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I'm not sure if there's a greater call on a person's life than to invest their life into the next generation. And this week on our podcast, I have Brenden Sullivan from Priority One Ministries out in the Leehigh Valley in Pennsylvania, and him and I are going to talk about what does that look like and what does discipleship really mean and how do y…

Addiction can be challenging to wrap our head around. What is addiction? How did this happen? Why me? Robert Vander Meer is on the podcast today to discuss the image and behavior of a cyclone and how this metaphor is helpful in understanding how and why addiction shows up in our life. RESOURCES Full Episode Video (YouTube) Bob Newhart “Stop It” Vid…

This week, Steve has the incredible privilege to have on Alex and Stephen Kendrick, the men who have written a number of great movies over the years. Movies like War Room, Courageous, Fireproof, Facing the Giants. They have a new movie coming out this fall called The Forge, and we had a chance to just talk today about what's behind the movie, what …

Matt Dobschuetz, host of Porn Free Radio and founder of Recovered Man, is back on the show today! Today, we talk about edging—non-relapse behaviors that follow our addictive patterns. We talk about what qualifies as edging, how to become more aware of any edging behaviors, the importance of check-ins with our community or group, and how to address …

Lots of men in the church today that sort of have the Peter Pan mentality. I just don't want to grow up. Lots of men in their 50s, 60s, and 70s who are still acting like spiritual babies, right? Just making messes all over the place. Well, in this podcast, we want to talk about how do we help the men of our church grow, to spiritually mature, and t…

Helping the next generation is not only about teaching what NOT TO DO. It also includes teaching them what TO DO. On today’s episode, we’re joined by Barb Winters, founder of HopefulMom.net and author of Sexpectations. Barb talks us through her experience in helping her children break free of pornography addiction and equipping them with the tools …

One of the biggest issues facing men today is loneliness. This week's podcast, Steve sits down with Ron Sweet, our Director of Church Engagement to speak about how to pull men out of isolation and into relationship.By Steve Sonderman

We believe that the small group is the optimal place for a man to grow in his faith. This week we have a fellow staff member Dan Wetzel on the pod and he sits down with Steve Sonderman and they speak about the importance of small groups in a mans life and to a ministry to men. Remember to share and leave a review and we will see you next week!…

It’s here—a NEW group resource for single women! What does it look like to live sexually healthy as a single woman? Today, authors Heather Kolb and Ashley Jameson join us to talk through our new resource for single women, Authentically You. They talk through who is the target audience, what makes Authentically You unique, the differences between th…

Sports really is a universal language. This week Steve sits down with Ralph Meirow, who was a sports pastor for many years and then moved on to Fellowship of Christian Athletes. Steve and Ralph speak about the importance of sports in the lives of believers and how you can reach people through sports. Don't forget to leave a review and share the pod…

“Separation” is usually a swear word for church folk. This is understandable when it’s done wrong. But separation can actually be a healthy tool used for the restoration of a marriage. Today, we’re joined by a Pure Desire Clinician, Eileen Fagan, who defines a healthy or “therapeutic” separation and the benefits it can give a struggling couple. We …

When Christians are faced with the word “addiction,” there can be a significant reaction against something we don’t see clearly in Scripture. The word “addiction” doesn’t naturally seem to fit into our theological framework. Today, we’re joined by author and speaker, Ben Bennett, to give us a new framework for reconciling addiction and theology. We…

Our guest this week for the podcast is Jason Romano. Jason is the Director of Media for Sports Spectrum. His weekly podcast interviews atheletes where they talk about the intersection of sports and faith. Don't forget to share the podcast and leave a review! Sports Spectrum Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4uJw2NwHLVn1sjxK0js2uA https://www.j…

The term “mental health” can be fuzzy. Are we talking about anxiety? Depression? Something more? All of the above? Ben Bennett joins us today to talk about the connection between viewing pornography and mental health issues. Ben speaks of porn’s role in his personal battle with depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideations and how recovery impacts ou…

This week we have Corey Kugle on the podcast from The Chapel in St. Joes Michigan. He is the senior pastor over there and Corey and Steve have a great discussion about what it means to pastor and disciple other men. Thanks for listening and don't forget to leave a review and share the podcast! See you next week! https://www.noregretsmen.org/ https:…

We all know communication is important. But what does healthy communication look like for a couple on the recovery and healing journey? Shari Chinchen, a Pure Desire Clinician, joins us today to discuss what makes communication healthy or unhealthy. We also discuss how to keep healthy communication a priority AND how to train our kids for healthy c…

