How Your Failing & Disorganized Child Might be a Secret Perfectionist with Lisa Van Gemert


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Surprisingly, perfectionism might manifest itself in various ways. Often times students with hidden perfectionistic ideals might go undetected because they seem messy, lazy, unorganized or seem like they are not trying (*hint*: this is risk avoidance! For example, they would rather take the 0 grade by not trying vs trying and getting an 80% grade because it did not turn out like they envision in their mind). But actually, students who are under-performing might be masking a fear that is actually the root of perfectionism. There might be an underlying belief of unreasonable expectations-- which may result in surprising behaviors that tie into perfectionism. You cannot really achieve perfectionism --It rarely leads to high achievement and might even effect their socialness! It may seem counterintutive but perfectionism is rarely helpful!

Internal scripts in perfectionist dyslexic students might sound like "OK - New semester! I am going to be EVEN BETTER than last time- this is the time when I know I will be so much better!" Do you know if perfectionism is showing up in your child in ways you would not expect?

Sound familiar? Are you a perfectionist yourself?

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