#88 - Why Nice Guys Lose (And Bad Boys Win)


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The idea that women like “bad boys” or “assholes”, and that there a bright line between guys who get dates — the assholes — and guys who don’t — the “nice guys” gets kicked around in dating circles as though it were gospel truth. It’s one that feels true, especially if you’re someone who thinks they fall into the nice guy side of the equation. But the reality is very different.

The issue isn’t that bad boys are desirable and nice guys are unattractive because science or evolutionary psychology or anything else. It’s far simpler than that. It’s not about what those supposed ‘bad boys’ do. It’s about what the nice guys… don’t.

Show Highlights:

  • Why nice guys buy into the myth of the bad boy
  • How nice guys hinder their own success
  • The simple, easy way to transform an average joe into a hot man about town
  • How your attitude affects your attractiveness
  • The one thing "bad boys" know that nice guys don't

...and so much more

Related Links:

Being a Nice Guy Isn't Good Enough

What Bad Boys Know That Nice Guys Don't

What is The "It" Factor

The Appeal of "Bad Boys"

5 Attraction Myths... DEBUNKED

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