Family Systems - Our Given Community - 141


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It gets real as the Irenicast team talks about one’s given community -- or family of origin-- as family systems rather than a collection of individuals. Thinking about family as a system impacts the way we think about ourselves in relation to family members. Family relationships can be especially hard to navigate when one’s views of the world are very different from other family members’ views.

Post-evangelicals know this all too well. Looking through the lens of Murray Bowen’s Family Systems Theory, co-hosts, Allen, Bonnie, Casey, Jeff and Raj offer multiple perspectives on navigating complicated family relationships while protecting oneself.

The discussion covers a broad range of relational topics such as: adjusting expectations, staying connected when it’s hard, triangulation, fusion, overfunctioning/underfunctioning, cultural diversity and more.

The episode ends with a game of Title Me This which transported our co-hosts back to their Evangelical childhoods -- wooo, scary! If you spend any time wondering how you are going to make through the next holiday dinner or gathering with your given community, this episode may offer you pre-dinner food for thought.

Conversations on Family Systems (02:08)

Title Me This Segment (53:42)


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From Our Conversation on Family Systems

From Our Title Me This Segment (Title Me This has also been played on episode #055 & #083)


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Rev. Allen O’Brien | co-founder & co-host |

Allen is a venerator of emotionality. He thrives on education, peace, and interconnectedness— passions which permeate his work as pastor, writer, lover of all the things, and occasional vegan.

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Rev. Bonnie Rambob, MDiv | co-host |

As a pastor, activist, educator, mom, and possibility artist, Bonnie invites people into newness. She loves climbing trees, knitting and hiking while conversing with friends about smashing the patriarchy.

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Pastor Casey Tinnin, MTS | co-host |

Preacher, protester, everybody’s pastor. Casey geeks out on comic books, talking theology, politics, and sex. He’s most free when he is dancing, cooking with his partner Jose, or walking their dog Kole.

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Jeff Manildi | co-founder, producer & co-host |

Chaser of tales and climax initiator, Jeff rises to the occasion, edging to a satisfying completion. Get your mind out of the gutter, we’re talking story, not sex. Jeff expresses his creativity by curating diverse ideas, energies and people.

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Rev. Raj Rambob, MCL | co-host |

Raj loves thoughtful and provocative conversation over food and drink, most often with his family. He’s a loyal, smart-ass friend who believes in the power of spiritual journeys. Feminist, Anti-colonial, Process Theology-nerd.

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