It's another trip down memory lane as we relive some our favorite advice columns from our early days. From episode 13 - Swipe if You Want the Pipe, the Biffs address a writer's plan to get down and dirty with an internet beau. A man's uncut member becomes a Jewish mother's biggest worry, in episode 32 - Was Jesus Circumcised. And from Episode 72 - …

Coleen Nolan, the Mirror.co.uk's agony aunt's column, is the topic of this week’s conversation between the Biffs. A woman’s insecurities over the life her daughter lives prompts her question to Coleen. Another woman’s husband doesn’t like it when she’s barefoot on vacation, when she just wants to air out the puppies. Finally, when your Biff doesn’t…

The Biff’s read through advice from Jenee Desmond-Harris of the Slate’s Dear Prudence, this week. A woman finds her husband’s notes to himself on the best way to handle her in several scenarios. A husband cheats on his wife with the person she has a restraining order on, and now she’s ready to give notice at their co-owned business. Lastly, when th…

In this week’s episode, Stefani and Ray read from “Dear Abby.” A woman struggles to support her daughter through divorce when she learns about their open marriage. An ornate cut glass cake stand is the final straw after a writer feels snubbed by their family friend. Finally, a young woman is torn about her parent’s divorce after her father lays bla…

Out of the Vault: This week, the Biffs bring you an episode with unaired segments from previous recordings. From Boston Globe's Love Letters, Stefani and Ray discuss a twenty-four years old's serial monogamy and her plea to ditch the habit. From The Slate's How To Do It, the Biffs learn about garden party- and kitchen table-polyamory when a writer'…

The Biffs take on Reddit’s Am I The Assh*le again this week. A man’s culinary skills are challenged when his sister’s boyfriend marches out in a huff in search of his own hot sauce. When a man is sniffed by a dog at a pet-friendly eatery, he barks at it’s owners. Self-sufficiency is a lesson best learned at self-check out. Finally, a grown man is b…

In this week's episode, the Biffs, Stefani and Ray, read from the Reddit Am I The Asshole (AITA) thread. A man begs for judgement after serving his stay-at-home-mom wife with a performance evaluation based on the way she parents their children. Another Redditor brings her case before the internet after her roommate snitches on her to the landlord f…

Sally Land's Dear Deidre of the Sun.co.uk takes the stage this week, with some controversial advice topics. What do you do when the man of your dreams turns out to be your long lost half-brother - and you want to keep sleeping with him? A man is pocket dialed by his wife and listens in to her moans and groans before busting her at home. A love chil…

Natalie Bencivenga’s "Ask Natalie" is the center of the Biffs' conversations this week. It’s one thing to sleep with your best friend’s boyfriend, but it’s another thing entirely to keep it from her. A man questions his fidelity after hiding a sex toy purchase from his ailing wife. Finally, a cheating husband wants to have a sleepover with his mist…

In this week’s episode, Stefani and Ray read from Boston.com’s Love Letters, by Meredith Goldstein. A retreat from the familiar and the mundane inspires a left-field marriage proposal that the first writer only sees as a bandage to their problems. In the second letter, a woman introduces her boyfriend to her mother only to find out about their past…

In Best of the Biffs (Part V), listen to some of Stefani and Ray’s favorite questions from episodes 82 - Lemme Project These Hands, 79 - Polly Want a Condom, and 73 - Mt Me Beautiful. A man’s mismatched sex drive has him asking Natalie Bencivenga if opening his marriage is a good idea. ChatGPT gives the Biffs a wild scenario of a parrot blabbing ab…

Stefani and Ray take to the Washington Post this week to read from Carolyn Hax's advice column. Nice guys finish last when a man's political correctness overrides chivalry. A woman questions whether to tell her five-month-old and three-year-old about her mother-in-law’s extra marital affairs. When a man’s mental health conditions start to affect hi…

