Ep 7 How Relationships With Our Parents or Caregivers Shaped Our Lives

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In this week's episode, we discuss the impact of our upbringing and how the relationships with our parents/caretakers have shaped who we are. Some questions we answered were what do we want to take with us moving forward, what lessons did we learn and what are the things we know for sure that we want to leave behind.

Lastly, we discussed how do we reparent ourselves in the midst of change and healing. Reflecting on how you were parented is important work to do. This determines what you take with you and what is left in the past. You can cut off a parental figure if that makes sense for you however, you still have to process that relationship. How did you change the narrative? We're you able to find meaning in your experience and turn it into something positive like Frantzces who keeps a clean home because of her somewhat OCDish aunt.

Key takeaways from this episode:

1. Blaming prevents us from healing, acknowledge the impact of past events so you can move forward.

2. Some of those experiences have taught you some ways to be self-sufficient.

3. You cannot deny that your upbringing shaped you. Everyone needs to reflect no matter what. Adverse childhood experiences have strong influences on us.

4. As we get older we have to find ways to reparent ourselves and to give ourselves what we didn't get in our childhoods.

5. Even with cutting off a relationship you'll still need to process that relationship and that separation.

6. Process EVER-REE-THING. Ask yourself are both of my feet planted in the present or is there one foot in the past and one foot in the future?

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Until next time, remember to live, laugh, love, and keep it real. -Frantzces, Sabeen and Tonika :)

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