Alejohndra are back with tales of their Egypt trip. — (1:25) John and Alexandra recap their retreat to Egypt — (9:05) What about the aliens? / the construction of the pyramids had to be an exercise in presence and intention — (16:23) The femininity of Egypt — (21:04) Egypt peaked early and then fell off hard — (31:06) Special John the mystical guid…

In this episode of WILTBY Josh interviews Louis. — (4:50) Josh processing his 2-wing and meeting Louis at the zone / the team love vs team truth confrontation — (11:45) 3w2 facilitating and orchestrating connection vs 3w4 distant excellence — (16:35) The philosophy of truth vs love in psychotherapy — (20:49) Carl Rogers unconditional positive regar…

We watched Poor things right before recording our impressions and thoughts. Call the nota4 hotline at (323) 696-0647. — (2:40) Overview of Poor Things and its ode to the head center — (8:40) The surgeon is a 5 — (13:22) 6 reactivity leveling the playing field with negativity — (16:30) hexad vs attachment response to suffering in the world — (23:45)…

They don’t want you to know. — (3:10) Nines are everyone’s least favorite mud cattle — (6:38) Sixes are annoying cult maintainers — (11:13) Sevens are the slutty surprise suicide Enneagrammer — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types clearly. Watch recent classes on Josh Brolin, Frank Herbert, and the Bermuda Overlays and get type…

A must-watch for every 9 and 9-fixer. Watch Dogville and then come back to this. — (8:42) Why we’re talking about Dogville / Plot overview — (19:53) The hope of attachment vs the leverage of rejection — (24:30) How things went from bad to worse — (30:04) The arrogance of 9 — (37:32) Grace confronted by the Dogville principle — (47:14) Grace represe…

Live from Harlem tunneling thru the catacombs of the heart. Watch here: https://youtu.be/tnkHm0LCX_c — (2:18) Alright.. the heart center live — (6:45) The value of shame / heart-2nd impresisons — (13:15) Josh’s core 3 image and sensitivity to self-abandonment — (16:07) Decoupling emotion from the feeling of the heart center — (20:40) Shame shame sh…

New insights emerging on having your heart center last. — (4:22) Alexandra’s new insights about heart-last and image being a cultivated sense of identity — (12:27) Being a social-blind image type / reinforcing who you are to yourself — (16:28) Painting your self-portrait and updating how things reflect on you — (23:18) Aesthetic of personality and …

We’re back at it looking at reactive harmonics. — (3:22) Reactive vs frustration / harmonics is how we resolve a situation — (7:16) ‘Hopeful’ better describes what positive outlook is up to / reactive aims to uncover where the other is located under duress — (9:51) Katt Williams and 6 exposing the worst case scenario — (12:34) 4/6/8 testing to see …

Looking back on 2023 with libations. Happy new year you filthy animals. — (2:20) Our impressions of BHE year IV / shifts in the business of the enneagram — (8:31) Why interest in the enneagram is taking a dip — (14:27) Do people know about BHE or nah — (20:06) Enneagram reddit thinks Naranjo is the truth — (27:31) Highlights of 2023 episodes / the …

Chatting the enneagram in the movies. — (2:48) Non-romantic sexual instinct in Suspiria / sx-middle teases / Twin Peaks’ weird sp/sx — (10:32) Holy Mountain and Enter the Void as sexual instinct movies — (14:39) Paul Thomas Anderson and attachment stories — (16:38) How rare sexual is in the stacking / most movies are sp/so / Ari Aster makes derange…

Od’s with us this week to dive into the interesting world of astrocartography. — (10:12) What is astrocartography and how’d we get into this? — (16:08) Moving to significant areas on your astro map — (21:17) How to create your astrocartography map / what the circles on the map mean — (25:25) John’s lines confirm his love affair with Egypt — (29:04)…

Continuing where we left off with Ikram and the Objective Personality Social Types. We’ve been typed #3 for DG, Alexandra, and John. #2 for Emeka. #4 for Ikram. — (6:16) The sp/so framing of the social roles concept makes it smaller / does social roles have any implications for the sexual instinct? — (8:40) Emeka vs John sx/sp with responsibility v…

