Best Dr Nima Rahmany Podcasts (2024)

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Why You Are Repeating These Patterns 1:28

5h ago1:28

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It was 2019 when I realized something had to change. I’d nailed success in almost every area of my life— except one: intimate relationships. Every relationship ended up in a mess, and I couldn’t figure out why my last one was such a disaster. Then I discovered the concept of enmeshment—and everything clicked. It was the root of the trauma bond, the…

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Why The Healing Process Feels Frustrating 2:54

10h ago2:54

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Alicia, in tears, wrestling with feelings of failure over her healing journey. The setbacks felt overwhelming, like all her progress had crumbled in an instant. She was drowning in self-judgment, unable to shake the guilt of her anxious attachment resurfacing. She loathed how she seemed to slip back into old habits—ruminating, jumping to conclusion…

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Attracting Weak Men 2:26

8d ago2:26

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This is a note for women who are frustrated with the men they are with (or seem to attract— wondering if all men are “weak”.) Avoidant, weak men. Never in a million years would I have imagined writing an email like this. I’m a retired Chiropractor by training, not a psychotherapist. You can imagine my inner resistance to sharing what I’m about to s…

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From Trauma Bond to Secure Attachment 2:36

19d ago2:36

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I want to introduce you to Denise. Maybe you can relate to her story. "I am in a relationship that I am unhappy in, my partner doesn't even like me, let alone love me. He is always looking for something else, someone else, someone better, someone who will worship him and tolerate his poor behaviour and disrespect. He makes me feel so small and insi…

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The Anxious Becomes The Avoidant 2:52

1M ago2:52

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Jennifer was unable to have a successful, peaceful, secure romantic relationship without allowing her anxieties and insecurities to sabotage it and push her partner away. She has an anxious attachment style- constantly needing reassurance, constantly struggling with feelings of abandonment when her partner needs space and time, and although she is …

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How You Trigger Avoidance in a Man 2:46

1M ago2:46

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Over the past few weeks, I spoke to more than 30 women who identified as successful in work, (Bossbabes, if you will) who "didn’t need a man” to take care of them. Even though they considered themselves independent, many of them tearfully shared with me some of the struggles they were facing in their relationships. What I discovered was a “eureka” …

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Why You Shouldn’t Eliminate Negative Emotions 2:23

1M ago2:23

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“Dr. Nima, we walk on eggshells with each other. I am so sensitive to the slightest upset that when he is in a bad mood, I don’t know how to fix it. I constantly feel like a failure in this relationship. Can you help?” I just received this email from a subscriber, and it hit on one of the root causes of most toxic, insecure relationship patterns: S…

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How to Understand the Avoidant 43:33

2M ago43:33

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When you’re reading about relationships and secure attachments, avoidants get thrown under the bus. As I unpacked my last relationship which was definitely a Trauma Bond, I had to take ownership of my avoidance behaviors and find the root cause. I didn’t want to go through the painful push-pull dynamic again. I wanted to trust myself. I wanted to t…

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Signs of a Trauma Bonded Relationship 4:36

1M ago4:36

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"Come close to me." "Get away from me." "I need you." "I need you to leave me alone." "I can’t live without you." "I can’t live like this anymore". These were soundbites from my last relationship. I didn’t know the term “Trauma Bond” but after being successful in every area of life except the most important (intimate relationship), I decided to do …

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Hidden Forces 16:09

2M ago16:09

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It was 2019 when I realized something had to change. I’d nailed success in almost every area of my life— except one: intimate relationships. Every relationship ended up in a mess, and I couldn’t figure out why my last one was such a disaster. Then I discovered the concept of enmeshment—and everything clicked. It was the root of the trauma bond, the…

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The Choice We Don’t Consciously Choose 2:26

2M ago2:26

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Sally’s words hit me like a ton of bricks: ‘I wasn’t expecting that. This is going to take me a while to process. It’s no surprise—she had just completed her Overview Experience (OE) a few weeks ago, and let me tell you, this isn’t your average Zoom call. OE isn’t just another Saturday evening where you’re partying or sedating from the week. It’s a…

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Why You Can’t Shortcut The Healing Process 2:00

2M ago2:00

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If you’ve ever been stuck in the “loop of doom” in a relationship dynamic, you’ll understand this exhausting dance: After the honeymoon phase is finished, which lasts between up to 6 months to 18 months… you graduate to the next phase of the relationship, which is called the “power struggle” phase. Here’s what it looks like: You’re effected by thei…

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How to Navigate the Anxious Avoidant Cycle 35:51

