I encourage listeners to challenge negative self-talk. I then dive into the topic of seasonal stress, highlighting signs of troublesome stress levels. The podcast provides practical methods to nurture self-compassion and well-being. Another podcast for you: How do I Stop Self-Criticism…

Today, we explore strategies for coping with the sudden shift into Autumn or Fall. Shelley shares her personal journey and how she prepared for a radio show aimed at helping people to embrace autumn. She delves into the concept of disappointment, encouraging listeners to challenge their thoughts and reframe their expectations. The episode offers va…

Today, Shelley explains the stress cycle associated with evening binge-eating. She lists recognisable signs of a stress state. Describing physiological responses to stress, she details how fight, flight, or freeze responses manifest. Listeners are guided to assess their own stress states by checking various physical and emotional markers, including…

Today, we explore the relationship between having a busy life, anxiety, and comfort eating. We delve into the reasons why people work so hard, naming potential triggers; addiction to productivity, fear of stopping, the desire to please others, or anxiety. The podcast highlights how these contribute to distress, which can lead to comfort eating afte…

Today, Shelley explores the most common time we overeat; in the evening. Drawing from her expertise in helping people recover from emotional eating, Shelley discusses why we overeat in the evening. She explores hunger, habit, lack of preparation, and emotional responses to daily stress. Shelley offers a four-step process for breaking this pattern, …

In this episode, we explore 6 strategies to recover from emotional eating, focusing on the journey to rediscovering life in its fullness. Our aim is to provide valuable insights into the recovery process and offer six life-changing options for those seeking to break free from addictive behaviours. Not sure your eating IS emotional? - If you want to…

The focus here is on the effect of stress on the brain and its role in addiction, particularly comfort eating. Shelley starts by discussing how stress alters the brain, making certain behaviours or substances more appealing. She highlights the link between stress and addiction, explaining that stress addiction can be challenging to overcome. Shelle…

In this episode, we discuss addictive personality and various forms of addiction, particularly focusing on comfort eating. I talk about the concept of addictive personality, stating that it oversimplifies the reality of addiction. Addiction can manifest in different forms, not just related to substances but also behaviours like internet scrolling, …

Are you feeling trapped, ignored, or unloved in a relationship? Navigating the rough seas of a relationship saddled with a selfish person or narcissist isn't an easy journey. In this engaging episode of Underground Confidence, I share my wisdom on dealing with a narcissistic or difficult person. We take a deep look into effective coping strategies,…

Here's an intriguing question, have you ever felt an unhealthy attachment to a past partner that feels a lot like addiction? In this candid discussion, I share my findings on post-relationship addiction, an issue that has a surprising number of people in its grip. Drawn from my own experiences and the experiences of others, I've developed 10 practi…

Does something feel 'off' in your relationship? Here, I peel back the layers of subtle narcissism, providing you with the tools to spot the warning signs and understand the behaviours often exhibited by covert narcissists. I even share my personal journey of dating someone with narcissistic tendencies, demonstrating how these traits can manifest in…

The wide spectrum of narcissism (and lack of it) and its profound impact on our harmful habits, self-worth, and relationships, is the subject today. Learn about the delicate balance between selflessness and self-importance, and how different influences shape our narcissistic tendencies. This episode gives insights into personal growth, self-worth, …

Are you tired of feeling like your emotions are constantly dismissed or undermined? In the latest episode, we dive deep into the topic of emotional invalidation and its impact on our wellbeing and relationships. Join me as I share my own experiences and those of one of my clients, as we uncover ten ways to bounce back from emotionally invalidating …

In this insightful podcast, I guide you through a four-step process that can help you cope with difficult feelings and understand the emotions lying beneath your comfort eating habits. Join me as I explain the importance of becoming aware of your body's sensations, naming and labelling your emotions, bringing compassion to your experiences, and red…

Do your emotions often stay bottled up due to societal pressures, resulting in self-destructive behaviours? Tune in to this episode as I share my personal experiences and discuss the power of having a supportive companion to talk to, ultimately leading to better emotional well-being and recovery. Together, we'll explore the interconnectedness of ou…

In this episode, we look at ways to regulate the autonomic nervous system to come out of a stress state, depression, anxiety or compulsion. I also give you a summary of everything I talked about in the first 8 podcasts of the year. This will give you a massive jump start to coping with anxiety, depression or any compulsion. We cover: The psychology…

Have you ever noticed that when you comfort eat, you do it really fast? Maybe you also get stuck on your phone when you should be sleeping? Here are four more ways to calm your nervous system down, and disrupt cravings. Practising these will develop your ability to change the course of your cravings and compulsions, organically. In this podcast: Th…

Here's how to start to wind down when you’re triggered, stressed, or craving. In this podcast Your 'Window of Tolerance' or capacity for life's demands Neuroscience & stress or collapse states Things that trigger us into stress or collapse states Ways to self-regulate, calm your system, and change how you feel A breathing exercise How embodiment ca…

The neuroscience and physiology of inner child wounding, and how to heal. In this podcast The neuroscience and physiology of triggering - Fight, Flight, Freeze & Fawn The Top 10 emotional triggers to addiction, & other types of triggers How to recognise being triggered 9 Steps to start healing your inner child, nervous system triggering, & comfort …

Understanding your inner child is essential to comfort eating recovery. This is our instinctive, unconscious, or reactive part. It's this part that demands comfort food. In this podcast: The Inner Child - A response to the self-critic Feelings - The language of the inner child Triggering - How the inner child's response might relate to your past Ne…

