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Tell me your secret, I'll tell you mine — true confessions of love, sex, money, relationships, addictions, and hidden taboo topics that are often hilarious, uplifting, and hopeful. Hosted by best-selling author, actress, and coach Brianne Davis, the podcast offers a mix of guest interviews and topic-specific discussions. Every Monday, listeners are invited to join Brianne as she pulls back the curtain and explores the how, what, when, where, and why of various subjects. Some episodes feature ...
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093. I Wanted To Be Invited, But I Didn’t Want To Go
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I grew up in a very diet-centric household; we were always on some kind of diet. At an early age, I started rebelling against the rigid household rules, finding every way I could to get the food I wanted. When my parents divorced, I would ride my bike over to my dad’s house to steal change for treats at the corner store. By 8th grade, I was obese. …
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In this eye-opening episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt tackles the elusive concept of closure. She passionately dismantles the myth of closure, describing it as a "motherfucking scam" and a fantasy that keeps people stuck in the past. Brianne urges listeners to accept the end of relationships as they are and to move forward wit…
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In this compelling episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt delves into the powerful concept of self-preservation. Tired of the overused terms "self-care" and "self-love," Brianne introduces self-preservation as a more practical and immediate approach to protecting oneself from harm. She passionately discusses how self-preservation i…
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I was born and raised in Ireland. When I was 11, my family moved away from the big city to a rural area. Always in search of my identity, I thought that if I found out who I was, everything would feel better. But I had a spiritual hole inside of me, and I tried to fill it with food. I thought my big social life and ambitious jobs would help me feel…
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In this enlightening episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt takes us on a deep dive into the essential topic of boundaries. She passionately unpacks the "Six Types of Boundaries"—physical, intellectual, emotional, sexual, time, and material—revealing how each plays a crucial role in cultivating a healthy, serene, and drama-free lif…
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The Cocoon Stage: A Journey Through Solitude
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In this transformative episode of the Secret Life Podcast, join host Brianne Davis-Gantt as she guides us through the seldom-discussed but crucial "cocoon stage" of healing. She describes it as a period of introspection and solitude following a significant life event, such as a loss or a personal revelation, where one must be gentle with themselves…
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On this eye-opening episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt uncovers the art of "grey rocking," a powerful strategy designed for dealing with toxic individuals and navigating difficult relationships. Brianne illuminates the concept of grey rocking as a form of emotional camouflage, where one becomes the human equivalent of a rock—un…
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In first grade, I weighed 120 pounds, and by fifth grade, I had high triglycerides, high cholesterol, and a fatty liver. Never feeling like I fit in physically or socially in my hometown of Brooklyn, NY, I was bullied over how “different” my family and I were. Four summers in a row I was sent to weight-loss camp, which put my parents into debt. By …
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In this transformative episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt dives deep into the essence of personal growth with a compelling discussion on the necessity of evolution in life. Brianne challenges the traditional metrics of success, revealing that true victory in life isn't about material wealth or outward appearances, but about the…
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Cycle Breakers: Ending Generational Trauma
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In this profound episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt invites us into the world of cycle breakers, those courageous individuals who stand up against generational trauma and say, "This ends with me." Brianne, a self-proclaimed cycle breaker, shares her passionate journey and the honor she feels in disrupting the traumatic genetic …
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A sneak eater and a speed eater from the jump, I literally made friends with kids based on what they had in their fridge and pantry. When I was around food, I couldn’t rest until it was finished. My earliest memories are food-related, and they are painted with a lot of shame, fear, and low self-esteem. I thought if I got down to a magical weight, e…
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In this reflective episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt invites listeners to explore the profound power of silence as a boundary. With her signature candor, Brianne delves into the challenging realization that sometimes, despite our best efforts to communicate and express our boundaries, the healthiest option is to embrace silenc…
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In this gripping episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt pulls back the curtain on the deceptive world of liars, sharing her personal encounters with the spectrums of dishonesty. From the natural liar, whose falsehoods are a coping mechanism, to the pathological liar, who believes their own fabrications, and the chilling psychopath,…
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My whole life was about dieting, restricting, and waiting to be thin. When I’m thin, then I’ll be happy, I thought. I was sure Food Addicts in Recovery Anonymous (FA) was not for me – too time consuming, and there was that whole “higher power” thing. I’ll just go to the gym more often and I’ll keep doing this commercial weight-loss program, I told …
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In this revealing episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt delves into the complex and often misunderstood world of narcissism. With candid vulnerability, she shares her own experiences and tendencies, offering a personal touch to a topic that affects many. Brianne unpacks the traits of narcissism, from the subtle to the overt, and e…
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In this heart-wrenching episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt invites us into the raw and tender world of grief and loss. With the recent passing of a dear soul from her life, Brianne navigates the complex emotions that come with such a profound loss. She shares her personal struggle with the numbness that follows unexpected trage…
