Being There- Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters.


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Being There- Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters.

The author of a controversial new book is calling on women to prioritize mothering for the first three years after giving birth.

Erica Komisar, author of "Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters," believes that we are seeing a cultural devaluation of mothering, and we are not prioritizing our children.

On "Fox & Friends" this morning, Komisar said she has noticed an "epidemic level" of children with emotional problems related to the absence of mothers.

"What I say in my book is: more is more," Komisar said. "The more you can be there emotionally and physically for your children, the better off your children will be."

She explained that the first three years of a child's life are particularly critical for brain development, so whether a mother is working or non-working, it's about focusing on the child and really "being there."

"It really isn't a book about working versus not working," Komisar said. "It's about prioritizing ... prioritizing your children in the first three years."

"We think that life is long and you have many, many years to work and be ambitious and make money. You only have a few years to have that great influence on your children."

"Being There" by Erica Komisar

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Published on Jun 26, 2018

"Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters." Erica Komisar champions the role of mothers in her book, "Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters." As a licensed clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent-guidance expert, Komisar sees a strong correlation between absent mothers and children diagnosed with mental disorders such as ADHD, aggression, autism, anxiety, and depression. Mothers "being there" is critical for children to thrive. Her words are a clarion call to society, which has come to devalue mothers and overvalue success, money, achievement, and status. The message is not a political message but rather a human message: mothers are not a luxury to children; they are a necessity. Women are biologically designed to take care of their babies, especially during the first three years. Although this concept is instinctive to many women, Komisar now supports it with research.

About the book-

A powerful look at the importance of a mother’s presence in the first years of life **Featured in The Wall Street Journal, and seen on Good Morning America, Fox & Friends, and CBS New York** In this important and empowering book, veteran psychoanalyst Erica Komisar explains why a mother's emotional and physical presence in her child's life--especially during the first three years--gives the child a greater chance of growing up emotionally healthy, happy, secure, and resilient. In other words, when it comes to connecting with your baby or toddler, more is more. Compassionate and balanced, and focusing on the emotional health of children and moms alike, this book shows parents how to give their little ones the best chance for developing into healthy and loving adults. Based on more than two decades of clinical work, established psychoanalytic theory, and the most cutting-edge neurobiological research on caregiving, attachment, and brain development, Being There explains: • How to establish emotional connection with a newborn or young child--regardless of whether you're able to work part-time or stay home • How to ease transitions to minimize stress for your baby or toddler • How to select and train quality childcare • What's true and false about widely held beliefs like "I'm not good with babies" and “I’ll make up for it when he’s older” • How to recognize and combat feelings of postpartum depression or boredom • Why three months of maternity leave is not long enough--and how parents can take control of their choices to provide for their family's emotional needs in the first three years Being a new mom isn’t easy. But with support, emotional awareness, and coping skills, it can be the most magical—and essential—work we’ll ever do.



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