Boundaries, negotiation and communication in BDSM are not emotionally sterile. In the paid version of this podcast (bastienne.substack.com) I audit my relationship failures of 2023 and hopefully we all learn something new and valuable from them.By Bastienne Cross

Here we go again! It's my annual celebration of NOT celebrating! Join me this Christmas, be merry, be kinky, have fun! Bastienne.caBy Bastienne Cross

In this episode I talk about gut instincts, the natural progression of D/s relationships and the surprising moral boundaries that pop up in pro BDSM. Negotiation, communication and boundaries are buzz words that - in theory - feel straight forward but IRL can equal messy feelings. I talk about "giving away a subby" and feeling anxiety about it beca…

Hello Fellow Perverts! Hope you're staying kinky and cute and there’s something currently in your boot(ie). Things are changing at The Wiggle Room, slowly but surely including a new room being accessible in the next few months. In this episode, I talk about Americans and have a revelation about respect that kind of runs through the whole episode. I…

Hey! It’s me and my cleavage! Did you miss me? Well, I’m back to give you a wee, little update. I’ve been busy over the summer, capering about, through nature and online. I started a wedgie podcast over on Patreon called The Wedgie Board, I’ve been collecting data (and souls) over on my OnlyFans, I’m trying out a new scheduled texting app and I’m g…

Perfectionism, control freaks, narcissism, codependence, feedback, rejection, acceptance, self aftercare, lifestyle surrogacy, behavioural democracies and a delightful lack of notes. Thank you for listening, go to BASTIENNE.SUBSTACK.COM for the full episode and visit BASTIENNE.CA/LINKS for all the places that I exist on the internet! xo Bastienne…

Hello Fellow Perverts! I’ve returned with more revelations! This episode is all about healthy compartmentalization versus destructive secrecy in kink (and in life). There’s a LOT of mental homework to keep up with, as an adult, with, any level of responsibility. I think it’s fair to say, we all get overwhelmed and lost at times. We get stuck in rut…

Hello Fellow Perverts! It is me, Bastienne, and I am (momentarily) popping out of my hiatus to tell you some exciting news! I am officially saying goodbye to time wasters - GOODBYE FOREVER! 👋 SEE YA NEVER! This means, I’m not taking new clients currently (and haven’t for a few weeks) and in the meantime, I’ve been scheming up an entirely new way to…

Goodbye (for now) Fellow Perverts! It’s break time for Bastienne! I’m not doing a weekly podcast anymore, well, at least not for a bit. I feel like I’ve filled the archive (bastienne.substack.com) chock full of good, kinky stuff and I can feel myself getting vague and repeating myself a lot on here. The classic BDSM lines of “it’s all about communi…

HELLO FELLOW PERVERTS! Toronto Dominatrix and fellow silly person, Aspasia the Great joins me once again for another, delightful chat session. We sat on astro turf, munched on oranges and croissants, sipped some adult beverages and rambled about our kinky lives til the sun went down! This week on the free version of the podcast, we answer a questio…

Hello Fellow Perverts! I’ve abandoned the usual format this week and instead we’re do a little story time! Allow me to read you my latest blog post titled “Sexual Dehumanization and Objectification Kinks”. Tis all about these very misunderstood mechanisms in power exchange and how they’re all about wanting acceptance. Mushy mushy, hippie FemDom! Cr…

Hello Fellow Perverts! This week I’m organizing my life like crazy, getting ready to sit down and get to work on fun things like taxes, clips and such (PFFT). Promoting my couples sessions with a cute as fuck coupon. A new hot dog costume for my dog who has now been converted into an adorable, low-key, Walmart greeter for nervous new people at work…

Hello Fellow Perverts! I had a busy, kinky weekend! I’m still reeling from the top high to be honest and wanted to record while still buzzing. I enjoyed some duos, filmed some clips, saw some regulars (and newbies) and did my first fully silent session! I also fisted two different people and bruised my right foot from some vigorous ballbusting. It …