We’re talking about the Objective Personality Social Types this week with Ikram. We’ve been typed #3 for DG, Alexandra, and John. #2 for Emeka. #4 for Ikram. — (7:55) *Gasp* John is taking responsibility / intro to OPS social roles — (14:18) What does flex mean? — (20:03) Flex vs friends — (27:39) Friend saviors get their flex through connections w…

Live from Brooklyn backrooms answering your questions. Watch here: https://youtu.be/WlHQcWEglks — (2:32) How important is trifix order? — (12:10) What feels like boring chores to the sexual instinct? — (17:31) How DG experiences his lines of connection as a 9 with no attachment fixes — (25:26) What cakes would each of us bake? — (30:13) How to rizz…

The wet heart types. Live pod this weekend. Be on the lookout for details. — (4:35) Assertive hexad types being out of touch with their shame — (6:26) Shame is not a great word for what the heart types are experiencing / identity needing to feel special — (12:57) Heart types needing to reinforcing pictures to feel a felt sense of specialness — (15:…

The fuming and stewing gut types. — (4:03) Alexandra wants to be led when she’s in the mood — (9:05) David is very angry at the sun — (16:49) And the plague of bread people — (20:35) Alexandra finally admits she has a rage problem — (30:30) Emeka’s rage is the fuel that keeps the car running people over — (34:25) 8 vs 1 fix anger and boundaries / t…

Delving into the fear and anxiety of the head types. — (3:57) 5 fear of being contaminated — (10:40) Avarice is a sense that personhood isn’t robust enough to be fully exposed in the world — (11:30) The 8 line to 5 and the 2 line to 8 — (16:30) Ways to work on 5 avarice — (19:18) 5 fear as one way endless monologues — (24:17) How Emeka and John exp…

— (8:25) Riffing on new terms for social / resonance and frequency — (15:08) Social as a 3D matrix / What is the big deal with what social types are looking for? — (20:15) We feel social chemistry with those who we feel regulated by — (23:17) Social boners and turn ons / the sensation of social in the body — (26:42) Social-blinds aren’t updating so…

A sexual 4w5 and a social 4w3 walk into a bar. — (4:21) Vulnerability and sensitivity as a 4 — (7:21) The difference between 9 sensitivity and 4 sensitivity — (10:55) Type 4 is over-individuating to express singular identity — (13:30) Joseph won’t laugh at your jokes / 4 image ego self-editing and controlling natural heart expression — (16:37) John…

A horde of social types attempt a roast of the social-blind legends. — (7:55) Let the roasts begin — (10:50) Creeps and Homewreckers — (13:19) The limited personas and channels of engagement of social blinds — (14:33) Joseph’s social 4 impressions of working with social blinds / social blinds being terrible judges of people — (20:21) Podcasting in …

We’re joined by two social types, Ikram & Kristen, to explore the pain and suffering of the social instinct. — (12:33) Post-zone reflections on social pain and longing — (16:44) Potential dangers in social space — (22:48) The naivety of social-blinds with the social game — (26:50) Why people tear others down to prop themselves up — (29:47) Social i…

Introducing the attachment support group, brought to you by Alexandra and Josh. — (12:36) Why do attachment types need support? — (14:18) A brief overview on what attachment types are — (20:17) What accountability means for attachment types / waking up from self-abandonment — (29:00) Attaching vs preference / the gift of attachment is flexibility —…

We’re back roasting the crackhead and lovebomb babies of the enneagram. — (22:17) Why do we call self-pres blinds babies? / Overly dependent on the attention of other people — (26:24) Self-pres is self-regulation and self-containment. Not just paying your bills and taking care of yourself — (29:54) Difficulty making long term choices / a blindspot …

Watch the live pod on youtube: https://youtu.be/lhaDNCSuwW4 — (18:41) What we’ve contributed to the enneagram as a group — (23:18) Josh leads us through piecing together the history of the group — (37:44) DG’s instinct cards and the birth of the collage exercise — (44:34) How Alexandra found the group and typing meltdowns — (53:51) Courtney finding…

— (10:40) Welcome to our roast of the sx-blinds — (15:52) so/sp are way too serious and stuck-up about relational categories and context — (21:40) so/sp’s do it with their gloves on in the museum — (25:57) The power drive of so/sp / lineage and geneology?! — (30:35) What we like about so/sp reluctantly — (37:38) The roast of sp/so begins - the fixa…

— (6:30) Peering into the catfish void and the starvation of connection — (13:10) The failure of social in the west and the nuclear family / catfish as an internet age phenomenon — (19:50) Soft white underbelly and the horrors that arise from a lack of community — (23:42) What’s in it for the catfisher? — (27:13) We’re all catfishing a little bit o…

Our reluctant cult leader finally decided to pick up where she left off. — (12:24) Alexandra’s intro to 3w2 vs 3w4 — (16:06) 3w4 self as exemplary object vs 3w2 self as interpersonal star — (18:07) 3w4 bitchy frustration vs 3w2 schmoozy rejection — (32:00) Are 3w2’s better manipulators than 3w4’s? — (38:00) 3w2 vs 3w4 singers / which is more of a c…

— (4:16) What it’s like to have frustration, rejection, or attachment last — (14:26) Emeka’s rejection/frustration refined border freakouts — (23:16) DG & Alexandra are rejection last ghostly 9s — (25:22) John’s frustration/rejection locked down non-personhood — (32:54) What 4s with more attachment are like — (42:55) Attachment/rejection are stable…

— (1:27) Am I just attracted to 9s because they’re soft? — (12:41) ♫ The softest place on earth ♫ — (16:53) What do people like about hooking up with 8s or 1s? — (25:33) How do I help my 7 process grief? — (34:08) The fixated 9 crusade around healing — (39:38) Why are people so obsessed with image when image types are so rare? / what’s it like to h…

— (13:24) Noticing people from an attraction lens / sexual blind weird algebra — (18:32) Trying to describe what attraction is without using social signifiers — (25:09) The chemical infection of the sexual instinct and the drug analogy — (28:03) What happens after the merging of sexual? — (30:55) The mercurial growth element of sexual chemistry / s…

Super spreader hormoan instinct talks. — (7:47) Nancy chimes in on instinct love languages and what men really want but won’t say they want — (13:01) Sex work revealing missing needs and desires / strip club talk — (20:28) What’s up with America’s hyper-sexuality vs sexual conservatism — (25:52) Culture as an instinctual meme / Latin culture drawin…

Dearly beloved / we’re gathered here today / to love through this thing called instinct — (2:59) We make our dominant instinct a religion / how we manipulate what love is through our dominant instinct — (5:47) Integrating the social instinct’s verbal-contextual expressions of love / Alexandra’s ‘love cup’ religion propaganda — (15:03) Zooming out a…

Deserted by the others, the two lone swordsmen continued into the abyss of the unknown. With only memories of forgotten ancient texts to guide them. These are their stories. — (5:25) The role of cultural differences in the expression of type / confrontational blunt 9s from other cultures — (12:20) How our early life experiences and environment crea…

Part 2 baby. — (1:39) The grounded reality of this cult vs the ridiculousness of Holy Hell — (7:45) We’re all vulnerable to sources of idealized parenting — (19:25) The school was for outcasts primed to fall for a parental manipulator — (28:35) 9’s attaching to a story as a form of maintaining psychological comfort — (31:34) We should watch Holy He…

Watch Stolen Youth on Hulu and get into this. — (5:13) Larry is an 8w9 862 Wouldn’t Hurt a Fly — (9:18) What’s so compelling about a type like Larry? — (13:00) The government and military as social hooks used to manipulate victims — (24:43) Setting an attachment landscape and opening the door for alternative realities with ‘taking responsibility’ —…

Check out our prior episodes on objective personality if you haven’t already. John - Ti/Se-CS/P(B) / Alexandra - Se/Fe-PB/S(C) / David - Te/Se-PC/S(B) / Emeka - Se/Te-PC/B(S). Watch Stolen Youth on Hulu for next week. — (5:59) 3 Playas vs John’s Play-last / What is Blast — (10:28) Play is co-creative real time learning / PC vs PB — (14:51) Blindspo…

Cont’d. — (6:02) This is now a 9 enabling self-pres podcast — (11:26) Become a hope machine / lift some weights — (18:14) We should do an episode on the self-pres love language — (21:11) John’s sleep vs Emeka’s sleep last as recluse cavemen — (26:29) Tackling big life topics through the lens of the enneagram / most relationship advice is missing th…

