EP187 - The Key to Great Sex in Long-Term Relationships with Dr. Stephen Snyder


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Welcome to episode 187 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Dr. Stephen Snyder to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Snyder talks to me about having better sex in long term monogamous relationships, creating better psychological arousal and recommendations to improve your sex life.

Stephen Snyder MD — sex therapist, relationship therapist, and sexual medicine specialist — has dedicated his entire career to helping individuals and couples with sex and relationship concerns. Over 30+ years, he’s helped over 1,500 individuals and couples regain closeness and satisfaction in their relationships.

Dr. Snyder is Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York City and the author of one of the most acclaimed sex and relationship books of our time, LOVE WORTH MAKING: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship (St Martin’s Press, 2018).

As an MD sex therapist, Dr. Snyder has a unique combination of skills that enables him to handle the most complex, difficult situations. He received his medical degree from the University of California, San Francisco (M.D. 1983), trained in internal medicine at Mt Zion Medical Center in San Francisco (1983-84), then in psychiatry at the Payne Whitney Clinic, New York Hospital / Cornell University Medical Center (1984-87) and as a Fellow in Behavioral Medicine at Mount Sinai School of Medicine in NYC (1987-89).

Dr. Snyder was Director of the Psychiatric Consultation Service at Mount Sinai Medical Center from 1990-2000. Since 2000, he has been in full-time private practice in Manhattan, specializing in sex and relationship concerns.

Dr. Snyder is an active member of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR); has been a presenter, workshop leader, and discussant at the Society’s national meetings; and has served on its Professional Book Award Committee and as Chairman of its Consumer Book Award committee.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • What are the barriers experience people in monogamous relationships face?
  • How do you define good sex?
  • Looking at psychological arousal
  • How passion is erotic selfishness
  • Creating psychological space for arousal
  • The role that fantasy plays in this issue
  • Why women lose interest in sex in long term relationships
  • Recommendations to improve your sex life in a long-term relationship
  • The fear men hold about disappointing their partners
  • Looking at the issue of erectile dysfunction

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