Daliya recaps grownup Halloween and reminisces about Halloweens of yore. Did you make out? Our resident Single in the Field and Wellness Expert, Alex, joins the ep to talk dating updates, dating men who want a lot of kids- like, a lot, and the best way to eat chocolate. Listen Up! And send us your questions or a short bio if you're interested in be…

Daliya holds space for just how hard it is in the world right now, and what we can do to hold ourselves through it. It's ok if you're not in the mood to makeout! And it's ok if you are! Daliya gives her expert advice on dating while traveling, FEELD, and why we've GOTTA stop categorizing people. Our resident Single in the Field and Wellness Expert,…

Daliya gives her expert advice on everything from dating a vegan to what to do if your partner has a family member who is an absolute NIGHTMARE. And our resident Single in the Field and Wellness Expert, Alex, joins the ep to talk blind date updates (set up by Daliya ofc), wellness and its role in a relationship, and potentially taking "the stuff th…

We’re back, baby! Post-pandemic, Daliya had a literal baby and became a real-life therapist, Alex, our Single Out in the Field, moved to New York… There have been changes! We’re diving right into putting the JOY back into dating and feeling like you’re on vacation mode rather than a job interview. Plus- Daliya set Alex up on a blind date, and there…

This was recorded in the dark winter months of COVID and I honestly don't remember a lot of what we talked about, as I've been knee deep in therapy school (I know, I know but I still won't be YOUR therapist. Probably.) BUT I know it was amazing and sexy and all about breakups and relationships and how to get one and how to get out of one and how to…

Suzee is hot, cool, and has no problem getting people to fall in love with her. It's the staying in love that's the problem, even despite her best efforts to not get hurt again. So something has to change! Knowing exactly what you do in dating doesn't mean you'll stop doing it! There's more to it than that. We talk patterns and how to break them, d…

Remember big weddings???? This episode was originally posted April 2019, when those used to happen and be a BIG FREAKIN DEAL. This episode was also a crowd favorite and we all learned a LOT from Alisa and all her incredible honesty. Enjoy! Alisa is set to get married in eight weeks. Problem is, she and her wife are not getting along. But with all t…

One word for Tim Drucker: aspirational. We are ALL lucky because he blessed us with his presence to answer some long-awaited listener Qs. We discuss single allyship, love spells (he cast one for you), how to get in touch with your intuition, punctuality, what not to ask on dates, why to stop telling yourself unproductive stories, and why I'm ok wit…

Alex and I are kicking the year off right! We have so much to discuss because it's been a while! WHEN can we all mush our bodies together again, WHY to treat yourself like a pet, WHAT to do when partners have different lifestyles or religions, HOW to have better Zoom and outdoor dates. It's all here. Listen up! Send all Qs and coaching requests to …

Alex and I are diving in post-my marriage and answering some long-awaited listener qs like: when is it ok to lie on dating profiles? How long is too long to hold on to the idea of someone? How the EFF do we keep dating right now?? Let's get into it. Listen up! Guest: @ajospin, ajholistic.com Send all Qs and coaching requests to notyourtherapistpodc…

Robbie is BACK to discuss his no-longer-new or relationship and where it might (or might not) be going. How much time is too much to spend together? Does financial compatibility matter? How do we navigate major family and idealistic differences? We get INto it and no topic is off-limits. Listen up! Send all Qs and coaching requests to notyourtherap…

Let's give up on pretending to be perfect already! EVERYone has baggage; what matters is what you do with that baggage. And everyone has major emotions now!! Embrace them! You'll laugh eventually yes, but it's important to first let yourself cry! So go easy on you and settle in while we discuss "Labor of Love", some listener qs, my sleeping habits,…

I'm back with health and wellness expert and dating guinea pig Alex Jospin! Since we're still in quarantine, we're gonna talk about dating in quarantine! And dating in general. And how to take care of yourself, of course, and how to be bold and brave stop waiting for some magical perfect day and make things HAPPEN now (hint: fill the right file fir…

My partner is depressed and wants to take a break: do I stay or go? What are some fun creative things to do in quarantine for my partner? Do I keep in touch with someone who I have feelings for but who sometimes lets me down? And HOW to not get annoyed by every. little. thing my partner/SO/roommate/family member/self does while locked in the house …

It's health and wellness week with coach Alex Jospin and we get INto it as the quarantine beat goes on...but we don't just talk about that! Hear our hot take on "Too Hot to Handle", the great things about our current situation, and Alex even tells me what's wrong with ME! We also have more tips for virtual dating and great ideas for fighting and/or…

The ladies from LJ Matchmaking, aka "The Love Agents of Hollywood", join me to talk about virtual matchmaking, their virtual blind date venture (it's a HIT with my clients), and the dos and don'ts of virtual dating and beyond. We go from how to get started to what to wear to how to enjoy it and what to definitely NOT do. We also get into their supe…

