15| The 10 Emotional Needs of Women w/ Frank Kermit Part 1 of 2

Men's Dating Mastery

Quote From the Episode:

“Our life callings are always in our moments of crises. With every moment of crises there is something for all of us to learn”

– Frank Kermit

About Frank Kermit:

There is a lot to be said about Frank Kermit. Just the fact that he is considered the coaches’ coach, speaks volumes. Frank is a Dating and Relationship expert, a Certified Trauma Counsellor, Certified Hypnotherapist, the author of numerous books, columnist and a regular presence in the media. He is a man with a big heart who is truly out to help people. His personal life story is one of pain, perseverance, giving, triumph and inspiration.

The Highlights:

• Emotional needs are what a person responds to, not what they like or even what is good for them.
• A person’s unique emotional needs are formulated by the way that they learned to survive in childhood.
• A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life: the mother or the lover. She cannot be both.
• The first five of the ten emotional needs of women:

1. Protection of reputation
2. Emotional Range
3. Cater to the Little Girl
4. Dominance/Assertiveness
5. Fear of Abandonment

Show Summary:

Parts 1 and 2 of this episode are about the emotional needs of women and how men can address them in order to create and maintain attraction. Frank Kermit has grouped these needs into ten distinct categories, which are highly interrelated so parts 1 and 2 of this episode should be listened to in sequence.

There are two critical concepts underpinning these emotional needs. First, it must be understood that emotional needs are what a person responds to, not what they like or what is even good for them. This is typically formulated by the way we learn to survive as children.

The second concept, when looking at the emotional needs of women is Frank’s “Mother Lover Theory”. The idea is that a woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. When he violates one of these ten emotional needs, he evokes the mothering instinct, when he meets them, he evokes the lover. The first five needs, covered in this Part 1 of this episode are as follows:

1 – Protection of Her Reputation: Reputation is a person’s most valuable asset. The man must demonstrate that he protects his reputation as well as the reputation of all people. Even if he has been wronged by that person. Addressing this one specific behavior can completely change how women will treat a man.

2 – Emotional Range: Women tend to have greater emotional sophistication than men and are therefore able to handle them better. Experiencing a range of emotions, is what allows a woman to feel alive. Another word for emotional range is drama. How wide of an emotional range she needs to experience and whether it is healthy will vary from woman to woman. For a man to manage a relationship, he should first determine how much of an emotional range he can handle and then seek out a woman who gives him that level of emotional range or lower.

3 – Cater to The Little Girl: If a woman feels safe enough to feel like a little girl with you, she can relax and let go of her mothering instinct.

4 – Dominance/Assertiveness: Be able to make a decision and to set boundaries. Leaving the decision making to her, forces the woman into a mothering role. It is OK to ask for her opinion, but own the responsibility for deciding.

5 – Fear of Abandonment: This is not about making life long commitments, which is unrealistic. Rather, she wants to know what she needs to do to earn your commitment. It is the predictability of knowing what it will take to keep you. Frank also explains how you can stop being with somebody without abandoning them.

Advice:

Tune into part 2 of this interview for Frank’s final words of advice.

Contact Frank Kermit:

Website: www.franktalks.com

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