Welcome to "Rebuilding Us,” a marriage podcast helping to restore intimacy and renew hope in your relationship. Join marriage coach Dana Che on an episodic adventure and explore the transformative journey of rebuilding trust, commitment, and connection by reigniting love through faith-based principles. Each episode offers effective relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring couples to cultivate lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment in thei ...
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Q & A: What are Signs I'm Emotionally Healing?
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Today's relationship question comes from a listener who wants to hear she's on the right track healing from the emotional damage of her husband's affair. In this episode, I share five key signs to know if you're on the right track from healing from any relational hurt. I liken healing emotionally to healing physically. The effects are very similar.…
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{Sweet Repeat] - Steps to Take When Your Spouse is Emotionally Distant
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A topic that comes up most often with my marriage coaching clients is what to do when your spouse is emotionally distant. We've covered this marriage issue before on the podcast but because it's an ongoing problem in many marriages, we're bringing it back for a "sweet repeat." If your spouse has a hard time explaining or even understanding their fe…
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Q&A: How Do I Get My Point Across Without Arguing?
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Isn't it frustrating when you can't seem to agree on anything in your relationship? Today's question comes from a listener who wants to know how to get his point across without arguing with his spouse. Maybe you've wondered the same. I am sharing a very effective communication tool called the "mirror moment." This is when you explain to your spouse…
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[Sweet Repeat] - 12 Steps to Rebuild Trust in Your Relationship
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Rebuilding trust in your relationship when it has been damaged or destroyed may seem like an impossible feat. However, I believe there are 12 steps every marriage or relationship can benefit from when seeking to rebuild trust. Today's episode is a "sweet repeat" of episode 107 from July, 2022. These timeless truths will help any relationship with t…
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When someone we love needs support, jumping into advice-giving mode is easy. Instead, we should ask these three powerful questions before dishing out solutions: Do you need a hug? Do you need help? Do you need to be heard? Beginning conversations with these questions deepens our connection and communicates respect, trust, and genuine concern. Recen…
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Q & A: How Do I Tell My Spouse I Want a Divorce?
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Today's Q&A is from a listener who believes their marriage is at a breaking point and needs advice on how to tell their spouse they want a divorce. Knowing little about the fallout of this marriage, I first encourage every couple in this situation to re-evaluate your marriage. Oftentimes, your marriage is not as far gone as you may believe. The fac…
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From Destruction to Restoration: 3 Keys to Rebuilding Your Marriage
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Many marriages face problems and losses that test the very fabric of their relationships. From communication breakdowns to deep-rooted conflicts, navigating through the complexities of a marriage can be difficult. But there is hope. In this episode, we will explore the crucial concept of tearing down and building up in the context of a struggling m…
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Q & A: My Husband is Looking at Semi-Nude Pics of Women Online
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In today's digital age, many affairs start online. Today's question is from a wife whose husband looks at semi-nude pics of women online and gets angry when she confronts him. This listener wants to know how to set boundaries with her husband to change his behavior. Take a listen as I explain how boundaries work in marriage and what she can do if h…
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Live Coaching a Couple Reconnecting After Separation
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Have you ever wondered what happens in a marriage coaching session? Will and Jo, a husband and wife married for three years need help reconnecting after a separation. They willingly discuss the challenges that led them to separate and what they're doing today to make version two of their marriage work. Jo and her husband navigated through financial…
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Q & A: How Do I Pray Scripture Over My Marriage
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One of the most powerful ways to pray is to use the Word of God in your prayers. Scripture teaches us how to enact God's kingdom here on Earth in our lives, including our marriages. Today’s question comes from a listener who listened to another episode I recently shared about prayer and wanted to know how exactly to pray the Scripture over her marr…
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5 Boxes to Check Before You Divorce - with Dr. Kim Kimberling
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I don’t know where you are in your marriage today, but I believe God led you to this episode for a purpose. If we’re honest, most married people have thought about divorce at some point in their relationship. Perhaps, right now, you might be about to file papers or maybe you desperately want to help a friend or loved one who is considering divorce.…
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Q & A: We Have a Blended Family But My Wife is Too Strict!