Low self-confidence happens to us all. Here are ways all of us can be affected. Your self-confidence or self-worth is important to challenge in your battle against addiction. Because low self-confidence, and self-criticism, will make you want to 'use'/comfort eat, or treat yourself badly. In this podcast 8 ways feeling bad about yourself can show u…

Self-criticism is one of the main reasons that people overeat. Dieting is based around it. But the solution lies in NOT trying to be perfect. In this podcast How self-criticism goes hand in hand with comfort eating, how you can start to recover your self-esteem Another podcast for you: Reset your Autonomic Nervous System (ANS) Citations Links to ex…

Have you ever wondered what triggers your binge or comfort eating? In this podcast 3 powerful questions to help you identify what's behind your eating. How you might be feeling now that we are almost 3 years on from the start of Covid-19. These potential feelings illustrate one experience that might be behind your comfort eating. Another podcast yo…

Maybe you're frustrated with yourself for not being able to stop eating? Or maybe you know your triggers are emotional? In this podcast We explore the complexities of comfort eating and the various factors that contribute to the difficulty of stopping. We discuss five reasons why managing binge or comfort eating has nothing to do with self-discipli…

Today, I encourage you to reflect on self-appreciation for the year, rather than chastising yourself for not doing well enough. I also offer you a moving end of the year story. Warning: This one might make you cry. But it will leave you feeling comforted and warm inside. Another podcast episode for you: How Do I Stop Self-Criticism? Citations 'The …

Today we have another heart-warming little story for the inner child in you, as well as a reminder to be kind to yourself at Christmas. Here's another podcast you will love: 10 Ways to Overcome Anxiety Citations 'The Elves and The Shoemaker' by The Brothers Grimm - Read by Shelley Treacher. Support the show Ask for more information about how Shelle…

Sleep is something that's important to get control of. It can affect everything we are, feel and do. Today we cover: The importance of good sleep when combatting comfort eating. I've been told I have a calming voice. So, here I read a beautiful little tale to lull you into a warm, happy sleep. The story starts around 7 minutes into the podcast. Her…

When talking about the reasons for comfort eating, one of the things that people ask me the most, is "Isn't it just a habit?" In today's episode I talk about how comfort eating is a deeply embedded habit, influenced by emotional experience, our history and the chemicals in our brains. This is the third in a quick tip series about comfort eating rec…

Identifying why you really want to stop comfort eating can be a powerful tool to help you take back control of a craving. What is your why? You’ve got to have an excellent, personally meaningful reason, to give up what comforts you. So, in this byte, I ask you: What’s really worth putting your comfort binge aside for? I offer suggestions and ways t…

In every relationship, there will be times when you or your partner need space. But, what do you do if this becomes chronic and painful for either of you? Here, I'll explain how you can feel more comfortable, with practical strategies. You CAN work towards repair, and taking your individual power back. Here's another podcast you might like: How Do …

Today, I define what comfort eating is. Can you see yourself in this brief description? Here's another podcast for you: How Do I Stop Self-Criticism? Support the show Ask for more information about how Shelley can help you with stress, anxiety, binge eating or relationships today. Get Your Binge-Eating Recovery Starter Kit here If this podcast help…

This podcast explains why it feels impossible to control any compulsion. If you have ever told yourself to stop, while still unable to put your compulsive habit down, you'll relate to this podcast. The information here is about the biochemistry you’re dealing with in any addiction. Knowing this will help you gain back power and control. Citations G…

If you've ever wondered why your partner (or date) seems to withdraw after you've got on so well, this might be why. In this podcast I talk about how the fear of being dependent on people can lead to a fear of commitment, ghosting, an avoidance of intimacy, and possibly a reliance on substances. This podcast will help you to understand what's happe…

Today's podcast is about the relief that compulsion or addiction brings. I also talk about the life that we may be attempting to block. This is the first of a three part series about addiction, based on Gabor Maté's book 'In The Realm Of Hungry Ghosts'. Citations Gabor Maté - 'In The Realm Of Hungry Ghosts' Here's another podcast for you: Reset you…

Gabor Maté says that we choose belonging 100% of the time, over authenticity. Our self-critic keeps us ‘in check’ and ‘likeable’. The part of us that feels criticised, ‘different’, or struggles to connect, is the part that turns to something outside ourselves, in order to cope. So, here, I talk about the road to becoming more authentic and empowere…

We are affected when disaster and terrible inequality happen in the World. Here, I talk about illness, storms, doomscrolling, and the war on Ukraine. I suggest ways to cope with feeling anxious or helpless, and I talk about our connection with each other. Try this podcast next: 10 Ways to Overcome Anxiety Citations GQ Article "How to detox from new…

Most of us feel inadequate. We imagine others are better than us, think they have a perfect life, and feel we are frauds waiting to be discovered. Most of us think that someone else could do better. It's this feeling that can lead to binge-eating or addiction. Here, I talk about how this comes from a belief about not being good enough, whether from…

Typically, the binge-eaters I see have lost touch with what makes them happy. Today, I talk about why and how to develop a practice of making your own happiness more of a focus. Here, I list 10 learnable things that can make us happy. We are more capable, more resilient, and at our best when we’re happy. So, we are more able to make better choices …

To be able to give up comfort eating, overeating or binge-eating, you're going to need to learn how to be kinder to yourself. This might be a whole new language for the comfort eater. So, here I give you some examples of what to say. Your next podcast: How Do I Stop Self-Criticism? Support the show Ask for more information about how Shelley can hel…