Without a doubt, lifestyle and social circle play a large role in KEEPING a woman attracted to us. She, unconsciously and innately, will evaluate us based on our lifestyle and our community of friends. She knows that these two relationships reveal YOU. In this podcast episode (a brief one btw - just over 20 minutes), I discuss 2 of my favorite ...…

Max Nachamkin had a radical idea. Instead of busying himself with routines, gimmicks or any false posturing he decided to do nothing - literally. He was in the middle of a crowded bar, with many attractive girls, and instead of posing in any way, shape or form he decided to stand in one place and simply watch what happened - inside and outside ...…

For many years, I have been fascinated by ritual - and none moreso than the Vision Quest. Largely lost in the modern age, the vision quest is an ancient rite whereby a young, adolescent male goes into nature for a set period of time and returns an adult, a man. Having fended for himself, contacted nature in a direct way and opened to himself an ...…

Peter Scott had a tough choice to make...stay with his alcoholic mother and continue living in chaos and fear. Or, confront her about her drinking and move in with his grandparents. Seems like an obvious, though difficult, choice to make, no? Peter however had to make this decision when he was 10 years old... ...and he did make that choice, and ...…

There is a crisis in manhood, and Stephen Mansfield is one of the most outspoken and eloquent voices talking about it. We have lost our way, and Stephen has made a map for how we can get back on track. I was first made aware of Stephen Mansfield a few years ago when he released his terrific "Mansfield's Book of Manly Men". We discuss his "4 ten ...…

My wife & I still talk about our first 3 dates. They were amazing, we had a blast, and everyone we know has heard our stories about them. At the time, she had no idea that I was structuring each of these dates along some very specific guidelines that I had learned over the years. In this week's podcast, I will share these with you plus some abs ...…

One of the big skills that led me to have such an amazing relationship with my wife is knowing how to qualify a woman. It filters out the wrong women and directs me to the right ones...for me. On this podcast, I discuss this skill at length uncovering why it's so important and specific ways to execute this (with examples). Also, I make 2 very s ...…

It's nearly 2016, which means it's the time when many of us take a wider, more objective view of our lives and consider what we want to accomplish in the next year. In other words - time for New Year's Resolutions. For many of us though, these intentions will never reach fruition. Many people can't even remember their own resolutions by Februar ...…

It's the season of giving, and in this podcast episode I wanted to discuss 3 big ways of giving and how they impact or influence our relationships. In particular, there is one form of giving which is the true lifeblood to intimate relationships - and it has nothing to do with giving her "stuff". The post LSA050: 3 Types of Giving, & How They Pr ...…

Breakups are HARD...trust me, I've been there. And all too often, I get emails from guys wondering how they can get back with their ex, when should they contact their ex, when to start dating again...etc. These are all great, and very normal questions. And, over the years, I've developed a specific 4-step process for every guy to follow for wha ...…

Freedom - it's what we all desire more of. Whether it's freedom of choice with women, freedom from fear or hesitation, financial freedom or the freedom to be fully myself in any situation - it's all about freedom. Wanting more and more of this is healthy and good, and it a very common motivation for us men. So, what IS then a path to finding mo ...…

There are few things which have as much power in our lives as gratitude... ...AND, there are few skills (or tools) that are more attractive than gratitude too. When we practice gratitude, we claim ownership and responsibility over our internal state. And, this ability is the essence of security or the "being" of attraction. The post LSA 047: Gr ...…

Learning how to be more attractive to women is a path & a journey, NOT a one-off action or something that a long weekend or "bootcamp" will resolve. Being attractive to women is the result of consistent, daily actions which transform you into the most attractive version of yourself. In other words, attractiveness is a habit. The post LSA 046: 7 ...…

I have worked with over 1000 men as a dating coach, and while each guy is unique and different, amazingly, many share the exact same challenges with women and dating. In this podcast I discuss these 3 harmful patterns, why they exist and what any man can do about reversing these to find more success. If you know in your gut that something is "o ...…

Why is the divorce rate so high? Why do many singles feel undue social pressure to get (& stay) married? Why do divorcees experience shame at a seemingly "failed" relationship? These are all huge, and scary, questions that courageous authors Vicki Larson & Susan Pease Gadoua explore in the groundbreaking new book, The New "I Do". In this episod ...…

Where powerful social skill and class converge is where you will find Johnny Cassell... Part of a new breed of dating experts, Johnny has taken the best of the "pick-up" world and refined it into a system which helps men divulge of the finer fruits in life: women, travel, lifestyle, fashion - you name it. It's not just about the ladies with him ...…

"Do what scares you", "If you can’t you must", "Fail fast and fail often", "What one man can do any man can do". These are just a few of the powerful soundbites I was able to type during my interview with Mike Hrostoski. In this interview, you are going to hear about his breathtaking path to success, his remarkable turning point which simultane ...…