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Whether you have a blended family or not, agreeing on how to parent the kids can be a challenge. Today's question comes from a listener who wants to know how to handle when his wife is too strict with the kids. He's tried bringing the issue to her attention but she gives him the silent treatment. Listen as I share three thoughts on how to agree wit…
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Are you frustrated with a husband who isn't taking the lead spiritually in your marriage? In this episode, I provide practical, empowering solutions for wives, giving you the keys to unlocking spiritual intimacy and building a stronger, deeper connection with your husband. From fostering open conversations to offering support and love, I’m sharing …
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Q & A: I Don't Want My Husband But I Don't Want a Divorce Either
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Have you ever experienced resentment or boredom in your relationship? A listener wants to know how to overcome feeling stuck between not wanting to be around her husband and not wanting to divorce him either. She acknowledges that while she's trying to work on communication, she's struggling to find motivation and is unsure about the next steps for…
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Holy Hormones! Can Hormone Imbalance Affect Your Relationship?
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Hormones are those sneaky, hidden chemicals that can wreak havoc on our bodies . . . and on our relationships. Our guest, Becky Yawn, is helping us understand why it's important that women, especially, understand how certain hormones affect our mood and communication. What if the conflict you're facing in your marriage is more than meets the eye? W…
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Q & A: Should I Come Clean About this Secret in My Marriage?
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Carrying secrets in marriage can cause you to live in fear and disconnection. A listener asks if she should come clean about some shady behavior when she and her husband were on bad terms. The weight of carrying this secret is weighing her down. What should you do if you're keeping a secret in your marriage or relationship? Should everything be bro…
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Shameless Hope After an Affair [Affair-Proof] - with Shaun Williams
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All is not lost after an affair. You and your marriage can become more resilient and stronger from what could’ve destroyed you. Shame says, “You are damaged. You are bad.” But that is not true. You can truly rise above shame and have hope even after an affair. Shaun is back on the podcast today, and we’re discussing what we learned from our affairs…
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Q & A: How Do We Escape Complacency In Our Marriage?
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Today's marriage advice is for a listener struggling with the feeling of complacency and stagnation in a long-term marriage. Here's the question she asked: I really need good sound advice I've been with my husband for 25 yrs & I find myself thinking of a different life. Everything is the same ole same ole. Money is always tight. We work, come home,…
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6 Keys to Rebuild Trust After an Affair [Affair-Proof]
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Let's talk about what it takes to heal and rebuild trust after the devastating impact of infidelity. In this episode, we break down the critical steps for both the cheating spouse and the wounded spouse. You may be familiar with the main themes in this episode like the importance of open and honest communication and a no-contact rule. Other factors…
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Q & A: When is Enough If My Spouse Has Had Multiple Affairs?
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If your spouse has had multiple affairs, it can be hard to believe they have truly repented. When is enough enough? This was the question from a listener named Greg: Dana, I am so thankful you are doing the series on affairs. As a man, it’s really hard to admit that my wife does not find me desirable. She has found love in the arms of another. The …
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Shame on You? Who's Really to Blame for an Affair? [Affair-Proof]
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We're getting real about navigating through the mess of shame and blame in the aftermath of infidelity. It's a deep, emotional rollercoaster of an episode but so needed. So, buckle up, because it's about to get raw and honest. First off, it’s important to note that while either or both spouses may feel blame; shame is never productive. There is a s…
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Q & A: How Do I Get in the Mood for Sexy Time?
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Today's question comes from one of my Instagram followers who wants some suggestions on how to get in the mood for sex. Low libido or lack of sexual desire is a very common issue. Here's the question: I have a question about intimacy. I have a hard time getting in the mood for sex. This has been a recurring issue for me. I just don’t think I’ve eve…
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Discovering Your Spouse Has Been Unfaithful: Now What? [Affair- Proof]
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As you deal with the shock of discovering your spouse’s infidelity, it can feel like a collision with a semi-truck, leaving you paralyzed, numb, and drowning in a sea of emotions. You have been traumatized. Your initial response to such devastating news can be paralyzing, leaving you grappling with disbelief, pain, and confusion. It’s a sensitive y…
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Q & A: I Feel Nothing For My Spouse & We're Living Separate Lives
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We're addressing a listener's question about having no feelings for her husband anymore. She still has some desire to rebuild her marriage despite feeling empty and detached. If you've ever felt similarly about your spouse, you, too, will benefit from what I share. I explain how to "reignite" the loving feelings for your spouse with three responses…
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10 Warning Signs of a Cheating Spouse + 12 Digital Signs to Be Aware Of [Affair-Proof]
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A staggering 40% of marriages will experience Infidelity at some point, Inevitably, infidelity leaves clues. Here are 10 warning signs plus 12 bonus digital red flags to be aware of that a spouse might be having an affair in person or online. It’s a hard topic to discuss, but I want you to be aware of these potential adultery indicators that may ne…
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Q & A: Should I Confront the Other Woman in the Affair?
