Best Ray Aguirre Podcasts (2024)

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126 - Throw Some Cheese on that, B*tch 49:09

8h ago49:09

49:09

The Biffs, Stefani and Ray, put new columnist, R. Eric Thomas of Asking Eric (Washington Post), to the test. He’s got big shoes to fill as he steps in following Amy’s (Ask Amy) departure. An anti-gay rights in-law puts together a family tree and leaves the writer’s husband of ten years out, because of her stance on same-sex marriage. A man who enjo…

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Blue Technologies and Why San Diego Should be the Blue Finance Capital of the World 27:52

1d ago27:52

27:52

This episode features Greg Murphy from Fugro, a world leader in providing geo-data consulting through mapping, modeling, and monitoring information about our planet and the structures built upon it. Greg is also Vice Chair on the Board at the San Diego Maritime Museum. In the conversation, Greg talks about the innovative future of blue technologies…

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125 - Ass First. Adult Later. 55:31

3d ago55:31

55:31

The Biffs celebrate twenty-one years of Ask Amy with a send-off/tribute, including some of her best advice to date. Amy gets pranked in our first question, when a writer's scenario is the movie plot of the 2003 cult-classic, The Room. The second writer is a woman whose unchecked privilege, along with that of her family/friend group, gets in the way…

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124 - Say Uncle & I'll Stop 53:58

11d ago53:58

53:58

This Biffs read through Laura Collins's column in the Metro.co.uk this week. One writer asks for guidance on coming out to her mother about sleeping with her uncle. Another questions that status of his marriage when his postpartum wife cheats on him, following his unplanned vacation with his friends. And finally, a young man, sexually harassed by h…

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Weaving San Diego Maritime History Into The Modern World — Dr. Ray Ashley, Maritime Museum San Diego 24:51

15d ago24:51

24:51

This week focuses on San Diego’s maritime heritage with Dr. Ray Ashley from the Maritime Museum of San Diego. As President and CEO, Dr. Ashley leads one of the most prominent institutions on San Diego Bay, recognized as one of the top three maritime museums globally. It includes one of the finest collections of historic vessels, including the oldes…

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123 - McMuff Me 55:55

17d ago55:55

55:55

In this week’s episode of Ill Advised, Stefani and Ray read from Miss Manners column from UExpress. One writer asks for help in determining when to relate and when to express empathy when someone close is sharing a personal problem. Another writer takes a tumble and becomes the joke of the friend group. Finally, a change in a cancer survivors appea…

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122 - Best of the Biffs (Part VI) 47:02

28d ago47:02

47:02

It's another trip down memory lane as we relive some our favorite advice columns from our early days. From episode 13 - Swipe if You Want the Pipe, the Biffs address a writer's plan to get down and dirty with an internet beau. A man's uncut member becomes a Jewish mother's biggest worry, in episode 32 - Was Jesus Circumcised. And from Episode 72 - …

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121 - Peen or Not? 51:22

1M ago51:22

51:22

Coleen Nolan, the Mirror.co.uk's agony aunt's column, is the topic of this week’s conversation between the Biffs. A woman’s insecurities over the life her daughter lives prompts her question to Coleen. Another woman’s husband doesn’t like it when she’s barefoot on vacation, when she just wants to air out the puppies. Finally, when your Biff doesn’t…

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Educating Youth and Creating Intersections in Ocean Science — Janaira Quigley, Executive Director of Ocean Connectors 21:58

1M ago21:58

21:58

In this episode, Jen welcomes Janaira Quigley, Executive Director of Ocean Connectors, a conservation non-profit program that connects youth with coastal wildlife. In their chat, Janaira talks about the mission of Ocean Connectors and how the San Diego Bay factors into their programs. She touches on the program’s teaching topics, habitat restoratio…

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120 - Little Piece of Pork Rind 1:00:29

1M ago1:00:29

1:00:29

The Biff’s read through advice from Jenee Desmond-Harris of the Slate’s Dear Prudence, this week. A woman finds her husband’s notes to himself on the best way to handle her in several scenarios. A husband cheats on his wife with the person she has a restraining order on, and now she’s ready to give notice at their co-owned business. Lastly, when th…

