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Join ex- Psychotherapist of 20 years, Dr. Shyamala as we explore the intersection of Emotional Intelligence + Energetics in order to unlock the life, business, and relationships we TRULY desire. Inside this podcast, we share mindset, communication, relationship + leadership strategies for high-impact women who are ready to create the life of their dreams. Connect with me on Instagram @iam.drshyam Visit my websites: www.theeqcode.com + www.kiruwellness.com
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Today we have a topic that I am so excited to share with you. It could be a bit of a triggering topic but I think it’s a very important conversation. We’re talking sexless marriages, soul sucking careers, and a woman's success. What I’m really asking you to consider is if you’re settling for less than you desire or deserve in your life and why? Bec…
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What do you do when you’re faced with a decision that feels so right for you, but you KNOW that someone important to you will NOT agree with your decision? What if this decision means that big and hard changes will need to be made in order for you to take a step closer to the life you desire for yourself? How can you make that type of decision conf…
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My podcast is BACK and it has a new name and a new vibe. Welcome to The Dr. Shyamala Show. With over 2 decades of expertise in advanced mindset, communication, relationship + leadership skills, I offer mentorship exclusively for high-impact women who are ready to step fully into their power. Inside this podcast, we share mindset, communication, rel…
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This episode is a personal conversation about my experience with Pop HD. We each come to Design in our own unique way. My first exposure to this system was through an online influencer which led me to consume the system in a highly popularized (and watered down) way. I share from my Personal View, what it was like for me to realize that what I had …
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It can feel incredibly vulnerable to require time to make decisions. For me, I often have to work through feelings of guilt around it, especially when it comes to the decisions I have to make within my business. Many of us are asked to make quick decisions on a daily basis, and the truth is that MOST of the Authorities (according to Human Design) a…
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Inside this episode of the newly evolved podcast, Success by Design, we dive into a very important part of your HD chart…. your Decision Making Authority. What is it and how can it help you? Let’s find out… Why is your HD Authority so important? What does the term “alignment” actually mean? We each have an effortless path to success + satisfaction …
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I’m so excited to have this conversation with you today. My podcast has taken a massive shift and today we’re going to dive into what has led up to this point. External shifts are often ignited first with internal shifts. Over the past 2 years I’ve made quantum leaps in my life and my business. The first shift was when I retired as a psychotherapis…
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As you may have noticed, we have introduced so many new offerings into the EQ Code community over the past few months. We’re so grateful to have you here as we continue to evolve. Constant evolution has been a recurring theme for us this year, and today we’re diving into how one of the newest tools I use in my work (Human Design) can help you when …
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I have spent my entire career seeking tools that will help me to deepen and hone my personal development. As I sink deeper into understanding myself, I unlock brand new levels of growth and expansion, and I can’t even describe how freeing it feels. So today, I want to open the conversation up around HUMAN DESIGN (HD), which has been the most profou…
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This week on the podcast, I’m sharing about the newest element to our work here at The EQ Code… the addition of Human Design. What I share inside this episode… Why I believe Human Design was the missing piece to my own puzzle I recognized that without the right understanding of my personal energetics, any and all strategies fall flat, whether in ou…
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How do we actually show up in our most intimate relationships? If you’ve ever had to have a difficult conversation with your partner, or shift the dynamics of a relationship, or end a long friendship, but you couldn't summon up the power or confidence to follow through on it, this episode is for you. In today’s conversation… One of the biggest less…
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I spent most of my life standing beside my power. Externalising it into the hands of others. Then becoming bitter when they wouldn’t recognize it or validate it. In today’s conversation… I share with you why it’s critical to see, feel and witness our own power How to finally step into it How to hold it, no matter what If you want to deepen this con…
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Wisdom is the most potent expander of our personal power. In fact, I believe that inner wisdom, and learning how to tap into this power centre is what truly ignites a deep sense of confidence. In today’s conversation, we explore how learning to access our innate wisdom, allows us to unlock… more power more potency more magnetism Helping women tap i…
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My guest today is Jenn Pike, a Functional Medicine Diagnostic Nutritionist, Registered Holistic Nutritionist, and Medical Exercise, Specialist. She specializes in women’s health and hormones and is the Bestselling Author of The Simplicity Project as well as her two cookbooks: The Simplicity Kitchen and The Simplicity Body. She is the founder of the…
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My guest today is Amy Green Smith, a certified and credentialed life coach and hypnotherapist, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. Amy uses her roles as coach, writer, podcaster, and speaker to move individuals to a place of radical personal empowerment and self-worth. With acute focus on helping people “find their voice”, she is hi…
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In last week’s episode, we explored why, of all the concepts I talk about in my world, self-trust is the most important. Self-trust, in my opinion, is the foundation work for those of us who want to amplify our success. Today, we explore how to increase self-trust, using 3 paradigms: Take risks Allow yourself the freedom to evolve and change Own th…
