The "F" Word Part One

Ordinary People. Ordinary Things. with Melissa Radke

Lead Pastor Jeremy Yancey from the Timber Creek Church is here today to talk about the “F” word. No, not that “F” word. We’re talking about forgiveness. Jeremy is married to one of my best friends, and he is a firm believer that when you go out to dinner it should begin with an appetizer and end with dessert. He is also my go to for all things Netflix and podcast. He is also one of my best friends, and I’ve already had many requests to have him on the show.

This conversation is so good that we had to divide it up into two parts. I share some stories about how unforgiveness and forgiveness affected my life. Jeremy shares his wisdom about how forgiveness benefits the person who does the forgiving. We also have a fast and furious lightning round session, and share some entertaining and embarrassing moments.

You can find Jeremy here:

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Show Notes

• [04:42] Jeremy and Melissa have a great time together.
• [05:36] The reason Melissa wants to talk about forgiveness.
• [06:40] We want to answer true questions that people are looking for answers to. Stress and forgiveness seem to be the top two things that people want to talk about.
• [08:22] How so many women struggle with not only not forgiving others but not forgiving themselves. As a pastor, Jeremy sees this all the time.
• [09:36] How everybody is dealing with some level of dysfunction.
• [10:58] How keeping peace can be dysfunctional because you're not actually communicating about the problem.
• [11:28] There needs to be a counterbalance how you do it is the key.
• [14:07] It's not super easy to do the hard thing. If you can do the hard thing and make it a discipline in your life, you're going to have a good future.
• [14:45] How forgiveness has had to become part of Melissa's life. We have to learn forgiveness so well that we do it daily, and it becomes part of our spiritual life.
• [15:38] The three categories of offenses. The irrational. Betrayals of confidence or trust. Horrific injustices.
• [20:12] It's up to us to identify the level of offense we're dealing with when it comes to forgiveness.
• [20:45] You have to have the right process for forgiving certain types of offenses.
• [21:19] Melissa tells the story of when a friend betrayed her, and it literally broke her.
• [21:44] She had to bury it. It hurt, and she became eaten up with unforgiveness.
• [22:40] Betrayal can be paralyzing.
• [23:18] Melissa was browsing books on Amazon and came across Total Forgiveness. She ordered the book and started reading it. The dedication said “for Melissa”. She knew that this was a sign that this book was for her.
• [26:56] Not forgiving is like resentment and self torture and walking around with a wound.
• [27:09] Forgiveness starts with you and works its way outward.
• [27:26] Not forgiving is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
• [29:32] Lightning round questions.
• [30:26] Jeremy is an early riser and a night owl.
• [30:54] If he calls someone, he would prefer a call back instead of a text.
• [33:08] Jeremy can't narrow down when he's been the most mad at Melissa.
• [38:04] Jeremy would also rather be ridiculously rich than ridiculously good-looking.

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Links and Resources:

• Podcast Web Page
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• @MsMelissaRadke on Instagram
• @msmelissaradke on Twitter
• Red Ribbon Week Video
• This Sucks But God Is Good (online course) 20% Discount Code: Ordinary
• Total Forgiveness
• Timber Creek Church
• Timber Creek Church Podcast
• Timber Creek Church on Facebook