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119 - Ketamine. Okay, We'll Start Here. 1:15:46

2M ago1:15:46

1:15:46

In this week’s episode, Stefani and Ray read from “Dear Abby.” A woman struggles to support her daughter through divorce when she learns about their open marriage. An ornate cut glass cake stand is the final straw after a writer feels snubbed by their family friend. Finally, a young woman is torn about her parent’s divorce after her father lays bla…

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Protecting the Bay’s Environment and Promoting Sustainable Freight Solutions — Sharon Cloward, President of the San Diego Working Waterfront 22:17

2M ago22:17

22:17

In this episode, Jen welcomes Sharon Cloward, President of San Diego Working Waterfront. Sharon first talks about the San Diego Bay's geography and jurisdictions before getting more into sustainable freight solutions and protecting the San Diego Bay's environmental and economic value. She then discusses the San Diego port master plan and environmen…

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118 - You're a Glory Hole 42:36

2M ago42:36

42:36

Out of the Vault: This week, the Biffs bring you an episode with unaired segments from previous recordings. From Boston Globe's Love Letters, Stefani and Ray discuss a twenty-four years old's serial monogamy and her plea to ditch the habit. From The Slate's How To Do It, the Biffs learn about garden party- and kitchen table-polyamory when a writer'…

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117 - Runneth Up Bitch 53:42

2M ago53:42

53:42

The Biffs take on Reddit’s Am I The Assh*le again this week. A man’s culinary skills are challenged when his sister’s boyfriend marches out in a huff in search of his own hot sauce. When a man is sniffed by a dog at a pet-friendly eatery, he barks at it’s owners. Self-sufficiency is a lesson best learned at self-check out. Finally, a grown man is b…

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116 - Unauthorized Stripper Pole 1:02:46

3M ago1:02:46

1:02:46

In this week's episode, the Biffs, Stefani and Ray, read from the Reddit Am I The Asshole (AITA) thread. A man begs for judgement after serving his stay-at-home-mom wife with a performance evaluation based on the way she parents their children. Another Redditor brings her case before the internet after her roommate snitches on her to the landlord f…

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115 - Forgive Me Father 1:08:12

3M ago1:08:12

1:08:12

Sally Land's Dear Deidre of the Sun.co.uk takes the stage this week, with some controversial advice topics. What do you do when the man of your dreams turns out to be your long lost half-brother - and you want to keep sleeping with him? A man is pocket dialed by his wife and listens in to her moans and groans before busting her at home. A love chil…

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114 - Not a Sex Doll Movie 1:13:36

3M ago1:13:36

1:13:36

Natalie Bencivenga’s "Ask Natalie" is the center of the Biffs' conversations this week. It’s one thing to sleep with your best friend’s boyfriend, but it’s another thing entirely to keep it from her. A man questions his fidelity after hiding a sex toy purchase from his ailing wife. Finally, a cheating husband wants to have a sleepover with his mist…

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113 - The Whole Wrinkled Penny 51:53

3M ago51:53

51:53

In this week’s episode, Stefani and Ray read from Boston.com’s Love Letters, by Meredith Goldstein. A retreat from the familiar and the mundane inspires a left-field marriage proposal that the first writer only sees as a bandage to their problems. In the second letter, a woman introduces her boyfriend to her mother only to find out about their past…

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A Multi-Pronged Approach to Engaging the Public Towards Advocacy and Shaping San Diego — Jen Whitelaw, PR Professional and former C-3 President 40:33

3M ago40:33

40:33

In this episode, Kate sat down with our very own Jen Whitelaw, PR professional and former C-3 President. Jen first shares her career path from English studies to public relations and urban planning. She discusses a few of her favorite tools for reaching the public about important topics like density and sustainability through her work with organiza…

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112 - Best of the Biffs (Part V) 57:26

4M ago57:26

57:26

In Best of the Biffs (Part V), listen to some of Stefani and Ray’s favorite questions from episodes 82 - Lemme Project These Hands, 79 - Polly Want a Condom, and 73 - Mt Me Beautiful. A man’s mismatched sex drive has him asking Natalie Bencivenga if opening his marriage is a good idea. ChatGPT gives the Biffs a wild scenario of a parrot blabbing ab…

