Help! Our only child was murdered...


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In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Our only child, our 18 year old son, was murdered last year. We're supposed to be Christians. My husband is even a pastor. But I have lost my faith in the goodness of God. I am in such complete and total despair. I've struggled with doubts (probably due to my OCD and scrupulosity) about my salvation for years. Now I'm more terrified than ever that I'll go to Hell because no matter how much I pray, listen to sermons, and read the Bible, my faith in the goodness of God is gone. He knows I desperately need my son, but He allowed him to be murdered. I can't see God's love or feel comfort from Him. I am just in complete despair. For 15 months I have spent hours on end most days watching TV. I have no joy in anything. I'm worried about my marriage. My husband is in such horrible grief too and he is murderously angry with the man that killed our son. I truly don't know where else to turn or how to cope. We have no other kids to love and be loved by nor do we have grand kids from our Robert. And, most of our family and friends are are tired of dealing with our grief. We are so alone!" For more "Ask Doctor Betters" episodes visit: "Ask Doctor Betters" is video series where every Monday Dr. Charles F. Betters answers questions on suffering and the sovereignty of God in 5-8 minutes. "Ask Doctor Betters" also available as an iTunes Podcast: "Ask Doctor Betters" is produced by MARKINC Ministries ( MARKINC Ministries' mission is to bring the help and hope of the Gospel to people who are hurting. Be sure to check out our other three resources: 1) "Help and Hope" audio resources. The "Help and Hope" resources focus on one person’s redemptive story and how their faith guided them to a place of embracing the truth that God is sovereign and we can trust Him. These resources can be found on our website ( or on our "Help and Hope" iTunes Podcast ( 2) "In His Grip" sermon resources. Here you can find the the preaching ministry of Dr. Betters ( 3) "Treasures of Encouragement" blog. Treasures of Encouragement is the teaching ministry of Sharon Betters, Dr. Better's wife. Treasures of Encouragement challenges women to think biblically and live covenantally through the intentional practice of biblical encouragement in their homes, churches, neighborhoods, and workplaces ( To donate to MARKINC Ministries and help us create more helpful resources, please donate at:

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