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My cousin and I have turned our weekly catch-up phone call into a podcast. We want to be part of fostering a culture of honesty, empathy and foolery because our friendship has shown us that we are often not alone in the thoughts we have and emotions we feel, from the serious to the silly. And even in the moments the other person can't relate, we are still met with love. So now, our open conversations are open to you, and maybe you'll hear some of yourself in us too. Learn more at areyoumepod ...
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P.S: If you still haven’t signed up to read our newsletter, The RUME, then you missed out on our last mini. Join us now so you get future exclusive content! Follow us on social media: Twitter, Instagram. You may also email us at areyoumepodcast@gmail.com.By Chioma and Mita
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Can we all agree that dreams are weird? In this mini, we talk about some of our very weird dreams, from the sexual to the uncomfortably realistic and to the ones in which our brains/subconscious are straight trying to play tricks on us. P.S: If you still haven’t signed up to read our newsletter, The RUME, then you missed out on our last mini. Join …
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The results are in and there’s nowhere to hide. We’re really exposing ourselves and psychopathic tendencies on this one. But if going through this exercise taught us anything, it’s that we are pretty normal (those psychopathic tendencies could have been full-blown traits) and everyone's a little psychopathic sometimes and we’re no exception. So, co…
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It’s a pointed question this week but if the answer is yes, we’d rather not know; please keep that to yourself. Somehow, in this conversation, we start out on the topic of child psychopathy, which we wish we didn’t know about because can you imagine? (*shudder*), and end up going through the official psychopathy test to be able to definitively answ…
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Children are a blessing (if you choose to have them) but we are not about the “legacy builders” in #TheRUME. In this conversation, we get into how much of a deal breaker children can be in relationships, the attachment to biological children and the pressure that society places on people around children - if you have them, when you have them, how m…
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Yes! At least one of us is. Mita became a citizen of Canada and her tweet about it went (mini) viral on Nigerian Twitter, which means her bride price is now all the way up. This conversation is a reflection on the path to dual citizenship, what it means and the opportunity costs that have come with it. And while dual citizenship is a big flex, we a…
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Who knew that there were so many different ways to be single/dumped? The ghosts of relationships and situationships disappear in many ways, some as abruptly as a magician and others a softly as a 90's song's fade out. In this conversation (in which we learn way more than we ever wanted to know about modern dating terms), we talk about how the endin…
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We are back and better for our second cycle! If you’re new, welcome! We’re so glad to have you in #TheRUME. If you’ve been part of our conversations, thanks for coming back. We’ve put a lot of thought into this cycle and are excited to share what we have in store for you. But we’re not sharing secrets so you’ll have to join us on this journey as we…
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We're baaaccccck! This is Are You Me?! Come into #TheRUME and let’s get into it.By Chioma and Mita
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Last call for Cycle 1! This mini is our ode to the much-referenced, much-beloved corner of Reddit that has provided precious fuel for many of our conversations both on and off the podcast - r/AITA. Whether it’s the man who won’t cut his postpartum wife any slack, the girl who stole her cousin’s wedding dress or the not pregnant woman who insists sh…
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A special drop for you while we are away! And on this one, we're back to discussing our very hypothetical children - our goals for them and the relationships we hope to have with them. Follow us on social media: Twitter, Instagram. Sign up for our newsletter, The RUME. You may also email us at areyoumepodcast@gmail.com.…
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Around here, we believe that there's always the possibility of something good and beautiful on the other side of conflict. But it's one thing to believe something, and it's another thing to live it. In this conversation, Mita recounts an eye-opening argument that triggered important changes and revelations. We also talk about some of the foundation…
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You can’t make homes out of humans but we are going to try. In this conversation, we wonder what comes to mind when you say "home". For some it's a place, for others it might be a community and for someone in #TheRUME it may even be her person. This conversation explores the importance of spending time in a different cultural context and how that c…
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It's International Women's Day! And to celebrate here's a Mini-Me 🧡💛💚 P.S. This is the kind of exclusive content you would be receiving if you signed up to read our newsletter, The RUME. Join us using the link in our bio!By Chioma and Mita
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Sigh. This one's for the boys, with or without booming systems. In this conversation, we ponder the question - are men ok? Somehow society has a lot of ideas about what makes a man "a real man™" and many of them don't seem to be good for men...or women. The crushing weight of gender roles, stereotypes and much of our cultural socialization continue…