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111 - Nana Has a New Banana 1:02:07

4M ago1:02:07

1:02:07

Stefani and Ray take to the Washington Post this week to read from Carolyn Hax's advice column. Nice guys finish last when a man's political correctness overrides chivalry. A woman questions whether to tell her five-month-old and three-year-old about her mother-in-law’s extra marital affairs. When a man’s mental health conditions start to affect hi…

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Aligning Creative Vision and Community, Redevelopment, and the Future of Local Advocacy Organizations — Branding Professional, Simon Andrews 56:31

4M ago56:31

56:31

This episode features Simon Andrews, neighborhood branding professional and former C-3 board member. Simon shares his personal journey from Detroit to San Diego in the 1960s and discusses his career helping to shape the identity of neighborhoods through signage and design. Simon also offers his insight into downtown redevelopment and its impact, th…

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110 - Do You Take Dick King? 1:01:10

4M ago1:01:10

1:01:10

In this week’s episode, your Biffs talk advice from How to Do It’s (Slate.com) Rich Juzwiak. In the first question, the Biffs discuss a scenario where ex-lovers, apart for thirteen years, come back together only for one of the men to be completely put off by his roommate's comfortable appearance. Lastly, a woman is having a hard time trusting her h…

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109 - Intersmooshes 1:06:31

4M ago1:06:31

1:06:31

Stefani and Ray read from the Ask Amy advice column. A writer questions her dying father-in-law’s legacy, when his reputation as a cop is tainted. Another asks about her friend’s penchant for venting on social media and whether she should approach her about it. Finally, a woman finds a secret life on her boyfriend’s cell phone, post-mortem, and can…

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Communicating Environmental Health Risks and Cultivating the Next Generation of Border Leaders — School of Public Health at SDSU, Paula Stigler Granados 28:15

4M ago28:15

28:15

This episode features Paula Stigler Granados, Associate Professor in the School of Public Health at San Diego State University. Paula first discusses environmental health impacts along the San Diego-Tijuana border region and insights from her recent white paper on the public health crisis caused by Tijuana River contamination. She then explores the…

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108 - Under the Red Rock 1:07:47

5M ago1:07:47

1:07:47

The Biffs read from the classic Dear Abby column this week. A woman weighs the fairness of her husband’s ultimatum to choose between him or their son and his family. Another contemplates contacting her sweetheart’s other girlfriend just so that she knows she exists. A woman in a long-term relationship questions everything when her daughter and her …

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107 - "Red Wings" or Plummet 1:10:40

5M ago1:10:40

1:10:40

In this week’s episode, the Biffs read from Zachary Zane’s Explain It Column from MensHealth.com. One man finds it hard to submit to his sexual desires when his not-sex-positive Mom who is all up in his business, is tracking his location. An older woman orders out frequently in hopes that she’ll one day get the nerve to seduce her delivery boy. Fin…

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Growth Management, Urban Planning and Affordable Housing — Professor Emeritus in City Planning at San Diego State University, Nico Calavita 1:28:27

5M ago1:28:27

1:28:27

This episode features Nico Calavita, Professor Emeritus of City Planning at San Diego State University. He shares his insightful perspective on the past, present, and future of urban planning and creating affordable and inclusive housing. Nico first shares his background growing up in Italy and his journey to San Diego. He goes into detail on the h…

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106 - Are You As Good As Your Papi? 1:10:19

5M ago1:10:19

1:10:19

Stefani and Ray visit Natalie Bencivenga's, Ask Natalie column, in this week's episode. An engaged woman, three years into her relationship, questions her fiancé’s position against meeting her future in-laws. A woman is shamed by her friends when she wants to ghost on the man she’s been dating, after their first time in bed together. A sister’s dru…

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105 - He. Him. Wrong. 1:29:08

5M ago1:29:08

1:29:08

Stefani and Ray take questions from the Facebook group, "High Value Feminine Women," in this week's episode. One woman reaches out to ask for advice in her relationship and winds up talking herself out of it mid-post. Another finds pictures of her man with his ex-wife, with whom he has a child, and questions the validity of the feelings she’s exper…

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A Collaborative Approach to Ensure a Family-Friendly, Safe, and Clean Imperial Beach — Imperial Beach Mayor, Paloma Aguirre 24:17

