When the pain feels unbearable and we feel alone in our suffering this podcast will sit with you. Let's rediscover our purpose, reduce our pain and regain our sense of belonging. Join comedian Leo Flowers M.A. as he shares his own journey through suicidality, interviews guests with lived experiences and discusses with experts on how to escape the flames and create a life worth living.
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Join Julie Beem & Ginger Healy as we explore the trauma-informed, attachment-focused concepts of Regulation (self-regulation/co-regulation) and Relationship (building connection) and how we can help children build resilience and emotional health through the ways in which we parent, teach and care for children. This podcast is produced by the Attachment & Trauma Network, or ATN, a leading national non-profit supporting children impacted by trauma through their families, schools and communities.
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How to train your brain 365 days a year for a sharper mind.
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Zanny, aka Suzanne Maiden, M.A., Family Therapist, certified grief counselor, and co-host of TheDivaCast Internet talk show, recently merged her professional experience with broadcasting to produce Dear Zanny, a one-of-a-kind virtual cozy couch where listener’s plop down their most confidential concerns. The online audio advice column offers a compassionate ear, a sympathetic shoulder, and sound suggestions to the world’s most universal relationship dilemmas. Do you need to set firm boundari ...
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Let’s be real — autism parenting is tough. It’s gritty, it’s raw, and it can feel unbelievably lonely. Welcome to the space where we say the quiet parts out loud. We’re diving into the messy, emotional, unfiltered truth of raising a child with autism — the things most people are afraid to talk about. These are the conversations that need to happen. If you’ve ever felt isolated, judged, exhausted, or like no one truly gets it — this is for you. This journey isn’t easy, but there is light to b ...
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The Kiwi Nest Podcast by Kiwi Kid's ABA is here for parents who just want real help that makes sense. We talk about everyday struggles like bedtime battles, picky eating, or tough mornings and how small changes can make a big difference. Each episode gives simple, real-life tips you can actually use at home. No fancy talk, no judgment just honest conversations about raising kids, building routines, and finding calm in the chaos. Brought to you by Kiwi Kids ABA, we’re here to support families ...
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#016 Staying Safe During Aggressive or Self-Injurious Behavior
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6:48When your child shows aggression or self-injury, it can feel scary and overwhelming. In this episode of The Kiwi Nest, Hannah and Kristin talk about how ABA principles can help parents stay calm, protect safety, and teach safer replacement skills over time. Learn practical steps to prevent harm, create a safe environment, and support your child wit…
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Why We Feel Wired, Tired, and Empty—and How to Refuel Right
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24:23In this episode, we explore the metaphor of human energy and emotional regulation through the lens of aviation fuel—what keeps us running clean vs. what makes us crash and burn. Why the wrong inputs (like sugar, doomscrolling, or people-pleasing) feel good briefly but exhaust us How to identify visual, auditory, and social junk fuel in your daily l…
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Creativity to Connection to reduce suicidality
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39:18In this episode, we explore the life-saving potential of creativity in suicide prevention based on a webinar with Dr. Diane Kaufman, MD. Key Highlights: How Dr. Kaufman used poetry to process suicidal thoughts Transforming personal pain into public healing through books, songs, and an opera Practical ways art can help us move from isolation to conn…
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Ep 107: What Does RAD Look Like at School?
