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Parenting is hard, but deconstructing with kids adds an extra layer to the hard. Some parents feel the need to reform fundamentalist/evangelical Christian values into progressive Christian values. Other parents want to distance children from conservative Christianity by raising children outside of religious faith. Still other parents jerk the family back and forth as they figure it out. Because, maybe spiritual migration doesn’t happen in a straight line.
In this episode co-hosts Bonnie and Rajeev Rambob interview their young adult children, Julian and Nik Rambob who share their perspectives on what it was like to move out of fundamentalist Seventh-day Adventism as kids. This move especially impacted family life and identity since Bonnie and Rajeev were educators in the SDA K-12 school system. Julian and Nik were students. Family life centered around church, church, church.
When Bonnie and Rajeev, on differing timelines, began to experience the questions which led to an unraveling of faith, their sons’ world shook. They lost everything they knew, their friends and their own existential certainties. From their vantage point on the other side of transition, Julian and Nik share concrete insights on how parents can accompany children during family faith shift.
As they recollect, Julian and Nik analyze the fundamentalist circles of their childhood. Their critique includes the observation of arrested state of development and a resistance to the pursuit of actualization. But there is hope when family is rooted in genuine love for one another.
To close out the episode the Rambob family play a game of “Jesus Juke”. This game proves --despite Rajeev’s and Bonnie’s seminary training, you’ll rather hear Julian or Nik preach.
Conversation on Deconstructing with Kids (01:25)
Jesus Juke Segment (46:45)
From Our Conversation on Deconstructing with Kids
- Parenting During Deconstruction - Nurturing the Spiritual Child and Adolescent - 129 (Irenicast Episode)
- Seventh-day Adventism
- Hannah Arendt (American Philosopher)
- Natural Theology
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