Unsquashing is the antidote to irrational dips of confidence and the self doubt traps so easlily fallen into if you are self squashing! This podcast explores the fears, illusions and baggage that hold you back. Get more Joy Impact and Growth (JIG) in your life! Short unsquasher insights and longer guest interview episodes - 2 episodes a month. Trisha Lewis has developed tools for this variant of impostor syndrome that she calls ’self squashing’. She is the author of the book aimed at entrepr ...
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What drives our culture forward? Find out with Max & Ruby as they speak with cultural icons in music, food, fashion, sport and more to explore how they all impact the world around us. They’ll uncover stories behind our favourite brands like LOEWE, how to market yourself in a fast-moving world, meeting some amazing people along the way. Have a listen!
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This episode explores the tension between wanting to make and impact and wanting to conform to the norm. Is it possible to do both? What are the symptoms of too much blending in or even too much standing out - when you are not coming from a place of 'you-ness'? As always we look at the symptoms, drivers and then possible solutions to try out. As al…
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Do you have a recurring flush of embarrasement or even shame well after you have done something stupid? Do you dwell on the stuff you messed up on? Do you worry too much about what people think about you? Welcome to another episode that explores the human stuff - the stuff that can sometimes hold you back and stop your JIG - joy, impact and growth!…
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Time to explore a very human fear - fear of rejection. Can you really protect yourself from being disliked? What are the symptoms of this fear? What drives this fear? Time to name and reframe - and make sure this classic 'self-squasher' isn't holding you back. Inspired by this book: The Courage to be Disliked - by Ichiro Kishimi and FUmitake Koga A…
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Trisha Lewis, founder of Adidas-sponsored football team, Romance FC, talks grassroots sport, working with Pharrell Williams and on building tight communities.
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Founder of the Adidas sponsored, Romance FC, Trisha Lewis breaks down how the creative football team is driving grassroots sport culture around London. Built to provide an active meeting space for women and non-binary people who are also filmmakers, musicians, designers and all other walks of creativity, Romance FC has become a thriving community i…
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20. Simon Beckerman, founder of Depop and DELLI, and Sam Wong discuss reshaping the food world with DELLI and building successful communities.
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After selling Depop to Etsy for $1.6 billion in 2021, Simon Beckerman took on a new challenge, to fix the food industry. With his dedicated team, including Community and Partnerships Manager, Sam Wong, DELLI set out to champion small independent food & drink makers, providing them with a means to sell their products. We spoke with Simon and Sam to …
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166: Give yourself more credit. With Ben Franklin.
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Do you give yourself enough credit? My guest Ben Franklin shares his experience from the very start of his journey - and as he puts it - the setbacks and growth moments will be part of your journey at every point - wherever you enter, whatever your background or age. We explore the importance of taking risks, gaining practical experience, and overc…
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19. Christian Stevenson on being a best-selling author, snowboarding with Jamie Oliver and interviewing music legends. Part 2
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In part 2 with BAFTA award winning filmmaker, best-selling author and extreme sports veteran, Christian Stevenson, we talk about how his friendship with Jamie Oliver led to his book deal. We also cover how he became a best-selling author in the barbecue world, DJing at A-list celebrity parties, and how he interviewed music legends such as Coldplay,…
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How come you blindly accept 'expert' opinion and even default thinking about yourself! Common sense ideas and public opinion can be too readily accepted by us all. Time for some healthy skepticism - time to get curious and examine! Who better to help us with this process than the philosoper Socrates? Whilst he might be long gone - his ideas remain …
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164: How to negotiate with your self-doubt.
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Next time you fall into a self-doubt spiral full of negative self-talk getting you nowhere - try this! Use the 'principled negotiation' technique espoused by Fisher and Ury (expert negotiators) - to negotiate with your emotions and inner chat! In this episode I explore two of the ingredients of 'principled negotiation' - Separate the people from th…
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Why do humans struggle with doing nothing on their own! Busy doing nothing - not as meaningless as it sounds. Here's how to get good at being bored and alone - a total reframe that will have you feeling meaningful. References: Research - Timothy Wilson 'How Much do we not like being bored.' Sunday Neurosis theory - Sander Ferenczi Book - Flow - Mih…
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162: Afraid of being judged as cocky if you are confident?