The wimpy, spineless man - where does this come from & what is the solution? How does your purpose in life affect attraction in women? What is true freedom for men, and how do you attain this? I explore these ideas, plus much, much more in this provocative interview with Michaela Boehm. Michaela is a spiritual teacher based in Ojai, CA who focu ...…

Nick Sparks needed a break. After 8 years of coaching and training men to be amazing with women, he vanished. His much anticipated return comes full circle on this episode of the Lifestyle Arts podcast. We discuss everything from grass-fed meat and beards to maintaining sexual polarity with women, approaching them powerfully (no routines, no gi ...…

David Tian's journey has led him from being in a Chinese gang (& being assigned the task of sexually training the new girls at the brothel) to becoming an expert in Buddhism. He has tested his limits via a wild motorcycle ride thru Vietnam (after only 6 hours of training). He practiced "pick-up" for 4 years, becoming an expert in dating and sed ...…

"What is the best way to spend my $5K bonus?" "How can I meet more women without becoming a pick-up artist?" "How do I live a life of purpose?" I answer these three very different, yet very related questions on this week's Lifestyle Arts podcast. I thoroughly enjoyed this one. What I love is how different these questions are, how they each focu ...…

Scot McKay is a classic Texan. He loves women and music, drives a truck and has zero tolerance for BS. He's also one of the finest dating coaches in the world, and it's clear that his clients LOVE him. My favorite part of this interview was when Scot decided to take a "special" chance with a woman he was on a date with some years back. This ris ...…

I share my 3 favorite quotes and discusses the principles behind them which have inspired me and which highlight important facets of what it means to be a man in today's world. Featuring Joseph Campbell, Mark Twain and Helen Keller, these 3 quotes point to the importance of risk, adventure and the flawed notion of "security" which we are taught ...…

Fashion & style can be baffling to many men. Most are so confused that they simply don't apply any original thought to their appearance, thus unconsciously creating a look which works against them rather than for. In this podcast, I aim to eliminate any and all confusion by listing the specific "must haves" for your wardrobe, what to stop doing ...…

Sean Stephenson has faced his more than his share of challenges, but his life has become so much more than that. At birth, doctors didn't think he would live 36 hours much less 36 years. He was told by one dating guru that "this won't work for you" and by another "don't let anyone tell you that success isn't possible". He is one of the most pow ...…

Attraction...a topic so profoundly misunderstood that it has men resorting to foolish gimmicks and disturbing techniques designed to gain the interest of a woman. These artificial "cosmetics" of attraction might lead to an instant of interest but contain a devastating downside. Understanding the true nature of attraction is what leads to enduri ...…

Fresh off his wedding and honeymoon, Paul Janka candidly discusses the new feeling of being married. We discuss how he met his wife (hint: cold approach), dealing with challenges in a long-term relationship (2nd hint: communication), his wedding ring, how being a bachelor prepared him for marriage & much, much more. Oh, and we talk about his re ...…

The wrong relationship...no one wants it, and yet so many people find themselves IN it...far too often. Focusing on improving your success with women and dating might be the most important thing you do - ever. Plus, improvement in this area yields massive returns in other life areas as well. In this podcast, I cover all of these facets plus rev ...…

Christian Hudson has been in the dating advice for men community for over 10 years. In that time he has gone from beginner to expert, from a guy eager to learn to a man willing to share his wisdom. In this chat, we discuss: the traits every guy should develop to become fully expressed, what to cover on a first date, how adventure and attraction ...…

You are currently 3 simple steps away from meeting and securing a date with any new woman you see. What are these steps and how does one execute an approach in an elegant, mature way? In this week's podcast, Stephen reveals his model which doesn't require guys to learn endless scripts or lines to execute. It also won't protect you from feeling ...…

What is the biggest mistake men make in their 20's? What societal pressures do guys in this age group feel? What are the key things for guys under 30 to focus on to create an extraordinary life? NYC & San Diego based dating coach Stephen Nash discusses these 3 key tips and shares his experience with each. Of the 3, there is one which is most cr ...…

Dating over 40 might be the toughest time in life for men to find a long-term relationship & this is for very specific reasons. Stephen Nash explains why this is, and nails down 5 specific things for me to focus on to find success + the true "golden rule" that every mature man must follow in the dating game. Also in this episode are some scary ...…

The definitive list of books for men to read who want to improve their success with women and dating. NYC & San Diego-based dating coach Stephen Nash walks you through the list and discusses each of the 10, revealing why they are so uniquely helpful for men. A few of these are new for 2015, and his #1 book is the true "manual" for the modern da ...…

Susan Winter has sought out "the worst men in the world", gamed PUAs (and more than lived to tell about it) and has actively explored all models of relationships for over a decade. This week's Lifestyle Arts Podcast features Stephen Nash's conversation with this amazing coach, author, babe and "social futurist" and she's got a lot to say. Hear ...…

