The goal of healing from sexual betrayal isn't just stopping the crisis. It's ultimately moving into genuine and meaningful connection with ourselves, each other, and the world around us. Join licensed therapist and author Geoff Steurer as he interviews experts and other guests about how to move out of the crisis of sexual betrayal (affairs, sexual addiction, pornography addiction) and toward connection. The information in these interviews transcends religious and cultural lines, as we all s ...
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Hi, I'm Tammy Hill! I'm a Marriage & Family Therapist. I like to discuss relationships - particularly romantic ones! This podcast is for people who want to thrive in romantic relationships while living with integrity.
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Sweeping Your Side of the Street - Episode 252
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There are always complex challenges and dynamics in managing one's own recovery after betrayal or broken trust, and it is often tempting to become overly invested in a partner’s recovery journey as well. Perhaps you've heard the recovery metaphor of 'sweeping your side of the street,' and how partners can sometimes fall into patterns of over-contro…
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Episode 132 - Get Your Mom Out of Your Marriage!
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Episode 131 -- Understanding Sexual Response
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Episode 130 - Married & Dealing with Porn with Geoff Steurer
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"Sex Educated" - with Bonnie Young - Episode 251
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If you could go back in time, what would you share with your younger self about their body, sexuality, relationships, and sexual connection? In this episode, we welcome Bonnie Young, a licensed marriage and family therapist, and founder of Azure Counseling. Bonnie discusses her book 'Sex Educated: Letters from a Latter-day Saint Therapist to Her Yo…
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Episode129 - Good People Are Also Erotic with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
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00:00-04:40 Introduction to erotic discipleship 04:41-07:20 Jennifer’s thoughts on sexual thinking + discipleship 07:21-08:28 Tammy’s thoughts on discipleship 08:29-13:27moral frameworks and adjusting our thinking about sexuality 13:28-16:06 Our Heavenly Parents 16:07-16:48 Appreciating our bodies 16:49-21:39 Wisdom and sexuality 21:40-23:56 Accoun…
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Episode 128 - Sexual Integrity While Single with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
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This episode is for anyone not currently living in a married relationship, who is also striving to live personal covenants with God. Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and I discuss having sexual integrity while being single.By Tammy Hill
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How Loved Ones Can Offer Support - Episode 250
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When you are on the sidelines watching a friend go through the trauma of betrayal, it can be difficult not to choose sides or to know when to help and when to step back. In this episode we explore the importance of assessing your role in their support system, setting clear boundaries, and managing personal resources while offering support to an ind…
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Episode 127 - It Starts with Why with Jody Moore
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This fun episode with life coach, Jody Moore, is perfect for anyone wanting to understand how to live aligned and emotionally regulate. Don't miss this amazing Live Your Why podcast episode!By Tammy Hill
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Episode 126 -- Helping Her Feel Sexual Fulfillment with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
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00:00-01:00 - Introduction 01:00-07:33 - Why understanding female orgasm is important 07:33-08:55 - All about Jennifer Finlayson-Fife 08:55-15:08 - Culture and gender's influences in discovering pleasure 15:08-19:09 - The brain as an important factor in female orgasm 19:09-25:00 - Learning to surrender 25:00-31:25 - The importance of connection and…
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Should I Stay or Go? - with Amie Woolsey - Episode 249
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Typically our podcast and practice focuses on repairing relationships. But within that work is the very real question of “should I stay or should I go?” In this episode we invited Amie Woolsey to discuss the challenging topic of deciding whether to stay in or leave a relationship following serious betrayals such as infidelity, abuse, or neglect. Th…
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Should I Stay Or Go? - with Amie Woolsey - Episode 249
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Typically our podcast and practice focuses on repairing relationships. But within that work is the very real question of “should I stay or should I go?” In this episode we invited Amie Woolsey to discuss the challenging topic of deciding whether to stay in or leave a relationship following serious betrayals such as infidelity, abuse, or neglect. Th…
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Episode 125 -- Do You Know How to Love A Man?