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Standing at the refrigerator looking for something—anything—to change the way I felt, I heard myself admit, “I do not know how to eat,” and I started to cry. Ironically, I was the class clown, the jokester, and above all, I wanted you to like me. I lost weight after gaining the freshman 50 in college, and I thought that would solve my problems. It …
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In this profound episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt takes us on an emotional journey through the landscape of abandonment. With unflinching honesty, she opens up about the raw sting of emotional abandonment, a phenomenon that has recently shaken her world, her clients, and the community at large. Brianne explores the pain and c…
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In this enthralling episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt pulls back the curtain on the intoxicating yet perilous world of love bombing. With the precision of an emotional detective, Brianne dissects the manipulative tactics of love bombers, sharing her own past as both the perpetrator and the recipient of this seductive strategy.…
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At the age of thirty and weighing 207 pounds, I was living a hopeless life. My existence was one of self-loathing, never feeling like I belonged. As a young person, I started hiding food, which began a cycle of guilt and shame over my eating. I fantasized that by going away to college I would make myself over into a new person. Instead, college was…
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In this compelling installment of the Secret Life Podcast, join Brianne Davis-Gantt as she delves into the uncomfortable but transformative space of sitting in the unknown. Sharing her own current personal struggle, Brianne candidly discusses the challenges of navigating uncertainty in relationships and life decisions. She reflects on the torment o…
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In this riveting, Brianne Davis-Gantt confronts the warning signs we often overlook in relationships: the infamous red flags. With the acuity of a seasoned detective, Brianne unpacks the subtle and not-so-subtle signals that foreshadow trouble ahead. She shares anecdotes from her clients' experiences in the murky waters of dating, marriage, and eve…
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At nine years old, eating five meals a day and snacking in between, I thought I was ugly and I hated my body. In high school, at 217 pounds, my friends thought I was the strong one, but I never really showed what was happening inside. My twenties were a complete blur. I started a new diet every Monday morning, but by 10 a.m., I’d say, “forget it.” …
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In this eye-opening episode of Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt tackles the elusive and often avoided topic of accountability. With the passion of a seasoned coach who's seen it all, Brianne dives into the stories we tell ourselves to dodge responsibility and the victim mentality that ensnares so many. She shares her own struggles with sayi…
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In this revelatory episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt confronts the pervasive challenge of unrealistic expectations we place upon ourselves. With the wisdom of someone who has navigated the treacherous path of self-improvement, Brianne dissects the notion that life must be fair, that opportunity should appear, and that personal…
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I was just miserable. Ashamed. Desperate. Somehow, I had eaten my way to being 80 pounds overweight. What I could wear on a Friday wouldn’t fit by Sunday night. Willpower is something I have in spades, but I was no match for the phenomenon of craving that occurred when my addiction to food kicked in. In truth, I was a person of great extremes, and …
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In this enthralling installment of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt delves deep into the often-confused realms of intensity and intimacy. With the precision of a seasoned guide, she navigates the tumultuous waters where the thrill of a new relationship can easily be mistaken for a genuine connection. Brianne unravels the complex ties be…
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In this profound episode of Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt confronts the underestimated force of trauma and its pervasive influence on our lives. With unflinching honesty, Brianne delves into the myriad ways trauma manifests, from addictions and toxic relationships to relentless pursuits of success and material possessions. Through a powe…
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Plagued by a lifetime of anxiety and repeated hospitalizations for depression, this transgender man took refuge in food. As his addiction progressed, everyday tasks and the most basic self-care seemed impossible. With anger issues escalating at work, diabetes so out of control he was losing his eyesight, and thousands of dollars spent on therapy, t…
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Dive into a raw and transformative journey with Brianne Davis-Gantt on this week's Secret Life Podcast, where she exposes the harsh reality of enduring toxic friendships. Brianne pulls no punches as she explores the reasons we cling to long-term relationships that drain our spirit and violate our boundaries. With her characteristic candor, she shar…
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In this eye-opening episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt tackles the pervasive culture of toxic positivity and the misconception that positive thinking alone can heal deep-seated trauma. With her trademark blend of passion and authenticity, Brianne challenges the societal pressure to maintain a facade of happiness, arguing that t…
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As we journey beyond the initial rush of lust that so often masquerades as connection, Brianne breaks down the five essential types of intimacy: physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, and social. With her signature blend of humor and raw honesty, she shares personal anecdotes from her own 19-year relationship, offering insights into the evol…
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I grew up a middle child in a single parent family, until my life changed at the age of five when I moved in with my aunt and uncle. I would eat everything in the kitchen, and then deny, deny, deny -- or blame it on the dog. At school, I felt like a square peg in a round hole and was often in trouble for misbehaving. After school, I would prepare a…
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Porn: The Intimacy Killer - Fantasy vs. Reality
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Explore the complex dynamics of intimacy in the latest episode of the Secret Life Podcast with host Brianne Davis-Gantt. Join the candid conversation as she delves into the impact of pornography on relationships, shedding light on how it can blur the lines between fantasy and reality. Brianne shares personal insights and stories from her journey, q…
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F- Resolutions! Lasting Change Means You Gotta Feel the Pain