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50:12This is a follow-up to Episode 101, where we discussed the two recognized attachment disorder diagnoses and their impact on families. In this episode, we focus on how RAD shows up at school—and what teachers, counselors, and administrators need to know to respond with understanding and effectiveness. Educator Takeaways • Stay curious, not reactive.…
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Ever feel like your good intentions backfire? In this episode of The Kiwi Nest, Hannah and Kristin unpack “reinforcement traps” those moments when we accidentally reward the very behaviors we’re trying to stop. Learn how to shift attention to calm, positive actions, set clear boundaries, and build consistency that actually works. Perfect for parent…
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#019 Making Transitions Easier for Kids and Parents
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6:51Struggling with meltdowns when it’s time to leave the park or turn off the tablet? In this episode of The Kiwi Nest, Hannah and Kristin share easy ABA strategies that help kids handle transitions calmly. Learn simple tools like countdowns, “first-then” language, and offering choices to make daily routines smoother and less stressful for both kids a…
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#018 Working Better Together with Your Child’s ABA Team
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5:58Feeling out of sync with your child’s therapist? In this episode of The Kiwi Nest, Hannah and Kristin share simple ways to collaborate effectively with your ABA team without feeling overwhelmed. Learn how to communicate openly, share real-life challenges, and keep strategies consistent between home and therapy. Perfect for parents who want to feel …
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#017 Helping Siblings Feel Included in ABA at Home
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5:38When one child gets ABA therapy, siblings can sometimes feel left out or confused. In this episode of The Kiwi Nest, Hannah and Kristin share ways to help brothers and sisters understand what ABA is, why certain behaviors get extra praise, and how they can play a positive role. Learn how to balance attention, include siblings in small but meaningfu…
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Why the Mind Races (and the Bladder Waits)
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22:41In this episode, we explore: Why your body waits until the end of your shower to signal you need to pee How this everyday moment reveals deeper truths about tension, distraction, and missed signals What it means to actually feel safe enough to tune in Why slowing down isn’t indulgent—it’s essential How this connects to mental health, nighttime over…
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Ever been asked to “track your child’s progress” and thought, How on earth do I do that? In this episode of The Kiwi Nest, Hannah and Kristin simplify data collection for busy parents. Learn quick, no-fuss ways to see real progress using tally marks, phone notes, or even photos. These small habits can make a big difference in understanding what’s w…
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#014 Using Token Systems Without the Sticker Overload
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6:50Ever feel like every task turns into a negotiation? In this episode of The Kiwi Nest, Hannah and Kristin unpack how to use token economies—simple reward systems that actually motivate kids—without creating long-term dependence. Learn how to set them up at home, choose meaningful rewards, and fade them out as habits stick. Perfect for parents wantin…
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#013 Creating Calm with Visual Schedules at Home
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7:33Morning chaos? Bedtime battles? In this episode of The Kiwi Nest, Hannah and Kristin share how visual schedules can turn stressful routines into calm, predictable moments. Learn how this simple ABA strategy helps kids feel safe, confident, and independent while giving parents fewer power struggles. Perfect for families wanting structure, smooth tra…
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#012 Taming Tantrums with Calm and Consistency
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7:36Tantrums can happen anywhere at home, in the car, or in the grocery store aisle. In this episode of The Kiwi Nest, Hannah and Kristin explain how ABA principles can help parents understand why tantrums happen and how to respond calmly and consistently. Learn practical strategies to reduce meltdowns, teach new communication skills, and celebrate pro…
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#011 Reinforcing Good Behavior Without the Bribes
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6:12Tired of feeling like you have to hand out candy or screen time just to get cooperation? In this episode of The Kiwi Nest, Hannah and Kristin unpack the difference between bribery and true reinforcement and how to build good habits that last. Learn simple, everyday ways to use praise, attention, and routines to encourage positive behavior at home w…
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Ep 106: Healing Despair and Moral Injury in Educators
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50:02What if burnout isn’t just about exhaustion—but something much deeper? In this powerful episode, Julie and Ginger speak with Sheri Kreher, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and the Trauma, Illness, and Grief (TIG) Coordinator for 24 school districts in New York. Sheri brings two decades of mental health experience and a deep understanding of the em…