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Episode 124 - What Does Equal Partnership in Marriage Look Like? with Hank Smith
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Can Safety Needs Go Too Far? - Episode 248
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The safety needs for a betrayed partner immediately following betrayal can often feel extreme initially, but are crucial for the nervous system’s stability and recovery. Join us as we discuss how the betrayed partner's safety can be ensured by eliminating triggers and threats, and the importance of the betraying partner's responsiveness to these ne…
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Episode 123 -- Married and Trying to Figure Out How To Make Friends with Hank Smith
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Episode 122 -- We're Married: How Do We Live Together? with Hank Smith
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An Affair, a Murder, and a Divorce - with Ashlee Boyson - Episode 247
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In this heartfelt interview, Ashlee Boyson shares her powerful story of overcoming devastating betrayal and loss. Starting from the time she became distant from her husband following the birth of their fifth child, Ashlee describes the overwhelming anxiety and turmoil she faced, culminating in discovering her husband's infidelity and his tragic mur…
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Episode 121 - Honeymoon Help with Hank Smith
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Episode 120 - Celebrate Your Marriage with Hank Smith
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Building a Life After Divorce - Episode 246
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In this episode I share a question from a listener coping with life after divorce. Men tend to have less social support than women, often due to couple and family friendships being more driven by the women. This can leave men feeling isolated and lonely after divorce if those friendships ended when the marriage dissolved. Join me as I discuss the e…
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Episode #119 -- No-Nonsense Dating Advice with Erika Ettin
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NOTICE: I recorded this podcast episode prior to changing Season 4's focus. IT IS EXCELLENT! Have you heard of Erika Ettin, dating coach on Instagram? Account titled @alittlenudge ... She is fantastic! Her direct, no-nonsense approach to dating in the world today is refreshingly helpful. If you're single, or know someone who is ... LISTEN IN! Our c…
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Unintentionally Hurting Your Partner - Episode 245
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There is a metaphor used in the Boy Scouts called the “blood circle”. To summarize, it encourages young boys to create an area around you where you are less likely to cut someone with your pocket knife. In this episode we are using this metaphor as it relates to unintentionally hurting others, specifically in the context of rebuilding trust in rela…
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Episode #118 -- Dating Anxiety with Trevor Hanson, LMFT
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NOTICE: I recorded this episode prior to shifting the focus to Marriage & Sexuality in Season 4. It is excellent! Do you know Trevor Hanson? He is amazing! He specializes in helping people find and keep secure relationships. Listen in to this podcast and learn more about overcoming Dating Anxiety. I know when I taught at BYU, many students experien…
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Disarming Coercive Behaviors - Episode 244
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How do you deal with coercion and emotional immaturity from other people? Do you defend yourself, disengage, or meet the other person at their level and try to play their game? In this episode we discuss the importance of disengaging from unhealthy interactions, not engaging in defense, and focusing on our own actions and reactions. The Power of Co…
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Episode #117 -- Sex & Scrupulosity with Bonnie Young
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Scrupulosity is a form of OCD that affects about 5% of the Western population. It can be especially prevalent in religious communities, like members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. I have worked with and know many people who experience this challenge. In marriage, where sexuality is an important part of the relationship, when on…
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The Challenge of Rebuilding Trust - With Brannon Patrick - Episode 243
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I was recently invited to be a guest on the “Therapy Brothers” podcast. In this thought-provoking episode, Brannon Patrick and I delve into the complex and crucial topic of rebuilding trust in relationships affected by betrayal. We explore the foundational role of honesty in the healing process, discuss the challenges and misconceptions about trust…
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The Challenge of Rebuilding Trust - with Brannon Patrick - Episode 243
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I was recently invited to be a guest on the “Therapy Brothers” podcast. In this thought-provoking episode, Brannon Patrick and I delve into the complex and crucial topic of rebuilding trust in relationships affected by betrayal. We explore the foundational role of honesty in the healing process, discuss the challenges and misconceptions about trust…
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Episode #116 -- Teenagers, Marriage & Sex with Brooke Romney
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You know that Brooke Romney writes all about how to help teenagers have manners and be kind, but have you ever heard about talking sex with teenagers!? This Live Your Why episode is excellent! Tammy and Brooke discuss talking with teens about sex AND about navigating a passionate marriage while teenagers are living at home. Listen and enjoy this in…
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Inpatient vs. Outpatient Treatment - Episode 242
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Sobriety, safety, support, and stability are crucial in the aftermath of addiction and betrayal, and can be found in both inpatient and outpatient treatment scenarios. Join me as I outline the importance of personalized considerations, support systems, and cost implications in making the decision between inpatient and outpatient treatment for addic…
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