Deconstructing with Kids - Two Young Adults Tell Their Parents What’s Up - 142


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By Jeff Manildi, Rev. Allen O'Brien, Rev. Bonnie Rambob, Pastor Casey Tinnin and Rev. Rajeev Rambob, Jeff Manildi, Rev. Allen O'Brien, Rev. Bonnie Rambob, and Pastor Casey Tinnin a. Discovered by Player FM and our community — copyright is owned by the publisher, not Player FM, and audio is streamed directly from their servers. Hit the Subscribe button to track updates in Player FM, or paste the feed URL into other podcast apps.

Parenting is hard, but deconstructing with kids adds an extra layer to the hard. Some parents feel the need to reform fundamentalist/evangelical Christian values into progressive Christian values. Other parents want to distance children from conservative Christianity by raising children outside of religious faith. Still other parents jerk the family back and forth as they figure it out. Because, maybe spiritual migration doesn’t happen in a straight line.

In this episode co-hosts Bonnie and Rajeev Rambob interview their young adult children, Julian and Nik Rambob who share their perspectives on what it was like to move out of fundamentalist Seventh-day Adventism as kids. This move especially impacted family life and identity since Bonnie and Rajeev were educators in the SDA K-12 school system. Julian and Nik were students. Family life centered around church, church, church.

When Bonnie and Rajeev, on differing timelines, began to experience the questions which led to an unraveling of faith, their sons’ world shook. They lost everything they knew, their friends and their own existential certainties. From their vantage point on the other side of transition, Julian and Nik share concrete insights on how parents can accompany children during family faith shift.

As they recollect, Julian and Nik analyze the fundamentalist circles of their childhood. Their critique includes the observation of arrested state of development and a resistance to the pursuit of actualization. But there is hope when family is rooted in genuine love for one another.

To close out the episode the Rambob family play a game of “Jesus Juke”. This game proves --despite Rajeev’s and Bonnie’s seminary training, you’ll rather hear Julian or Nik preach.

Announcements (00:09)

Conversation on Deconstructing with Kids (01:25)

Jesus Juke Segment (46:45)


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From Our Conversation on Deconstructing with Kids

Jesus Juke Segment (Jesus Juke has also been played on episodes #003, #039, #075, #096, #104 (Horror Movie Trope Edition), and #123)


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Rev. Allen O’Brien | co-founder & co-host |

Allen is a venerator of emotionality. He thrives on education, peace, and interconnectedness— passions which permeate his work as pastor, writer, lover of all the things, and occasional vegan.

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Rev. Bonnie Rambob, MDiv | co-host |

As a pastor, activist, educator, mom, and possibility artist, Bonnie invites people into newness. She loves climbing trees, knitting and hiking while conversing with friends about smashing the patriarchy.

You can connect with Bonnie on Facebook and at Parkside Community Church-UCC

Pastor Casey Tinnin, MTS | co-host |

Preacher, protester, everybody’s pastor. Casey geeks out on comic books, talking theology, politics, and sex. He’s most free when he is dancing, cooking with his partner Jose, or walking their dog Kole.

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Jeff Manildi | co-founder, producer & co-host |

Chaser of tales and climax initiator, Jeff rises to the occasion, edging to a satisfying completion. Get your mind out of the gutter, we’re talking story, not sex. Jeff expresses his creativity by curating diverse ideas, energies and people.

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Rev. Rajeev Rambob, MCL | co-host |

Rajeev loves thoughtful and provocative conversation over food and drink, most often with his family. He’s a loyal, smart-ass friend who believes in the power of spiritual journeys. Feminist, Anti-colonial, Process Theology-nerd.

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