We’re talking about love, relationships, and sex again. — (4:34) Friendship jealousy and what causes it — (13:38) The tension between expecting too much from a romantic partner and not expecting much at all — (17:05) Western isolation puts more pressure on romantic relationships — (20:25) The need to be seen in a relationship and what it means — (2…

Riffing and winging it. — (4:25) Josh’s new object relational theory of the centers and the superego triad — (10:20) The hornevians might explain why certain types are next to each other — (11:18) 8w9 vs 8w7 centralized vs decentralized leverage — (17:06) 1w9 vs 1w2 — (30:25) 4w5/5w4 ephemeral self-invention — (44:00) The hell of the double hexad t…

Haven’t done one of these in a while. Applications to join the cult of cream are open today. — (10:32) Someone had a lot to be sorry for — (11:28) Borderline personality disorder, suicide, and 4 / mental illness and enneagram types — (18:08) Our body impressions of the heart types — (26:07) Heart types are rare / why are most people 6 or 9 and why …

Picking up where we left off with Nancy’s homecoming. Then onwards to David and Alexandra. — (8:04) David’s shares a haunting dream he had after his mother’s death — (17:03) Kristen probes David for more and interprets what be might represented — (36:41) Alexandra shares a dream she had about bleeding middle fingers on subways — (41:27) Kristen dra…

We’re not crying you’re crying. Kristen is back to psychoanalyze our dreams and traumas. Starting with Nancy. — (10:37) 9s sleeping all the damn time / hit up the Loveline if you’re an insomniac 9 — (15:38) Nancy tells us the story of her traumatic disaster move to the Netherlands — (30:34) And how it directly relates to a juicy dream she had about…

— (3:16) Nancy shares a dream with a recurring theme / what the unconscious is trying to tell us with a repeated dream — (10:59) Compensatory dreams / John’s social last dreams and parasocial drama — (23:32) Working with Kristen on dreams — (31:39) Exploring how dreams are shaped by instincts — (35:43) Alexandra’s persistent dreams about women To b…

Our dreamlord Kristen is with us this week to discuss exploring the corridors of our nocturnal psychodramas. — (9:48) How Kristen got into dream interpretation — (14:52) Dreams are a way to open up a dialogue with your unconscious and push the ego off its pedestal — (19:14) Collective projecting from a lack of a transcendent function — (21:48) What…

Josh is back to unveil his profound new model of the centers and object relations from a point of view of development. This is major. — (13:30) Josh explains how his variant model of object relations and the centers came about / issues with the protecting and nurturing object relational framework — (20:03) Ken Wilber’s holonic theory of consciousne…

Join us on our annual end of year drunk pod looking back on 2022’s ups and downs. — (7:13) Parasocial discord and drawing lines in the sand — (15:23) Looking back on the vibe of 2022 and the growth of the pod — (23:38) The year of Emeka slowing down / DG’s hot nerd creative updates — (32:44) Revisiting Alejohndra conscious sex talk and the sexual i…

Picking up where we left off with Josh and Spiral Dynamics. — (1:38) The conflict of what it means to help people with the enneagram from the worldviews of different stages of development — (7:33) Yellow distinguishes between and integrates interior subjectivity and external objectivity — (12:53) DG’s 7-fix ain’t got time for yellow — (16:31) Yello…

BHE 135 - THE DEVELOPMENTAL ENNEAGRAM [PART I] - Josh Lavine Josh of What It’s Like To Be You is hangin with us this week. He broke down how the enneagram is missing and needs a developmental* model (*Not Riso’s Levels of Development) — (14:44) Our understanding of the enneagram evolves with the development of an introspective eye — (16:51) The abi…

Niklas joins us to dive more into the inner workings of our favorite type. — (11:22) Niklas’ journey realizing and seeing his 2 rejection type structure — (14:18) Emptiness is what ignites the 2’s rejection dynamic — (17:38) The irritating penetration of 2 rejection / what’s behind the desperation of the possession dynamic — (21:09) The all or noth…

Our favorite type finally got winged. — (1:27) How much does the center of the wing play a role? — (22:21) Contrasting the attachment 3-wing vs the frustration 1-wing — (27:12) 2w3 as a mouth and emoji queen — (38:09) Justifying Pride with the double image of 2w3 vs the superego of 2w1 / the assertiveness of 2s — (42:37) Ego boundaries of assertive…