Hello Fellow Perverts! I just got back from a mini vacay that included lots of binge watching, a jacuzzi, a recliner & an ice cream cake! There’s vacation foot pics (and other pics) coming soon to my OF :) This week I read a question about ADHD and how attention span affects BDSM sessions. I love this subject because I feel like we all struggle wit…

Hello Fellow Perverts! The subject of boundaries has been surfacing a lot in my life, and work, lately so I thought I’d do a little spiel about the basics (from my perspective) for anyone who may need to hear it right now. Yes, yes - I know boundaries come up every week! But, hey - it’s ultimately important stuff and sometimes I like to pretend I’m…

Hello Fellow Perverts! This week I’ve been getting lots of audio requests on OF and I’m loving it! I talk about being a professional third wheel and how refreshing it is to be left out - seriously! We also had a storm over Christmas weekend here in Toronto and I made a couple TikToks (@bastiennecross). I read a question from a dominant who feels li…

In this episode I talk about starting an OnlyFans! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you'd like to listen to the full, hour long version o…

In this episode I talk about plans for the holidays including duos with Aspasia the Great! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you'd like to…

In this episode I talk about cancelling Christmas, expectations and duos with Aspasia the Great over the holidays! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Domi…

In this episode I talk about FEMINISM and objectification of women in Pro FemDom! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you'd like to listen t…

In this episode I talk about kinky FFM threesomes (X3) this week, cuckqueans, finding a Daddy Dom, Fuck Christmas and my 8th anniversary! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyl…

In this episode I talk about David Cross, playing with couples and the intimacy and boundaries that come with BDSM titles! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professio…

In this episode I talk about ordering a Cybian, (re)starting yoga, upcoming clips, a kinkiversary and losing / gaining confidence as a dominant! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted l…

In this episode I talk about margarita spanking, time waster season and some recommendations! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you'd like…

In this episode I talk about birthday shenanigans with Aspasia the Great, resonating with your partners kinks and purposely dying in horror games! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted…

In this episode I talk about 'The Last of Us' remake, guilt about sexual sadism and a potential new Patreon page! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Domin…

In this episode I talk about butterscotch liqueur, Mommy roleplay and a couple of slow, chill weeks! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you…

In this episode I talk about how to transition from a rough scene into aftercare, turkey day sessions and back to work catch ups! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and pr…

In this episode I talk about harbingers, airports, performance anxiety and a BDSM book recommendation! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If y…

In this episode I talk about travelling in Canada, a hot take on Toronto and a worship-y spank bank story! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. …

In this episode I talk about medical roleplay that involves British Columbia, free panties and redefining the term "sweat suit" in a very masturbatory way.! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, li…

In this episode I talk about a really nice weekend, being a secret keeper and a fixation on fluids!! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you…

In this episode I talk about my collection of plants, an edging clip I'm working on, I talk about upcoming episodes I'm excited to record & I read a golden flavoured spank bank story! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my…

In this episode I talk about getting gassy (on purpose), playing with couples, vibrating toothbrushes and a spank bank story about foot fetish in the summer!! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, …

In this episode I talk about the 5th anniversary of my BDSM blog, travel plans and a spank bank sissy tale! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix.…

In this episode I talk about censorship woes, therapist roleplay and a ballbusting origin story! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you'd l…

In this episode I talk about mummification misunderstandings and the joy of being teased! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you'd like to …

In this episode I talk about being in love with Bret Hart, another new blog post about kink and kindness, a top selling ballbusting clip, BC travel news and a tale of extended chastity! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about …

In this episode I talk about a new roleplay blog post I've written, I promote some stuff and I read a spank bank story about coerced bi in heavy bondage! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, light…

In this episode I talk about playing with couples, opening psychological gates in BDSM for new people, selling panties and I read a listener submitted spank bank story! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as…

In this episode I talk about my new podcast format and I tease and promote the full version of this episode which is called "Gags & Gatekeeping". Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted …