Manage episode 292198891 series 1854879
Quote by Carl Jung "Everyone carries a shadow, and the less it is embodied in the individual's conscious life, the blacker and denser itis. At all counts, it forms an unconscious snag, thwarting our most well-meant intentions."
Trapped in a marriage or partnership with a pernicious high level narcissist, an individual obsessed with self and public image with extreme self entitlement, very low conscience capacity, often an infant terrible with a dreadful temper that is projected out on to you behind closed doors. This is horrifying to the spouse or child of the high level narcissist.
The high level carries from within a primitive, seething Shadow that ejects venom in various forms on to you: false accusations, recriminations, incessant criticisms, withering projections that send you into the dark reaches of the fight or flight nervous system, the sympathetic mode. You are at the mercy of the narcissist's rampant regressed Shadow. The opposite occurs in public with the high level who worships his image. Here there is a major shift---the look of the face, the eyes, the movements, pace, style are transformed. The narcissist, an incredible method actor lights up with this charismatic false self. He/she turns it on like a light switch, a transformation that is highly impressive.
How much longer can you tolerate the scream fits, volleys of temper, scathing glances, belittlings that leave you psychologically and physically weakened. You don't and never did deserve to be treated this way.
Make a stand now for yourself. You deserve to be treated with respect and deference.
With this opening, you belong to yourself again--spontaneity, joy, awe, beauty, solitude, independence of thought.
I want to share some thoughts about the Shadow with you.
For tens of thousands of yeaars man has been dealing with his Shadow in a variety of ways. Going back to the dawn of time when man first walked the earth upright, he has been infused with the Shadow parts of himself found in the deep unconscious of his psyche.
Today we are still facing our Shadows. As humans we carry the inheritance of our Shadow selves. Tis is not a curse but an incredible boon to those who seek wholeness, individuation and the promise and the fulfillment of one's unique creativity.