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#010 Small Steps Big Wins How Shaping Builds New Skills
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6:30Ever feel like your child’s goals—like brushing teeth or eating veggies—are just too big? In this episode of The Kiwi Nest, Hannah and Kristin explain shaping, an ABA strategy that turns tiny steps into real progress. Learn how celebrating small wins helps kids stay motivated and builds lasting habits one step at a time. Perfect for parents wanting…
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#009 Helping Kids Learn with Prompts and Independence
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6:30Ever feel like your child won’t finish a task unless you step in? In this episode of The Kiwi Nest, Hannah and Kristin break down prompting and fading two simple ABA strategies that help kids learn new skills and build independence. Learn how to give just the right amount of help, when to pull back, and how small wins lead to big confidence. Perfec…
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When Life Hurts: Why Admiration Still Matters
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21:32Today we'll discuss: Explore the power of admiration as a tool for connection and healing. Discuss how admiration can counteract shame, loneliness, and psychological pain. Differentiate between genuine admiration and blind flattery. Learn practical ways to admire others and yourself sincerely, even when it feels vulnerable. Reflect on the balance b…
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#008 What a Behavior Plan Really Means for Your Child
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6:17When schools mention a “BIP,” many parents panic—but it’s not a punishment! In this episode of The Kiwi Nest, Hannah and Kristin explain what a Behavior Intervention Plan really is and how it supports your child at home and school. Learn how BIPs identify why behaviors happen, teach new skills, and give parents and teachers clear strategies to help…
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Does your child use their new skills perfectly in therapy but forget them at home? In this episode of The Kiwi Nest, Hannah and Kristin unpack “generalization” the ABA concept that helps kids use what they’ve learned in real life. Discover simple ways to practice skills across places, people, and routines so progress sticks beyond the session. Perf…
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#006 Teaching Kids Anywhere DTT and NET Made Simple
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7:14Should learning happen at the table or in everyday moments? In this episode of The Kiwi Nest, Hannah and Kristin unpack two powerful ABA teaching styles—Discrete Trial Training (DTT) and Natural Environment Teaching (NET). Learn how DTT builds focus and new skills, while NET turns daily routines into fun learning opportunities. Discover how blendin…
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#005 Understanding the Why Behind Behavior with FBAs
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6:39Ever wonder why your child keeps repeating a tough behavior? In this episode of The Kiwi Nest, Hannah and Kristin explain Functional Behavior Assessments (FBAs)—a simple ABA tool for uncovering the reason behind your child’s actions. Learn the four common behavior “functions,” real-life examples, and how small shifts can make big changes at home. P…
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#004 Why Behaviors Happen The ABCs Every Parent Should Know
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7:20Ever wonder why your child’s meltdowns seem to come out of nowhere? In this episode of The Kiwi Nest, Hannah and Kristin unpack the A-B-C’s of behavior—Antecedent, Behavior, and Consequence. Learn how to spot what triggers your child’s actions, understand what keeps certain behaviors going, and use simple ABA strategies to create calmer, more posit…
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#003 Positive or Negative Reinforcement What Parents Miss
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6:01Ever wondered if you’re “doing it wrong” when it comes to positive and negative reinforcement? In this episode of The Kiwi Nest, Hannah and Kristin clear up one of the most confusing parenting topics—what these terms really mean and how they show up in daily life. Learn how both types of reinforcement can encourage positive behavior, reduce stress,…
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#002 Making Good Behaviors Stick with Positive Reinforcement
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6:29Why do some behaviors stick while others disappear? In this episode of The Kiwi Nest, Hannah and Kristin unpack the difference between reinforcement and punishment in simple, real-life parenting terms. Learn how to use positive reinforcement to encourage helpful habits, reduce meltdowns, and teach new skills—without relying on punishment. Perfect f…
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Why We Look for Validation in the Hardest Places
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23:52In this episode, we explore the deep-rooted tendency to seek approval from the very people who criticize us most. Together, we unpack: Why we confuse critique with wisdom and validation How childhood dynamics and emotional wounds shape this pattern The emotional cost of chasing approval from naysayers Why breaking the cycle matters for our mental h…
