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How Not To Suck At Divorce

Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport

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The only divorce podcast that's one part family law attorney and one part recovering comedian. We are dedicated to bringing you action steps, empathy, and a healthy side of snark. Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport bring you divorce content that's resourceful, entertaining, packed with ACTION STEPS from EXPERTS, and most importantly, help listeners feel less alone. You'll get through this. We promise. You've got this..and we've got you. **Do not listen to this show if you don't have a sen ...
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Would you like to permanently reduce your alcohol consumption by 80 percent so you don’t have to quit? Most high achieving professional women assume overdrinking is caused by a lack of willpower--or worse, the incurable disease of "alcoholism." So they beat themselves up and avoid asking for help because they feel ashamed and out of control. Whether you’re a daily drinker who can’t break the habit, or you're still going to sobriety meetings even though you don’t drink anymore, the real probl ...
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