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In this episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt dives into the concept of lasting change, emphasizing the need to embrace pain and the journey of evolution. Sharing personal experiences, she challenges the conventional idea of New Year's resolutions and encourages listeners to focus on continuous improvement rather than setting unre…
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While putting food on the table and keeping the lights on were ongoing challenges at home, my family showed their love through large quantities of food. At school, I was always the biggest person in my class. TV shows and magazines about weight loss only made the cravings worse. I worked hard at the gym and then rewarded myself with food. Once I ha…
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Emotional Currency: The Real Wealth in Relationships
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In this exciting new direction for the show, Brianne opens up about the often-overlooked concept of emotional currency in relationships. Drawing from her 19-year marriage, she challenges societal norms that prioritize financial contributions over emotional support. Brianne shares personal experiences and explores how emotional currency, the value o…
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Brianne: I Hate Change & Introducing The New Episode Format
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The Secret Life Podcast takes a bold turn in this episode as host Brianne confronts her fear of change and announces a significant shift in the show's format. After three years of sharing secrets and fostering a supportive community, Brianne opens up about the emotional challenges of letting go and the difficulty of navigating endings. Candidly dis…
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She did not have weight to lose, but knew she was in serious trouble with binge eating. Repeated trips to fast food and convenient stores looking for “pep” and answers in food, she was overwhelmed, hopeless, and certain Food Addicts in Recovery Anonymous (FA) couldn’t help. The more she ate, the emptier she felt. Today she feels content and satisfi…
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Best Of: Ricky B - F*ck Cancer—Breakdown to Breakthrough
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Checking himself into a psych ward with 29 years of sobriety was the last thing Ricky B. thought he would do. But after an aggressive prostate cancer diagnosis, he found the distant darkness that had plagued him in the past snuck back in. And the only option that made sense was to take his life. Yet he kept that all to himself. Yet another example …
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Best Of: Diane - I'm Married and Have Had Emotional Affairs
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Is it really cheating? If you haven't actually done anything? But it's clear, that it can be very dangerous to get involved in.An emotional affair generally starts innocently enough as a friendship. But when a person invests significant emotional energy and time in a close friendship outside of their marriage, it's possible for the friendship to fo…
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I was an anxiety-ridden child. I was uncomfortable in my own skin and felt as if I just never fit in. Looking for relief, I made food my solution. I hoarded food, stole food, and stole money to buy food. Graduating to other substances, I was smoking cigarettes at eleven years old, and using alcohol and marijuana by sixteen. When my doctor prescribe…
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So, you know, sometimes old friendships kinda fade away because, like, all you have left is the good ol' days, you know? Like, people change and stuff – interests, opinions, life paths – it's just the natural flow of things. Imagine, our guest Ashley is going through this, trying to figure out where her friendships stand. You get to a point where a…
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Charlie: I’m Dating a Man 17 Years Younger Than Me
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In this intriguing episode, we explore the clandestine love affair of Charlie, a woman who unexpectedly found herself entwined in a romance with a man 17 years her junior. Charlie opens up about the joys and challenges of their secret relationship, detailing the initial hesitations, the thrill of covert rendezvous, and the emotional rollercoaster o…
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Best Of: Nico: I Was in a 4 Year Affair With My Married Boss
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Seduced by her powerful and charismatic boss, Nico found herself in a four year affair that got more and more adventurous as time went on. Continuing our Best Of series, we share some of our listener favorites. The episode originally aired as EP #125 on October 31, 2022. _____ If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trau…
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As a kid, I would eat everything that was put in front of me and then go back for seconds. But I was thin, so my weight wasn’t an issue. As I grew up, I ate to escape: from work stress, from family relationships, and from fear in general. I was wracked with so much worry and resentment that, night after night, I had difficulty sleeping. I turned to…
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Charla: I Was So Shut Down, I Could Have Walked Away From My Kids
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Charla started to shut down emotionally since age six. From emotional and physical abuse, to neglect and losing her virginity to rape at sixteen, Charla had to shut down in order to survive. Her underlying self-talk is, “Charla, you don’t matter.” As she got older and got into more relationships, she found herself trauma bonding and eventually foun…
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Best Of: Mark — Money: From Debt to Abundance
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Secret Life Podcast Ep #179 — Best Of: Mark — Money: From Debt to Abundance — In honor of Mark's 13-Year Anniversary from debting on Sunday, we wanted to replay this powerful episode. — Debting and underearning were destroying Mark’s relationships, career, and ultimately his sanity. With 20 years of sobriety, he found himself at yet another bottom.…
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From my earliest memories, I was never satisfied. No matter how much I got, I wanted more. I felt like everyone else had life’s instruction manual, but I felt alone and awkward. In school I found my solace in food and Teen Beat magazine. After college, I decided a geographical cure would solve my problems, hoping that as soon as I crossed the borde…
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Nicole: I’m a Working Mom and I Feel Guilty Focussing on My Career
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Working from home is also a double-edged sword for parents, who can find themselves taking on a disproportionate share of household and child care responsibilities on top of their paid work. The effect is more pronounced for parents whose partners work outside the home, and for moms, who still do the majority of child care in American families. ___…
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