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#001 Understanding ABA Therapy for Real-Life Parenting
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7:52What exactly is ABA therapy, and is it right for your child? In this episode of The Kiwi Nest, Hannah and Kristin unpack what ABA really means from its origins and evolution to how modern ABA focuses on play, choice, and positive reinforcement. Perfect for parents and caregivers seeking practical, compassionate guidance on child behavior, communica…
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Ep 105: Rethinking Behavior Plans with the Bowmans
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In this episode, I explore Norman Rush’s Mating, focusing on the chapter “Guilty Repose” and the section “Weep for Me.” Through the narrator’s encounter with the waterfall, I unpack themes of noise, solitude, mediocrity, and companionship — connecting her revelations to my own experiences with silence, striving, and the human need for connection. D…
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In this episode, we explore why starting your day with effortful tasks can build momentum, meaning, and mental strength. Why your brain is primed for effort in the morning The science behind doing hard things early What happens when we only choose ease The Four Boxes of Action: Easy & Empty, Easy & Essential, Effortful & Enriching, Effortful & Drai…
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Ep 104: Parents Have Feelings Too - a book interview with Hilary Jacobs Hendel & Juli Fraga
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47:04“Parents Have Feelings, Too: Emotional Intelligence, The Change Triangle, and Healing Generational Patterns with Hilary Jacobs Hendel & Juli Fraga” Parenting can bring deep joy—but also guilt, shame, rage, grief, and more. So what do we do with all those big feelings? In this powerful episode, Julie and Ginger sit down with Hilary Jacobs Hendel, au…
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Fighting for a life (not just for your life)
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19:10In this episode, we unpack a powerful distinction that shifts how we view conflict, commitment, and connection: The difference between fighting for your life (survival mode) and fighting for a life (intentional living) Why some relationship arguments aren't about breaking up—they’re about building something meaningful How setting boundaries, saving…
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Ep 103: Embracing Hope for FASD, ADHD, Neurdivergence, and Traumaa
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53:00In this episode of Regulated & Relational, hosts Julie Beem and Ginger Healy sit down with two fathers on a mission to transform the way families and schools understand neurodiversity—Carl Young and Joel Sheagren. Carl and Joel are the co-creators of Embracing Hope: A Caregiver’s Guide to Neurodiversity, a groundbreaking book that bridges lived exp…
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Testosterone, Tears, and the Truth About Teenage Heartbreak and Suicidality
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26:27If you're a parent of pre-teen or teenage boy, today's episode is for you. Today's episode is: Exploring why heartbreak can lead preteen and teenage boys to suicidal thoughts Understanding the difference between what boys think they want versus what they actually need during emotional pain Signs parents and caregivers can watch for when boys are st…
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In this unforgettable episode, Ginger and Julie sit down with the one and only Barb Clark—a powerhouse trainer, parent, and advocate known for saying the things most people are too afraid (or too tired) to say out loud. With her signature honesty, humor, and hard-earned wisdom, Barb opens up about raising kids with complex needs, navigating Fetal A…
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With Both Hands: The Forgotten Power of Full-Body Living
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23:11In this episode, we explore the quiet power of doing things with both hands: Why bilateral movement calms the nervous system Cultural and spiritual traditions that honor two-handed gestures Everyday tasks that ground us through full-body presence Real-world quotes and wisdom about giving, receiving, and connecting more deeply Simple ways to bring m…
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The misunderstanding of STONER and maybe people like us (contains spoilers)
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12:05THIS EPISODE CONTAINS SPOILERS FOR THE BOOK "STONER" BY JOHN WILLIAMS SPOILERS... In this heartfelt episode, we explore: How the novel Stoner reveals the hidden emotional lives so many of us carry Why Stoner’s death from esophageal cancer symbolizes the suffocation of unexpressed emotions The myth that stoicism means emotional emptiness — and the t…
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Ep 101: What you need to know about Attachment Disorders
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56:17In this foundational episode of Regulated & Relational, Ginger and Julie dive deep into attachment disorders—what they are, how they’re diagnosed, and the realities families face when raising children with these challenges. From the history of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and Disinhibited Social Engagement Disorder (DSED) to the proposed Deve…
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Your "Why Not" List: A Life-Saving Tool for Mental Health and Suicide