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Is your fear of being judged as cocky, arrogant or a 'know it all' holding you back from simply showing up with confidence? You are not alone! If you have ever been in the company of a 'cocky' type - you will have thought - 'I don't ever want to come across like that'. The fear is so real that you second guess anything that means you show confidenc…
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18. Christian Stevenson on extreme sports, winning a BAFTA and skateboarding with Tony Hawk. Part 1
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BAFTA award winning filmmaker, best-selling author and extreme sports veteran, Christian Stevenson talks on what it was like to watch skateboarding legend, Tony Hawk, land the 900, his tv show 'RAD' that ran for 17 seasons and how he started in filmmaking to become a world famous name in snowboarding, skateboarding, DJing and BBQ. He also reveals h…
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If you have ever burst out into tears, 'lost it' or gone into a mild form of panic attack - and regretted that public display of intense emotion - this is for you! If you are human - this is for you. In this episode I invite my imaginary guest (a new feature) - Daniel Goleman (author of Emotional Intelligence) - to share insights on a powerful part…
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Are you falling into self-doubt spirals by beating yourself up when things don't go perfectly? You are human - it will happen. In this episode I explore the connection between self-esteem, self-doubt and this 'fighting with yourself' thing! You will go through some forensics with me - including unwrapping a real example to illustrate. It all starts…
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'Just be yourself' - what does that mean to you? This well meaning advice needs a closer look. In this episode you'll discover that personality is not a label or stone sculpture round our neck - we can become something we are not without being a con artist! We can adopt what Brian R Little calls - a 'free trait'. Intriqued? Listen to this short uns…
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When you are feeling a nervous mess before public speaking, interviews or any performance event where you fear messing up.... the friendly advice is 'calm down - breathe deep - visualise lovely things' etc! You tell yourself to 'calm down' as you see your hands trembling and feel your stomach full of butterflies.... but.... what if there was a bett…
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As a human you are motivated to learn, develop and grow. But it can't just be about study and fancy qualifications surely. What are the basic feeders of personal growth or even business, hobby skills growth? Welcome to an episode full of those growth feeders. My guest Alan Braithwaite (see previous episode with Emily Braithwaite) - is co founder of…
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17. Galina Averina on what the opera scene is REALLY like, the stereotypes, and being a professional opera singer.
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What do you think of when I say opera? Yep, we thought the same thing before we spoke to professional opera singer, Galina Averina. Kostie and Max sat down with Galina, who had just finished her UK tour, to get a feel for the history of opera, understand the stereotypes and gain an insight into just what goes into becoming a professional opera sing…
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156: Exploring Your Options. Trisha Lewis
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You are feeling a bit stale and stuck. Your motivation is wobbly. Time to explore your options you think. But how you go about this exploration might be more meaningful than you realise. This episode explores how to explore. The episode is inspired by the journaler and author Marion Milner (aka Joanna Field) and the two psychologists behind the sel…
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155: Manage negative self talk with this mind trick. Trisha Lewis.
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Stop beating yourself up! Not so easy. Negative self talk, inner critic, catastrophising, self-doubt spirals - they are a natural consequence of being human. But - our rush to beat ourselfs up when we believe we have 'failed' in some way - is a real squasher! It stops us moving forward and often results in us wallowing in a swamp of self-doubt for …
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154: Flourishing as an individual in a collective. With Emily Braithwaite
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How to flourish as an individual in a Collective. Have you found your tribe? Do you feel valued for your individual approach and contribution whilst also part of a supportive group with shared aims? Emily Braithwaite is the co founder of 'Yellow Tuxedo' - online visibility for small business owners. They have a brilliant community called Digital Ci…
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153: Navigating Feelings of Inferiority When Others Shine.
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Do you get a pang of feeling inferior when you hear someone else being praised. You know it is irrational. You don't want to be an envious type. You want to feel fine about other people being great! The problem is - you are reacting from your self-squashed self! How to stop this odd form of comparisonitis? How to embrace other people's achievments …
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152: Believe in the value of your non-fiction book idea. Helen Pollock
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Why are you allowing self-doubt to squash your non-fiction book idea? Why do women in particular have deep fears about being judged negatively if they publish a non-fiction book about the thing they have tons of experience in - that will help others? What are the procrastination demons and what do you do to get unstuck and belief in your right to w…
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This is about identity labels and growth mindset versus fixed mindset. What lies behind phrases such as 'not my thing' or 'never been like that'? Time for an audit on how much 'should' your are doing - because you have got stuck in a stale and potentially squashed identity. You will hear a short but very real example of the way we get stuck and the…
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150: Narcissistic Abuse - understand and heal. Guest Amanda Craven
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You have heard about narcissists - but how do you know if one is in your life? How do you know that your deflating, inhibiting lack of self-belief is due to ongoing or past narcissistic abuse? My guest Amanda Craven is a clinical hypnotherapist who helps people recover from emotional trauma. She shares her personal story - as does your host! Insigh…
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16. Charlie Smith on the success of luxury fashion brand, LOEWE
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Rated as the Hottest Brand of 2023 (Lyst), luxury fashion brand, LOEWE, is taking the fashion world by storm. Kostie and Max sat down with Charlie Smith, Chief Marketing & Comms Officer at LOEWE, where he gave some insight into the secrets behind the brand's success.