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Of all the concepts I talk about in my world, self-trust is the most important. Self-trust, in my opinion, is the foundation work for those of us who want to amplify our success. Self-trust allows us to: Have better relationships Lead with confidence Live in alignment with our values If you enjoyed this week’s episode, be sure to let me know AND tu…
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So I learned something really powerful today: When we bring ourselves into emotional coherence (self-regulation) we have the power and capacity to influence others. On this week's podcast, I had the incredible privilege of chatting with Meghan Telpner, a Toronto-based author, nutritionist, and founder of the Academy of Culinary Nutrition. She’s wri…
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Do you ever find yourself observing your peers, your friends, or your colleagues and wondering… How did she become so successful? What’s her secret? What does she have that I don’t? If you’ve convinced yourself that she’s got some magic formula that predicts her success, no matter what she does, you’re not wrong. In today’s episode, I’m dishing the…
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In today’s episode, we talk about Communication Skills. The science and research points to communication skills as the single common factor that differentiates those that are able to take their goals, and ultimately their success, to the next level, and those that stagnate. The truth is, when we are needing to step into positions of influence, it’s…
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In today’s episode, I break down the science of success. I also give you the straight truth on why your business is stagnant: Your business will NEVER grow if YOU don’t grow. If you’re ready to take an honest look at what’s holding you back from achieving your impact and income goals, let’s go. If you want to deepen this conversation with me on a p…
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I’m on the brink of turning 45 years old, and in today’s episode, we talk about how there’s something about landing smack-dab in the middle of my 40’s that’s giving me a “shit or get off the pot” moment. In this special birthday episode, and in completely random order, I share with you 10 life lessons that have had a profound impact on who I am tod…
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Over my career in working so intimately with people and having the immense privilege of specializing in relationship and leadership optimization, I’ve found that there are 3 personality types that are highly disruptive to relationships in particular. The Reactive Personality Profile, aka, Reactive Reena The Avoidant Personality Profile, aka Avoidan…
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There’s a concept that has shaped much of my work and my mission: The quality of our lives is tied to the quality of our relationships. I’ve worked with thousands of professional women over the years, and I kept seeing a common theme come up over and over again. These women were successful, smart, and savvy, yet they lacked the skills that would al…
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Writing a book is a mixture of messy emotions coupled with pure, utter magic. The journey itself is transformative, to say the least. In fact, the process of writing The Emotionally Intelligent Woman ranks right up there with marriage and motherhood in terms of the wildest rides I’ve ever been on. In today’s very special episode, I’m joined by Tabi…
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In today’s episode, we talk about the Emotionally Intelligent Woman - who is she?: She has Mastery of Her Emotions She has the Ability to Communicate Without Fear She Leads Herself and Others with Confidence Join us for an insightful and intimate conversation about what it means to be an Emotionally Intelligent Woman, and how to communicate and nav…
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In today’s episode, we talk about what happens when we’re asked to do something we don’t want to do. Do you do it anyway and resent the person that asked? When The Emotionally Reactive Girl is activated in this scenario: She gives in to people-pleasing She can’t imagine letting others down She believes the solution is to avoid being asked to do thi…
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In today’s episode, we talk about what happens when things don’t go the way you want them to. Do you get angry, blame others, and believe the worst? When The Emotionally Reactive Girl is activated in this scenario: She fixates on the negative Her emotions lead the way Everyone else is to blame Join us for an insightful and intimate conversation abo…
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In today’s episode, we talk about what happens when people don’t give you what you want. Do you secretly punish them with silence, distance and withdrawal of affection? When The Emotionally Reactive Girl is activated in this scenario: She is flooded by her emotions She operates from her emotional brain She takes her stuff out on others Join us for …
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In today’s episode, we talk about some exciting updates that the new year will bring. As I share with you my intentions, aspirations, and mission for 2022, I invite you to reflect in your own: Where in your life are you showing up fully? Where in your life are you holding back? What is required of you to lead yourself with absolute confidence in 20…
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In today’s episode, we talk about how showing up for my daughter is my deepest desire and greatest goal. She is my why. As much as I love my work, it would all be a waste if I couldn’t lead with love, integrity and purpose in her life. So tell me… Who needs you the most? Who needs you to show up as your BEST self? Who needs YOU to do your own work …
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In today’s episode, we talk about one of the most common areas of stress that people report - managing interpersonal relationships. While mindset plays a large role in our capacity to regulate our own emotions and behaviours, what seems to be a defining factor in healthy, harmonious relationships is our communication style. There are 4 primary styl…
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In today’s episode, we talk about emotional activation. One moment you’re having a normal conversation with your partner, next thing you know, something they say triggers you and you lose your marbles. ⁠Moments later you either: feel angry and resentful, but doing nothing about it make empty threats and verbally attack your partner make it painfull…