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10:25In this episode, we explore why having a personal "Why Not" list can be a powerful tool for mental health and suicide prevention: How “Why not?” can lead to impulsive or harmful decisions Why having your own “why nots” can help you say no when it matters How a “why not” list can save a life during a suicidal crisis Examples of meaningful “why nots”…
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Brilliance and Breakdown: Mania, Music, and Mental Health
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23:42In this episode, we explore: What a manic episode actually looks and feels like How mania and depression can reduce grey matter in the brain Why overstimulation, lack of sleep, and creative pressure can trigger episodes How Kanye West’s story reveals the tension between brilliance and instability The difference between holding people accountable an…
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Ep 100: Exploring PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance)
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52:50In this enlightening episode, Ginger Healy and Julie Beem sit down with Diane Gould, LCSW, and leading voice in the PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) movement in North America. As co-author of Navigating PDA in America and Founder of PDA North America, Diane shares her deep expertise and personal journey—including her recent autism diagnosis—to h…
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6 Beautiful Questions to disrupt negative feedback loops
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20:34In today's episode we discuss the following questions: What truth in you cannot be broken? When do you feel most like you? Who are you without your name? What are you growing into? Where does your courage live? What is something small that feels big to you? Thrive With Leo Coaching: If you want to reduce your psychological pain, regain your purpose…
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Floating, Not Fleeing: When the Ocean Calls You to Stay
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5:50In this deeply personal solo episode, I reflect on a moment at sea that stirred something primal—a desire to leap, not to die, but to feel fully alive. We explore: The difference between wanting escape and needing depth How “leaping” can be a cry for rest, touch, or meaning What it means to unplug, fast, and float A practice for staying grounded wh…
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In this episode, we explore what happens when we withhold what’s true, raw, or real inside us: Why unexpressed thoughts and emotions don’t just disappear—they fester The difference between release and recklessness in emotional expression How to safely express anger, resentment, longing, and fear without hurting yourself or others What 365 Tao teach…
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In this heartfelt and reflective episode, Julie Beem and Ginger Healy return to a profound conversation from Season 1 with the late Cissy White—trauma survivor, fierce advocate, and the originator of the term Joy Stalking. As the world faces rising despair and isolation, Julie and Ginger explore what it means to stalk, savor, and sustain joy—especi…
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Seven Life Saving Strategies for Suicidal Urges
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18:18In this episode, we explore seven powerful strategies that can help someone survive intense emotional distress and suicidal thoughts (from the book, THE SUICIDAL PERSON by Konrad Michel): Call a trusted doctor or therapist for personalized care Reach out to a 24/7 crisis line for nonjudgmental support Avoid alcohol to protect your judgment and emot…
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In this thought-provoking episode of Regulated & Relational, Ginger Healy and Julie Beem invite you to explore the transformative power of empathy—not just as a personal virtue but as a vital, actionable skill that the world needs now more than ever. Listen actively – Focus on understanding, not fixing. Challenge your assumptions – Seek to understa…
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THE POWER OF ZERO: REDEFINING WORTH AND CONNECTION
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9:12In this episode, we explore the powerful symbolism of the zero — often misunderstood as "nothing" — and reveal how it actually represents connection, wholeness, and infinite potential. If you’ve ever felt invisible, isolated, or not enough, this conversation is for you. Key Takeaways: How feeling like a "zero" can actually signal readiness for conn…
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8 Strategies to Reduce Our Suicidal Urges
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18:53In today's episode we discuss: What we often do when suicidal urges rise Why small, immediate actions can be life-saving The psychology behind choosing connection over isolation How resistance, not resolution, can carry us through a crisis Simple decisions that protect life in the most fragile moments If you want to reduce your psychological pain, …
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In this special birthday-themed episode of Regulated & Relational, we’re doing something a little different—and a lot more personal. Julie Beem is celebrating her birthday by inviting the entire ATN podcast team into the studio for a heartfelt and reflective conversation about birthdays, aging, and the complexities surrounding these milestones—espe…
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