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What lies behind your fear of being boring in conversations? Is this fear of other people thinking you are boring - holding you back and sucking the joy from social or work based conversations? Welcome to another short unsquasher. In this episode we unpack what you might mean by 'boring' and how to do the forensics with some simple steps that will …
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148: Confidence Building After Health Scare: With Crescentia Cook
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How do you rebuild confidence and stop your self-belief being squashed when an unexpected health scare changes your world? My guest is 'Heart Healthy Living Coach - Crescentia Cook. She specialises in supporting those with Atrial Fibrillation. Her personal experience, knowledge and coaching expertise means this episode will be hugely valuable to yo…
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15. Phil Makepeace on the new era of chess
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With the sales of chess boards increasing by 400% in 2020, it’s safe to say the sport is on the rise amongst younger generations. We spoke to Phil Makepeace, a professional chess coach and ex-professional player, about the sports gender gap, its funding and the monumental influence of ‘The Queen’s Gambit’ on the chess world.…
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Self belief includes working on your sense of agency - taking back your power. You have more power to create change in yourself and in the world than you realise. My guest Gerri McHugh is the founder of Global Health Film - her life and work challenges have meant nurturing her own self belief and that of her film makers too! But how exactly...? PDF…
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What does Self Belief feel like? Tricky to answer isn't it? In this episode I use the '5 Whys' questioning technique to dig a little deeper on that 'self belief feeling' thing. This questioning leads to another 2-word phrase - 'self squashing'. What is that? Well listen to this short unsquasher episode to find out. Talking of 'self' - self awarness…
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14. Craig Santicchia on gaming and eSports
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Kostie and Ruby are joined by Craig Santicchia, a gaming and eSports enthusiast, who started his career at the worlds leading esports brand Fnatic. helping shape the future of sports entertainment. Now running his own company, Wolfpad Gaming - who support brands, agencies and rights holders on all things gaming & esports.…
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145: Recognise this Self Doubt Trigger. Trisha Lewis
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Self doubt - if you are human you will know that feeling. But what about when it pops up seemingly randomly? What triggers that uncomfortable feeling of uselessness that can have you falling down the self-doubt spiral! This short episdoe explores squashing environmental triggers. I share great quotes from Ethan Cross, author of 'Chatter' and Dr. Ti…
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144: The Power of Asking for Help: Guest Beverley Poole
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Business mentor Beverley Poole gets real about the power of asking for help and we explore the challenge of asking for help. Beverley starts by sharing her unsquashing journey - she shares her experiences of working in a male-dominated environment and dealing with a difficult marriage and being a single parent. We talk about the importance of resil…
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143: The Perfectionist Trap. Trisha Lewis Short Summer Unsquasher.
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Trisha Lewis, the host of the podcast "Unsquashed," provides tips on overcoming the fear of making mistakes or 'not knowing something' in a podcast guesting, meeting or panel setting. She emphasizes the importance of embracing imperfection and not striving for perfection. Trisha discusses the negative consequences of constantly striving for perfect…
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142: Grow Your Confidence: With Fay Wallis
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Career Coach Fay Wallis is frequently faced with clients who say 'I just want to be more confident'. Confidence dips are human. But what is confidence? How do we work on growing our self-confidence and feeling more confident in our thoughts, actions and feelings? This episode unpacks all of this and more. We explore: The Self-depricating habit The …
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141: Sort Barriers with Your Inner Detective
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When self-doubt spirals hold you back - it's time to harness your curiosity to crush the imposter syndrome and frustration demons. I call this using your 'detective mindset' and this short episode shows you how to use this tool in a very practical way. This is one of the short summer unsquasher episodes - let me know how you find this format! *****…
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140: Unsquash Your Creativity: With Bee Higgins
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In this eye-opening episode, we're talking all about creativity and how to truly embrace it, featuring the inspiring story of Bee Higgins – creative copywriter, messaging mentor, and Crohn's disease warrior. Bee's journey to creative success started with a pause in her studies, a pinch of stubbornness, and a whole lot of individualism that led her …
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139: Connect All Your Dots: With Kate Chidzik
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If your marketing makes you yawn or yell - this is for you. My guest Kate Chidzik has over 20 years as a marketeer as well as a lifetime of being a human! She shares her unsquashing journey and some powerfully simple reframes around your approach to marketing - being visible. Connect you with your audience. Connect your strengths with your approach…
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Is having a portfolio career less impressive than putting all your eggs in one basket work-wise? If you are doing more than one freelance job or part-time job - are you just 'messing around' rather than being a serious and valuable business ower or employee? If you are fighting to pigeon hole 'what you do' - listen to this! I offer a fresh perspect…
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137: Digital Wellbeing Check Up: With Sam Flynn
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If your relationship with social media feels draining listen to this episode! For those who need to be visible on social media for business but you don't feel in control - a must listen! My guest Sam Flynn will guide you calmly through this condundrum. She is a Digital Wellbeing coach and social media trainer and understands this tension between he…
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In this solo short episode I share a simple self-affirmation tactic to use when you are beating yourself up over 'failure'. The thing that didn't go well might be trivial but you are flooded with an illogical sense of being utterly useless. It could be a technical glitch on a LinkedIn Live or you might have stumbled over some words in a presentatio…
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Lennie and Ruby are joined by Dr. Matt Lodder, a lecturer, curator and author of artist history, who specialises in body art and tattooing, who takes them through his journey into academia, his incredible debut book ‘painted people,’ get a glimpse into history through tattooing, discuss what Gen Alpha’s relationship to the art form might look like,…
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135: Make marketing enjoyable by doing it your way: With Lenka Koppova
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Do you flinch at the very word - marketing? As a solopreneur do you find it an utter bore to market your business? Does it all feel a bit icky? My guest Lenka Koppova has a way to flip your marketing hate into marketing joy! Lenka calls herself - the marketing therapist! She brings a very human touch to marketing - based on tons of expertise and ex…
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A tiny tempter! What is the mission of the Self Belief Unsquashed Podcast? Who is it for - and why might it help? What do I mean by 'Unsquashed'? If you want to find out more about unsquashing - head to my website or follow me on LinkedIn Stay curious and unsquashed - happy listening. All episodes are available in video form on my YouTube channel P…
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133: Check Your Motivation: With Lewis Roberts
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How often to you check your motivation for doing what you are doing? Are you doing it for the validation of others or is it more SELF-imposed motivation? In this episode you will explore this and other 'climbing to business' transferable lessons. Filmed on location at Parthian Climbing Southampton - the perfect motivational background! My guest is …
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12. Duncan Nicholls on photography and the culture of elite athletes
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Lennie and Ruby are joined by sports photographer Duncan Nicholls, who takes them through his journey from banking to photography, the power of 'flow states', limitless mentalities, the secrets behind elite performance and his desire to leave a lasting impact. Duncan is a London based creative specialising in lifestyle and sports photography and mo…
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132: Menopause and the Confidence Squashers: With Sarah Wilsher
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Menopause affects us all and my guest Sarah Wilsher is on a mission to stop it being a taboo subject. No more hot flush or losing the plot jokes and ridicule - this is a part of evolving and doesn't have to be embarrasing! Sarah starts us off with a powerful example of the massive confidence crisis she experienced at work - and takes us on a positi…
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131: How do I sell without being salesy?: With Gus Bhandal
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You don't like marketing yourself - I get it. But you need to attract clients and be visible to grow your business. A dilemma that we explore in this episode. My guest is Gus Bhandal - a marketer with over 25 years of experience, and the founder of The M Guru - a digital marketing agency which specialises in helping business owners with LinkedIn tr…
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130: Personal Branding the Introvert Way: With Fifi Mason
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We will all meet confidence and joy squashers along the path of personal branding. For introverts, most routes to self-promotion feel draining and darn right dreadful! But it doesn't need to be this way - you can be true to you and truly seen. In this episode, Introvert Impact Coach Fifi Mason explores personal branding from the perspective of an i…
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