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In today’s episode, we talk about the 5 universal love languages. The idea of love languages was introduced by Gary Chapman in his New York Times Bestseller, The Five Love Languages; a concept widely used by couples therapists: Words of Affirmation Quality Time Gifts Acts of Service Physical Touch Join us for an insightful and intimate conversation…
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In today’s episode, we talk about the self-doubt that plagues many entrepreneurs, and how it is connected to a single theme: Externalized Power. When we externalize our power, we place our confidence, competence and capacity in the hands of things OUTSIDE of our control: We worry about the actions, choices and behaviours of others We ruminate over …
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In today’s episode, we talk about the top 10 ways to ruin a relationship. These are the top ways to ensure complete relationship distress for years to come; here are some examples: Attack: The more you attack, the more they will avoid you. Disengage: DO NOT pay any attention to how your partner is feeling. Compare: They need to understand how much …
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In today’s episode, we talk about how taking radical responsibility for self is the single most empowering step you can take. When we take complete ownership of our lives, we access our Emotionally Intelligent Self. When we externalize ownership of our lives, placing responsibility and blame on others and circumstances, we operate out of our Emotio…
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In today’s episode, we talk about how we will always have disagreements in our relationships, whether personal or professional...but there is a marked difference between providing feedback about something and criticizing a person: ✖️ global in their statements ✖️ have an element of personal attack ✔️ simply indicates a specific situation with which…
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In today’s episode, we talk about how communication originates not from your mouth, but from your mind. The patterned way we think about a person or about a conversation, determines the emotional charge we bring to that particular conversation. Here are some common emotional charges that we can hold and the impact they have on our communication, bo…
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In today’s episode, we talk about how negative thinking happens to all of us...⠀ it is a normative part of the human experience. Not only is it normal, it's adaptive. We are predisposed for negative thinking for our survival as protective strategies: Considering consequences Possible negative outcomes Prepare for danger The goal is NOT to avoid neg…
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In today’s episode, we talk about how for our relationships to thrive, we need balance. The most beautiful and inspiring examples of relationships I’ve ever seen are also examples of 2 people navigating the space between themselves with love, respect and ease. The secret, and often overlooked, element to elevated relationships is DIFFERENTIATION, a…
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In today’s episode, we talk about one of the biggest shifts I’ve made in my 40’s as a recovering achieve-aholic is my perspective on the intersection between 3 concepts: goals, achievement and my self image. Here is the conclusion of my first non-clinical and purely-personal research: Our goals exist, not for achievement Our goals exist for our gro…
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In today’s episode, we talk about the ONE communication style that can predict better conversations, more confidence and elevated relationships: Assertive Communication. When we are assertive, we can express our thoughts, needs and preferences honestly, without the expectation that others will AUTOMATICALLY give in to us. Assertiveness DOES NOT mea…
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In today’s episode, we talk about those times we catch ourselves thinking that we know for sure what someone else is thinking. For example, after an interview you may think “I messed up, they think I’m not smart enough for the job”. When we are dysregulated, it’s easy to ruminate over a past conversation, interaction, or a look someone gave us. The…
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In today’s episode, we talk about how as a person that seeks to live as authentically as possible, I constantly strive to practice what I preach. I am nowhere close to getting it right 100% of the time, but my desire is to be the best version of myself in all of my relationships. My work is in fact part of my journey. Moving not only towards person…
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In today’s episode, we talk about what it means to be successful as a leader, and how the secret to this success is clear. The research and evidence is unwavering, and it tells us that 85% of your success depends on Emotional Intelligence and ONLY 15% depends on technical skills. The single greatest predictor of your ability to execute at your full…
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My guest today is Hilary DeCesare, an award-winning entrepreneur, Transformational Coach, CEO of The ReLaunch Co., featured speaker in the Silicon Valley and conferences nationwide, as well as a relentless philanthropist. Having faced several setbacks herself, Hilary has made it her commitment to help women fire up their possibilities during a time…
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In today’s episode, we talk about silence, and how it is the silent relationship toxin. The wild truth is that keeping silent about your thoughts, feelings and desires in a relationship, whether personal or professional, actually breeds resentment and discord. We are, in fact, operating in the passive communication style when we operate from the pe…
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In today’s episode, we talk about how the problem is not the problem. The problem, in fact, is the WAY in which you are looking at your external circumstances. Focusing our attention, energies and time on those things that are outside of our control only does one thing: Increases anxiety + decreases confidence Okay, so that’s two things, but these …
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In today’s episode, we talk about relationship patterns, and how in any relationship pattern you find yourself in, it requires both parties to participate. Where most of us get stuck is that we tend to fixate on what the OTHER person is doing wrong, and we completely miss our part in the dance. Our choices can ENABLE the other person's choices and …
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