5M ago24:17

24:17

Jen welcomes Imperial Beach Mayor, Paloma Aguirre. Mayor Aguirre earned a Master of Advanced Studies in Marine Biodiversity and Conservation from Scripps Institution of Oceanography at UCSD and spent 10 years working for Wildcoast. She talks about her advocacy in the fight against sewage pollution and towards building a better present and future fo…

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104 - Full Butth*le Present 33:20

5M ago33:20

33:20

This week's episode is mini, but fun. The Biffs revisit Reddit's Am I the Asshole Thread. A man asks if he's a jerk for telling his aunt that her man's given up on her when she asks for advice. Another is put off by a yogi's theatrics in the sauna, as he downward-dogs and spreads without so much as a loincloth. Make sure to join us next week as we …

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103 - If Water Had A Taint 1:03:48

6M ago1:03:48

1:03:48

Stefani and Ray visit the Metro.co.uk’s Agony Aunt, Em Clarkson, in this week’s episode. A writer worries about their best friend’s borderline obsession with her beau. One half a relationship has absolutely had it, but doesn’t know how to tell her husband that it’s over. OnlyFans becomes a topic for debate among the Biffs when a woman feels betraye…

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The Importance of Border Connectivity and Collaboration — Borders Program Manager for SANDAG — Hector Vanegas 36:49

6M ago36:49

36:49

This episode focuses on the importance of the cross-border relationship with guest Hector Vanegas, SANDAG’s Borders Program Manager. Hector first outlines SANDAG’s role in coordinating cross-border transportation projects and traces his career path working in binational affairs from the Mexican Consulate to his current position at SANDAG. Hector em…

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102 - Best of the Biffs (Part IV) 56:25

6M ago56:25

56:25

It’s another trip down memory lane this week. Follow along with the Biffs as they revisit columns from Dear Kiki, Urban Diplomat, and the Slate’s How To Do It. A woman dying to peg her boyfriend has a hard time finding the words to have the discussion with him. An employee walks into his Boss’s office only to find him watching films of the adult va…

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101 - Gobsmackedly 50:58

6M ago50:58

50:58

This week, the Biffs catch up with Carolyn Hax’s column on the Washington Post. A friendship that should stand the test of time doesn’t when one’s expectations go unmet. Weed - it’s what’s for dinner - and this dinner guest can’t keep their balance long enough to communicate their frustration over crossed boundaries. Dad’s playing sugar daddy while…

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A Spotlight on Design Driven Stories — CEO of World Design 2024 San Diego — Tijuana, Carlos de la Mora 25:24

6M ago25:24

25:24

This episode features Carlos de la Mora, immediate-past CEO of World Design Capital 2024, San Diego-Tijuana. Carlos brings a rich and varied professional background to the table, including his previous experience as the Executive Director for the Urban Land Institute in Mexico and Director of Land Development at CBRE. Throughout the conversation, C…

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100 - Is She Manspreading? 1:15:38

6M ago1:15:38

1:15:38

In their one-hundredth episode, honorary Biffs (the West Coast Biffs) Rachel Sievers and Ellie-the-Editor of the Answer to Everything Podcast, join Stefani and Ray to celebrate with a bottle of champagne. Ben is surprised and intrigued by his alter-ego Britney. Competitive tooth-brushing masks a fictional couple’s real issues. Cyber-ghosts haunt an…

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99 - Best of the Biffs (Part III) 40:29

7M ago40:29

40:29

Happy New Year. This week's episode reflects on some of the best of 2023, as we work up to our centennial episode. Listen on and revisit more of their favorite columns, with questions from Ask Logan, Ask Daddy, and the Ethicist. A husband hides his wife's only form of sexual pleasure. A writer's partner wants to be his boyfriend when out and about,…

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98 - On a Scale from One-to-Bang 1:12:10

7M ago1:12:10

1:12:10

It's back to the Slate's "Dear Prudence" column for Stefani & Ray this week. A whole family dynamic shifts when a man decides against donating another sample of his own sperm to his sister and her wife. When another man's brother and best-man's tendency to hire escorts for dinner is exposed, his fiancee's reaction threatens to end their engagement.…

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97 - 33% Effective at Raising Children 47:00

7M ago47:00

47:00

In this week's episode, the Biffs read from Annie Lane's Dear Annie Column. A wife's secret sexual past leaves her husband of fifty years searching for the deep intimacy that once connected them. An adult couple is forced to exist behind closed doors when a man's family refuses to accept his girlfriend, for reasons unknown. A man struggles to find …

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Design Innovation in Our Transfrontier Metropolis — Author, Podcaster, Design Scholar, and Lecturer at UC San Diego, Larry Herzog 39:40

7M ago39:40

39:40

This episode features an informative and inspiring conversation with Larry Herzog, a Design Scholar-in-Residence at the UC San Diego Design Lab, and a lecturer in the Department of Urban Studies and Planning at UCSD. Larry is also a writer and Professor Emeritus of City Planning in the School of Public Affairs at San Diego State University. Larry i…

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96 - Didn’t Mean to ’Jennifer-Coolidge’ You 57:58

7M ago57:58

57:58

The Biffs test their skills against advice from Coleen Nolan of the Mirror UK. A mother with knowledge of her daughter’s beau’s past questions whether to tell her or not. A man places a camera in the shower in hopes of spying on his wife and ending his 15-year-dry-spell. Finally, a woman meets a man at a wedding and suddenly she wants more than wha…

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95 - I’m a Ventriloquist? 55:30

8M ago55:30

55:30

This week, the Biffs read from Reddit’s Am I The Asshole. A parent’s personal choice results in their child’s bullying and his shifting the burden to another family member. At a college party, a personal question about his penis prompts a writer to respond with a similar personal question about a co-ed’s level of baldness down-south. Navigate these…

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Civic Border Dialogue and Engagement that Leads To Real Solutions — Executive Director and Co-Founder of WILDCOAST, Serge Dedina 30:10

8M ago30:10

30:10

This episode features Serge Dedina, the executive director and co-founder of WILDCOAST, an international conservation team. Not only did Serge serve as the mayor of Imperial Beach from 2014 to 2022, but he also chaired the SANDAG borders committee for six years, demonstrating his commitment to cross-border collaboration. With a focus on transbounda…

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94 - Took My Pants Off to Cry 1:20:47

8M ago1:20:47

1:20:47

This Biffs regrettably follow-through with last week’s promise to revisit Cary Tennis’s advice column from Salon.com. Stefani and Ray differ in opinion on how to handle a situation when a baby sister is discovered to have a criminal record. A man transfers some of his angst and grief onto his partner following the passing of his ‘monster’ of a moth…

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93 - I Am That Friend Group 1:11:23

8M ago1:11:23

1:11:23

This week’s episode features questions from Cary Tennis’s advice column from Salon.com. One writer wonders how to keep their mother from traumatizing their kid sister the same way they were affected, by breastfeeding them for too long. Another writer is questioning their contributions to a series of events when their friend tries to run them over w…

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92 - Coke by Association 1:09:08

8M ago1:09:08

1:09:08

Dear Mrs. Web, personal advice for your life, peaks the interest of the Biffs in this episode. A single, professional, young woman who has it all, questions why she actually has nothing aside from the material. Another woman’s near-, albeit dishonest tryst with her best friend’s fiancé, leaves her contemplating the benefits of coming clean years la…

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Merging Science and Service with Community — Dr. Megan Jennings, Conservation Ecologist and Co-Director of SDSU’s Institute for Ecological Monitoring and Management 44:15

8M ago44:15

44:15

In this episode, we welcome Dr. Megan Jennings, a Conservation Ecologist and Co-Director of San Diego State University’s Institute for Ecological Monitoring and Management. As a research scientist at SDSU, Megan is based in the biology department and a co-champion for a new initiative at San Diego State, the Community Climate Action Network. In the…

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91 - Step-Friend 1:09:35

9M ago1:09:35

1:09:35

This week, the Biffs revisit How To Do It, Slate.com's sex advice column. One writer’s question deals with a low-libido remedied by liquid courage. A husband’s size isn’t an issue for 19 years, until his wife makes a targeted crack in a drunken stupor. A college student’s knack for “face painting” get’s him in trouble with his girlfriend’s girlfrie…

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