45: Quirky Alone with Sasha Cagen

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Welcome! My guest today is Sasha Cagen, an author, coach, and lifestyle experimenter.

Sasha Cagen helps single and divorcing women in life transition to figure out who they are, what they want, and to go get it. She also helps women reconnect to their sensuality and pleasure to help them get in touch with their unique desires for life. She does this work by combining her life coaching with a 7-day transformative tango holiday in Buenos Aires, using tango as a tool to help women reconnect to themselves and grow their confidence. Tango is Sasha's passion and the dance brought her to Buenos Aires.

Sasha is well known as the founder of the Quirkyalone movement, which she created in 2000 to support women and men who prefer to be single rather than settle. Sasha’s books Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics (Harper) and To-Do List: From Buying Mile to Finding a Soul Mate, What Our Lists Reveal About Us (Simon & Schuster) have received attention on CNN, NPR, and the New York Times. Sasha is at work on a memoir Wet, which tells the tale of her own journey of healing from a childhood incident of sexual abuse through many adventures in sensuality. This book is a female "On the Road," a story of listening to impulses from her body to heal trauma, know her own worth, and create a life on her own terms.

Let’s chat with Sasha!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Why not having a child was a combination of choice and circumstance
• Sasha, now 43, never found the right partner to embark upon parenthood in her 30’s.
• How she decided to pursue happiness on a travel adventure
• “Having a child simply wasn’t something I HAD to do in this lifetime.”
• The difficulty as a woman figuring out what you REALLY want
• Sasha never experienced pressure from her family to have a child; she became her own biggest critic.
• Why it’s easy to go into “comparison” mode when around friends
• Sasha’s near-death experience that opened her eyes about the value of life
• How her Tango Adventures became self-exploration for her and for other spectacular women
• “Relationships are not for the faint of heart.”
• Is there an expiration date for a relationship?
• The importance of feeling comfortable with your sensuality
• Experiencing moments of grief
• Sasha’s honesty about the reality of life with a child and how HARD it really would be
• Why she is aware of her needs and limitations
• Her creativity is expressed in her passions: writing, coaching, and tango
• Why you MUST be true to your own creativity and your own path
• The power and energy of simply being feminine.

I enjoyed this conversation so much and I hope you did too. What did you enjoy the most about this episode? If you enjoyed please share with a friend who would enjoy ;-) To connect with Sasha, find out more at sashencagen.com