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It’s a no for us, but at least we’re blessed. This conversation is all about MONEY. Can you believe we work to earn money only to have to spend it?! The rent is too damn high, and so is the price of a home and the cost of being an independent adult in 2021. For all the talk about hard work leading to financial success, so much of the world works ha…
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It’s funny how things unfold. What starts as a conversation around how the ways we’ve had to engage with marriage expectations in our culture (both as women of our big age and as children of divorce) turns into a deeper conversation about our wants, our hopes, our fears and what it means to love and to lose. We share stories that remind us how hard…
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Happy Black History Month! We’re Black, proud and loud about it. In this conversation, we discuss Black identity and the variety of forms in which it exists. Who gets to call themselves Black isn’t always the same as who gets called Black. We talk about the complex dynamics projected on Black bodies with every added drop of melanin - from biracial …
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Hey good looking! Yes, you! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and in this conversation, the beholder is us. Basically, we’re talking who’s hot, who’s not and why. Attractiveness may seem like a superficial focus but it’s often about so much more including race, success and self esteem. From our judgements, to our preferences to society’s beauty…
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Happy new president, America! Back in October before you decided to get a new president, the forces threatening to destroy your democracy were already moving mad, and we were mad about it, so we ranted about it. Come into #theRUME to hear is us vent about Evangelical Christians (both home and away) who have been sitting firmly in their nonsensical …
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Oh...you thought that was all? That was only the first round. In part two, we go again but we shift from home to school. We discuss how discipline and cultural expectations shaped our educational experiences - the lessons we learned, the identities we built and the ways these things have stayed with us even into adulthood. Moral of the story: all n…
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"Spare the rod and spoil the child ," they say. Welp...here we are ripe, grown and ready to clap back. This conversation is all about being raised the Nigerian way - with fear, trembling and plenty of cane. We talk about the additional pressures that come with being the first born, first girl, a girl and just existing as a child tbh. And we can't p…
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Baa baa black sheep, have you any wool? No sir, no ma'am, but we do have gist...and that's on Mary had a little lamb! In our toughest conversation yet, we discuss some of the dynamics and challenges we experienced growing up in our families and as part of the same extended family. This one's about dealing with expectation, pushing through reputatio…
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Would you say yes to love knowing it can't last? In this Mini Me, we discuss an episode of one of our favourite podcasts "Modern Love" that poses this very question. This follows up on a topic we introduced in our end of year conversation "Are You Done, 2020?" so make sure you give that a listen too for the full gist! P.S. Our Rumies heard this fir…
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2020 was a year for the books, and may the books be burned! In this conversation, we reflect on the highs, lows and weirdness of our year in all areas from family to relationships to just staying alive. We talk about new opportunities, dashed hopes, failed forays, too many tragedies and big girl growth. It's not always fun, but it's certainly bette…
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🎄🎅🏿 Happy Christmas!!! Our gift to you is a short and sweet new conversation! We hope you're enjoying the holidays! 🎁 We're saying we're not gold diggers and…we respect everyone's unique financial situation. This conversation is all about giving, receiving, money and power dynamics. We also talk about friendship. We still want to relax and be taken…
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SURPISE! It's the season of giving, so we're giving you a mini conversation to get you through the hump day before Christmas. On this one, we get into whether we would let our very hypothetical children believe in the very non-existent Santa Claus. P.S. This is the kind of exclusive content you would be receiving if you signed up to read our newsle…
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"He was not what I wanted, but he's what I needed." Can you imagine someone saying this about you? GOD FORBID. In this conversation, we discuss relationship scenarios where people are clearly being indulged and tolerated instead of adored and celebrated. Be warned: men are trash, women are trash, and the patriarchy is the trashest of them all. Foll…
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A panic attack, a first date, and plenty of feelings. This conversation is all about processing the emotions of challenging situations. Recorded shortly after the Lekki Massacre put a stop to the #EndSARS protests, we delve into the emotional dilemma of being a Nigerian in the diaspora during that moment while being invested in what was going on ba…
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Who are we? How did we get here? What is "Are You Me?" all about? We figured you might be curious, so we thought we'd answer your questions before we get started with the show. Follow us on social media: Twitter, InstagramBy Chioma and Mita
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This is a podcast about me, my cousin and our conversations. Our friendship and conversations are a space of openness for us, and now, it's open to you. Come in the room. New convos drop on Fridays. Follow us on Twitter, Instagram. Join Us in The RUME!By Chioma and Mita
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