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#22 Anecdotes - Wanderlust culture and imposing ideals on others
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For this episode, Tim shared an anecdote about unintentionally imposing his ideals on a friend while I talked about wanderlust as a social phenomenon. Listen on for more.
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SHOW NOTES
0:55 - Vance’s anecdote
1:55 - Are we a generation that needs to travel? Do we travel for the sake of travelling and to “show off”?
5:15 - We just like to travel because everyone else is doing it?
8:05 - Offer/deal websites are saving us money but making us spend money we wouldn’t otherwise spend if we didn’t see the offer/deal in the first place
11:15 - Balance between rationality and emotions to problems within a relationship and compromise
13:25 - There’s always this issue about someone is giving in more; how to deal with it?
16;35 - Don’t look at relationships with equations and formulae
19:40 - We shouldn’t expect someone to do something for us if we won’t do it ourselves
20:30 - Tim’s anecdote
22;15 - Tim gets upset when his friends don’t have clear goals and want to help them but he’s afraid he might be too overbearing
24:15 - People can only change if they want to be changed
29:15 - Influence people by adopting different angles
30;35 - Look in through other people’s lens to know if they’re ready; basically empathy
33:50 - Maybe we are just inspired by thought leaders and we want to help others as well
34:45 - Sometimes Vance ask himself, “Should I help this person?”
35:25 - But what about when people are whining about their lives and we just point the problems out to them?
36;15 - When someone whines or complains, he or she is not asking for a solution but emotional relief; when someone asks for help, he or she is asking for a rational solution
40;10 - Friends call Tim sarcastic because he can be too straightforward at times
41:35 - Some science talk quoted from Simon Sinek’s Start With Why - Limbic brain and pre-frontal cortex
44:20 - Successful people are usually great at balancing rationality and emotions
47:40 - Episode wrap-up
Important links mentioned
Simon Sinek’s international best-seller Start With Why
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