2M ago35:51

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The anxious-avoidant cycle can get exhausting. When two parties aren’t trigger-proof, things can get heated. In secure relationships, boundary violations are handled elegantly. Not so elegant when the "two anxieties” of unconscious polarityare at play. Let me explain. When you’re arguing with your partner (or even a friend), it’s not the adult in f…

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A New Lens For Forgiveness 1:49

2M ago1:49

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(Name changed to respect privacy and anonymity) (4 minute read). Amy was tired of feeling like a victim. Divorced with children, running a business, she was still walking around with a great deal of resentment. She had done YEARS of therapy, plant medicines, breathwork, inner child work…. Even taking courses on learning how to communicate more in h…

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Why She Wants to Leave (Even if You're Rich) 27:38

3M ago27:38

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Women initiate 70% of divorces. After speaking to these women, I discovered 3 reasons why. She’s fed up. She’s tired. She’s feeling alone (even if you’ve been married for decades). I’ve even spoken to women who confessed they were wanting to have an affair. If you’re a successful man who’s a good provider— with a woman who’s bitter, resentful, angr…

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What I Wish I Could Say, But Can’t (because the truth hurts) 0:51

3M ago0:51

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Hey, it’s time for some real talk. After countless calls with the people who have been consuming my content, reaching out for help in their current situation, I want to share with you what I wish I could say to them— but usually don’t, because let’s face it, the truth can sting. Here it is: Consider the possibility that you DON’T want to heal. Of c…

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5 Common Traits in 30 Alpha Boss Women Struggling in Love 45:37

3M ago45:37

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Over the past few weeks, I spoke to more than 30 women who identified as successful in work, (Bossbabes, if you will) who "didn’t need a man” to take care of them. Even though they considered themselves independent, many of them tearfully shared with me some of the struggles they were facing in their relationships. What I discovered was a “eureka” …

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How Men Can Solve Their Partners Sxxual Resistance When She’s Not in The Mood 20:00

4M ago20:00

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It’s the topic of so many comedy routines: “Not tonight— I have a headache.” Even though people joke about it, the impact of two lovers not sharing the same enthusiasm about sex is very real— to big blow outs in the middle of the night, to sexual shutdown or sexless marriages. On this short 20 minute video, a student of mine, Carissa Kelly and I do…

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Answering the Polarity Controversy (Rated R language) 52:47

4M ago52:47

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A commenter on a post said: “I feel like all this masculine/feminine talk is leading down a toxic path where people are misinterpreting the whole concept to suppress women further.” If you have struggled with maintaining attraction in a secure relationship dynamic, then chances are you are dealing with an issue about Polarity without even knowing i…

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Where Men Drop The Ball 9:35

5M ago9:35

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There’s no shortage of complaints about how men show up in relationships. We fear what we don’t understand. Most men don’t understand women. (And most women don’t understand men.) From a very young age, we ALSO get so many mixed messages. Be a man, don’t show emotions It’s not ok to feel angry Your anger is unwarranted (which will turn to rage) Suc…

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Understanding the Push/pull dynamic 3:09

5M ago3:09

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did you ever wonder why the push-pull dynamic keeps coming up in insecure relationship dynamics? It all makes perfect sense when you study the mechanism. Insecure (and exhausting) push-pull dynamics happen because we haven’t yet learned how to navigate the two primary attachment fears gone awry: 1) The Fear of Abandonment— being left behind, drifti…

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How Do I Heal My Insecure Attachment 2:25

5M ago2:25

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Unless you had unicorn parents, chances are that you follow a combination of two primary insecure attachment styles: Anxious (Ambivalent)— Think of a wave who constantly needs connection. Avoidant (Dismissive)— Think of an “island” who needs space. or a combination of the two (Disorganized AKA “Dismissive avoidant”) The problem with these tests and…

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Why You Don't Know What You Want 4:44

6M ago4:44

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It isn't normal to know what we want. It is a rare and difficult psychological achievement.” ― Abraham Maslow I remember it feeling like a panic in my system. I was in a crossroads of my life, wondering what’s next, and when someone asked me what I wanted, my response was “I have no clue what I want.” (The truth is, I did know-- I was just disconne…

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I realized I Was The Problem 14:48

6M ago14:48

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Have you heard the Taylor Swift song “Anti-Hero”? I remember the first time hearing it and was blown away. “I’ll stare directly in the sun but never in the mirror” was one of my favorite lines of all time in a song, because it captured what I see so often when helping people stuck in toxic relationship dynamics. In a world where it has become the l…

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The Impact Of Your Inner Work On Your Children 4:11

