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My mom’s King Ranch Chicken casserole. My small hometown in East Texas. My eleventh grade choir teacher. Know what all of these things have in common? None of them are famous. None have been written about or sung about or reported on. You might call them “ordinary.” Welcome to Ordinary People. Ordinary Things. Where we talk about all the things that we see and touch and fear and feel and eat and hope for - every day. Because that’s what life is, you know? It’s one miracle after another - we ...
 
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An ordinary woman bares her soul in order to force a self-reckoning. Middle-age caught me by surprise. Our nest had recently become empty, I was working in the same office job for the last seven years, and like so many others before me, I wondered— Is this all there is? I had lost track of my writing dreams decades ago. This podcast is a record of, not only the journey back to a writing life, but also the journey back to my Self. Who was I before alcoholism, marriage, parenting, career, and ...
 
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How and why I began podcasting. Hear details about this creative journey that I had not felt brave enough to share until now. What quitting the day job revealed to me about who I thought I was. An FML moment for sure. https://onbecomingmaria.blog
 
Unscripted and unplanned, today I merely turned on the mic and let my thoughts fall out. I am talking about recent triggers, but not the kind some of us are prone to discussing. Sexual abuse comes up only as an aside. https://onbecomingmaria.blog
 
After more than fifty years of faithful television watching, why I decided it was time to cancel our TV cable subscription. And how cable cutting became an important component of my creative journey. https://onbecomingmaria.blog
 
Housekeeping announcements about the podcast and blog content schedule. Also, a little insight into my podcast positioning. https://onbecomingmaria.blog
 
How I went from being privately emotional about life's sucker punches to being calmer in my mental responses. Work life as a black woman in all-white work spaces. Also, noticing the differences in the routines of big city lifestyles versus small-town living. AA Twelve Steps rescued me from alcoholic thinking. https://onbecomingmaria.blog…
 
My meditation journey: how I started, why I stopped and how recommitting to daily meditation changed everything in a good way. https://onbecomingmaria.blog
 
David and I have been married 24 years. That’s a hella long time. Today, my guest is none other than the attorney general himself, David Radke. We take on your questions about our lives and our marriage. Some of these questions are in response to my book Eat Cake. Be Brave. Some are in response to our struggles with infertility and our marriage ...…
 
A talk about the quiet and solitudinous ways of an introvert. Recognizing, in retrospect, how important alone time had always been for me in the workplace. Also, a look at how introverts tend to draw close to each other in the outside world. https://onbecomingmaria.blog
 
Out of all of the podcast episodes that I have hosted, today’s guest is the most excited of all. My special guest today is my son Rocco Radke. My daughter Remi and other family and friends have been on the show. It’s now Rocco’s turn, and he chose today’s topic. We discuss our upcoming family sitcom that will be airing on the USA Network either ...…
 
A talk about embracing change and stepping out of our comfort zones. How daily routines and the sameness of old habits can lead to falling into ruts. https://onbecomingmaria.blog
 
School is starting, and I’m nervous. Remi is starting middle school. I’m not worried about Remi, I know that she can handle herself. I’m actually worried about how I have done with Remi. There comes a time when we throw are children out into the deep end and see if they can swim. Have we said the right things? Have we taught our children to res ...…
 
How pursuing my dreams as an older woman makes me feel like the window of opportunity might be closing. Being worried about racing against the imagined clock and running out of time.
 
Old ways of thinking get in the way of my writing, causing me to feel like I don't belong. Lately, I have so many creative tasks in the works, my inner trash-talker wants me to pump the breaks. Fear wants to slow me down. https://onbecomingmaria.blog
 
This is a super fun episode with a guest I just love. Raegan Williamson from Raegan Williamson Aesthetics & Permanent Cosmetics is here to talk about everything to do with our faces. Reagan has been doing makeup since she was a teenager and has been a nurse for 10 years. She does amazing work with eyebrow microblading, permanent eyeliner, and b ...…
 
Whose idea was that decision? Are we really calling the shots in our lives or have we been giving our power away? The magic and brilliance in each of us can shine a whole lot brighter if we let it. https://onbecomingmaria.blog
 
This episode gets real. If you have my book Eat Cake. Be Brave. Then you know that weight has been an issue all of my life. One of my earliest memories was getting out of bed and finding my mom eating frosting and watching Johnny Carson. I’ve tried different diets, and I know it is about the journey, letting God guide me, and having a conversat ...…
 
An emotional hangover and a bit of panic. https://onbecomingmaria.blog
 
We are on the book tour. Today, we are broadcasting from the road as we hit San Antonio and try to find a nice lunch spot. So far, we have been to Houston, Dallas, and New York. For this episode, we have decided to record each time we are in the car. So, we are taking you on the road with us. If you ever wanted to be in the car with David and M ...…
 
A look at some the mind-resistant yo-yoing along the journey to calling myself a creative entrepreneur. What it has taken to pursue the dream chase in middle-age. The official business I now find myself in. https://onbecomingmaria.blog/2018/07/18/body-image-blogging-content-other-updates/
 
This show is going to be a bit different. It is my book birthday. It is launch day of my book Eat Cake. Be Brave. Imagine that you have been keeping a diary since 7th grade, and it was made public. That is kind of how I’m feeling. I’m sharing today, and all of my launch day feelings and emotions with my wonderful husband David and you my wonder ...…
 
A reckoning and reconciling update-- New Maria continues her merge with parts of Old Maria. A look back on blogging days while active in alcoholism, a little potty mouth history, lamenting lost friendships, and bragging about my Brooklyn roots. https://onbecomingmaria.blog/2018/07/09/a-slice-of-ramble/…
 
There is a chapter in my book called Chicken Fried Women. This chapter is about the women in my family who I am very close to. I call us chicken fried, because we may be battered on the outside with our scars and our stories, but we are soft and tender on the inside. With, of course, a little spice thrown in. I have four incredible guests today ...…
 
The complicated relationship I have with my mother is one filled with all the things, pain, a little bit of joy, humor, a lot of sadness, and a smidgen of regret. Society's messages about motherhood. This was a hard episode for me to record. https://onbecomingmaria.blog
 
In honor of the Fourth of July, I want to talk about freedom. I’m talking about the kind of freedom that happens to us, by us, and in spite of us. I’m going to talk about the kind of imprisonment that I brought on myself, but first an excerpt from my upcoming book. Eat Cake. Be Brave. I’ve been sharing excerpts that pertain to my podcasts. Toda ...…
 
Triggered by a song which reminded me how different life is today and how much I've changed in two years. I recall frequent teary days when I was miserable in a job I had grown to hate. https://onbecomingmaria.blog From my morning run playlist, These Days by Angel Snow-- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lTw4OXG4eEA…
 
A little bit of talk about my sex life. https://onbecomingmaria.blog
 
My good friend Whitney Lindsey will be here to share her story, but first I’ll be reading an excerpt from my new book Eat Cake. Be Brave. This is excerpt is titled The Old Tinkerbell Mermaid Rose Lamp, and I feel that it is especially relevant to the conversation I have with Whitney. I met Whitney when she was going through an extremely rough t ...…
 
Untangling my mind from patriarchal programming. Being on this creative journey has revealed how securely I had locked my mind into a mental prison of my own making. A look at old me versus new me. https://onbecomingmaria.blog
 
As most of you know, I have a daughter named Remi. This episode is about another Remi, and her amazing family. Crystal Sepulvado is a wife, mother, and nurse practitioner who had her faith shaken to the core when her now nine month old daughter Remi was born eight weeks early with multiple health problems requiring multiple surgeries. I am exci ...…
 
I am broadcasting live from the Social Event of the Season. Even though I had been planning and talking about the event, I got nervous right before and even considered not going. The event turned out to be even more beautiful, precious, and fun than I thought it would be. It was everything I wanted it to be and more. The theme for the event was ...…
 
A very introspective episode about my old life versus my new life and the lessons learned. How I navigated going from life as a social worker to working in NYC as a corporate employee. Using the podcast to start a self-love revolution. https://onbecomingmaria.blog
 
Today’s episode isn’t child friendly. Listen to it when the kids aren’t around or when you have your headphones on. I kick off this show with a story about how I tried to have a talk about sex with my daughter Remi. I thought it was going well except for the part where she was curled up on the floorboard of the car and the confusion about wheth ...…
 
Recalling my days as a sell-out. How and why (in my old life) I sold myself out, sold my sister out, and sold fellow black people out. The choices made due to wounding become inevitable reckonings for us all. How I have been discovering grace. http://whenigrowupcoach.com https://onbecomingmaria.blog/2018/05/16/courage-not-guaranteed/…
 
I lived in Nashville Tennessee for 16 years. It was beautiful. There were rolling hills. We had four perfect seasons. The shopping and the culture were to die for. A friend visited me and said it was like being in a Hidden Valley Ranch commercial. It was beautiful and wonderful. In spite of the culture and beauty, it’s not the scenery of a town ...…
 
What do any of us really know about expressing LOVE? Do you love intentionally or are you just going through the motions? I used to think the idea of a love quest was ridiculous until I actually tried it. onbecomingmaria.blog
 
There's a chapter in my upcoming book about something that happened to me when I was 13. Don't get sad or nervous, it wasn't a traumatic thing. Maybe it was a little traumatic, but you'll enjoy reading about it. It reminded me of how hard it is to be 13. It's hard being 11 to 18. Today, I am talking to a 12-year-old. On this very day May 22, 20 ...…
 
I'm making a confession about a secret I am intentionally keeping on this creative journey. onbecomingmaria.blog
 
Our hair is one of the first things people notice about us. It frames our face, maybe even our identity. A good hair day versus a bad hair day can affect our self-esteem and our mood. Maybe this is something I always innately knew, because even as a child I was obsessed with hair, hair styles, and magazines about hair styles. Today, we are talk ...…
 
How being a truth-teller informed my blogging style, podcasting style and changed my life. How it also helped me to leave shame and secret-keeping behind, to become a woman who is an open book about her experiences. An update on my Love Journey. A look at crying with intention. onbecomingmaria.blog
 
Sometimes you meet someone who you just know is going to be a good friend. Michelle Briley is one of those people for me. She is a great woman, and someone who I have known and enjoyed while we both have embarked on our spiritual journey. Michelle Briley is the President of The Junior League of Lufkin which is about women building better commun ...…
 
This is not the show I had planned for today but life happens, so I'm sharing something a little tender which I have been dealing with lately. onbecomingmaria.blog
 
Are you a teacher? Do you love a teacher, know a teacher, had a teacher, or have been a teacher before? If so, this podcast is specifically for you. I was a voice teacher for three weeks and found it scary and terrifying and ended up quitting. Teachers are underpaid and under appreciated. Today, I am talking to teachers and those who love teach ...…
 
Learning how to embrace all of my differing personas. Staying true to who I am, even the shadowy parts which tend to elicit shameful feelings. How a conversation - about a racially charged article - in mixed company made me feel like I dropped the ball on honesty. onbecomingmaria.blog
 
Bringing forth my Essence; allowing who I really am to shine through. onbecomingmaria.blog
 
About two years ago, I was on staff at a church as a worship pastor. My career took a bit of the turn, and I found myself traveling and speaking and writing a book. Eventually, I had to step down from the position at the church, and it killed me. My new career was exciting, but I realized that I was having trouble keeping up with everything, be ...…
 
A plug for daily meditation and quitting your day job (if it makes you miserable). A reminder that there is brilliance and talent inside all of us, without exception. We've been misled to believe that only some of us have gifts. 10:24 The chip I used to wear on my shoulder at the workplace 15:40 My old paranoia about friendships in the workplac ...…
 
Spring is here, and it is time to talk about fashion. I have two lovely guests who are moms and amazing women. They have also opened a boutique clothing store in my hometown of Lufkin, Texas. Nicole Carter and Sarah Levine are the co-owners of Spruce a boutique fashion store. On this episode, we talk about what colors are in for the spring seas ...…
 
A look back on my activities of the last few months and how they relate to the direction of the podcast. The confidence title is taken from the lyrics of rapper, Lil Wayne's Rebirth album, appropriately titled-- especially in light of the changes I've been making in my own life. I also reference a recent experience with racial terrorism and how ...…
 
You are all invited to the social event of the season. It is literally called The Social Event. Join me and a bunch of ladies just like us on May 4th and May 5th in Lufkin, Texas. The theme is Live Known. This is not your mom’s Sunday School retreat. My best friend in the whole world is on the show. Her name is Karli Soule, and her beautiful da ...…
 
A look at how I arrived at my understanding of what love is based on mixed messages from a dysfunctional childhood and conflicting definitions via entertainment media. I admit to some feelings of entitlement due in part to my initial anger as a victim of abuse and the habitual thoughts inspired by those feelings. Finally, how an aging, oft-inco ...…
 
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