Lifestyle is the "missing link" in the dating game for men. The choices I make about my time, activities, priorities and social connections inform inner aspects such as confidence and self-esteem, while also helping me form a healthy, thriving social circle. When I strive to improve with women and dating, I will be challenged. Focusing on lifes ...…

Dating in NYC can be super tough - WHY? Is there a solution to becoming more successful with women & dating here without resorting to lame pick-up tactics? Indeed there is. Episode #23 of the Lifestyle Arts podcast features Stephen Nash discussing the singular issue leading to the growing challenges in meeting and dating women in NYC, LA and ot ...…

The Sexual Life with Steve Mayeda. Steve joins Stephen Nash on this week's Lifestyle Arts podcast to discuss the sexual life, masculinity, community, relationships, sex, kids...you name it. Learn all about his remarkable journey, from shilling out every last cent for a pick-up program nearly 8 years ago to now leading seminars empowering men to ...…

The morning is the most important time of my day, and beginning each day with a clear, focused plan of action has helped me build two successful businesses, meet and marry the woman of my dreams, travel the world and lead an overall amazing life. I think it can do the same for you too. In this week's podcast I share why having a specific and fo ...…

The 11 most important actions you can take to improve your success with women and dating. If, like most men, you're busy with life, work and fun, doing what is proven to work and eliminating everything else is not only important, it's a lifesaver. The 80/20 principle states that 80% of our results in life come from 20% of our actions. In dating ...…

How lifestyle is the most important factor in your success with women and dating, plus coverage of "attraction". Also, Stephen discusses the new brand and name: Lifestyle Arts. If you are just starting your journey with the Lifestyle Arts Podcast, this is a great place to begin! The post LSA 019: What is Lifestyle Arts? appeared first on Lifest ...…

Ever see a beautiful girl and want to approach her but aren't really clear on what to say? AND, do you dig serious adrenaline rushes? Then my direct approach is the technique for you. Simple, elegant and clear - it's the ultimate "carpe diem". The post LSA 018: How to Approach a Woman – Go Direct appeared first on Lifestyle Arts.…

What are the internal aspects of attraction that men need to focus on? Things like confidence, masculinity, self-esteem...yeah, those really important things. Often referred to as "inner game", this podcast helps men face and fix the internal troubles which prevent them from attaining the success they deserve with women and dating. The post LSA ...…

Stephen takes a deep dive into the external attraction factors, namely: Your body Personal style & Social skills He also offers action steps for improving each area in your own life. This is Part 1 of 2 podcasts which serve to flesh out the broader "attraction factors" between men & women. The post LSA 016: The External Factors in Attraction ap ...…

A new paradigm - the attraction factors. In this podcast, Stephen breaks down all the "factors" that go into a woman feeling enduring, sincere and intense attraction for a man. And then, which of these are the most important for maximum leverage when transforming ones dating and relationship success. The post LSA 015: The Attraction Factors app ...…

Here's a life for you: Struggle with women, then apply yourself and get really, really good at it; Begin teaching others how to get good at it, and build a nice business around helping others; Become location independent, traveling the world, and expanding your mind in the process; Meet a great woman to share it all with, building a life togeth ...…

If you've been listening to the podcast recently, you're aware of my endless fascination with lifestyle. Developing a dynamic and exciting lifestyle are key components to attractive women, and none has tested the edges of lifestyle more than my very good friend Tynan. Tynan, aka Herbal from "The Game", is a self-professed adventurer, entreprene ...…

The validation gap is the super critical space between what you say or do with a woman and how she responds. Most guys seek validation from women, and constantly seek to fill this validation gap with "routines" or "better routines" or "obsessing about what to say/email/voicemail/text her..." - sound familiar? This is the death trap for men and ...…

This podcast features the incomparable Adam Lyons, aka AFC Adam, who is easily the most positive and upbeat guy I've ever spoken with. Incredibly, our conversation happened as he was heading to the doctor with his now pregnant girlfriend - so there was a bit of excitement on the other end of the line. Anyway, enjoy this one man - it's terrific, ...…

This week, I'm super psyched to share my recent conversation with Alex Allman...a guy I've known for some time, who helps a lot of guys with something most of us aren't necessarily TALKING about, but all are THINKING about. And that mysterious "thing" is: SEX Alex lays out his journey with women, and with sex, in this very candid interview plus ...…

I thoroughly enjoyed this chat, mostly because Paul's life and my own track so similarly: ~ We hit Pick-Up hard and found massive success with it ~ We then met someone we really liked and transitioned into a long-term relationship ~ He's engaged and I'm married... So, what's it like looking back on a successful dating life now being in a lastin ...…