7M ago4:11

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Imagine it was 40 years ago. And your parents were about to make an important decision. They were sitting on an opportunity to help them heal a part of themselves. They were on the precipice of deciding if NOW is the time to resolve some of their childhood wounding. The wounding that had them feeling like they were "not enough”. The wounding that h…

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Shame is the Main Hurdle in the Path of Healing 3:33

7M ago3:33

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In 2018, I remember hating what I saw when I looked in the mirror. Shame— that feeling of being “inherently bad inside” the feeling behind the reason people end their lives…. Is not something we are born with: It’s something we are born INTO. Like a fish being born into a fishbowl of dirty water, we take on the shame of cultural norms we are raised…

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How Co-Dependent Marriage Impacts Children 5:50

7M ago5:50

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In the book “Laws of Human Nature” by Robert Greene, he summarizes in a beautiful way the focus of my life’s work: Think back to your younger self-- growing up as a child (if you can remember it): In the first 3 or 4 years our brains are especially malleable. We experience emotions much more intensely, creating memory traces that are much deeper th…

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Navigating Boundaries 44:37

7M ago44:37

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Its official. As a general rule, we humans suck at boundaries. We either completely bulldoze over our boundaries to the point of abandoning ourselves due to the fawn response, Or we are imprisoned by them and become reactive jerks. There’s an in between, and on this new “Manxiety” podcast episode with Dr. Russ Kennedy we discuss the top 3 questions…

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Manxiety Podcast Introduction 0:56

7M ago0:56

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By Dr. Nima Rahmany

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How To Help a Kid With Anxiety 2:23

7M ago2:23

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Like millions of parents out there, Jenny had an anxious kid. The worst part of seeing our kids struggle with anxiety is the feeling of powerlessness we have. We just want them to know they’re going to be ok. “Calm down” “Take deep breaths” “don’t be anxious” are likely things your parents said to you when you were younger and dealing with your fea…

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The Willingness Of Imperfection (While On Daddy Duty) 1:22

8M ago1:22

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Take a moment to reflect on how boundaries were modelled to you growing up. Were you punished for sharing them? Guilted into removing them? In my family system, they weren’t really taught to us elegantly. I’m not even blaming my parents, either. We can’t lead others where we have never been. In persian culture, it’s considered rude to set boundarie…

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From Dissociation to Reconnection 17:01

8M ago17:01

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There’s a hidden root cause behind most of our relationship challenges. And it’s not about the “other” person. It’s something more insidious. In fact you can’t even feel it most of the time. Most of us who are stuck in relationship dynamics that feel toxic, living in a “should I stay or go” situation are painfully unaware that there’s something dee…

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How Fantasy Affects Your Relationships 1:58

8M ago1:58

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What are your fantasies? At first glance, you might be thinking that I’m talking about sexuality and fetishes. I’m not. I’m talking about the root cause of our Trauma Bonds. Picture this: you grow up in a childhood where you experienced the wounding of: abuse, loss, abandonment rejection (bullying) emotional neglect, maturing too early, or shaming……

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How a Child Becomes the Narcissist 3:53

8M ago3:53

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These days my inbox is inundated with people telling me how their ex is a narcissist. And I get it, too. I’m married now in a secure bond that’s polarized, but when I was unpacking the sh*t show that was my last relationship I was in, I was surprised to discover that I was in a “trauma bond” and went down the rabbit hole through the Manual that psy…

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A Man’s Two Greatest Fears In Relationships 26:53

9M ago26:53

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If you’re a man, or you’re in a relationship with a man, you’re wise to learn about the two fundamental fears every man contends with in relationships. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ P.S. Remember, the end of a trauma bond isn't just an ending; it's the beginn…

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Being Self-Centered vs Not Giving a F### 26:10

9M ago26:10

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A participant of my recent 3 hour training on Fawning had a few questions that arose. She’s in a “should I stay or go” situation and has been consuming my content and has now begun her pathway to creating a secure relationship. Here are some more questions: What happens when you try to finally set boundaries, and then get blamed, criticized, and re…

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Healing Your Nervous System Can Save Your Life 15:48

9M ago15:48

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A ruptured attachment can be lethal. In the last 3 years, I’ve had several participants send me DM’s after they attended one of my events to tell me “Thank you. I wanted to end my life before this…. this was my last hope. I had already made the plans. I can now let my family know that things are going to be ok.” I get emotional just thinking about …

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Healing Enmeshment Trauma 7:58

9M ago7:58

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I just had a frustrated commenter (Carol) on my facebook page. She said “I could care less about having a relationshit”. It’s not worth the BS and the hoop jumping, and the fact that no one cares about boundaries. Single is peace.” I just wanted to jump through the inter webs and give her a hug. Too many people these days can relate to this. Relati…