Hey men, this week we have Nick Stumbo on from Pure Desire Ministries. Nick and his ministry work with men struggling with pornography and supports churches with support / recovery groups and recourses, all avaliable at their links below. Don't forget to leave a review and follow us everywhere @noregretsmen! https://puredesire.org/ https://puredesi…

Many men who’ve been through the Pure Desire recovery process have asked, “What’s after Seven Pillars of Freedom?” Well, today’s episode is all about answering this question. Clinician and speaker, Robert Vander Meer, joins us to talk about our new resource, The Compassionate Warrior (to which Robert contributed). We talk through what this resource…

Hey men, this week on the No Regrets Leadership Podcast, Steve and Troy discuss the top five temptations leaders face and what are some guard rails that can be put in place to help when temptations arise.By Steve Sonderman

Today, we get to hear from Robert Nelson and Annie Burt (staff members at Faith Chapel in Billings, Montana). Robert and Annie talk us through their journey of implementing Pure Desire groups and resources at Faith Chapel. We talk through initial hurdles, challenges they’ve faced, the fruit they’re seeing from their efforts, and lots in between. RE…

Welcome back to the No Regrets Leadership Podcast! This week, we are continuing our conversation on Leadership 101. Steve and Troy talk about how leaders can continue to grow and mature in leadership so they don't plateau. Don't forget to share and leave a review!By Steve Sonderman

Today’s episode is one of our favorites! We have another Frequently Asked Questions episode where you, the listener, has sent in topical questions for us to discuss. We are joined by Traci Wright, one of our beloved clinicians, to talk about idolizing recovery, anniversaries of trauma, disclosure in dating and engagement, and more. RESOURCES Full E…

Hey men, this week we are going to continue our series on Leadership 101. This week we are talking about what it means to invest in others, how to become a person of mission and what does servant leadership looks like. Get your pen and paper and take some notes because this is a good one! Don't forget to leave a review!…

Though true healing and freedom from sexual addiction and brokenness is possible, it doesn’t mean the journey will be easy. The world we live in is still hyper-sexualized and full of things that can pull us away from health. On today’s episode, we talk about slippery slopes—areas or aspects of our lives that can be problematic in our sexual health.…

This week we have Steve Carter. Steve and Steve discuss Steve's new book, Grieve, Breathe, Recieve. We also talk about what it means to be Easter people living in a Good Friday world. Also, how to live with pain and greif in our life in a healthy way. Steve Carter will also be a guest at our National Leadership Summit on April 26th and 27th. Visit …

Hey men, this week we are continuing our series on Leadership 101. This week we talk about the three different qualities that makes a good leader. Don't forget to leave a review and share the podcast!By Steve Sonderman

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is often associated with major trauma—wartime experiences, rape, and abuse. Studies increasingly show that PTSD is also experienced by betrayed partners. Rather than ignore or minimize it, let’s do something about it. RESOURCES Full Episode Video (YouTube) Betrayal & Beyond Dr. Steffens Research Stress Index Th…

This week, we are kicking off a series with Steve Sonderman and Troy Thomas all about Leadership. What it takes to be a leader, challenges in leadership, the qualities of a leader, and the basics of what leadership is. This week we are starting with what is Christian Leadership.By Steve Sonderman

For those who regularly listen to the show, we have a return guest. This guy has shared his story about the journey from porn star to a pastor. Today, we’re excited to have Joshua Broome back on the show to talk about his new book, 7 Lies That Will Ruin Your Life. We talk through all seven lies, identifying how they impact sexual brokenness and dis…

We know sex trafficking exists in our world and is a growing problem. But it’s not something that’s talked about in many faith communities. On today’s episode, we’re going to talk about it! We’re thrilled to have Matt McCaulley and Kevin Whisman on the show: two guys who have spent the last few years writing, directing, and producing a full-length …

A prayerless life is a powerless life; yet many men struggle with prayer. Derwin will teach how to become powerful by learning how to pray like Jesus.By Steve Sonderman

“Just wait until I get married, then it will all get better.” These words have either been said or thought by many of us in the church. We assume being married and having sex with our spouse will rid us of our sexual brokenness or compulsive behaviors. Unfortunately, this is a myth. On today’s episode, our Clinical Director, Tyler Chinchen, joins u…

Far too often, our lives are overwhelmed by the demands of work, family, and social circles, leaving little time for meaningful connection with God. In this session, we will answer questions such as; how can men provide for their families and enjoy life in a sustainable way? What does it mean to honor the Sabbath? What’s the best way to lead a life…