Episode 28 How to set Energetic Boundaries with Lisa Lewis

The Holistic Counseling Podcast

What is an energetic boundary? Why is building your self-awareness an integral part of maintaining your energetic boundaries? Can energy be like water?

MEET LISA LEWIS

With three certificates in energy healing and Level 2 Reiki certified, Lisa has gained extensive training in the mind-body connection. She also has the traditional training of a Master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and offers clients a holistic approach during sessions.

Dedicated to her private practice and work in her community, Lisa sees patients in her Pasadena, California office, as well as virtually in online therapy or phone therapy. She has a keen interest in helping those who struggle with issues related to being a highly sensitive person, as well as parents and individuals navigating depression, anxiety, stress, or trauma.

With over 20 years of education, training, and life experience, Lisa is well-equipped to help others in their healing and personal growth.

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Email Lisa at [e-mail] or call her for an initial consult at 626.319.5076.

IN THIS PODCAST:

• How to set energetic boundaries
• Build your self-awareness
• How to get into your body
• Lisa’s advice to listeners

HOW TO SET ENERGETIC BOUNDARIES

The first step to learning how to set energetic boundaries for yourself is to:

Know how to ground yourself:

You can ground yourself into the Earth as a meditation, and feel yourself be secure and connected with the earth, sending energetic roots into the soul that connects you with nature.

Once you get really comfortable doing that, that’s when you feel more centered and more grounded within your body, and then your energetic boundary [is within] the distance from your shoulder, if you extend your arm, all the way out in front of you … that bubble that goes all the way around you. That is your space … then you can say “this is me, and that is you”. (Lisa Lewis)

Get to know what your energy feels like:

Once you are comfortable and aware of how it feels to be within your own energy space and to feel what your energy feels like, you can more easily recognize if you are holding onto or are carrying energy that does not belong to you.

By being grounded within your body and being comfortable and aware of your energetic boundary, you can more easily pick up if somebody is – intentionally or not – overstepping it.

If the other person doesn’t know how to set their own boundary, you might feel invaded by somebody. You might feel them come into your personal space, and highly sensitive people are very sensitive to people entering their space. (Lisa Lewis)

BUILD YOUR SELF-AWARENESS

Getting to know what your energy feels like to you is an integral part of building your self-awareness.

Make intentional time to understand what it is that you need to feel at peace and grounded. This is also where self-care becomes important.

Consider:

• Taking a little time every day for self-reflection, such as writing in a journal,
• Meditating
• Moving your body and exercising.

Moving your body helps move emotions and feelings through [your] body. If we tend to get stuck, and if feelings and emotions get stuck in our body, that’s when disease can develop in certain areas in our body. If we separate the word disease, that there’s a dis-ease in our own physical body. So, it’s working with the energy to help move that dis-ease through your body so that it doesn’t get stuck., stagnant or blocked. (Lisa Lewis)

Imagine that the energy flowing through you is like how water flows through a river. Each day you can ask yourself:

• Is there a part of me that feels stuck today?
• Where does it feel stuck?
• How can I get that energy to move and flow through me and beyond me?

HOW TO GET INTO YOUR BODY

To become connected to and grounded within your body, you need to slow down. The mind works quickly and is loud, whereas the body is quiet and slow.

With the body you can use the art of inquiry: when you feel sensations in the body, such as feeling a weight or emptiness in the stomach, or sadness in your heart, you can ask questions.

Imagine giving those sensations a color or a description to make them more tangible and therefore easier to heal. Do not bring judgments into this space.

LISA'S ADVICE TO LISTENERS

The first step is the hardest, but the second and third and the rest are always a little easier.

If you are considering it, do not be nervous about being a part of group therapy, because it can offer a different kind but equally valuable therapeutic experience.

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Resources Mentioned And Useful Links:

Integrating Muscle Response Testing into Practice with Angela Santiago

Free 8 Week Email Course with Lisa Lewis

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