Let's Talk about Apologies: Part 1.

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CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE

Overview of an Apology

1. Definition of Apologize (Merriam-Webster)
2. Two key elements of an apology (Mind Tools)
3. You cannot force an apology (Psychcentral)
4. Harriet Lerner quote from Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD
5. Motives for apology
6. Four parts to an apology according to O’Hara

Types of shitty apologies

1. Tactical apologies
2. If apologies
3. NYT Examples
4. I’m sorry if
5. Jets Example
6. I’m sorry but
7. I’m sorry you
8. Déjà vu
9. You know I am..
10. I guess I..
11. Not my apology
12. Actions but no words
13. Let’s make a deal
14. Bringing up the other person’s crime sheet (Harriet Lerner) from Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD
15. Martyr/Victim Playing - from Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD
16. Demanding forgiveness
17. Love you though (or miss you)
18. Time passing
19. Generic “for everything”
20. Sarcasm: sorry!
21. Passive Voice
    • Famous examples

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BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS

• Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD