When some ghosts from Tom's past return in dramatic fashion, the boys realize they have no choice but to resurrect senior relationship expert correspondent Kait Emery to inject once again some much-needed wisdom into their well-intentioned mania and neuroses. [NOTE: For the full context of these stories, please listen to episodes 13-15 of season tw…

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Tom, Tucker and official Undesirables senior gay correspondent James dive into a sexual fantasies quiz from Tell Me What You Want, a book that takes a fascinating, comprehensive look at the complexities of Americans' sexual fantasies. Tell us a little about yourself and we can guess your sexual fantasies using this 15-question quiz. Are you organiz…

With Tucker out on assignment, Tom drops the hard news: There's only three episodes left in the season. "Only three episodes left in the season?!" Oh, you read that right. But keep in mind, these are gonna be top quality, primo, prime cut episodes of The Undesirables. You're gonna leave this season feeling so satisfied with how it all played out. I…

Tom, not able to take the idea of asking Tucker another single question about his dating life, decides to hop on a train out of the city to catch up with his old friends and hosts of the Poe Boys podcast, Pete and Josh. Together, they know nearly everything about Star Wars and absolutely nothing about how to successfully navigate the world of moder…

Tucker and Tom decide to let their natural charisma take over to talk about something other than kissin' ladies for a change... and end up talking about kissin' dudes. They talk about the motivation behind casual smooching, the difference between finding someone attractive and being attracted to them, and try to leave a little hope open for all the…

No one has more dirt on Tucker and Tom than James. No one. He's known them for decades, lived with them for a full year, and liked them for weeks. Official Undesirables senior gay correspondent James goes deep on Grindr and hookup culture, while Tucker goes on his first ever Bounce date, and Tom decides now is the time to ask for the group's most e…

After so many out-of-order or months-delayed episodes, Tucker and Tom take a quick squat and chat about what going on in their dating lives right now. Tom's soliciting teens for "journalism," Tucker's taking a break for "sanity," and they're both impossible to keep on topic. Also, people, this is the beginning of the end... of season two. We're in …

Imagine Tucker and Tom unleashed. No more of this weak "let's rein it back to protect our friends and loved ones." That's what it's like for B and L, the anonymous hosts of Not Your Girlfriend's Podcast. They can get real, and they do here as the group discusses first dates, commitment, getting over exes and how important are orgasms to sex. If you…

Finally seeking outside help, Tucker and Tom bring in Dr. Maggie Dancel, a clinical psychologist specializing in sex, to answer burning questions like: What is "too much masturbation"? What does a sex dungeon actually look (and smell) like? How quietly can you say the word "poop"? Then, buckle up because Tom returns the favor by reading from his ex…

When Tom downloads a new dating app called Feeld and discovers a whole new world of gender identity and sexual orientation, he and Tucker decide it's high time to confront their towering ignorance. What's the difference between demi- and pansexual? What qualifies as skoliosexual? And what could "Two-Spirit" possibly mean, anyway? Note: We have a lo…

In the last episode Jenny, Tom's friend turned romantic interest, seemingly dropped off the face of the planet. A few days later, Tom finally gets a response. Tune in to find out what happened to Jenny, and if a friendship can be salvaged after a romantic fallout. If you like what you hear, please leave a five-star review on iTunes; it really does …

In the second half of our chat with Kait, Tom tells the story his rom-com gone wrong while Kait weighs in on topics like how to take your own wants into consideration when defining the relationship, the boundaries of ghosting, and the normalcy of post-date paranoia. Don't forget to check out Tom's new article for Tinder: The Surefire Sign She Likes…

In the first of three gripping installments, Tucker brings in official Undesirables senior relationship expert correspondent Kait Emery to dissect and diagnose Tom's latest lady problems. This first case involves a particularly complicated ghosting that leaves both Tucker and Tom more frazzled than usual. Can Kait crack the case? Don't forget to ch…

Comedian Tori Piskin is back with more hilarious stories in this second part. Learn all about whether calling or texting is worse, whether chivalry is dead (and whether it's sexist), whether it's appropriate for "a real Buddhist" to use the N-word on a date with Tori (spoilers: it's not), and whether or not Tucker is ever getting married, anyway. I…

Tucker and Tom sit down with Tori Piskin, an incredible comedian who hosts a dating podcast with her mom called Got It From My Mama. They chat about divulging their sex lives to their moms, first date sparks, having sex dreams about your dad (yes, yours), and why Tori absolutely needs to break up with all the boys in her life. This is the first of …

Tom's been going on too many dates and Tucker breaks the news about his breakup with Planetarium Girl. Along the way, we talk about Tom's first (and likely only) date from Bumble, casual physical intimacy, feeling weird about dating multiple people, the final straw and crying LIVE ON AIR. If you like what you hear, please leave a five-star review o…

Tom sits down with Ben Goodman from CitySwoon to find out what the hell is "speed dating 2.0" and how fast is he going to get rejected by how many people, exactly? Then, Tom and Tucker debrief on how it went, the most notable characters of the night and who Tom brought home with him. Read Tom's first article for Tinder here: Tinder Diaries: A Singl…

Tom and Tucker sit down with Lindsey Metselaar, the amazing and talented host of the hit dating podcast We Met At Acme, for a lively chat about astrology, what it's like to date with a dating podcast, open relationships, and why the hell Tom isn't on Hinge. If you like what you hear, please leave a five-star review on iTunes; it really does make a …

Tucker and Tom sit down with Laura and Dylan Petro, sister-brother duo and two of the founders of Bounce, a new spontaneous dating app where you match and make plans for a date ~tonight~ all without a single message. They break down how that works, why standard dating apps waste your time, why you should swipe left on someone if you've looked at th…

Tom went on a blind date through Time Out magazine's The Undateables column and has a lot to say about it. Then he sits down with Will Gleason, the matchmaker behind the column, to debrief and find out how this all works, anyway. Meanwhile, Tucker catches up with Tom's blind date, Molly, to find out what it's like to date Tom. You can read Time Out…

Tucker and his girlfriend *REDACTED* grapple with having different long distance styles, how much to communicate, and how specific a person's "type" can get (answer: very). Tom reaches out to his ex before downloading all the apps again and asking important questions about whether it's OK to filter potential matches by race. THEN, Tom debuts a new …

While Rachel and Tucker re-litigate their breakup, Tom gets sad over his own. Along the way, they answer some important questions like does Piggly Wiggly still exist and how sensually do you lick someone's elbow on the first date? If you like what you hear, please leave a five-star review on iTunes; it really does make a difference! Give us a shout…

Tucker and Tom's friend Rachel is BACK by popular demand! She drove all the way to the Big Apple to see what this whole "Tinder" thing is all about and actually go on a date. They address hot topics like what to do with your arms while kissing, whether to order a drink before your date shows up, and how fast can you have someone over for sex, anywa…

Tucker and Tom explore the awkward beginnings of phone sex and the awkward endings of bad dates. It's been a few months since Tucker and Tom got to sit down one on one and catch each other up on their personal lives. Who's dating whom and how does someone hit the eject button on a bad date? Let's talk about it. If you like what you hear, please lea…

Tucker and Tom are back... in relationship therapy. After what some would call "a season's worth of misery" and others would call "friendship," Tucker and Tom decide it's time to bring their problems to Deanna Richards, a licensed mental health counselor and relationship therapist, to get things back on track. Along the way we hit the logistics on …

The Undesirables are coming back for season 2 on Valentine's Day 2019! Catch up on season 1 now. If you like what you hear, please leave a five-star review on iTunes; it really does make a difference! Give us a shout on social media, share us with a friend, like us on Facebook, and follow us on Twitter or Instagram: @undesirablespod @mrthomasella @…

Season one is over so Tucker and Tom take a hot minute to reflect on all the mistakes they made along the way. If you like what you hear, please leave a five-star review on iTunes; it really does make a difference! Give us a shout on social media, share us with a friend, like us on Facebook, and follow us on Twitter or Instagram: @undesirablespod @…

Special guest and professional dominatrix Lucy Sweetkill teaches Tucker how to choke someone sexually without totally murdering them and tells Tom exactly what kind of bottom he is. If you like what you hear, please leave a five-star review on iTunes; it really does make a difference! Give us a shout on social media, share us with a friend, like us…

Tucker breaks up with New York for the weekend while Tom perfects the art of not getting dates. If you like what you hear, please leave a five-star review on iTunes; it really does make a difference! Give us a shout on social media, share us with a friend, like us on Facebook, and follow us on Twitter or Instagram: @undesirablespod @mrthomasella @t…

Tucker and Tom sit down with the developers of a new late night dating app to ask a very important question... You Up? If you like what you hear, please leave a five-star review on iTunes; it really does make a difference! Give us a shout on social media, share us with a friend, like us on Facebook, and follow us on Twitter or Instagram: @undesirab…

Tucker and Tom swap stories to figure out who breaks up with people the worst. Is it too close to call? Let us know. If you like what you hear, please leave a five-star review on iTunes; it really does make a difference! Give us a shout on social media, share us with a friend, like us on Facebook, and follow us on Twitter or Instagram: @undesirable…

Not even 10 episodes in, Tom finally replaces Tucker. If you like what you hear, please leave a five-star review on iTunes; it really does make a difference! Give us a shout on social media, share us with a friend, like us on Facebook, and follow us on Twitter or Instagram: @undesirablespod @mrthomasella @tuckerwins.…

Tom reveals the results of his human experiments while Tucker and special guest Rachel pat each other on the back for leading on romantic interests. If you like what you hear, please leave a five-star review on iTunes; it really does make a difference! Give us a shout on social media, share us with a friend, like us on Facebook, and follow us on Tw…

Tom sabotages his chances at finding love by being too cheap again. Tucker has an anxiety attack LIVE ON AIR. If you like what you hear, please leave a five-star review on iTunes; it really does make a difference! Give us a shout on social media, share us with a friend, like us on Facebook, and follow us on Twitter or Instagram: @undesirablespod @m…

Tom sees the sunrise after a hookup gone horribly, horribly wrong. Tucker sees only guilt. If you like what you hear, please leave a five-star review on iTunes; it really does make a difference! Give us a shout on social media, share us with a friend, like us on Facebook, and follow us on Twitter or Instagram: @undesirablespod @mrthomasella @tucker…

Tom's got BIG NEWS and Tucker pulls defeat from the jaws of success. If you like what you hear, please leave a five-star review on iTunes; it really does make a difference! Give us a shout on social media, share us with a friend, like us on Facebook, and follow us on Twitter or Instagram: @undesirablespod @mrthomasella @tuckerwins.…

"Have I gone too far immediately?" Tucker and Tom both score dates and immediately find themselves in over their heads. If you like what you hear, please leave a five-star review on iTunes; it really does make a difference! Give us a shout on social media, share us with a friend, like us on Facebook, and follow us on Twitter or Instagram: @undesira…

While using the hookup app Pure to finally have sex with a real human being for a change, Tom finds himself in a dark situation. If you like what you hear, please leave a five-star review on iTunes; it really does make a difference! Give us a shout on social media, share us with a friend, like us on Facebook, and follow us on Twitter or Instagram: …

Your introduction to Tucker and Tom, two guys just trying their best. If you like what you hear, please leave a five-star review on iTunes; it really does make a difference! Give us a shout on social media, share us with a friend, like us on Facebook, and follow us on Twitter or Instagram: @undesirablespod @mrthomasella @tuckerwins.…