84. Standing For The Kind Of Love You Want

The Art of We

Within our web of vows that help us maintain what we believe is possible in our relationship, gambling everything for the love we want is at the center. In this episode, we unpack what that means for us and how we work to bring forth every aspect of ourselves, even in challenging or uncomfortable conversations.

Unless we take a real stand for the kind of relationship we desire, and then be willing to put everything on the table to give our relationship a chance to live into that stand, we are going to compromise or settle in an unfulfilling partnership.

Although we have a deep commitment to addressing ruptures and impact, we’re not immune to misunderstandings. There’s a level of consciousness inside our relationship where we can recognize the filters that we have for each other. These assumptions and automations not only limit the possibility for deeper connections, and they also have the potential to intensify resentments and wounds.

We share five practices that help us to lay our vulnerability on the table and work through tension. In our conversation, we break down what these five tools are and how they can help you and your partner co-create solutions. Join us as we look at these techniques in action and discuss ways to approach edgy topics within your relationship.

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Topics Covered:

• Why we don’t agree with the concept of ‘choosing your battles’
• Noticing when make assumptions about your partner and where those beliefs come from
• Having safeguards in place to deal with the consequences of addressing an uncomfortable reality that exists in your relationship
• Honoring the voice that signals your needs aren’t being met
• Developing a willingness to to receive feedback and see it as an opportunity for growth

Resources Mentioned:

• The Art Of We Weekly Newsletter

Get in Touch:

• The Art Of We Website
• The Art of We Instagram
• Integrative Psychiatry Institute: Integrative Mental Wellness & Psychedelic Therapy Training

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