Building Resilience with Rochelle Sanchez

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Rochelle Sanchez – Show Notes

Personal definition of resilience – stand up for what you really want, and don’t give up on yourself, because what you really want is important.

Held back by shyness for a long time. As a child she thought she was just the shy girl. Which is fine but the real struggle for her was that while she was quiet she was very unhappy. Not being able to make those connections with those people. Listening to conversations and not knowing how to speak her mind; over thinking it, and assuming no one would care.

It following her and she didn’t nip in the bud until college when she talked to a counsellor about it.

She started in the self-help section in the book stores. How to make friends. There were a lot of different experiments that she did with herself. Even though she was shy, other people were quite talkative, and she could use it to her advantage. She could start the conversation and the other person would keep talking. Turns into a very comfortable conversation rather than what she assumed; which as judgemental and awkward.

There are days when she doesn’t want to talk but the different is she doesn’t beat herself up about it. It is perfectly okay being okay with being the quiet person, and appreciate that she is choosing to socialise that way.

Preparing for an activity that requires a lot of socialising means a lot of checking in and a lot of planning ahead as well. Making sure she can get away and take breaks from the talking.

Strengths of this character. It is easier to recharge because she can recharge on her own. She is not depending on other people or external forces.

She doesn’t embarrass herself as much as other people do because she is very thoughtful before she says something.

Quiet in the 80s and 90s is not the same as quiet now. People have a better understanding of it. People are also more aware of social anxiety. There is a lot of honouring differences in general to the point that people are claiming to be introverts when they are not actually introverts.

It is nice for her to be an introvert but it is nice to be over the shyness and not be held back by it anymore.

Rochelle talks about the importance of her faith and prayer in her daily life.

The important thing to remember is we do have meaning, we have a purpose, you are meant to be happy.

These days your practice is your own. You can take what you want.

Works mainly for online coaches who are very passionate about what they do and the kind of impact that they want to make in helping people change their lives.

Rochelle talks about different types of coaches and how to choose a coach for yourself.

Personal tools – prayer and journaling.