#117: Grace in Parenting: Raising boys with Jasmine Holmes

Grace In Real Life podcast

How can we raise our boys to be spiritual leaders? How can we love them well? What are the joys and challenges of being a boy-mom?

We are back with another round of the Grace in Parenting series.

To get the series started, author and boy-mom Jasmine Holmes joins the show. In our conversation, Jasmine shares:

• How to instill emotional vocabulary and cultivate emotional intelligence in our sons
• Ways to confront your child with a sin issue in a shame-free way
• And practical steps to train your son to be a spiritual leader when there isn’t one in the house.

Key Quotes

• “In the Godhead, we have Father and Mother. We have that warmth and parental love and that care. I am being nurtured. I am being taken care of while taking care of my children, and I’m not just pouring from an empty cup.” - Author and boy mom Jasmine Holmes
• “Teaching my oldest son how to steward it (his expressiveness and feeling deeply) instead of inadvertently teaching him to be ashamed of it is something I’m really committed to.” - Author and boy mom Jasmine Holmes
• “I need supernatural nurturing, and God provides that.” - Author and boy mom Jasmine Holmes
• “Community doesn’t always have to look like going and being a part of an energy-sucking environment. Sometimes it can just be inviting a friend to your safe space and into your safe environment.” - Author and boy mom Jasmine Holmes
• “We want to make sure that our boys have more examples of godly men in their lives than just their dad because there’s more than one way to live life.” - Author and boy mom Jasmine Holmes
• “Wanting to steward God’s creation well and wanting to show the love that God has for my son to my son well is something I return to over and over again in my raising of my boys.” - Author and boy mom Jasmine Holmes
• “Breathe deep those beautiful parts.” - Author and boy mom Jasmine Holmes

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Previous Grace in Parenting Podcasts

• Episode #66: How your Enneagram type impacts your parenting
• Episode #67: Easy and practical ways to give your kids grace
• Episode #68: How to create a family shaped by grace in a conversation with Gary Morland
• Episode #69: How to parent out of love, not fear with Kevin A. Thompson
• Episode #70: Helping your kids enjoy Jesus with Kirk + Debbie Freeman
• Episode #71: Creating a family culture where Jesus is woven into daily life with Kimberly Amici
• Episode #72:Parenting with grace in the digital age with Mandy Majors

About Jasmine Holmes

To help us as we raise boys, author and boy-mom Jasmine L. Holmes joins the show.

Jasmine is the author of Carved in Ebony: Lessons from the Black Women Who Shape Us and Mother to Son: Letters to a Black Boy on Identity and Hope.

She is also a contributing author for Identity Theft: Reclaiming the Truth of Our Identity in Christ and His Testimonies, My Heritage: Women of Color on the Word of God.

She and her husband, Phillip, are parenting three young sons in Jackson, Mississippi.

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