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Anxious Attached To Finding A Secure Connection 8:33

10M ago8:33

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We’ve had over 100,000 people do our attachment-style quiz that helps you determine your attachment style. Guess what the most common attachment style has been?? Nope, not “avoidant”. Those who identify as “avoidant” will often “avoid" the discomfort of looking inward and doing the quiz. Not too many avoidants. The answer is “anxious attached”— AKA…

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The Responsibility Of Everyone Who's On The Healing Path 4:24

10M ago4:24

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if you have lived a life feeling like you needed to wear a mask and play a role of “Pleasing others” in order to get your needs met, just know that you’re not alone. “Fawning” is a Trauma response that many I’ve spoken to didn’t even realize they were doing, because they fawn AS A LIFESTYLE. A personality. Fawning is akin to “people pleasing.” Alte…

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Will This Work For Me? 4:31

10M ago4:31

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I hate this question so much that I decided to create content about it so that forever more, I can keep referring back to it when I’m asked the question: “I’ve tried so many things. How will I know if this will work for me?” First off, I want you to know how much I can empathize with the question. Nobody wants to invest their time and resources int…

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Is It Heredity? Or Family Trauma? 3:11

10M ago3:11

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nobody’s talking about this. It’s the least talked about Trauma response, yet it’s the most common. You often hear and read content about Fight, Flight, and Freeze trauma responses. These are adaptations we learn in childhood that keep us alive. You’re able to read this piece of content because your Trauma Responses were successful. But there’s one…

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The Path To Conscious Parenting 2:07

11M ago2:07

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read this only if you’re a parent there’s a way you can virtually GUARANTEE you’ll end up being a sh*tty parent. And it won’t even be intentional. You’ll have all the right intentions for your parenting game. You’ll read the books and articles and watch the youtube videos about making sure you’re an amazing parent, and that you WON’T make the same …

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Co-Parenting With A Narcissist 2:33

11M ago2:33

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In all the years helping folks healing from Trauma Bonds, I learned two very shocking facts: 1) We are facing an epidemic of people who have exes who they label as “narcissists”. 2) Almost every single person I’ve ever met with who labels their ex as a narcissist, has massive blind spots that I am able to spot in them. There’s a narcissistic shadow…

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Signs You Might Be In A Trauma Bond 52:44

11M ago52:44

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SIGNS YOU MIGHT BE IN A TRAUMA BOND Is your relationship love? or is it a Trauma Bond. And if it is— what do you do? The answer depends on what kind of a life you want to have. I share the 3 phases of the Trauma Bond and how to break free if you are choosing to walk the path. Getting this right is the difference between passing down the trauma to y…

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When Victimhood Becomes An Identity 3:58

11M ago3:58

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This is the topic I get the most hate for talking about. So I’m going to request you pause and reflect before reacting to this. And especially after you watch the video. I’ve been a primary care practitioner for over 20 years now as a Doctor of Chiropractic, helping hundreds if not thousands on their healing journey and I know with certainty what k…

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Chronic Pain, Fatigue, And Illness— The 3 Blind Spots 41:02

11M ago41:02

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Digestive issues Inflammatory Bowel Auto-immune disorders Chronic Anxiety and Depression What an exhausting merry-go-round with doctors to heal from these. The truth is— an MD can’t do anything to help you with those, besides prescribe medication, and I know you are looking for other answers. That’s why I am doing this training. There’s a reason wh…

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Overcoming The Pain Of Rupture 2:52

11M ago2:52

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what’s your style of arguing during a rupture (aka, conflict)? This is the first thing I want to understand when I’m helping someone in distress stuck in a “should I stay or go” situation. The love is there, there’s so much to be grateful for, there are often kids involved, but the way people fight is not conducive to a healthy dynamic, and the wor…

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Why You’re Such Easy Prey To Love-Bombing 33:44

11M ago33:44

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Even though you might be successful in your work, there’s a reason why your relationships can’t seem to get past the point where you’re now having sex— and then things start to go awry. The reason is because of a covert addiction many don’t want to acknowledge. It’s the reason why it’s so easy to get entrapped in love-bombing. And it’s not a substa…

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Sɛx and Money Blind Spot: What Will Others Think Of Me 1:46

11M ago1:46

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there’s a fear that is likely stopping you from living to your potential. Nope, it’s not the fear of death, either. It’s the fear of being judged critically by others. In my experience working in the world of helping people in their relationship dynamics, going from “should I stay or go” relationships, not resolving this underlying fear is keeping …

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