AND...what do with all this horniness in quarantine (yours and ours and theirs)!? Fan Favorite Billy Griffin Jr. is BACK to update us on an EPIC assignment I gave him when he was first on over a year ago. Hint: He wasn't allowed a boyfriend for a full year, wasn't allowed to even TRY for it and now...well, you'll have to tune in. Together we talk h…

Listener question for the week: how can I be more comfortable telling my new-ish partner what I'm into sexually? Let's talk about it, as well as how to make this virtual dating thing a bit more creative and interesting, AND how to go easy on yourself and your partner because everyone handles this differently. Also, it's Passover this week so free y…

Alex Jospin (health and wellness expert and my single out in the field, AND the brain behind this incredible episode title) joins me to talk about all things dating and COVID, as well as her personal recs for staying healthy and sane (ish). You can do nothing if you're feeling burnt out, you can have chat sex if you're feeling bold, you can do anyt…

First up: plenty of hot tips for our current situation and how to feel MORE connected and hopeful romantically - not less. And THEN. Goddess Angel Anderson is here to entrance, educate, and soothe us with her incredible story of marriage, infidelity, radical honesty, and polyamory. Angel currently has two boyfriends AND a comet. What's a comet, you…

Staying in can be FUN, and GREAT for your dating life! I mean it; so do it. Whether you go on FaceTime dates (Love Is Blind-style without the blind!), rediscover your love of watercolor painting, or find out you LIKE someone you recently started dating beyond just the sexual, take this time for YOU and for both your relationships with other people …

What do you do when everything is "perfect" in a relationship except a fewwww key things? And if you were all of a sudden told you were terminal, what would you do? Go have a sexual revolution? That's what my guest Nikki Boyer's best friend Molly did, and they were generous enough to make a podcast about it! Nikki and I talk about what it was like …

Health and wellness coach and Single Out in the Field Alex Jospin is BACK this week to talk Love Is Blind (what can we learn from this apparent disaster), our dating book club pick "Come As You Are" (what can we learn from this MIRACLE of a sex help book), AND her dating life! From sex and vulvas to why Jessica needed to GET OVER HERSELF, we cover …

Comedian Audrey Stewart is lunging at women out in the world (consensually) and LOVING IT!!! Sometimes. Other times she's beating herself up and doubting herself and questioning dating as a whole, just as everyone does, straight, gay, queer, and all of it. Lesson is: the journey to becoming you isn't easy and neither is the journey to finding someo…

Who knew that wedding planners have the true T when it comes to what works and what doesn’t in dating and relationships?? I did! And now you will too. I ask Jason what it takes to call off a wedding, how to make sure you get the make out when you attend a wedding, and how his career in weddings has affected his own dating life. Jason is wise, kind,…

With V-Day right around the corner, it’s the perfect time for some adventures just for the sake of adventure! It doesn’t HAVE to be a full one night stand, but there’s nothing like a wild date or saucy make out with someone you “know isn’t right” to breathe some life back into your dating routine. Take the holiday for yourself and embrace being sin…

Alex named this episode! She's going to be my Single Out in the Field, testing out my methods, my assignments, my techniques, and her new vagina. Learn how to FINALLY get closure on a tough breakup, when to push through someone not being your "type" and how soup can sometimes be sexual. We're also gonna talk more about bodies, sex stuff, intimacy, …

Why do couples who post a ton on social media usually end up not working out? Does Bumble ever really work for anyone? And HOW can we get more comfortable with all the weird body things that come along with actually being intimate with someone? Frances Tang and I discuss all of this and she is an EXPERT. The badass founder of Come and Gone, the aft…

What do you do if you suspect cheating? And want a private sesh with me for free? Of course you do!! Subscribe to and hop on my GetVokl channel tonight at 7 PM to ask me your questions in real-time and win a free coaching! I’ll see you there…. Follow Not Your Therapist Podcast on Instagram! @notyourtherapistpodcast…

Hosts of the Best Exes Podcast Gabe and Colton join me to talk about their breakup, breakups and what we learn from them, HOW they managed to make something healthy and even valuable out of their breakup and how we move forward with dating after a particularly tough one. They are wise and witty and fun and their stories are GREAT, so get into it an…

Stop self-sabotaging! What a great New Year's resolution. I tell you how and also when to let things go and when to get back out there. Kick the year off right with answers to your most pressing questions and we'll be back with a full coaching app next week! Follow Not Your Therapist Podcast on Instagram! @notyourtherapistpodcast…

Let's talk about the New Year! And what we want to do differently or what we want to do exactly the same. We answer your q's with some celebratory a's. And if you didn't get the make out last night that's ok! New Year New You more MAKEOUTS!!! Follow Not Your Therapist Podcast on Instagram! @notyourtherapistpodcast…

Fill up on answers to your holiday-related listener questions in a quickie perfectly suited for right before your family dinner or better yet, as inspiration before you head out for NYE! (Get that makeout, give out that number!) Listen up! You got this! Follow Not Your Therapist Podcast on Instagram! @notyourtherapistpodcast…