In this week’s episode, your Biffs talk advice from How to Do It’s (Slate.com) Rich Juzwiak. In the first question, the Biffs discuss a scenario where ex-lovers, apart for thirteen years, come back together only for one of the men to be completely put off by his roommate's comfortable appearance. Lastly, a woman is having a hard time trusting her h…

Stefani and Ray read from the Ask Amy advice column. A writer questions her dying father-in-law’s legacy, when his reputation as a cop is tainted. Another asks about her friend’s penchant for venting on social media and whether she should approach her about it. Finally, a woman finds a secret life on her boyfriend’s cell phone, post-mortem, and can…

The Biffs read from the classic Dear Abby column this week. A woman weighs the fairness of her husband’s ultimatum to choose between him or their son and his family. Another contemplates contacting her sweetheart’s other girlfriend just so that she knows she exists. A woman in a long-term relationship questions everything when her daughter and her …

In this week’s episode, the Biffs read from Zachary Zane’s Explain It Column from MensHealth.com. One man finds it hard to submit to his sexual desires when his not-sex-positive Mom who is all up in his business, is tracking his location. An older woman orders out frequently in hopes that she’ll one day get the nerve to seduce her delivery boy. Fin…

Stefani and Ray visit Natalie Bencivenga's, Ask Natalie column, in this week's episode. An engaged woman, three years into her relationship, questions her fiancé’s position against meeting her future in-laws. A woman is shamed by her friends when she wants to ghost on the man she’s been dating, after their first time in bed together. A sister’s dru…

Stefani and Ray take questions from the Facebook group, "High Value Feminine Women," in this week's episode. One woman reaches out to ask for advice in her relationship and winds up talking herself out of it mid-post. Another finds pictures of her man with his ex-wife, with whom he has a child, and questions the validity of the feelings she’s exper…

This week's episode is mini, but fun. The Biffs revisit Reddit's Am I the Asshole Thread. A man asks if he's a jerk for telling his aunt that her man's given up on her when she asks for advice. Another is put off by a yogi's theatrics in the sauna, as he downward-dogs and spreads without so much as a loincloth. Make sure to join us next week as we …

Stefani and Ray visit the Metro.co.uk’s Agony Aunt, Em Clarkson, in this week’s episode. A writer worries about their best friend’s borderline obsession with her beau. One half a relationship has absolutely had it, but doesn’t know how to tell her husband that it’s over. OnlyFans becomes a topic for debate among the Biffs when a woman feels betraye…

It’s another trip down memory lane this week. Follow along with the Biffs as they revisit columns from Dear Kiki, Urban Diplomat, and the Slate’s How To Do It. A woman dying to peg her boyfriend has a hard time finding the words to have the discussion with him. An employee walks into his Boss’s office only to find him watching films of the adult va…

This week, the Biffs catch up with Carolyn Hax’s column on the Washington Post. A friendship that should stand the test of time doesn’t when one’s expectations go unmet. Weed - it’s what’s for dinner - and this dinner guest can’t keep their balance long enough to communicate their frustration over crossed boundaries. Dad’s playing sugar daddy while…

In their one-hundredth episode, honorary Biffs (the West Coast Biffs) Rachel Sievers and Ellie-the-Editor of the Answer to Everything Podcast, join Stefani and Ray to celebrate with a bottle of champagne. Ben is surprised and intrigued by his alter-ego Britney. Competitive tooth-brushing masks a fictional couple’s real issues. Cyber-ghosts haunt an…

Happy New Year. This week's episode reflects on some of the best of 2023, as we work up to our centennial episode. Listen on and revisit more of their favorite columns, with questions from Ask Logan, Ask Daddy, and the Ethicist. A husband hides his wife's only form of sexual pleasure. A writer's partner wants to be his boyfriend when out and about,…

It's back to the Slate's "Dear Prudence" column for Stefani & Ray this week. A whole family dynamic shifts when a man decides against donating another sample of his own sperm to his sister and her wife. When another man's brother and best-man's tendency to hire escorts for dinner is exposed, his fiancee's reaction threatens to end their engagement.…

In this week's episode, the Biffs read from Annie Lane's Dear Annie Column. A wife's secret sexual past leaves her husband of fifty years searching for the deep intimacy that once connected them. An adult couple is forced to exist behind closed doors when a man's family refuses to accept his girlfriend, for reasons unknown. A man struggles to find …

The Biffs test their skills against advice from Coleen Nolan of the Mirror UK. A mother with knowledge of her daughter’s beau’s past questions whether to tell her or not. A man places a camera in the shower in hopes of spying on his wife and ending his 15-year-dry-spell. Finally, a woman meets a man at a wedding and suddenly she wants more than wha…

This week, the Biffs read from Reddit’s Am I The Asshole. A parent’s personal choice results in their child’s bullying and his shifting the burden to another family member. At a college party, a personal question about his penis prompts a writer to respond with a similar personal question about a co-ed’s level of baldness down-south. Navigate these…

This Biffs regrettably follow-through with last week’s promise to revisit Cary Tennis’s advice column from Salon.com. Stefani and Ray differ in opinion on how to handle a situation when a baby sister is discovered to have a criminal record. A man transfers some of his angst and grief onto his partner following the passing of his ‘monster’ of a moth…

This week’s episode features questions from Cary Tennis’s advice column from Salon.com. One writer wonders how to keep their mother from traumatizing their kid sister the same way they were affected, by breastfeeding them for too long. Another writer is questioning their contributions to a series of events when their friend tries to run them over w…

Dear Mrs. Web, personal advice for your life, peaks the interest of the Biffs in this episode. A single, professional, young woman who has it all, questions why she actually has nothing aside from the material. Another woman’s near-, albeit dishonest tryst with her best friend’s fiancé, leaves her contemplating the benefits of coming clean years la…

This week, the Biffs revisit How To Do It, Slate.com's sex advice column. One writer’s question deals with a low-libido remedied by liquid courage. A husband’s size isn’t an issue for 19 years, until his wife makes a targeted crack in a drunken stupor. A college student’s knack for “face painting” get’s him in trouble with his girlfriend’s girlfrie…

In Best of the Biffs Part 2, relive some conversations from episodes such as Rectum Ralph, Aunty AITA, Side of Raunch, Gaslighty, and more. In these episodes, they cover some of your favorite columnist from Amy Dickinson to E. Jean Carolle, as well as some of your favorites from the Slate. Laugh at the ridiculous banter. Giggle at the over-reaching…

Let’s take a walk down memory lane - a throwback to our first year in podcasting. A “Coffee Shop Karen” from episode 8, wants peace and quiet in a public establishment. From episode 9 (Let Him in Marjorie), a writer’s couples therapist dumps “them” for “him.” And finally, one really long hair on a toe in episode 5 (One Toe One Hair) is the only fla…

Stefani and Ray talk ‘Ask Amy’ in this week’s episode. A man in his 60s questions his cyber relationship with a twenty-something in the Philippines when he begins to support her financially, despite never having met. A husband snoops on his wife’s computer or phone while she’s using it. A past eating disorder is informing Mom’s present anxieties ab…

This week, the Biffs take on the Independent’s Virginia Ironside. A family’s dislike for their son’s ex-girlfriend intensifies when she decides to keep the child they conceived post-breakup. A mom writes in with the idea of kidnapping her daughter because she’s been brainwashed by a cult. Finally, a writer shows concern for their psychological heal…

Stefani and Ray read from The Slate's Dear Prudence column, in this week's episode. A man grinds up against his girlfriend in his sleep, calling for his ex-. A woman discovers her wife's secret and mysterious checking account. Sister's quarrel over the importance of one's wedding over the other's vacation. Finally, a man is looking for the words to…

It’s back to the classics this week with life advice from the one and only Dear Abby. A woman ponders her future with her husband after constant gaslighting following sexual assault. When the boyfriend is away for work, the naked, divorced spiritual advisor physically heals his girlfriend, then sleeps over. “Kennedy’s” volleyball future is threaten…

