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Welcome to Randi Rubenstein’s Mastermind Parenting Podcast. So, the big question is this - How do parents like us know that we aren’t messing up the biggest role of our lives, especially when we happen to have a strong-willed kiddo that is constantly pushing our buttons? We’ve all heard that kids don’t come with a manual, so how can we know for sure that we are saying the right things or that we’re getting this parenting thing right. On this podcast for parents of toddlers to teens, we’ll be ...
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Divorce is a reality for lots of families, and it’s a gigantic emotional challenge. As you’re struggling to realign your life, you’re also managing a lot of big feelings. You want to make things as easy as possible for your kiddos, but how can you do that when things get messy? How do you help your kids understand what’s happening? How do you suppo…
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Conscious Bedtime Stories (with Andrew Newman)
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Humans learn through story. It’s been this way for thousands of years. For realz:). And when you’re raising strong-willed kids, no script or tip has ever had the same impact as saying “Hey, remember in that story when...” I think we need to take a step back from memorizing the words of the latest social media parenting professional and get back to …
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Helpful Kids Without Power Struggles (a conversation with Michaeleen Doucleff)
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Kids are naturally motivated to feel purposeful. In other words, kids want to feel like they bring value to the pack. It’s primal actually. You see, bringing value/ helping out/ feeling as if “these people might be lost without the amazing me and my mad sweeping skillz:)”, are all ways kids feel when they are given purpose. Purpose can be a tiny th…
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What Your Kid Might Need More Than a Therapist (a conversation with Michaeleen Doucleff)
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I’m a fan of good therapy. But I also see so many moms, who are trying to help their strong-willed ones, in the wrong order imo…they look for a therapist first, before changing anything at home. Well this is what I’m talking about today with our fave author, Michaeleen Doucleff. In part one of this conversation, we discuss why pack leadership seems…
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Parenting Through Big Changes and Big Feelings (with Eli Harwood)
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Big changes mean big feelings, and as my youngest heads off to college, I’ve been deep in them. I’m so glad I got to talk to psychologist and attachment expert Eli Harwood about this. Eli literally calls herself The Attachment Nerd, and she totally gets it. This one was vulnerable and raw and felt like a therapy session for me. As always, thanks fo…
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Bratty Little Baby Moments and Sneaky Perfectionism
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You know those moments, when a little deal feels like a much bigger deal? And even though you tell yourself Don’t sweat the small stuff or Settle down, Sister… You just can’t help it. I call these Bratty Little Baby moments, and guess what? We all have them. Big people. Little people. All the people have Bratty Little Baby moments. Why you may ask?…
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Have you ever met someone who is doing the thing you wish “younger you” had known? Recently, I met Esther and wow…Just. Wow. In many ways she reminded me of “younger me” but better. Way. Better. (And with a cool accent to boot:) She’s been a mom on a mission to turn her household around. And she has implemented so much in such a short amount of tim…
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Getting the kids out the door in the morning… I don’t think most parents would describe this simple daily process as simple. But what if it could be? When I was thinking about what to share with you on the podcast this week, I remembered this resource, and had to share it with you to help simplify the mornings and set your family up for a super suc…
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Does Your Partner Acknowledge All That You Do As A Mom?
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You listen to parenting podcasts. You read books. You are a student of how to be the best mom for your kids. You work your tushie off for your kids…maybe even to be the parent you would’ve wanted. I see you. And I know you beat yourself up about the hard moments when you just can’t hold it together anymore. And wouldn’t it be amazing to have a part…
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If you’re looking for support in figuring out the “now what” after diagnosis, you’ve gotta know Yetta Myrick. Yetta has been in the trenches, supporting her son for 21 years, who was diagnosed early with Autism, ADHD, and intellectual disability. When it came to finding stellar support for her child with cognitive and developmental challenges, Yett…
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Outdated Parenting Just Doesn’t Work With 2024 Teens (with Coach Kevin Baker)
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Teenage-hood. It’s a loaded topic. It’s a loaded time. Just you wait til this one’s a teenager. Payback’s a bitch - you were a nightmare as a teenager! We turned out fine but the risks are too risky for kids today. Ya’ll have been asking me for teenager resources for forever. The teen years have always been tough. Changing schools, changing bodies,…
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When Your Kid Seems Like An Emotional Rollercoaster (with Michelle Grosser)
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Do some days seem like a never-ending emotional rollercoaster living with your strong-willed and/or highly sensitive one? Like no matter what you say or do, they just can’t seem to get it together? On days like these, you might be fighting like hell to stay calm on the outside, but inside your heart is racing and your stomach is tied up in knots. A…
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As a mom, figuring out when to give my kids a phone has been one of the hardest topics to tackle. While there have been conveniences once they got a phone, like being able to know where they are at all times and reach them if I need to, the cons have far outweighed the pros in my family. A phone is the default way lots of kids stay in touch, organi…
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This Game-Changing Sentence That Works Like Magic
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My conversations with Michaeleen Doucleff are so much fun that sometimes I forget to hit record! Usually it doesn’t even matter what we talk about, but this time it’s extra good. You know those times when your kid is acting like a little contrarian. You say up, they say down. You say yes, they say no. And around and around and around. Michaeleen ha…
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It’s Never A “Good” Time To Have A Baby Or Start A Business
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When you’re in the trenches raising kids, it can feel like the busiest, hardest season of life. Now, imagine trying to start and run a business at the same time? I think my son, Cory, would say that’s low key insane. He’d also hate me claiming to know what he’d say and attempting to use his lingo…whatevs:). And just like it rarely feels like a perf…
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When people join the Mastermind Parenting community, they come seeking answers about the way their children behave. What they usually don’t realize is that they’re not just struggling with “bad” behaviors. They need a space where they can unlearn generations of bad advice, and retrain their thinking around the rewards and challenges of parenting se…
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The Kid Who Was His Worst Self Around Mom
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Can we just be real for a minute, and admit that parenting is hard? Kids are wild and wonderful, but their behavior can sometimes be really confusing. That’s never more true than when a kiddo is a delight around one parent, but mean and antagonistic around the other. That’s the situation one of my Mastermind moms faced when she joined us. It’s been…
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Another Great Conversation with Michaeleen Doucleff, author of Hunt, Gather, Parent
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Y’all know that Michaeleen Doucleff is my favorite. Her book, Hunt, Gather, Parent, has become a must-read for my Mastermind parents. Since we first connected we’ve spent hours, on and off the mic, vibing and swapping parenting stories. One story I’ve been dying to get more detail about is the decision Michaeleen made to start a whole school out of…
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Spinach in the Spaghetti Sauce (Maybe You Don't Really Need a Parenting Class)
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When people find out I’m a parenting coach, they’ll often say they should probably take a parenting class. Now, you know I believe in the value of coaching. But there are lots of everyday opportunities to connect with our kids and teach them how to navigate the world. Stories you read together for fun can be a great source of wisdom if you just kno…
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Post Mother’s Day: Some of My Mothering Mistakes
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Mother’s Day is so loaded for so many reasons. Now that it’s in the rearview for another year, this is a great time to share some more of my most embarrassing/inspiring mothering mistakes. Embarrassing because they seem painfully obvious in hindsight. Inspiring because they’re a loving reminder from me to you that no parent is perfect. We all want …
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Spoiler Alert: Your Kid Won't Fail To Launch
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When kids don't do simple things for themselves, it's easy to future trip and freak out. But what if you knew that they'd be okay and it will all turn out just fine? What if you could have that reassurance? Would it change how you show up now when you're feeling fed up about them not knowing how to make a hair appointment, make a sandwich, or do th…
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That's So Gay: Talking To Kids About Hurtful Language
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Raising our kids to understand and share our values is a central part of being a parent. But so often when we send them out into the world, they come back using words or acting in ways that conflict with the things we’ve tried to teach them. Recently, a Mastermind mom shared that her six-year-old came home from playing at a neighbor’s house and cal…
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I'm So Ugly! How Can You Handle Kids' Insecurities?
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When our kids are talking down about themselves, of course our first instinct is to push back. But even though we say “you’re so beautiful,” or “you’re so smart,” or “you’ll get better if you practice,” the message we send is “I’m not listening and understanding your experience.” If you want to know the secret to tackling your kiddo’s insecurities …
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What If My Kid Seems Oppositional And Defiant?
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If you’re a parent with a kiddo who’s constantly angry and acting out, a diagnosis of Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) can seem like an explanation for a lot of disruptive behavior. But what if that defiance and opposition are actually caused by other sensitivity? I’ve worked with so many parents who struggle to understand why their strong-wille…
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Empowering Children to Participate in Essential Matters at Home (with coach and author Lori Sugarman-Li)
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Housework. Homemaking. Chores. Whatever you call it, it’s hard work to maintain a safe, clean house, and it’s made so much harder by the expectations around that work. So many moms, whether they’re employed outside the home or not, find themselves in charge of a lot more of those household tasks than their kids or their partners. If we’re going to …
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