Nekia is OVER being the FRIEND. She is ready for more!!! We talk about dealing with chronic illness while dating and coming clean with some scary subjects while not letting those things keep you from sharing your wonderful self with the world. Also, the ever present question of how to get responses on the apps, how to work on smooching, and how to …

The last listener question episode was so fun we decided to do another! Keep em coming! This time past guest Rachel Axelrod, full of wisdom and sass, is back to help with her no-nonsense advice. We answer everything from how much to reveal on a first date, to whether you should get back together, to how the EFF to meet the people you want to. It al…

This one is so fun!!!! Writer Alex and I cover everything from falling in love with the story but not the person to when to break up, how to recover from that breakup, and how to embrace the adventures and the bad ideas and get the heck back out there. Also covered: vagina health, who pays, and how to handle the weird holiday dating season. Listen …

Your listener questions answered! By real raw life coach Allie Stark and me. Everything from how to combat loneliness to how to balance work and lovvvvve. Because we are thankful for YOU! Listen up! Follow Not Your Therapist Podcast on Instagram! @notyourtherapistpodcastBy Daliya Karnofsky

Josiah is a tough nut to crack but we got there! He hasn’t really been in love, hasn’t REALLY been in an LTR he was into, and thinks there is something wrong with him. There isn’t! But he needs to be honest about who he is, where he is, and what he wants from the BEGINNING. He also needs to stop locking himself into what he has already decided is h…

Robbie is in his first few months of a new relationship and sh*t is getting REAL. He has to learn how to navigate alone time, the L word, meeting the parents, and ALLLLL those conversations about FEELINGS. While this is a blissful, exciting time it can also be a bit intense and stressful. And it’s important to take the time to set a solid foundatio…

Emily is baby-bird-new to LA and I am SHOVING her out of the nest and making her my personal soldier for dating positivity. It’s time for adventures, learning to eat sushi on a date, and figuring out where she stands on one night stands. The one thing she is FORBIDDEN to do is become jaded and start commiserating about dating in LA. Stay wide-eyed!…

Elaine has never been broken up with and she’s not necessarily proud of that fact. It also doesn’t mean she hasn’t had her share of rejection, heartbreak, and disaster. She’s just really really good at ripping the bandaid off, which is one of the most valuable skills to have and has led her to report from the other side with a healthy relationship …

Sophie is DONE being a manic pixie dream girl! She’s a real woman with real needs and real ghosts from the past who keep popping up and need to make their intentions clear or go haunt someone else. The key to ALL of that is going to be flexibility, working to change habits disguised as instincts, and learning to be direct in all the right places, w…

Forget what you THINK other people want you to be and instead, be silly, dorky, messy you. My guest Jeremy is too nice and is trying too hard to be perfect! And it's really getting in the way of good smooch sessions. We do a MAJOR profile overhaul and start digging to rediscover that so not perfect but so much more appealing swagger that we know is…

Anonymous guest “Ellie” has had some rough dating experiences, causing her to use her career to shield herself from romance. Her MO is to self-shame and self-blame: Enough is ENOUGH and we’re over it! We talk about doing things that build up your confidence, and how that will lead you to meet your person. Holding out on sex isn’t for them, it’s for…

John is a writer who loves telling his own story. He’s almost TOO self-aware, to the point that he may be using all of his self-knowledge to actually block himself from getting into an LTR. Funny how we get so comfortable with our flaws and “I’m not good at this” that we actually never let ourselves be. We work on letting go of his daddy issues, fi…

Jen is READY for a relationship but that doesn’t mean she should be rushing into one. Let’s get away from benchmarks and promises and move toward finding someone who is actually right, even if it takes a little longer. Jen hosts “It’s Complicated” podcast, and it certainly has been, but it doesn’t HAVE to be. We talk about her habits, how to break …

Ronnie owns that he USED to be a passive-aggressive f*ckboy but he’s worked on it and is a f*ckboy no longer!! But it hasn’t been all sunshine and roses right away, with his first post-f*ckboy relationship turning out to be pretty toxic. We discuss focusing on moving forward to find him a partner who challenges him and respects both him and his rel…

Sara is a freak like me: someone who LOVES dating and actually misses it now that she has a SO. A self-proclaimed “strong flavor” who got where she is in pretty much the opposite way that I did, we still manage to agree on dating technique and how to make dating not just fun but also extremely beneficial. Hint: Diversify your portfolio! Sara is one…

Fellow redhead Steph is a “sensual spicy sweet woman looking for a man who wants to devour her.” (my words, quoted directly) Shas been out of the game for some time, with good reason. But no one who creates horny boards, loves chicken tenders, does karaoke, and wants to share a cheese plate should be kept from the world for too long! She wants to l…

“Leslie Knope” is an ‘amazing friend and coworker but kind of a nutjob when it comes to herself’ (her words; anyone relate?) She’s juggling moving across the country, looking for a job, living with her parents, body image issues, and bisexuality. She also doesn’t LOVE not being totally in control of the situation. Whew! Let’s see where we can fit r…