This week, the Biffs read from Reddit’s Am I The Asshole thread (Aunty AITA). A woman’s presumptuous boyfriend plans a work trip, leaving the responsibility of his kids to her. Someone gets defensive after their moment of levity backfires as insensitivity during a funeral. A professional with experience working with individuals diagnosed with ASD p…

The Biffs give Sally Land of The Sun’s Dear Deidre a run for her money in this week’s episode. What’s a man to do when his wife feel ‘dirty & disgusting’ showing him any sort of affection? Is it curtains for this woman’s cowardly nice-guy? Is Mom in the right to accept blame for her son’s inability to warm up to girlfriend? It’s an episode of convi…

This week, the Biffs read Natalie Bencivenga’s Ask Natalie for the first-, and certainly not the last-, time. Things go awry for one reader after finding out her best friends knew about her husband’s affair. Following a one night stand, this writer wants to know if she should even trouble the standee for reimbursement related to the termination of …

Agony aunt, Coleen Nolan, of UKs Mirror, takes center stage with the Biff's this week. Secret's out and a writer questions whether or not to bring up his partner's affair. Mystery boxers make it home with another writer's wife, following her work trip. A woman wants out of her six-month marriage when her husband begins to treat her as a possession.…

This week, the Biffs give advice in response to listener questions. It’s a soap opera scenario when a writer’s long lost twin ends up with her ex-. What we’re sure is a Lifetime movie plot gets a PBS response when a man confesses to his girlfriend that he’s investigating her family. Finally, a ghost-writing best friend wants in on the accolades tha…

The Biffs take on artificial intelligence this week with ridiculous questions generated by Chat GPT using the prompt, "Twisted questions and scenarios you would send the Biffs of Ill Advised w/ Stefani & Ray, an advice podcast." Let's take a break from the norm and take on a chatty parrot, a spell gone awry, gossiping rodents, and a family of bucca…

The BiFFs hit the Slate’s trusted How To Do It column this week. A barely legal young woman asks if she should go “all the way” with her step dad. A man’s stupid face is a barrier to getting his wife off. Lastly, learn how to handle a homophobic homosexual’s disturbing online persona. [Misty Cove Estate 2022 Sauvignon Blanc]…

It’s been a minute, so the BiFFs revisit Toronto Life’s Urban Diplomat this week for some fun discussion. Potty-mouth-Penny and her foul influence is tainting the carpool. Social media past puts a grad-school-grad’s career in jeopardy. An Uber rider isn’t keen on stars for stars. A pro-life sticker has potential for a spike in car insurance claims.…

The BiFFs take to The New York Times’ The Ethicist Column, this week. A step-mother feigns love for her step-children, even decades later. Estranged siblings leave a writer debating going around the sister to meet nieces and nephews. Suspected child-abuse leaves a writer unable to reconcile their own ethical dilemma. [Pacha Reserva 2019 Carmenere]…

The BiFFs test their Sense and Sensitivity this week with Harriette Cole’s column. A woman puts herself on the line to hide her best friend’s affair. A woman flags her ex- for trying to worm his way back into their toxic situation. Mom’s feelings for gay dad cloud her judgement as a parent. Exes living under the same roof fail to set the ground rul…

It's back to the classics this week for the BiFFs, with Dear Abby. A woman's willingness to help another, and protect her right to choose, leads to divorce. A husband's trips with his ex-wife and their daughters, leaves his new wife with unsettled tropical romance vibes. A sister in denial, spins her toxic relationship into post-mortem glorificatio…

This week, the BiFFs discuss The Guardian's advice column penned by Eleanor Gordon-Smith, with 'fupas on fleek.' Stefani and Ray discuss what body image is to a seven-month old baby, and how that translates to future perception. And a writer's ex-husband and children warm up to the mistress that destroyed their marriage twenty years earlier, when s…