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Learning your spouse is having an affair is devastating. One of our listeners wants to know if she should confront the other woman her husband was unfaithful with. This is an honest and vulnerable question that many betrayed spouses have when they are trying to make sense of the infidelity. I am sharing my best relationship advice with this listene…
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Hubby Talks: What Caused Infidelity in Our Marriage [Affair-Proof]
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We're starting a new series on how to rebuild your marriage after an affair. My hubby, Shaun, and I are telling our story of what caused us to be unfaithful in our marriage, what we learned, and what safety nets we've put in place to keep another affair from happening. Christian couples are not immune to adultery, unfortunately. Most marriages have…
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Q & A: How Do I Tell My Husband I Changed My Mind About Having Kids?
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As we grow older, our desires often change. One of our listeners has changed her mind about having kids and wants to know how to tell her husband. This conversation is coming up more and more, especially with younger couples. It's one thing to decide not to have kids before getting married, but often, something changes when you see someone else's c…
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Welcome to the all-new "Rebuilding Us Marriage Podcast, formerly known as Real Relationship Talk. I'm your host, Dana Che, marriage coach, and your guide on this journey to rediscovering the beauty and strength of your marriage. In a world where relationships are easily broken and discarded, this podcast is your lighthouse. All is not lost. Join us…
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Big News Alert! Say Hello to Our Podcast's New Name & Features
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I am thrilled to share some incredibly exciting news with you. The podcast is undergoing a major rebranding to better serve our listeners and community. I am happy to introduce you to the all-new Rebuilding Us podcast! This decision came after lots of prayer, input, thoughts, more prayer, more thoughts . . . it was a process. There is significance …
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[Sweet Repeat]: Stop Avoiding Conflict! Communicate Confidently Instead
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We're bringing back one of your favorite conversations about conflict . . . specifically how to stop avoiding it and how to communicate confidently instead. In this encore episode, we're discussing why we avoid conflict and how our different upbringings play into this dilemma. Many people confuse peacemaking with avoiding conflict. I dispell this m…
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Respect, Security, and Leadership: Navigating Core Needs in Marriage
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My hubby, Shaun, is back! We're engaging in a candid conversation about the fundamental needs of both men and women in marriage, shedding light on respect, security, and leadership within relationships. Sharing some of our personal stories and insights that can help couples foster a deeper understanding of each other's needs and strengthen their bo…
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[Sweet Repeat]: Baggage Claim: Releasing the Weight of Relationship Baggage
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Today's episode is an oldie but goodie . . . one of your faves: relationship baggage. In this encore episode, I'm bringing us back to the conversation about relationship baggage and the toll its weight takes on our marriages and relationships. This episode previously aired in August 2023, but it's well worth a sweet repeat. We're talking about five…
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Connection Crisis: Secrets to an Awesomely Attentive Marriage
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Are you ready to have an awesome marriage? Transform your marriage into a flourishing and connected union by practicing these four secrets to cultivating an awesomely attentive marriage. Today, we're exploring key takeaways and four actionable tips for infusing your relationship with attentiveness, support, and joy. Having an awesome marriage takes…
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✝️ New Beginnings: Hearing Well Done (Plus the End of Faith Talks)
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In this farewell Faith Talks episode, we are discussing our goal to hear "well done" from God for stewarding well what He entrusted us with when we reach the end of our life’s journey. A well-known parable in scripture, found in Matthew chapter 25 emphasizes the significance of stewarding our time, talents, and resources well. The parable centers o…
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Connection Crisis: The Power of the Available Spouse
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In this episode, we're discussing what it means to be "aptly available" in a marriage. I outline five keys that can help take a marriage to the next level for couples already present and engaged in their relationships. I emphasize the importance of intentionality, curiosity, vocalizing appreciation, time-blocking, and praying together. Plus, I'm sh…
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Have you ever wondered why it feels like God sometimes ignores our prayers? We just can’t wrap our heads around God's ways. I've been there, wondering why things don't seem to be going as planned. But there is one prayer that God always answers: the prayer for mercy. In this episode, we’re exploring the unwavering presence of mercy in the Bible and…
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There are times in marriage when the connection between spouses starts to fade, leaving one or both feeling distant or even absent. Understanding the reasons behind this disconnection is crucial to finding the path back to a fulfilling and loving relationship In this episode, we address four common reasons for a spouse's absence and provide practic…
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✝️ Ezer Kenegdo: The True Meaning of Helpmeet
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DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE SPEAK LIFE AUDIO AFFIRMATIONS HERE. There is a beautiful Hebrew word Ezer Kenegdo that describes the concept of being a "Helpmeet" in the Bible. This characteristic reaches far beyond gender boundaries. Understanding its proper meaning helps us to discover the strength and purpose of women. Join me as I challenge common ideas and…
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Connection Crisis: Apathy - When Love Grows Cold
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It’s common in marriage to face issues that lead to apathy and eventually detachment. In this episode, I share helpful insights and practical steps to help couples overcome connection crises and rediscover their connection when the love has grown cold. There are warning signs that exist when a person or couple is becoming apathetic. We'll discuss w…
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The Christian life can be hard at times. Can I get an amen? This episode will help you to hold fast to your faith during times of uncertainty. We must walk by faith in this journey filled with unpredictable twists and turns that test the very essence of what we believe. It’s easy to become despondent and get off course. It's during these difficult …
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Valentine's Day Solutions for Struggling Marriages: 5 Tips to Reconnection
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We're getting real about the struggles many couples face on Valentine's Day. I've been married for almost 25 years, so I know firsthand the challenges this holiday can bring, especially if your relationship is on shaky ground. I'm sharing five down-to-earth tips to help you navigate this tough time, from injecting some laughter into your day to con…
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What happens when suffering comes? Often, we feel that God is against us or that we’ve done something wrong. In this episode, we explore conventional perspectives on suffering from the principles in the Book of Job in the Bible and other relevant scriptures. Understanding the purpose behind suffering and how faith can be a guiding light in our dark…
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Help! My Husband Isn't Interested in Working on Our Marriage
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Working on your marriage where your husband appears disinterested in investing effort can be a frustrating and disheartening experience. In this episode, my hubby, Shaun, and I discuss practical strategies to address this common concern among wives and how both spouses can work together to alleviate their marriage problems by putting in the necessa…
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Most women crave the prayers of their husbands. Most Christian wives strongly desire their husbands to lead spiritually, but at the very least, as a husband, you can pray for your wife. Inspired by my previous episode where the wives were given five prayers to pray for their husbands, I am now highlighting the five essential prayers that husbands c…
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Sextimacy: From Awkward to Authentic Conversations About Sex
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Married couples often find themselves in the midst of conversations with friends that touch upon intimate topics such as sex. Learn to have authentic not awkward conversations with the one you love. While sharing experiences and seeking advice from friends can be beneficial, it's crucial to navigate these discussions with sensitivity and respect. I…
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Prayer is essential to a healthy, Christian marriage. It fortifies the bond between husband and wife like nothing else. As a loving wife, lifting your husband up in prayer can be very impactful on his life and your marriage. Knowing what to pray for, however, can sometimes be challenging, especially if your husband doesn’t readily share his innermo…
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The Value of a Wife Tribe Like Thrive Wives
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Marriage comes with its fair share of ups and downs. And finding a support system . . . a tribe, like Thrive Wives, is essential. I believe every wife needs a tribe. Mine is called Thrive Wives. In this episode, I talk about the profound impact of wife tribes – a network of supportive women who share their experiences, insights, and encouragement. …
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In the healthiest of families, disagreements surface, and the church, as a spiritual family, is no exception. Join us in this edition of Faith Friday as we draw inspiration from the word of God to help us navigate the path toward healing church hurt. Is It Church Hurt or Offense? Church hurt involves intentional or unintentional actions that cause …
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Getting your heart broken hurts like heck and they can be hard to heal from. Though heartbreaks are a painful part of the human experience, you can heal a broken heart and come out stronger and more resilient because of it. Whether it's the end of a romantic relationship, the loss of a loved one, or the shattering of a deep friendship, the emotiona…
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