Episode 110 -- Starting in the Deep End

2-Minute Talk Tips

2-Minute Tip: Build a Team

Sometimes to get better, you may need help, and that's okay.

• Hire a coach.
• Join Toastmasters.
• Ask a friend or colleague. Take an online course.
• Take a traditional course.
• Read a book.
• Subscribe to a podcast about public speaking

Or do all of the above. Or some combination of them.

The point is you can build expertise, or at the very least, competence in a skill by assembling your own team of experts. They can be in person or virtual. It can be a dialog or a 1-way process.

But you don't have to do it all alone. There's a community there you can build or be a part of.

Post Tip Discussion: Meet Sandy Weiner

I think the best way to sum up Sandy Weiner's approach to speaking (and probably a lot of other things) is "Just jump in and do it -- but don't do it alone."

Sandy's first major talk was her TedX talk, which you can see here:

[embed]https://youtu.be/yvzUMIcrBYU[/embed]

While she may go straight for the deep end, she's successful because she prepares -- she works with coaches when she has a weakness and does the work she needs to do to be successful.

I talk a lot about how 90% of the success of a talk is determined before you ever get on stage -- it's in the message, in the prep, and in the rehearsal. And that's how Sandy has succeeded as a speaker.

Bio

Sandy Weiner, founder of Last First Date, is devoted to helping women over 40 achieve healthy, toe-curling love. An internationally known TEDx speaker, dating coach, author, and podcast host, Sandy specializes in helping women communicate effectively, set clear boundaries in relationships, and know their true worth. She believes a woman of value attracts her best partner.

Sandy’s work has been published in Mind Body Green, The Huffington Post, Psychology Today, and The Good Men Project.

She's also the host of Last First Date Radio, an acclaimed show about attracting and sustaining healthy relationships in midlife. Sandy wants you to go on YOUR LAST FIRST DATE!

Superman Pose

Sandy mentioned the Superman pose in our conversation, and we talked a little about Amy Cuddy's Ted Talk about power poses. Here's the video of that talk.

[embed]https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are?language=en[/embed]

Links

Sandy's Website

http://LastFirstDate.com

Women of Value

http://TheWomanOfValue.com

Sandy's Tedx Talk

https://youtu.be/yvzUMIcrBYU

Sandy on Twitter

https://twitter.com/lastfirstdate1

Sandy on Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/lastfirstdate

Sandy on YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/user/LastFirstDate

Sandy on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate/

Toastmasters

https://www.toastmasters.org/

Sandy's Podcast

https://lastfirstdate.com/lastfirstdate-radio/

Story Brand Podcast

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/building-storybrand-donald-miller-clarify-your-message/id1092751338

Amy Cuddy's Ted Talk

https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are?language=en

Call to Action

• Be sure to check Sandy's websites, podcast, and social media profiles. You can find all those links above.
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