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Today’s first super short, super sweet blip show is all about L-O-V-E as I share the most important practices and advice you can utilize (along with your partner) to build and sustain a successful relationship. Starting with John Gottman’s great statement, “You’re either a team or not a team, at all times,” I focus on his most helpful quotes, as well as some from Harville Hendrix and Esther Perel. Probably one of the most important arguments Gottman makes is that most marital arguments cannot be resolved, and this is because couples waste time trying to change the other’s mind, which usually can’t be done. This is because most disagreements couples have stem from fundamental differences in lifestyle, personality, or values. So, sure, you can fight all you want, but that just leads to wasting time and harming your relationship. Another crucial piece of advice: “Friendship fuels the flames of romance because it offers the best protection against feeling adversarial toward your spouse.” This show will open your eyes and change your perspective when it comes to healthy communication in a partnership, and make it easier for you to navigate the inevitable ups and downs of your relationships by empowering you to approach them from a radical, completely different mindset.
“Thus, the critical dimension in understanding whether a marriage will work or not, becomes the extent to which the male can accept the influence of the woman he loves and become socialized in emotional communication.”
“But in their day-to-day lives, they have hit upon a dynamic that keeps their negative thoughts and feelings about each other (which all couples have) from overwhelming their positive ones. They have what I call an emotionally intelligent marriage.”
“The point is that neuroses don’t have to ruin a marriage. If you can accommodate each other’s “crazy” side and handle it with caring, affection, and respect, your marriage can thrive.”
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